Rita "Murph" (Murphy) Caldarella, 94, of Old Saybrook, formerly of West Hartford, died Saturday, September 08, 2012. Born July 3, 1918, in Elmwood, daughter of the late James Joseph and Agnes (Callahan) Murphy, she lived in West Hartford most of her life, and the last 20 years in Old Saybrook. She was loved by all who knew her. She graduated from Hall High School in West Hartford, attended Bay Path College, and worked at the Hartford Insurance Co., the Tax Department of the IRS and the State of Connecticut Department of Revenue Services. She was a member of St. John's Church, Old Saybrook.
Rita leaves her children, Leo D. "Cal" Caldarella and his wife, Marianne (Datoli) Caldarella, of Old Saybrook, Father James J. Caldarella, Pastor of Prince of Peace Parish, Princeton, MA, Ann Kerr Bache and her husband, Tom Bache, of La Jolla, CA, Mark R. Caldarella and his wife, Kate Caldarella, of Orwigsburg, PA, and Old Saybrook. She leaves her grandchildren, Dr. David Caldarella and his wife, Nora Caldarella, R.N., of La Crosse, WI, Attorney Laurie Deneen and her husband, Attorney Kevin Deneen, of Windsor, CT, Kristen Caldarella and David Bache; and great-grandchildren, Bryan, Matthew and Aidan Deneen, Leo, Jac, AJ and Sean Caldarella. She also leaves step-grandchildren, Kristi Markowicz and her husband, Cmdr. John Markowicz, USN, and their children, Johnny, Jimmy, Joey and Janie Markowicz, Tom Bache Jr. and Stephanie Bache. Rita leaves her sisters, Sr. Agnes Murphy, C.S.J., and Sophie Johnson, both of New Britain. She was pre-deceased by two brothers, Richard and James Murphy, and two sisters, Mary Lajoie and Jane Dunion. She was the beloved wife of the late James J. Caldarella.
She lived her life fully and graciously with a kind spirit and open heart and mind. She lived independently and loved long drives in the New England countryside and any new adventures. She was a frequent visitor to La Jolla and enjoyed many trips to the deserts and mountains. She enjoyed time with her family at Chalker and Indian Town beaches in Old Saybrook. Her most cherished times were spent with family and friends, new and old.
A Mass of Christian Burial was celebrated on Wednesday, September 12, 2012, at 10:30 am in St. John's Church, 161 Main Street, Old Saybrook, with her son, Father James Caldarella, as the main celebrant. There are no calling hours.
In lieu of flowers, Memorial Donations may be made to The Retirement Fund of Sisters of St. Joseph, 27 Park Road, West Hartford, CT 06119.
The family would like to thank the doctors, nurses and staff of the CCU Unit, St. Raphael's Hospital, New Haven for their exceptional skills and loving care. The Sheehan-Hilborn-Breen Funeral Home, 1084 New Britain Avenue, West Hartford has care of arrangements. Online condolences may be made at www.sheehanhilbornbreen.com.