Frank Carr, M.D. Frank Carr, M.D. of the Sandy Hook section of Newtown, died in Danbury Hospital Friday, May 1, 2009. Born in Charlottesville, Va., August 26, 1954, he grew up in a public housing project and attended a segregated school for the first few years. Like many inner-city kids before and after him, he was running the streets and raising himself while his mother, Margaret Carr-Wood, was working three jobs to support her three children. Like many other kids in the projects, he did not care much for schoolwork, and got into trouble of all kinds, including becoming a father at the age of fifteen. His daughter, Tina, was born while he was still in high school, but unlike most young men who were running the streets with him, Frank decided to take care of his family. He worked two jobs, one of them in a restaurant called Aberdeen's Barn, where his working title was Grease Monkey. He decided to finish high school and go to college. When he first mentioned this to his manager, the man had a good long laugh. During his senior year of high school, Frank had to come in an hour earlier to have an extra lesson with his chemistry teacher, who never failed to meet Frank at six in the morning, and never charged him for his extra help. Thanks to this teacher, Frank aced his exams and was admitted to Lincoln University in Pennsylvania. More importantly, he learned more than chemistry, he learned to help everyone whom he possibly could, without asking anything in return. He did so for the rest of his life. After graduating from Lincoln, Frank went on to Temple University Medical School and became an orthopedic surgeon, practicing medicine in New York's toughest borough- the South Bronx, and in Queens. He loved his patients, and he loved being a surgeon. In the last months of his life, when the cancer made it impossible for him to drive, he would still come to work to see his patients, to do his job. During his undergraduate years, Frank joined a black fraternity-Kappa Alpha Phi. His fraternity brothers, especially the members of his Epsilon chapter, became his true family. The unbreakable bond of that extraordinary friendship helped him through the toughest days of his illness, but more importantly, illuminated the happiest moments of his life, making the joy of living fuller and more meaningful, because he could share it with the people he loved. In addition to his daughter Tina, Frank Carr is survived by his children, Dimitri, Nicole and Jackie of Stamford and by his true friend and long-time companion, Melana Kay of Sandy Hook.
Published in News Times on May 10, 2009