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PINCKNEY Kathleen Julia, age 10, of Oakland, died July 23, 2010. Surviving are her loving parents Gary and Therese, her cherished sister Jaclyn, and her adoring grandparents Bill and Marge Pinckney and Daniel Egan. She is also survived by numerous aunts, uncles, cousins and her dog Petey all of whom she loved. Kathleen was predeceased by her grandmother Kathleen Egan for whom she was named after. Kathleen embraced life to the fullest and cherished her family and friends. She brought joy, kindness, and sunshine to every person she met. Kathleen had the purest heart and was an eternal optimist. Her amazing spirit and courage will forever endure until we meet her again in eternity. Kathleen was truly an angel on earth and is now our guardian angel watching over us from heaven. Visiting hours will be Tuesday, 7 to 9 PM, at the Vander Plaat Funeral Home (www.vpfh.com), 257 Godwin Avenue, Wyckoff. Funeral Mass is Wednesday, 10 AM, at St. Mary's RC Church, 17 Pompton Ave, Pompton Lakes, NJ. Entombment will be in the Garden of Memories in Washington Township. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Kathleen's name to Ramapo Bergen Animal Refuge, 2 Shelter Lane, Oakland, NJ 07436.
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I wrote your name in the sand,
but the waves washed it away.
I wrote your name in the sky,
but the wind blew it away.
So I wrote your name in my heart,
and that's where it will stay.
Remembering Kathleen . . . . . always.
Peace and happy memories to Gary, Therese and Jaclyn.
Anthony & Marsha Averso
Family
July 20, 2020
Dear Jaclyn, Therese and Gary:
On this day of the feast of Transfiguration,
a candle is burning at the grotto of Lourdes especially for you,
like a little smile to you from heaven, where Kathleen (your little Bernadette!) surely had the pleasure of meeting Our Lady (and Jesus!) in person.
May this light light a smile through the pain of separation.
With all my love and prayers
Nadine
August 6, 2010
The Pinckney family:
I have been praying for your beautiful Kathleen since I heard the devistating news how she was life-threatening sick. I can not even begin to imagine what you, and your family has to go through. I will continue to pray for Kathleen, and the Pinckney family. I can not wait to see her gorgeous smile once again.
August 3, 2010
We are so sorry for what is one's greatest lost. Heaven has received a true angel. Our son, Brandon was truly fond of Kathleen since preschool and will miss her beautiful smile he spoke so much of. Your family will always be in our prayers
Dugas Family
July 30, 2010
I am so very sorry and saddened to hear about the loss of your daughter, Kathleen. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. May you find comfort in your cherished memories of her and in the knowledge that one day you will all be joined together again. With deepest sympathy,
Karen Venice
July 29, 2010
Therese and family: I was touched and saddened to hear of your devastating loss. Your daughter sounds like a beautiful and precious angel that God just had to have with him in heaven. My deepest condolences to you all.
Edna (Lin) Impalli
Edna Impalli
July 28, 2010
Although I have never met your precious Kathleen , I know of the tremendous pain you are feeling. Her pain is now over. As she watches over you please believe she hears you and is with you always. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Kassy Schwerzler
July 28, 2010
Our deepest condolances to your family on the transitioning of your precious daughter Kathleen.
May God's love give you comfort and restore your strength.
The Shortt family
July 28, 2010
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts and prayers of many are with you... May The Divine Mercy embrace and console you during this difficult time.
Agata Kolakowski
July 28, 2010
Our deepest sympathy to your family. You are all in our prayers. May God give you the strength to get through this great loss. The Milioto's
Milioto
July 27, 2010
Gary & Family, Although I do not know any of you personally, from the moment I heard of the loss of your precious little girl, you have not left my mind. I too have a little girl, and can only imagine the intense pain you are feeling. Your description of Kathleen is so vivid and clear. She was such an incredible little girl who had so much to offer, but unfortunately she was needed elsewhere and had to be shared. You will once again be reunited. My thoughts & prayers are with you.
Carmela Flynn
July 27, 2010
Kathleen has been in our prayers since the moment we heard of her illness. My son Paul has the most wonderful memories of Kathleen and I know he will treasure them always. I pray that someday you will find peace and be able to smile with the most beautiful memories of your sweet little angel, Kathleen. Love, Tara Michael and Paul Lehman
July 27, 2010
Please accept our deepest sympathy and condolences on your loss.
Lucianna & Lucianna, PA
July 27, 2010
Your family has been, and will always be in our prayers. May God bless you. The Malone Family, Ringwood NJ.
Robert Malone
July 27, 2010
Our deepest sympathy to your family at this time of great loss. No words can fill the void a loved one leaves and I pray that as time goes by, the Lord will bring comfort, strength and restoration to you and answer every question in your heart. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Min. Nathaniel & Sharon Hyland
July 27, 2010
Kathleen, especially, has been in my prayers, and the whole family will continue to be remembered. God Bless you All. May Our Lady of the Pieta provide you with consolation until you all meet again. Love, Rosemary Cenicola (formerly with Picinich & McClure)
Rosemary Cenicola
July 27, 2010
Kathleen has touched us all. What a beautiful and sensitive child. She should be an inspriation to us all to live a life of peace and kindness.
Our tear-filled condolences are extended, and our prayers are with the Pinckney family whose hearts have been torn apart by this loss. May they some day be comforted with wonderful memories of this sweet girl.
Anthony/Marsha Averso
July 27, 2010
We are so, so sorry about your loss. Kathleen was a beautiful girl, and you were truly blessed to have her.
Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers, and have been for quite a while.
You don't know us very well, but we're your neighbors down the block.
We've temporarily relocated to California and probably won't be back for quite some time. But we are and will always be with you in spirit.
Our deepest condolences,
The Schwartz Family
34 Hunters Run
Maris Schwartz
July 26, 2010
You now have an exquisite little angel watching over you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Loretta De Rosso Pompton Plains, N. J.
July 26, 2010
I am Tony Averso's brother-in-law, Marsha's brother. I have heard of Kathleen's sweetness and of her bravery over these many months. Sadly, my family is no stranger to grief, and I have been praying for your lovely daughter, and for you every day.
My heart aches to hear of yours breaking. My life is filled with words, yet which words could I share now to comfort you? Instead I turn to Laura Novello, a 3rd grade student, who, after experiencing loss, writes:
"On the road to God I see a cow from the pasture. There's a willow tree on the road to God. There's a gentle shower on the road to God. It feels like summer on the road to God."
Kathleen knows the truth of Laura's poem directly. You will have to wait. But you will not wait alone. When we are near you we will hold your hands. When we are far we will hold you in our hearts. May you be strengthened by the kindness of God and your family and friends. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Jeff Cornblatt
July 26, 2010
Kathleen's joy and laughter will remain in our hearts. SHe is a special little girl, beautiful from the inside out. Even a little busy boy could see that... We are here for you....Liz, Shane, and Isabella Brancaleone
July 26, 2010
Rest in peace beautiful angel gone too soon. I am praying for you and your family. You are a reminder that life is too short and too precious.
Ana Maria Meizys
July 26, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. I will always remember Kathleen in my prayers.
Jacqueline Eilbacher
July 26, 2010
Jesus said, "...I am the Resurrection and the Life. He who believes in Me, even though he were dead, he shall live. And he who lives and believes in Me will never die..."
May Our Lord hold your precious child in His Arms until that day when all will be reunited and every tear will be wiped away.
Your beautiful daughter, Kathleen Julia, has been enrolled on the Prayer List at Our Precious Angels and will be remembered by name in our Daily Intentions.
May God grant you the Grace and Strength to endure this difficult time. Be assured that there are those whom you do not know who grieve for your loss and will pray for you daily.
Our Precious Angels
July 25, 2010
Laurie and Frank, we are so saddened by the loss of your beautiful niece, Kathleen. You and your family will be in our hearts and prayers.
Sharon Comforti
July 25, 2010
The prayers of all the Sisters are with you at this sorrowful time.
Kathleen has alreday seen the lovely face of God. Peace & Blessings.
Sr. Frances, fma
July 25, 2010
Dear Gary, Terese and Family: We are so sorry and saddened to hear of the loss of your precious little girl Kathleen. May God Bless you all during this time of sorrow. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Liz & John Tluchowski
July 25, 2010
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Joanne Abdulla
July 25, 2010
I am so sorry to hear about your beautiful daughter Kathleen Julia she was way to young to leave this world at just the age of 10 I bet you and her sister are going to miss her very much My prayers and thoughts are with you all. You all will meet with her again.
Cristina Sommo
July 25, 2010
To the Pickney Family
My prayers and thoughts are with you. May wonderful memories heal your broken hearts and give you courage and strength.
With sincere condolences
Rosalye Gerber
July 25, 2010
Dearest Marge and Bill and family, my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family on the passing of your granddaughter. May the good Lord bless you and grant you peace at this difficult time.Always in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Grace Agate Insinga
July 25, 2010
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