SOUTHINGTON - James Paul Maffiolini, 53, of Southington, went to sit at his heavenly father's banquet table on Saturday, July 12, 2014, after a determined fight against pancreatic cancer.
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Born in Hartford to Paul and Anne Maffiolini, he grew up in Hartford and West Hartford.
James is survived by his wife, Debra, whom he married in 1988, and introduced him to the lovely town of Southington- a "big small town" that he enjoyed living in very much. This union produced his greatest accomplishments in life-children, Marissa, of Queens, N.Y., and Steven, Alicia and Teresa at home. He was always proud and boastful of their accomplishments. In addition to his parents, Paul and Anne, of Lebanon, he leaves a brother, Richard Maffiolini, of Windsor; In-Laws, Arnold and Kay White, of Milldale, Ron and Susan White, of Plantsville, and William and Elizabeth White, of Southington. Also Aunt (and Godmother) Lucille Seccareccia; and cousins John Termine, Joseph (Laurie) Marotta, Giovanni (Diahl) Seccareccia, Lucille (John) Gardner, Gianni Gardner, Dino (Sureeporn) Seccareccia, and cousins in Italy. He also leaves talented nieces and nephews, Sarah and Joey Maffiolini, Travis, Jason, and Timothy White, Dylan and Brody White. Also, best friends, but more like family members that shared the highs and lows of life together, Bob and Ellen Steben, Vladimir Dimanshteyn, and David Romano. Jim spent happy childhood days pursuing his favorite past times of reading, bike riding, and fishing, especially at Trout Brook. He graduated from St Thomas Seminary High School in 1979, in a class of twelve boys. He received his bachelor of science from Trinity College in Hartford in 1983, spending a semester at Trinity's Barbieri Center in Rome. A lifelong volunteer, he followed his high school motto: "It is better to wear out than rust out". He worked on the Archdiocese of Hartford's youth ministry team for 13 years- a great influence on his spiritual life, where he met some of the most dependable lifelong friends anyone could hope to know-"you know whom I mean". He volunteered as a coach for his children's sports (rec and indoor soccer, basketball, and little league); what he considered some of the most fun times of fatherhood. He was a man with a passion for baseball games (go New York Yankees), America, Italian heritage, reading, skiing, and food, especially pizza. An auto enthusiast, his favorite car was "the next one". Jim, or "Vito" as many knew him, worked for The Hartford Insurance Group as a computer programmer and then CSC for over 26 years as a consultant. It was a challenging and rewarding career that fit his personality, and gave him the opportunity to visit many cities in the USA, meet many people, and make practical jokes.
Friends and family may celebrate Jim's life at a Mass of Christian burial on Friday, July 18, at 10:30 a.m. at St. Dominic Church, 1050 Flanders Road, Southington. Calling hours will be on Thursday, July 17, from 5 to 8 p.m. at the DellaVecchia Funeral Home, 211 N. Main St, Southington. Burial will be private. Per Jim's request there will be no funeral procession; "I was impatient when alive, I expect to be just as impatient after death-the last car ride I ever take is not going to be one where I am stuck in a funeral procession at 15 mph. Tell them to step on it." In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to a
. Jim wanted to thank his army of prayer senders, and the staff at Yale Smilow Cancer Hospital for their support and care during his illness. For online condolences, tributes, and directions visit www.dellavecchiafh.com.
Della Vecchia Funeral Home
211 North Main Street
Southington, CT 06489
Published in The Record-Journal on July 16, 2014