Mary Ethel Grammer Tyler, 90, widow of retired Lt. Col. James Otey Tyler, U.S. Air Force, passed away peacefully July 20, 2013, at the Petersburg Home for Ladies. She was the daughter of the late Warner and Emma Davis Edwards Grammer of Waverly; and was predeceased by: her brothers, Robert Warner Grammer, William Edwards Grammer; and her sister, Juanita Grammer Hatfield.
Mary graduated from Waverly High School and Smithdeal Massie Business College, where she was editor-in-chief of the school paper and in 1974, she was the honor graduate of Richard Bland College of the College of William and Mary.
She married in 1944 and together with her husband they reared their children in numerous states and foreign countries, always taking a keen interest in the children's activities. Mary was active with Officers' Wives clubs, volunteer with American Red Cross, school PTAs, little league, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, youth of the chapel, and sang in the chapel choirs.
When her husband was on the faculty of the Air University in Montgomery, Ala., Mary was chairman of the Officers' Wives Chorus for three years, which performed many concerts, some of which were with the Officers' Chorus.
When her husband retired and settled in Petersburg, Mary became active in local organizations. She was a member of the board of the Richard Bland College Foundation, and a founding member of the Southside Virginia Community concert association, board member of the Petersburg unit of the American Cancer Society and the volunteer Distirct 7 coordinator of its Reach to Recovery Program from which she was awarded the Terese Lasser Memorial Award, its highest award.
Mary was a life member of the Association for the Preservation of Virginia Antiquities, the American Clan Gregor Society, and a member of the Magnolia Twigs of SRMC Hospital Guild. For over 60 years, she was a member of Waverly Methodist Church and finally found a home at St. Mark's United Methodist Church.
Mary is survived by: her three children, James Otey (Tim) Tyler Jr. (Cathy), Susan Magruder Tyler Edwards (Stephen), Mary Davis Tyler (the late Gerry Teasley); four grandchildren: Robert Tyler Edwards (Jennifer), Tyler Edwards (Michele), Julia Tyler Boltz (Zachary), Debra Tyler Dartez (husband David); nine great-grandchildren: Quinton, Ian and Kitquin Edwards; Elijah and Lily Boltz; Alex and Sam Dartez; McKinley and Charlie Edwards; several nieces; and nephews.
A memorial service will be held at St. Mark's United Methodist Church in Petersburg, at 11 a.m. Saturday, July 27, 2013. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to St. Mark's United Methodist Women, 225 Claremont St., Petersburg, VA 23805.