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Neil Van Valkenburgh Obituary

Neil Van Valkenburgh, 76, of Somers, NY and New Milford, died at Danbury Hospital on September 26. Neil was born in New York City May 30, 1934, the son of the late Edward and Margaret Helen (Fitzgerald) Van Valkenburgh. He spent his career working for 43 years as a Vice President of Administration, Investment Research at Goldman Sachs and Co., retiring at the age of 68. He earned a degree in Finance and Accounting from New York University. Neil leaves behind his beautiful and devoted wife of 55 years, Margaret Helen (Gravino), his two loving children, Linda and Lawrence; and treasured grandchildren, Charles, Samantha and Lauren Burkardt. Neil was a true gentleman, friend, and avid golfer. He gave back to his community by joining the Danbury Hospital Development Fund Board of Directors, by serving on the Danbury Hospital Annual Cancer Golf Tournament Committee and volunteering as assistant golf coach at Immaculate High School in Danbury. Visiting will be at the Green Funeral Home, 57 Main Street Danbury on Tuesday September, 28, 2010, from 5-8PM. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Wednesday September 29, 2010, at St. Marguerite's Bourgeoys Roman Catholic Church, Brookfield at 10:30am. Contributions in memory of Neil may be made to the Danbury Hospital Development Fund, 24 Hospital Avenue, Danbury, CT 06810.

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Published by The News-Times on Sep. 28, 2010.

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October 12, 2010

Dear Helen and family I was so sorry to read about Neil...you and your family have my deepest sympathy and love. Linda Tufts (from Macys)

My Beloved

Neil Van Valkenburgh

October 8, 2010

Frank Thomas

October 1, 2010

Dearest Helen, Linda, Larry, Charlie, Lauren, and Samantha,
We lost one of the best when Neil left this world to play in the big leagues. He was a real gentleman and we loved spending time with him and Helen, listening to his stories of his beloved children and grandchildren and how much he loved you and was so proud of you. When we saw Helen and Neil together their love was evident in every gesture. Sadly, because he was so close to you, your loss is much greater and will be felt more deeply. Helen, you know we love you and will keep you in our prayers. Be gentle with yourselves and know that he loved you all very much and will never leave you. God bless,
Frank, Susan, and Daisy

Terence Meagher, Jr.

September 29, 2010

Uncle Neal was one of my inspirations growing up. A man of strength and sound character. He kept moving forward in life not allowing any obstacles to get in his way. He is now with Jesus and also playing the greatest game of golf at the greatest course! Love Terry, Sandy, Justin, Sean and Terence III.

Linda Francese

September 29, 2010

May God bless you all during this difficult time. I know what a good man he was and I know that you will carry him in your heart forever. He always had a smile on his face and such a deep love in his heart for his family. I remember how he would beam when he would see Lauren and Samantha and how they'd rush over to hug and kiss this amazing man. You were so lucky to have such a wonderful Grandfather, husband and dad. He set such a great example of what a man should be. May he rest in peace. I will never forget his warm heart.
With all of my love always,

September 28, 2010

Dear Helen, Larry, Lynn & grandchildren,
Words cannot express how sorry we are for your loss. Having been dear friends with Neil and all of you, it is hard to believe we will no longer hear his voice and laugh, and enjoy his sense of humor. We were fortunate insharing many happy times with him over the years. Always the gentleman, ever considerate of everyone, we will remember fondly our dinners at RCC, spending New Year's Eves together,the golf outings he and Ed enjoyed, picnics at Larry's, our vacations in Florida , and always how he spoke with such love and and devotion of Helen and his family, always so proud of his children and especially the grandchildren. We share with you in your loss. Our hearts and prayers will be with you in the days ahead. We love you. Linda and Ed

hugh burrell

September 28, 2010

Dear Mrs. Van Valkenburgh and family-Our deepest sympathies on the loss of your husband Neil.I knew Neil from the Ridgewood and the Lake Club. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Sincerely, Hugh Burrell and family

Felicia Sotillo

September 28, 2010

May the LORD strengthen and encourage you during this time. God bless you,

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