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Howard Stoller Obituary
Howard Stoller, our beloved husband, father, brother, son, uncle and friend died suddenly on Tuesday, December 01, 2009 after experiencing a severe seizure Monday night. He just celebrated his 56th birthday, and we are especially grateful for our long weekend in San Francisco together enjoying comedy, holiday warmth and wonderful coastal views on the way home.
Howie was born November 19, 1953 to the observant Jewish home of Leonard and Renee Stoller. Raised in the Bronx, he went to State University of New York at Brockport where--he never failed to remind us--he earned degrees in both history and geography. After graduating, Patty, Dave, Linda, Russell, Pat and Howie's childhood friend Steve all found their way West to Santa Cruz by 1978 or so, leaving behind many in the East including Arnie, Ed and Ken. He met Sheila in September 1990. At Kenneth's insistence, Kenneth, Sheila and Howie all married in 1994; Dale joined the family in 1996.
Howie liked to take care of his lawns, trees and hedges; he tinkered on endless lists of household projects he just finished his February/March 2009 list. He enjoyed watching the Warriors, 49ers and Sharks and his sons' baseball games those poor umpires. Making sure that his family was safe was so important to Howie--he was very protective of family and friends. Family and friends were, in fact, Howie's big thing. He will be missed.
A graveside Ceremony will be held this afternoon Thursday, December 3, 2009 at Santa Cruz Memorial Park 1927 Ocean Street Ext. Santa Cruz, CA. beginning at 1 p.m.
Howie is survived by his wife Sheila Stoller; sons Kenneth Taylor and Dale Stoller; parents Leonard and Renee of Bronx, NY; sister Anita Cocomello of Las Vegas, NV; brother Michael Stoller and Zoe Zak of New Paltz, NY; brother Dave and Sharon Williams of Coralitos, CA; brother Mike and Dawn Williams of Aubrey, TX; brother Mark Williams of San Jose, CA; nephew Matthew Lessinger and Mirna Cruz of Alameda, CA; nephew Jeff and Monica Chandler of Pacifica, CA; nephew Eric, Tam, Ryek and Kayd Williams of Modesto, CA; niece Sara Williams and Rogan Lynch of Santa Cruz, CA; nephew Ryan Chandler of WA; niece Katie Williams of Los Angeles, CA; niece Danielle Stoller of NY; niece Siobhan Williams of London, England; niece Sally Zak of NY; niece Dorothy and BJ Woods of Modesto, CA; and many other extended family members and wonderful friends.
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Steve Brawer
November 27, 2020
Rest in peace my brother. I love you and miss you.
Marty Wilday
October 31, 2020
So sad to hear about Howie.
I met Howie in 1974 at Brockport. He and his friend Billy shared a townhouse with me and my friend Don.
I remember Howie as a solid guy, Very focused. Great person to have as a roomate.
Always wished I could track him down to see how he was doing. I can see that he had a lot of great friends and caring family.
STEVE BRAWER
November 27, 2019
I miss you and think about you all the time. Rest in peace my friend.
Steve Brawer
December 28, 2010
To my dear friend Howie. Rest in peace, and someday we'll all be together again.
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Allen Brown
November 24, 2010
I was Howie's roommate in 1973 at Brockport. I knew him throughout college. He was lots of fun to be with. Always cheerful. He made me laugh. I am sorry for your loss.
Robert Schultz
November 23, 2010
I was Howie's roommate in 1971 at Brockport. Our Freshman year. We had some wild times. I am so sad to hear of his passing
Diana Deming
February 22, 2010
Dear Sheila and Family,
I hope your fond memories bring you peace. All the best to you.
Sincerely, Diana
(HADCO Watsonville, mid-1990s)
Marc Cohen
January 6, 2010
I just received the Center Light from the VCJC and saw the notice about Howard. My heart and soul go out to the whole family. There is an unwritten rule that parents don't bury children rather children bury parents. I know this first hand as I lost my sister Paula 22 years ago, Dec 25th, and I know what my parents went thru. We all went to PS 95, JHS 143 and DWC. I hope the family finds comfort in Hashem and may they only know from good things. Marc Cohen
Anne Mitchell
January 5, 2010
I didn't know Howie personally. I knew him through the affections of his wife, Sheila and my brother, John.
They drew a picture of a warm, thoughtful, caring
human being. I am sure his loss leaves a terrible emptiness. My heart is with Sheila.
Jayla Lease
December 28, 2009
May God wrap you in his arms and carry you through your time of sorrow.
JoAnne Andrews
December 28, 2009
Our memories of Howie go back to Hadco social gatherings when we had conversations with him. We found Howie to be a decent, caring human being. Clark and I were saddened by his passing. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Sheila, Kenneth and Dale.
Stacey Romo
December 26, 2009
I didn't know Howie well, but I used to be very close to Sheila. I know that he was a wonderful husband to her, a great Dad to Dale and Kenneth could not ask for a better stepfather. My heartfelt condolences to them all and prayers that their pain lessens with time.
Ben Bacigalupi
December 24, 2009
I am so saddened by hearing about Howard. I still cling to that feeling of immortality that we all felt as youths. Hearing about a friend's, or colleague's, loss significantly reminds me just how mortal we all are. Let us all cherish the moments we have left with each other, for each moment's full potential.
Kathy Scroggins
December 24, 2009
Dear Sheila and boys, so saddened by your loss. Although I don't "know" Howie I know that he had to be a very special man for you to fall in love with. Always in my thoughts!
Love, Kathy
Chuck Smith
December 23, 2009
Dear Sheila, I was truly saddened to learn of Howie’s passing. I, and the rest of the HADCO family send our love and condolences to you. We are here for you whenever you need us. Love, Chuck
Ken Hietala
December 23, 2009
Sheila and family,
Just found out today. Sorry for your loss. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Elaine Kolodny Heller
December 11, 2009
I grew up living across the street from Howie. We'd walk to the park together all the time. I haven't seen the old gang for many, many years, but Howie's smile still stands out in my mind too. So sorry to learn of this sad news. My condolences to his family.
Kenny Fried
December 8, 2009
I remember Howie as a fun loving great guy. I too remember the card games in his house and being in Hebrew school with him and he attending my Bar Mitzvah. I share your grief and lose.
Alan Paul Katz
December 7, 2009
May all the bereaved family members of the late Howard Stoller be comforted and know no more griefs. Amen!
michael grossman
December 7, 2009
hi all its michael grossman. my mom just told me of howards passing and i am so sorry. it took me back to all the good times we had growing up . i remember all the card games in his house. last week i had a tumor removed from my brain. i am doing well just trying to get my balance back. i have not seen or talked to any of the old gang from the park in so many years. my deepest sympathies to his parents, family and children.
December 7, 2009
Len and Family:
Please accept my deepest and most sincere condolences. You are in my heart and prayers.
Amy Resto (Monroe College)
Arlene
December 6, 2009
Dearest Anita, family and friends,
Please accept my sincerest condolences at this time. You and your family will always be in my thoughts, prayers and heart.
Risa Wallberg
December 5, 2009
I grew up in the Bronx, Amalgamated with Howie.
We all went to elementary school PS 95 then Junior High 143. Hillary, who we all grew up with, sent out the email to many of us from the old neighborhood. Whew! I could only shake my head back and forth---no words, so sorry.
I can picture him so vividly from way back when.
I just want to send my deepest condolences to his family and friends.
Risa
Hillary Postman
December 5, 2009
Just heard about Howie's passing, too young and so sad. We were friends back in The Bronx, so many funny stories and carefee times back then. Though I haven't seen him in so many years, his name always brought a great smile. My deepest sympathies to his family and all of his friends.
Steve Brawer
December 5, 2009
I had the privilege of growing up and being friends with Howie since first grade, back in the Bronx. When we moved out to California together in 1977, we became closer then ever. I will always cherish the way he would mangle my name into "Browser", for reasons that neither of us understood, except that it was funny, the same way I would call him "Stroller". Rest in peace Howie. I will miss you beyond belief.
Susan Stoddard
December 4, 2009
I too was a Brockport grad and lived for a summer with David and Russell. In 85 I visited Santa Cruz and could see why they loved the area. Howie did have a great sense of humor. My sincere condolences to Howie's family and friends.
Conrad Goeringer
December 3, 2009
Really sad to hear of Howie's passing. I met him working for the the County in 1980. He had a wonderful sense of humor. He will be missed. Most sincere condolences to Howie's family and to all who knew him. Conrad
Gus Guley
December 3, 2009
Hey Howie, family and friends. I remember many good times at Brockport and in Santa Cruz. I always thought you had the keenest sense of humor!! My sympathies to all close to you. Gus
December 3, 2009
Howard will be missed! His lighthearted, friendly smile will be missed!
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