Passed away peacefully on October 23, 2012 just as dawn was breaking. Beloved dad, uncle, brother, brother-in-law, grandpa of seven, great-grandpa of three, and dear friend. Born March 30, 1922 to Theologos and Dagmar Apocotos in Martinez, California. At a very young age Tom was known as the "candy kid". His father and great-uncle, Benjamin, owned a candy shop The Palace of Sweets, in Martinez CA where Tom would venture to eat samples of the confections and home made ice cream. The family relocated to San Francisco in the early 1930's. After loosing his father at a very young age, Tom became the man of the house and went to work at Holsome Market on Castro and 18th Streets. Tom worked very hard to help support his sister Betty and brother Bob, and his mother Dagmar. On March 2, 1943 Tom entered the United States Army. Tom spent his tour in Saipan where he was part of the 498th bomb group, 875th Bomb Squadron, 73rd bomb wing. On December 20, 1945 Tom returned back to the San Francisco. Tom started a career as an electrician that lasted 34 years. Tom was proud to be an electrician and a proud union member, Local #6. Tom's first marriage was to Edwina Maddox and they had four children (Linda (Chris, Joey), Greg, Vickie (Michael), Sherree (Devanee, Amanda). In 1969 Tom married Joan Schneider. They together had one child, Jennifer. Tom lost his love, Joan, in 1974, to breast cancer. Before moving to Santa Rosa in 1979 to raise Jennifer in the 'country', Tom retired after 34 years as an electrician from Brayer Electric in San Francisco. For the past 17 years Tom has lived with his daughter Jennifer her husband Bruce and their two children Ben and Ava. Ben and Ava completed Tom's life. Tom was a very proud, loving grandpa and was saddened when his health no longer allowed him to be active with Ben and Ava. Tom was one of the kindest, compassionate, selfless men. We are so blessed to have had him spend the last seventeen years living with us. We will miss him terribly. Tom is preceded in death by his wife Joan Schneider, mother Dagmar, father Theologos, and brother Bob. Tom requested that no services be held and a private burial will be held at a later date where he will finally be at rest with his wife Joan. Donations can be made in his name, to Memorial Hospice, 821 Mendocino Avenue, Santa Rosa. Arrangements made by Daniels Chapel of the Roses. Thank you to Memorial Hospice for providing comfort and compassion to Tom. Thank you to his caregivers Jim and Abel, who provided loving care on a daily basis. Be at peace dad, we love you and remember: I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart). I am never without it. Anywhere I go you go.
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Published Online in the Press Democrat from Nov. 1 to Nov. 4, 2012