Mary Elizabeth "Liz" Deffner

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4047 Perrysville Ave

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Mary Deffner Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Jun. 24 to Jun. 25, 2009.

DEFFNER MARY ELIZABETH "LIZ"
Peacefully on Tuesday, June 23, 2009, age 79, of Ross Twp. Wife of the late Joseph J. Deffner to whom she was married for 54 years; loving mother of William J. (Nancy) Deffner, Dr. Anne C. (Dr. James) Hallowell, Robert E. (Linda) Deffner, Elizabeth M. (Daniel) Becker, Joseph F. (Kelly) Deffner and Edward J. (Kathleen) Deffner; also 16 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren; sister of Annie Deer. Friends received 6-8pm Wednesday and 2-4 and 6-8pm Thursday at the HEARD FUNERAL HOME, INC., 4047 Perrysville Ave., Observatory Hill. Mass of Christian Burial Incarnation of the Lord Parish, Friday 10am. Liz was known for her skills in knitting, quilting and ceramics; these gifts she lovingly made for her family and friends will always be treasured. Her lifelong membership at Incarnation Parish brought her numerous blessings. Liz will be missed by all.
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June 26, 2009

Liz's Family
Sorry we were unable to give you condolences in person. We are sorry for your great lose! Ruth Noble, and I (Pat Johnson) visited while she was in
Vincentian. We had a very nice visit conversing and reminising. I am so glad we went and was able to see her when we did. This is a lose to all who knew her. Our prayers are with your family.

In case you don't recognize our names, we are from the card club.

June 26, 2009

Joe Deffner

Bill, Bobby, Anne, Beth, Joe and Eddie,

I'm very sorry for the sense of loss you are all feeling at this time. I wish I could be there to offer my condolences in person to each of you.

My sisters and I so appreciated your mother and the effort she made to get to our father's and mother's funerals. It was so nice to catch up with her (and Bill, Anne, Jim, and Beth who accompanied her) at those times. We appreciated your support and though I can't be there in person (out of town in Montgomery, Alabama), your family and Aunt Liz are in our prayers.

At this time, I'm also reminded about a conversation we had with Anne and Jim at my mom's funeral. We talked about organizing a family reunion at some time and getting all the cousins together. I think all the aunts and uncles we've lost would approve. Love to all of you.

June 25, 2009

To the Deffner Kids:
Our thoughts go out to all of you. Your mom was a wonderful person and a great friend to our Mom. They were peas in a pod. We greatly appreciate and cherish the friendship that our families have shared over the many years.

Joe Morgan

June 25, 2009

Barbara Paul

Dear Deffner Family,
So sorry I can't be there to offer my condolecents in person. Liz was always a dear friend as she was the first one to welcome us to the neighborhood 50 years ago and we have stayed friends all this time, being involved in all our family's trials and tribulations. I will always remember her and the good times we have had together. Love to all.

June 25, 2009

Linda & Gerry Gaylor

To the Deffner Family,

Our deepest sympathy to all of you. Liz's life in the Prospects of Ross was to short. Just spending a few minutes with her you could tell she was a loving, caring and fun person. Remember all the good times with your Mom.

June 25, 2009

Anna Morgan Anderson

To all of the Deffners,
Although we have not been in touch for many years, the wonderful memories that I have of being with all of you are always with me. Your mother was a great friend to my mother. Your mother was a second mother to me and to many. The gift from your Mom that I treasure is a ceramic Christmas tree that she made for my wedding and I use every year and think of her. My thoughts are prayers are with you.
Love, anna

June 24, 2009

Linda Johnson Riley

Bill, Anne, Bob, Beth, Joe and Eddie

No one needs to tell all of you how special your Mom was. She has left many wonderful memories and gifts including all of you, as her legacy.

My first memory of her was the Get Well package that she put together when I had pneumonia in 1st grade, I remember there was a box of red jello and a Santa Claus because it was around Christmas. I have memories of your mother from the Barbie clothes that she used to sew (which I still have 46 years later) to the white afghan that she crocheted as a wedding gift and finally to the baby quilt for my first born.

Your Mom could have been the author of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" she had such a casual way about her and I loved her attitude that cleaning and laundry could always wait if there was a good book to be read or a trip to Wal-Mart to be made!

I will always remember my trips to Wal-Mart with her and my Mom, which always included lunch after. Your Mom was notorious for looking at the dessert menu first! Your Mom and mine would always blow their straw papers at each other like two kids.

She and my Mom left several beauty shops with memories of their own. Their escapades left them with nicknames from Thelma and Louise to Oscar and Felix. Your Moms passing is going to leave a great hole in my mothers life.

I wish all of you comfort and peace in the days ahead and know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

June 24, 2009

Jeffrey Baumbach

To the entire Deffner clan - "Mrs D" was truly a remarkable women. She loved life, loved her kids, her crafts, and all her friends. I believe it was her love for God that made her such a resilient women. I have a lot of fond childhood memories of her, especially her ability to make our dreams of having a lemonaide stand or a carnival come to life. She will finally be re-united with Mr D. Please know that she will be truly missed by me. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. May God Bless you all.

June 24, 2009

Patti Macy (Johnson)

Your mom was like my second mom. Growing up with all of you, and the times we all spent together will always be a big part of my life.

Recently, my mom and I have been visiting Mary at Vincention about every other Saturday afternoon, and I for one will miss those visits. Reminiscing, laughing, and sharing desserts were some of the fun parts of our visit. If I could have one more afternoon with Mary, I would say, "Thank You" for being who you were and the big part you played in my life.

My love, thoughts, and prayers go out to each and everyone of you on the lost of your mom, she truly was a great and wonderful woman and I will miss her more than you know.

May you all have peace in knowing that she is reunited with your dad, the true love of her life.

May Gods grace be with all of you and my love too.

June 24, 2009

Frank Morgan

Mrs. Defner and my Mom were friends for many years, and I suspect they are having a fine time together in heaven this morning.

June 24, 2009

Chuck and Lucy Kehr

Mary Elizabeth was a wonderful person to know.May she rest in peace.

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