LAKE IN THE HILLS – Virginia Kulesa, 92, of Lake in the Hills, died at her home Nov. 4, 2012.|
She was born in Detroit, Mich., to Anthony and Frances (Matrewicz) Golochowicz on Sept. 11, 1920.
"If it was another man I would fight for you but since it is God I will step aside" were the words that Virginia, a lifelong devout Catholic, pondered as she discerned a vocation to the religious life as a missionary nun.
She married Stanley Kulesa, however, the man who had uttered those immortal words emblazoned forever on her heart on May 18, 1946, and was his loving wife for 64 years, becoming his tender and poignant caregiver before God called him home in 2011.
Virginia always yearned throughout her life to bring others to God. She brought Christ not only to her family, but as a food service supervisor and activities director for many years in nursing homes, Virginia brought so many others to Christ through His Mother Mary while praying the rosary with residents, leading them in May crowning processions and sharing reflections with them during liturgies that she often conducted – prayerful times that Virginia concluded toward the end of her life were some of her most joyful memories.
Exhibiting the best qualities of what has made their generation the "Greatest," both Virginia and her husband, Stanley, were loyal and devoted employees of the Algonquin Area Public Library, just shy of 20 years. Working predominantly as an adult page, Virginia is best and warmly remembered by co-workers for the aroma of freshly brewed coffee wafting each morning through the staff room, which Virginia would decorate in every season and for any reason in such a way that they couldn't help but smile and be glad that they had a "home" away from home with a loving "mother" who fussed over them. Her greatest compensation was the satisfaction that she had made others happy.
Reflecting her intense faith in countless acts of kindness and thoughtfulness to family, neighbors, friends and co-workers, every gift that Virginia bestowed, every card that she sent, was chosen with great insight and care. Her enthusiasm and exuberance made every family gathering a gala! A consummate party-giver, Virginia was the creative consultant, menu planner, etiquette expert, divine decorator and R.S.V.P–er extraordinaire – the veritable inspiration for every family celebration, which have now become treasured memories!
A woman with a compelling faith, Virginia entrusted her fragile heart to Christ's Sacred Heart. Composing and reciting a prayer in the months before she had died, asking God to allow her and her beloved Stanley to become God's Right-Handers, doing His Holy will from heaven, Virginia concluded that "When you remember me, I implore you all, remember the one thing that I ask – stay close to God…" Though they will miss her greatly, Virginia's family rejoices in their powerful new heavenly advocate, always the beacon leading them home. Someday, Virginia, will welcome them home.
She is survived by her daughters, Marcia (George) Wines, Carla (Gary) Holloway, Paula (Mike) VandenBoom, Donna (John) Kapcia and Patty (Tom) Bennett; a son, Kevin (Lynnette) Kulesa; grandchildren, Jennifer (Mike) Hill, Shelley (Waterson) Calhoun, Robin Ramirez, Ryan (Cara) Holloway, Rebecca (Tim) Sheehan, Anthony (Mandy) Root, Jason Kapcia, Kelly Kapcia and Jessalyn, Miles and Madison Bennett; great-grandchildren, Melissa, Sarah and Allison Hill, Melia Ramirez, Noah Stanley Bennett and Lila Claire Holloway.
Friends may call from 3 to 9 p.m. Wednesday, Nov. 7, at the Skaja Bachmann Funeral Home, 7715 W. Route 14, Crystal Lake. A Christian wake service and recitation of the rosary will be at 4 p.m., and at 11 a.m. until Mass celebration at noon, Thursday, Nov. 8, at St. Margaret Mary Church, 111 Hubbard St., Algonquin. Interment will be in the Ft. Custer National Cemetery in Augusta, Mich., next to her beloved Stanley.
In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to The Eternal Word Television Network, 5817 Old Leeds Road, Irondale, AL 35210 or the Capuchin Soup Kitchen, 1820 Mt. Elliot St., Detroit, MI 48207-3485.
For information, call 815-455-2233.
Published in the Northwest Herald on Nov. 6, 2012