BUTHMAN, John Nelson
John Nelson Buthman, beloved husband, father and grandfather, passed away on November 26th at the age of 72 at his home, surrounded by family. John was born on December 22, 1940 in St. Joseph, Missouri to parents Jack and Alberta Buthman, and moved with his
parents to San Bernardino, California at the age of 1. John served two years in the United States Army during the Vietnam War
. Upon returning home he resumed his career with the railroad. John retired from the Atchison, Topeka & Santa Fe Railroad as a Senior Account Manager, Freight Traffic after 36 years working in an industry he loved. Below, we offer you Lessons from a Life Well Lived
(or Proof Your Children Were Paying Attention):
1.) Everything is interesting if you look closely enough. If you're bored, it's your own fault.
2.) It is perfectly acceptable to break out in a baritone chorus of "Tell Your Troubles to Jesus" when the kids complain something is not fair.
3.) It's socially acceptable to let your dinner guests know when you don't agree with something. This can be accomplished by gleefully announcing, "Bull-, says I! And the fight was on!"
4.) "Gone With The Wind" is the best motion picture ever made. Period. Except for the "Greatest Show On Earth." That's the best.
5.) Elvis is the King.
6.) Always smile and greet people you pass on the street. This simple act of acknowledging others can literally save a life.
7.) Change the oil in the car every 3000 miles. And always keep the gas tank at half full, because you never know.
8.) Give up your seat to women and the elderly. Hold the door for others. Do not complain.
9.) Be kind to the wait staff and leave a generous tip. It's a tough job.
10.) Sardines and crackers taste best when wearing ratty cut-off jeans and a thinning Mickey Mouse t-shirt, while seated in a rickety lawn chair, watching a ballgame on an old black & white TV propped on top of the refrigerator in the garage.
11.) It's possible to find something in common with everyone you meet.
12.) Love your wife with all your heart, but be prepared to wait for her to get ready to go anywhere. Just sit down. It's not worth complaining.
13.) Nothing clogs a shower drain like a long-haired daughter.
14.) Kids are a gift. Leave work at work and play catch with them before dinner. Those are when the best conversations happen.
15.) When siblings fight, make them stand nose-to-nose and toes-to-toes. Then make them look each other in the eyes and say "I love you" with total sincerity. This process takes approximately forever, but if you can tough it out, it works.
16.) The thicker the book the better it is.
17.) Bing Crosby is the best way to kick off the holiday season.
18.) Vanilla is never a regrettable ice cream choice.
19.) Always take your parking stub with you. If your car gets stolen, at least the thief will have to pay full price to get out.
20.) As Dad, a Master Storyteller, used to say, there are two kinds of jokes: "Do you want it clean, or do you want it funny?"
21.) Laughter is everything. Laugh every day. All you can. No matter what.
22.) Kindness, manners, laughter and love are the best legacies to leave behind.
John is survived by his loving wife of 46 years, Joretta, and their children, daughter Tara Saylin (Kirk); and son Matthew Buthman; grandchildren Quinn and Cooper Saylin; and Hannah, Sydney and Fletcher Buthman; his sister Diana Cosner and family of Banning, CA; and his brother Mark Buthman and family of Enid, OK. He will be remembered as a loving and humorous husband, father, grandfather, dear friend and true gentleman to all who knew and loved him.