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Donald Avery Graham
June 10, 2023
Tilly was my instructor at Yale for a class in modern poetry I took in my senior year, 1962-63. She had the greatest influence on me of any of my professors (a spectacular group in those days?), because she taught me how to delve into the verbal depths if a poem, rather than accept any superficial meaning. We were visited in our seminar room by Donald Hall and Randall Jarrell, among others, but it was Tilly herself who left a lasting impression, giving me subtle pleasure for the rest of my life. I visited her once in Santa Cruz years later, and we shared a night of psychic exploration never to be forgotten.
Toni (Klimberg) McClory
March 9, 2017
I am deeply saddened to discover that my search for Professor Shaw is too late! I so wanted to connect with her when Bob Dylan recently won the Nobel Prize for Literature: I was a student in her Stevenson core seminar in 1967. Professor Shaw assigned a Dylan song for analysis. None of us could understand his lyrics and there were loud protests from my fellow students on the day the assignment was due. One even accused her of trying too hard to be "relevant." Professor Shaw responded in exasperation, "Where did the Admissions Office find you people? How can you not know Dylan?!" And she firmly and memorably concluded, "THIS. IS. POETRY!"
October 26, 2015
We greatly appreciate Tilly's support for our work.
Beth Golden
Doctors Without Borders USA
Tilly Shaw at original meeting of Founders of Poetry Santa Cruz. Photo by Gloria Alford.
Robert Sward
September 13, 2015
9/13/2015 - Just back from radio station KUSP Santa Cruz' Poetry Show, 88.9, Memorial reading tribute to our long-time friend and colleague and member of our poetry group. Readings of Tilly's poems by Lisa Ortiz, Charles Atkinson, Farnaz Fatemi, David Swanger and Robert Sward.
September 8, 2015
Tilly and her quiet, guiding presencetouchstones in my writer's life. I miss her and will always. That she and my father were at Stevenson during an overlapping time also mattered greatly.
Frieda Gardner
August 20, 2015
met Tilly Shaw just once, sometime in the seventies when I used to visit Paul and Sally Goodman in North Stratford NH. She came to visit her long-term friend Ruth Perry. It was a talky household, lots of non-stop New York-style opinions, sporting but edgy arguments about literature, politics, culture. Tilly walked in, quiet, rather soft-voiced, with vivid, curious/kindly blue eyes. I watched her watching. I noted her listening, with seemingly no need to jump right in and assert. At first, I was uneasy in her presence. What was the deal? Tilly was kind and slyly humorous, a confident person, it turned out, but not needing to make a show of it. She spoke with incisively, but with no need for the last word. Conversation with her was not
a matter of Contest. What I heard and saw of Tillie was a sweet relief. Another way.
Frieda Gardner, Mpls
August 13, 2015
I met Tilly thru Poetry Santa Cruz. I loved her keen ear that heard the unsaid words. Her no nonsense approach to life but most of all her wonderful heart . This is a great loss. Peg
August 9, 2015
Such a spark of joy you were
Blessings, janine
Liz
August 8, 2015
I met Tilly around the time that "Family" came out. Her poems about her mother and her dementia really spoke -- and later, when I was taking care of my own mother, I would go back to them with new understanding. Tilly was the best of poets and teachers: so gentle yet strong, quiet yet steady as a hum, funny but sensitively insightful. She was such a gift to us.
August 7, 2015
Dearest Tilly, esteemed member for over a decade of our Santa Cruz poetry group, wonderful, modest about her gifts... Dedicated to the craft of poetry and loyal supporter of Poets, both local and from afar!
Brenda Shaughnessy
August 3, 2015
Tilly was one of my first poetry teachers. She took all of us young poets so seriously, and really cared about our development as writers. This was one profound way her feminism manifested. She seemed to relish helping us learn how to say what we wanted to say as beautifully, clearly, powerfully as possible. She was so kind, and full of joy as well as incisive, useful criticism, and she made "a poet" seem like a real thing a person could be. Her feminism made an impact: I'll never forget how she said as a female grad student at Yale she wasn't even allowed in certain libraries, how male professors had to write her letters of permission so she could gain admittance to certain buildings and certain research rooms! It blew me away. And then in the next moment she'd wrestle with a turn of phrase in one of our goofy undergraduate poems and unearth some real beauty or power there. She made it clear to us that writing poems mattered. And oh, she mattered to me too, what she thought mattered. She deeply influenced my decision to become a poet but more than that, she modeled that choice as visible, possible, viable...even to messy, uncertain young women like me in 1992 and 1993. Rest in peace dear poet, beloved teacher!
philip wagner
July 29, 2015
She was a dedicated poet, a real booster of a friend, a fine person. I loved her consistent, tempered poetry, always a quiet surprise. It blows me away she's gone.
Pam O'Shaughnessy
July 29, 2015
Tilly was a New Englander at the core though she lived in California so many years. She had a mild way about her, wrapped around a strong, certain core. She had mastered the art of speaking directly and honestly, but in a kind way at the same time. She was acute in her understanding of people. Her poetry expresses her observations of herself and others with the same honesty and acuity.
Tilly found time to support others in their work and I was grateful to feel that warm strength myself.
Tilly was an example to me of a woman late in life, independent, accomplished, free. I hope to follow her example.
Bernice Rendrick
July 28, 2015
Her strong work ethic and inspiring presence for all
forms of art, good humor and friendliness...
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