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1951 ~ 2010 "Life is too short to drink bad wine." Nancy Speed, M.D., passed away quietly of complications from brain cancer Sunday, Oct. 3, 2010. Once she realized she was faced with a fatal illness, she and her husband, Joseph, embarked on a series of remarkable travel experiences that included France, Japan, Greece, the National Parks, Egypt, Thailand and most recently, Ireland. Dr. Speed was born and raised in southern Mississippi. Soon after her birth, her mother was stricken with polio and Nancy was, for a time, raised by her aunt and uncle. Her father, a Methodist minister, opened his church to the congregants of bombed out black churches. His racial inclusiveness led to death threats serious enough that FBI protection was provided to her family. Nancy was smart and determined to contribute to her community. She was a performing pianist and earned tuition by playing at weddings and funerals. She attended Millsaps College in Jackson, Miss., and graduated from University of Louisville Medical School. Nancy met and married Joseph while she trained in Psychiatry at UCLA. After completing a Robert Wood Johnson Clinical Scholar Fellowship, she accepted a faculty appointment at the University of Minnesota. Subsequently, she joined the faculty of the University of Michigan Medical School in Ann Arbor, where she held the position of Chief of Psychiatry at the Ann Arbor Veterans Administration Medical Center. She published academic papers on a variety of subjects, including the psychiatric outcomes of former prisoners of war, functional brain imaging in patients after strokes and studies exploring the relationship between brain injury and mood disorders. A gifted teacher, she lectured for the US State Department. Among her international presentations, she particularly valued the invitation she received to speak at El-Razi Psychiatric Hospital in Tripoli, Libya. Her talk on dementia was informative, but she also appreciated the importance to the women in the audience of her mere presence on the podium. Resonating with the philosophy of the fictional Alice Rumphius, she wanted to "travel the world, live by the sea and make the world more beautiful." She moved to San Luis Obispo in 1993. For a time, she was the medical director of the Psychiatric Day Hospital Program at French Hospital. Later, she held the position of Medical Director at Sydney Creek. "I am always grateful for the patients who walked through my door." She was devoted to her patients and felt honored by the confidence they had in her. She was heartbroken when illness forced her into early retirement. "Many people have helped along this journey of illness. I want to express my appreciation to so many." She was always ready to lend an effort to "the good of the order," and brought a generous spirit to teamwork. She loved travel, music, cooking and her friendships. Were she still among us, she would chide us to take better care of each other. She would help us listen to our better angels. Nancy is survived by her mother, Mary Katharine Speed of Yazoo City, Miss.; brother, John Speed of Hattiesburg, Miss.; two sons Jeremy Speed Schwartz and Joshua Speed Schwartz; her husband of over 30 years, Joseph Schwartz, MD; as well as numerous nieces and nephews. Her life touched an international community of scientists, healers and musicians. A memorial remembrance will be held at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, Oct. 6, 2010, at Congregation Beth David, 10180 Los Osos Valley Road in San Luis Obispo. In lieu of flowers, she asked that people give generously to music and theater organizations that include young performers. Her favorite charities were: Habitat for Humanity, Central Coast Shakespeare Festival and the San Luis Obispo County Youth Symphony. In your memory, dear Nancy, we promise to do more than our share to make this world a little better.

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Published by San Luis Obispo County Tribune on Oct. 5, 2010.

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Signe Dysken

September 29, 2025

Nancy was remarkable in so many ways. I wish I had heard her play the piano. I know she is deeply missed by many - especially her family and close friends - and also by Maurice and me in Minneapolis. Condolences especially to her husband and sons.

Julie

April 10, 2025

A wonderfully gifted woman. So glad to know her.

Rosalie

August 25, 2023

Nancy was a wonderful healer psychiatrist and human. I am saddened to know she passed away so long ago. I will always appreciate her kindness and care. Love and prayers to her family.

Signe Dysken

September 29, 2022

I wish that dear Nancy had been here all along over the past 12 years - she would be navigating life with her usual grace and humor, and would have plenty to say about the challenges of life in the US as well as around the world. Her wise approach to life continues to guide us all. Condolences to her family - she is surely in their hearts, as she remains in the hearts of her friends and of past patients.
Signe and Maurice Dysken

Patti anderson

September 29, 2020

Oh how I wish I could talk to her again I was a patient and she was so wonderful and kind. I’d love to talk to her at this difficult time of the pandemic and the isolation it brings. She helped me so much through other difficult times and was such a great doctor. She treated me like I was a friend, not just a patient.

Terry Winstead

July 9, 2013

Nancy and I were very close in high school and college. She was a special person. I am so sorry to hear of her passing.

Ray Hair

July 9, 2013

A better human being than Nancy Speed never traveled this earth. We were fortunate to have had her during our time, and I am a better person for having known and loved her.

terri shows

October 30, 2011

dr. speed not only saved my mother's life but helped her over the years to improve the quality of her life. the value of the encouragement, medical treatment, and affirmation dr. speed provided her is incalculable and the effects certainly live on in christy and in our family.

John Rennick

June 15, 2011

To the Family of Nancy Speed -
Just learned of Nancy's death in Psychiatric News. So sorry, and too soon. We were Falk Fellows together in '79-'81, and had great times. Peace...

Signe and Maurice Dysken

June 11, 2011

Dear Joe, Maurice and I just heard of Nancy's death, and wanted to tell you are very sorry we are. We so enjoyed your friendship during your Minnesota years, and were sorry when you and Nancy and the kids moved to Michigan -- but clearly, you all had many wonderful adventures in Michigan and in California. The testimonies from Nancy's patients speak to what a remarkable, caring and smart psychiatrist she was. We could see how she loved you and those little boys, and I am sure that you all now are missing her greatly. Love to you, Jeremy and Joshua from Signe and Maurice Dysken

Barry Herman

June 3, 2011

Joe, I met you and Nancy a gazillion years ago in the back yard of the Willis's in Santa Barbara. I never forgot the two of you, and I was heartbroken when I learned of Nancy's cancer many years ago. I just now found her obituary--I don't even know what hands of fate brought me to it on line. My deepest condolences to you and to your family.

Cindy Simmmons

February 3, 2011

I painted your house. You painted my heart, with your kindness, warmth, delight in your children.

Holly Campuzano

December 30, 2010

You are missed.

Marti Fogel

November 22, 2010

Dear Joe, I have been reading all the loving and amazing ways Nancy has touched so many people. She had such a kind and honest way of dealing with her patients. She remained in the hearts of all her friends and casual friends. You, Jeremy and Joshua should be so proud of her. She will be missed by the entire community. If Nancy had not been there for Robin, she probably would not be awaiting the birth of her baby girl., ( Thank you Nancy). Joe, I hope Larry and I will see you often. Our love, Marti and Larry

October 27, 2010

Our condolences, Joe, on Nancy's death. We have been away for a month and thus unfortunately were unable to attend her memorial service.
Thank you for her in this community.
Thank you for you in this community.
Nancy's memory is bright and her legacy will be long-lived.
Blessings to you and to Jeremy and Joshua.
Steven and Christopher Jobst and Jill Anderson, Shell Beach

Tom Beresford

October 20, 2010

“Yes, Mr. Swix. I think he had a mighty heart,” Dr. V said in her gentle Southern cadence.

“I hope … I hope I eased it some when I listened to his stories,” Darvelle added in an even tone of voice. “Sometimes it might. The listening, that is.”

“No doubt about it,” Dr. V said. “His heart came to its rest before his body gave out.”

October 18, 2010

I am a friend of Mary Katherine in Mississippi. Mary Katherine and Rev. Speed have been a big part of my life. I know how much Mary Katherine loved Nancy. You have my heart felt sympathy and prayers. Sincerely, Karen Arseneau

Bobbie Seyman

October 17, 2010

It's been 30+ years since I worked at UCLA. There I was blessed to know you both, Nancy and Joe to maybe have helped you through your training. I went to a very fun wedding and took joy in you starting your lives together.Never have I known 2 people who were meant to be together. Although I have not been in touch for many years, we have a mutual friend Stuart who has kept me in touch with you over the years. I live vicariously through the trips of others.Just a couple of days ago in an old book while cleaning I found your wedding invite. When I heard of Nancy's illness I cursed myself. I've spent almost 37 years now in the area of Neuroscience and I knew too well what was to happen. Joe I'm so glad and happy that you spent this last year as you did enjoying life and all it has to offer with Nancy. I know that as long as Nancy remains in your heart she will be with you. Time is a great healer and with all your family and friends I know that you that you will get through these times.May peace be with you Joe and you are in my thoughts as you two sons Jeremy and Joshua. Please be kind to yourself and take care of yourself and your family. Bobbie Seyman

Patti Anderson

October 14, 2010

Oh Dr. Speed, how I will miss you. You were so kind and loving towards me..one of your patients. As others have said."you truly saved my life" When I was going through a most difficult time, you were my doctor and I loved seeing you and you were always so sincerely happy to see me. I felt so cared for and you often made me laugh at myself. I also will never forget you. You even took the time to write to me when I moved to another state and when I came back to CA, I dropped you a note and you were kind enough to write to me again. I'm sure your children and husband will miss you greatly and I will be praying for them. The angels must be so happy to have you there with them. Patti Anderson

Lois Mills

October 13, 2010

Dr. Speed will always have a very special place in our hearts. She was a friend first and then a doctor. We are so glad we saw her at the Performing Arts Center in March of this year. When she and Dr. Schwartz got in the elevator, her smile was something to behold and we will never forget that moment. We are so sorry for your loss. Lois and Frank

Larry Pachtman

October 12, 2010

I met Dr. Speed years ago when she was training at UCLA. My ex-wife decided that she needed to continue seeing our therapist and I was pawned off on some kid who was working at UCLA. Looking back on it, it was the first of several miracles in my life. Fast forward many years later when I bumped into Nancy again. I was really surprised to see her in San Luis Obispo of all places and I said: "What are you doing here?" She calmly replied: "I'm living here, and how are you? A few years later I was going through one of the hardest experiences of my life. Fortunatley for me, Nancy Speed came back into my life. If it weren't for Nancy, I wouldn't be writing this message. The best way I can express my thought is, Nancy Speed saved my life. I think Nancy was a miracle in many peoples lives. The world is a better place because of Nancy Speed & I'll always remember her.

Drew Washer

October 12, 2010

Whenever I was faced with a difficult and challenging case, I would ask myself, What would Dr. Speed do it this situation? She has been a guiding light, helping me to be compassionate and caring toward the people I help. She will be missed but always remembered.

Jana Hanson

October 11, 2010

I will never forget sitting on an HMO utilization review committee debating whether a patient should have an extremely costly procedure repeated when in walked Dr.Speed.She argued why the procedure was neccessary and eventually it was approved.Never had I seen a specialist take the time to personally represent a patient at an HMO board meeting.She truly was a remarkable and devoted physician.

October 8, 2010

We remember laughter and the fragrances of good food in the Speed/Schwartz kitchen; the sound of wonderful music at those very special house concerts; saying hi to Nancy and Joe in the balcony at symphony concerts; greeting them and chatting a bit at New Frontiers, both before and after Nancy became ill. We will cherish those memories, and the memory of her beautiful smile that lit up the room wherever she was. Our love and affection to Joe, Jeremy, Joshua and the rest of her family.

Yolanda and Jay Waddell

Patty A

October 8, 2010

It seems Nancy was gifted in both her private and professional lives. I knew her professionally and in one clear explanation that was elegant and direct, she helped me to understand the riddle of my family dynamics that had eluded me since I was an adolescent. I can still hear her say: "Take exquisite care of yourself". She was a superb person. I felt privileged that Joe chose to share his experiences of her last years with us at the memorial service. To those of us who shared our intimate feelings with Nancy, it was finally a chance to see the source of her strength--her family and her own great character. Love to your family as you move on with your lives. Patty A

Gordon Strauss

October 7, 2010

Joe: Just learned from Joel about Nancy's death. Too hard to take in, but the obituary description of your travels after her diagnosis fits so well with the Nancy I remember. I have never forgotten or stopped being grateful for that weekend in late December 1981 when Gayle was in the hospital and you and Nancy opened your home to 5 year old Matt and me (I recall we watched what turned out to be a famous 49ers game during the NFL playoffs). But what I really remember was how smoothly Nancy and you reversed our roles, offering warmth and support to your (assoc) training director. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

October 7, 2010

How sad to lose such a gifted,beautiful person.But she leaves a legacy of having touched many lives in a very positive way.

Lou Tedone,San Luis Obispo

Maryella & Bill Dannenbring

October 7, 2010

Our sincerest condolences.

Marcie Thomas

October 7, 2010

I am so sorry to hear you lost your Nancy. Please, accept my deepest sympathy and know you are in my thoughts. Accept the help and support of all those around you; and may you and your family find peace in knowing that alot of people care.

Joel Yager

October 7, 2010

Joe -- I just learned of Nancy's death. Eileen and I send our heartfelt condolences to you and your families. Be strong -- There are no words......

Sarah Eminhizer

October 7, 2010

She touched my life more than she ever knew. Much thanks for all of her support during the quartet years and for her help with my grandmother too. She will be missed.

Benesta King

October 7, 2010

Although I never met Nancy and Joe personally, they were both kind enough to speak with me when my husband was suffering from the same devastating disease that took Nancy. Their good advice and wonderful attitude gave me the hope and courage I needed.
For Joe, I wish you and your family peace and love in this most difficult of times.

Cheryl Marsh

October 6, 2010

Nancy Speed was one of the most incredible souls I have ever known. She touched so many lives. My life was made better for knowing her. I am so thankful for our time together.

Florence Weiser

October 6, 2010

I'll always remember Nancy - my therapist and wonderful friend.
Her support and caring were things I needed very much and she always was right there with me. It was a great blow to learn that she was involved with a fatal disease, terrible for her and disturbing for me. She didn't let this keep her from enjoying what was left of her life, she was so admirable.
Illness keeps me from attending the memorial service so I want to express my sympathy to her family now. We have all lost a gem.

Leo Ingle

October 6, 2010

Nancy certainly lived by the injunction of Alice Rumphius to make the world a better place. We, her physician, psychiatrist and therapist colleagues, will greatly miss her.

Mary Condit

October 6, 2010

Nancy, I love you. You showed me how to take joy and believe in myself. God didn't leave you here long enough, but I'm sure He is rejoicing in your presence. My heart goes out to your family and friends as they learn to live without your Light

October 6, 2010

Dr Nancy Speed gave our mother and our family incredible support and tools to cope with our mother's years-long sad slide into dementia, for which we had no prior coping skills or knowledge of what to do. She preserved my mother's self-image and self-respect which was precious to us as my mother was deeply depressed knowing what was to befall her in the coming years. We all loved Dr Speed immensely; she was gifted in her life's work. We will always remember her and wish the best for her family. - Mertz family

Deb Spatafore

October 6, 2010

To Josh and Joe, whom I know best, and to all the Speed-Schwartz family my deepest condolences. I met Nancy a few times, and Joe would tell me of their wonderful travels. Their love for each other was apparent and exemplary. I wish you peace.

Paul and Mary Speidell

October 6, 2010

Nancy's warmth, tenderness and grace were apparent to us from the first day we met. She was brilliant in her work with both our friends and our own patients. Joe, our hearts go out to you and your children.

Jeanette Kimball

October 6, 2010

I look back on the hours we shared and thank you for helping me get my life back. It's so unfair when someone with so much to give leaves us early. I shall always remember you warmly.

Dug & Mary Alice Chisholm

October 6, 2010

We haven't spent much time with you and Nancy recently, Joe, but you both have been in our thoughts. After all her years of helping others, Nancy is still doing that, by her example of how to gracefully and courageously deal with a terminal illness. You, Joe, are also an example of how to support a loved one through difficult times.

We have lost a friend, and the psychiatric community has lost a most valued colleague.

Bruce Tedone

October 5, 2010

I was greatly saddened to read the obituary for Nancy Speed this morning. I was very fortunate to have worked with her two brilliant boys while they attended San Luis High School. The Shakespeare shows they produced were brilliant. I'm sure Nancy had something to do with that.

Martha and Alton Dreke

October 5, 2010

Heartfelt condolences to you all over the loss of your dearest wife, mother and great physician.

Amy Brown

October 5, 2010

Dr Speed gave such heartfelt help to our family when we needed it most. With her quiet determination and support, we were able to face some uncomfortable truths, and then get busy taking action. Her help was instrumental in bringing our family closer together as we tackled our issues together. I will never forget her.

Robin Fogel

October 5, 2010

When I first moved to san luis obispo, I had just gotten over some bad times in my life and was depressed. My dad whom is also a MD sent me to Nancy. I will always be thankful for the strength and confidence she gave me. I am a different person today because of seeing her. She was a very heartwarming and smart woman. Who I am sure will be missed greatly.

Robert Binkele

October 5, 2010

Approximately 4/6 months ago I was shopping at a local grocery store when around the corner came Nancy Speed and her cart. She was caught off guard, but she also was so enthusiastic about how I was and family. Her eyes lit up when I told her I was now a great grandfather.
We had a wonderful conversation, and I started to realize that she was more curious about my life/family and health, then focusing on her own. It was difficult for me to express my personal feelings since I did know of her illness, and I attempted to avoid this in our conversation. Nevertheless, this wonderful women was always in a position to listen and help others regardless of her personal and tragic issues.
She was here on earth to help people, and I am so happy that was able to see some of our world within her travels.
Nancy Speed was a marvelous and gracious person. God Bless, and I will always remember her.

Robert Binkele @ Cindy.

Linda Lawler

October 5, 2010

I lit a candle in Westminster Abbey for Nancy today. What a beautiful remberance in the paper. Holding you and your family in my heart and wishing you peace.

Pam Ouellete

October 5, 2010

When I first heard about Nancy's illness, I felt a deep anger at a world, a life and a God that was unfair and unjust. Later, I felt an overwhelming sadness and a heavy heart that someone so gifted, so giving, so kind, compassionate and loving would soon leave this earthly plane. Now I am deeply saddened but also very grateful to have known her and spent at least a little time in her presence. I am blessed indeed to have known, Nancy, and I have been forever changed by her gifts. Thank you, Nancy Speed. I have no doubt you are shining at this moment, and I know you will help your loved ones through this painful absence with the memories of who you were when you were here with us. Namaste.

Patty Thayer

October 5, 2010

We missed you both at the Symphony on opening night and now we know why. I'm so sorry. What a sweet, gentle, beautiful spirit we have all lost. I will always remember Nancy's very slight southern lilt that reminded me of home and her love of music and theatre that we shared. Thinking of your family and wishing you love and joy in your memories of a very special lady. May the love you share bring you peace and comfort.

Linda Sewell

October 5, 2010

I met Nancy when my Dad was a resident at Sydney Creek. She was an absolute delight and really helped deal with my Dad's unusual presentation of dementia. She was a real help to both me and my dad. It was during that time that she was forced to take early retirement. I am so sorry for your immense personal loss and the loss to the professional community.

Leslie Crawford

October 5, 2010

Working with Nancy following her illness was a gift for me. She emulated courage and perseverance. I will never forget what I learned from her. My prayers go out to her family.

October 5, 2010

Dr Nancy was a great and wonderful gift in my life. She diagnosed my Bi-Polar after 40 years of suffering, undiagnosed. Nancy treated me with compassion, honesty and a commitment to my health that made me feel a part of my own recovery. I will forever be grateful for the years I spent with her and how she saved my life with her wonderful gift.
An angel on earth and in heaven her spirit will live forever in our hearts.
Suzanne Henry

Connie Framberger

October 5, 2010

The passing of Nancy leaves me with two emotions: the first sadness that we will no longer have her here and the second happiness for having known her. Peace to her family.

Fred/Frieda Russell

October 5, 2010

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

October 5, 2010

After year on exchange in New Zealand, our daughter returned with something obviously wrong with her. We asked three therapist friends to give us the name of the psychiatrist they believed to be the best in the county. All three independently said "Nancy Speed." But then they all said that she didn't take new patients and that she only treated the elderly.

After our daughter had begun to see a psychologist, we were told that she was showing signs of depression and would need to see a psychiatrist for medication. Imagine our pleasure when the psychologist said that her friend Nancy Speed would be willing to treat our daughter.

Nancy was always understanding and "up front" about our daughter's condition. She told us that it would take 5 years for her to accept her part in controlling her bi-polar disorder through medication, and she was only 2 months off. Without her skill, humanity and wisdom, our 33-year old daughter would not be the person she is today. She still must take medication for her bi-polar disorder, but she is no longer a victim of it. I firmly believe that Nancy was a gift from God.

October 5, 2010

My heart goes out to you, Joe, and your children. We will all miss Nancy, her smile, her willingness to be there; I will take her message to heart and think of her often. You are in my thoughts and heart, Cathy Brody

Carol Zarek

October 5, 2010

Nancy led many from the darkness of depression to light.
May angels lead her to Paradise..Peace beyond understanding to her family. Shalom, Carol Zarek

October 5, 2010

" Cowards die many timesbefore their death, The valiant never taste death but once." Nancy personified valiance, beauty, intelligence, humor, humility and love. With all our love forever, Anne and Gene

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