Self, Marilyn Helen (Taylor) "Mickey"
passed away December 15, 2013, surrounded by her cherished family. She was born in Great Neck, New York, in 1932, to parents William Taylor and Juanita May Cacho. She was the middle sister of three lovely girls and lived a lifetime of fitting in easily wherever she went. Her childhood was spent among close family and lifelong friends made in school clubs and Girl Scouts. She graduated from Great Neck High, went to merchandising school in NYC, worked as a buyer's asst. in the Garment District, then as a receptionist at Sperry Gyroscope out on Long Island. It was there that young engineer Richard "Dick" Self noticed her immediately and fervently courted her (and charmed her mother, too). Six months later they were married and Dick whisked Mickey away to his home- state of California to begin a marriage culminating in forty-seven years, four children (each with well-loved spouses), ten grandchildren and two great grandbabies (with one more on the way).
Mickey was a very supportive wife at home raising the family while Dick built his fledgling manufacturing business in Los Alamitos. As original owners in Rossmoor, Mickey was a hands-on volunteer: Rossmoor Women's Club 50+ years, Girl Scout Leader 18 years straight!, National Charity League 30+ years, and LA Philharmonic Auxiliary, Wanderlust Ski Club, just to name a few. She was known as the "candy-lady" in the Rossmoor schools collecting excess Halloween candy for Native American children for over 35 years. She was also a faithful believer and steady congregant at Los Altos Methodist Church, volunteering as a bible-camp counselor, Sunday School teacher, and established link in the prayer chain. She was an accomplished seamstress and also adored reading; she had a two-newspaper-a-day habit. This city-girl devotedly helped Dick with his passion for keeping their big family close with family adventures: sailing to Catalina, camping, celebrating Thanksgiving with the Nor-Cal family, and their 30+ tradition of skiing together at Christmas at their Snowmass Village, CO home. She and Dick became well-seasoned travelers and loyal grandparents.
As such, Mickey's greatest joy was being surrounded by family and she was well-loved in return for her gentle, consistent presence in their lives. Mickey tenderly cared for Dick during his long battle against cancer; and after he passed, she herself fought cancer the next 11 years. Her dignity and sweet composure throughout were a testament to her great faith and gratitude for God's grace.
Mickey is survived by sisters, June Hulse and Ruthie Fluet; son and daughter-in-law, Martin and Karen Self; daughter and son-in-law, Leslie and Philip Cook; daughter and son-in-law, Kathleen and Robert Merkin; daughter and son-in-law, Karen and Robert Ashford; ten grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.
Services will be held at Los Altos Methodist Church on January 11, 2014. Memorial tributes can be sent to: Breast Cancer
Angels or Precious Life, Los Alamitos.