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Marlene LILY

1942 - 2016

Marlene LILY obituary, 1942-2016, Santa Rosa, Ca

Marlene LILY Obituary

LILY, Marlene Phillips 1942-2016 Marlene Lily died Monday, November 28, 2016, at home in Santa Rosa after a long bout with cancer. She was under hospice care and surrounded by her extended family. Born in Rochester, N.Y., in 1942, to Warren and Marion Smith Phillips, Marlene was a longtime resident of Sonoma County involved in many community endeavors. A graduate of Our Lady of Mercy High School in Rochester, she earned a bachelor's degree at Syracuse University. Moving to Palo Alto with her husband, author Jerome Charyn, she became an editor at Stanford University Press and began a life of political activism, joining the movement to end the Vietnam War. As part of that, she was an editor of the Peninsula Observer, a radical bi-weekly newspaper that also championed women's liberation and civil rights. She reported widely on the Black Panther Party and became close to a number of leading Panthers, friendships that she maintained until she died. Moving to San Francisco, she took up a number of working careers. She drove a cab and was full of stories about her riders. An excellent photographer, she set up and photographed foods for articles and advertisements. She managed concerts for Muddy Waters. In nearly four decades in the North Bay, Marlene raised goats for milk and cheese in Lake County, sang in the choir at Santa Rosa's Community Baptist Church, and for a while lived at the Sonoma Ashram, where she oversaw construction and repairs. She loved working with tools. Combining her self-taught knowledge of construction and her intuition about people, she became one of Sonoma County's top-selling realtors and maintained her business until recently. Marlene's modest home in Santa Rosa's Junior College neighborhood reflected her personality, the front yard a well ordered forest of small trees and bushes, the back yard an overflowing small orchard edged with planters full of vegetables. Inside, her walls were lined with the oils she did when she took up painting again, something she had loved doing in college. Still politically active in her later years, when she died Marlene was secretary of the Sonoma County NAACP and a board member of Clean Water Sonoma-Marin, whose Facebook page she constructed. For years, she also actively supported bilingual radio station KBBF and the Peace & Justice Center of Sonoma County. Her last articles were exposés of the cover-up of fluoridation toxicity, which she had begun researching in the '60s. Marlene is survived by her son, Daniel (Yun Mei), grandson, Dylan; brother, Tom Phillips; sister, Linda Trame (Michael); nieces Bridget (Todd) Shingler, Michelle, and Janine Trame; Shawntina, Sabrina, Katrina, and Gabrielle Phillips; her stepmother, Eunice Phillips, and two grand-nieces. She leaves a wide range of close friends from every stage of her life. A commemoration of Marlene's life will be held from 1:00-3:00 p.m., January 7, at the First Congregational Church, 2000 Humboldt St., in Santa Rosa.

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Published by Press Democrat from Dec. 30 to Dec. 31, 2016.

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Belinda Andrews

January 12, 2017

I was sad to read of Marlene's passing. She was a great realtor and wonderful person. I enjoyed reading about her interesting and intriguing life. She was truly a special person.

Jean Ramsey

January 9, 2017

Marlene you will truly be missed in the Real Estate Community. You always showed such understanding of the process. We will always remember.

Dave Samuelson

December 31, 2016

Marlene was my next-door neighbor when growing up in suburban Rochester, NY. And while 4 years younger - she was one of the brightest, funniest, fun-loving and creative persons I ever knew at the time. My mother would love it when she would come over and "pay-us-a-visit". My deepest sympathy to her brother/sister and family.

Cynthia Bologna

December 31, 2016

We will miss Marlene's spirit and her contagious laugh! As sick as she was, she got down to the polls and voted on election day -- true to her ideals to the very last...

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