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Barbara Lord

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Barbara Lord Obituary
Barbara Crawford Bullinger Lord Nov. 4, 1917 - Aug. 20, 2014 NORWICH - After a valiant battle with old age, a long, full, and rich life ended on Wednesday, August 20, 2014. Born in Bronxville, New York on November 4, 1917, the daughter of Harriet and Frederic Bullinger, Barbara Crawford Bullinger Lord spent her childhood in the family home on Cassilis Avenue with her brothers Leigh (who pre-decreased her) and Henry, who along with his wife Joann, survives her. During her college years at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, NY, Barbara met and fell in love with Benjamin John Lord, Jr. They married on October 11, 1941 and the two shared a wonderful life together until his passing in February, 2000. Following Ben's military service in World War II, they returned to Norwich, where Ben had done his medical internship at W.W. Backus Hospital, in 1949, spending the remainder of their lives in the city. In their homes on Williams Street and Washington Street they raised their six children, welcomed countless people from all over the world including students and professionals from Afghanistan, France, Liberia, England, and South America, as well as found space for many of the cats neighborhood children brought to them when no one else could. Barbara made sure there was always room at the table for everyone and she delighted in learning about new places, foods, and traditions. Her home was always alive with activity, kindness, conversation and fun. Barbara was led by a strong belief in social justice and social equality her entire life. This belief led to her involvement in many organizations, but she gained special fulfillment from her involvement with the United Workers of Norwich, now UCFS. During an association that lasted from 1950 through the early 1980's, she served in a variety of roles including President of the Board of Directors from 1962-1963. She noted with pleasure that while she was on the Board, the Board helped start Hospice in Norwich. Barbara also enjoyed a long connection with Otis Library where she was the first woman on the Board of Trustees and where she fueled her life-long love of reading on at least a weekly basis until poor health prevented such trips. In addition to her participation in local service organizations, Barbara greatly enjoyed the long comradery of the Thursday Night Bridge Club and the Monday Study Club, remaining an honorary member of that group until her death.
Always wanting to learn more, Barbara traveled to many interesting places during her long life, thrilling to the newness and richness of cultures in the Soviet Union, China, Japan, Hong Kong, the quiet beauty of Bermuda, and the rich history and variety of England and Scotland. She made dear friends in England with whom she corresponded until recently. She shared all of these adventures and friendships with the love of her life Ben. For most of her long life Barbara was able to live independently, but in the last four years it was the loving and tender care of her daughters Betsy, Judy, Carol, and Susan that enabled her to stay in the home she loved, looking out at the birds and the meadow that gave her such peace. She was especially grateful and honored that these women, with help from her other children Ben, Fred, Priscilla and their spouses, gave up so much in their own lives to make her final years comfortable and happy. A long-time member of Park Congregational Church, she greatly enjoyed and appreciated the friendship, kindness, and conversation of Reverend Sara Ofner-Seals over the years and especially as the end of her life approached.
Ninety-six years is a long life and our mom would say with honesty and excitement that she had enjoyed a wonderful life. And all of her children: Susan Bromley and her husband Mark, Judith DeAlteris and her partner Jan Joseph Szelag, Elizabeth (Betsy) Farrar and her husband Donald, Priscilla Perkins and her husband Robert, Benjamin, III and his wife Carol, and Frederic and his wife Cynthia would say that she gave us a wonderful life as well. She taught us kindness, honesty, and justice; stood beside us or behind us offering support, guidance, and love; and helped all of us lead meaningful and happy lives. Her love was spread to thirteen grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren who will remember her always as Granny Goodwitch and Granny Gumdrop who cackled when she laughed, wore googley-eyeglasses, blew bubbles with them, and always had gumdrops in the cupboard.
It is with grateful hearts and much admiration that the entire Lord family thanks the amazing Hospice nurses, health care aides, and respite volunteers whose visits brought such comfort to our mom, sisters, and to all of us. You brightened each day and brought such love and peace to everyone, but most especially to our mom. Thank you all!
A celebration of Barbara's life will be held on Saturday, August 23, 2014 at 11:30 A.M. in the chapel of Park Congregational Church. A calling hour will precede the service at the Church and Allen Funeral Home 136 Sachem Street, Norwich from 10-11 A.M. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Center for Hospice Care of SE CT, 227 Dunham St., Norwich, CT 06360. Please visit www.churchandallen.com to leave an online tribute or condolence.
Published in Norwich Bulletin on Aug. 21, 2014
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