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Kevin Bryant
March 30, 2017
Here is a transcript of what I said at Alan's memorial at the Woodmark Hotel on Sunday 19 Feb, 2017
I'm Alan's brother, Kevin. His older brother, and certainly his favorite brother.
I have come up with three words to describe Alan: driven, responsible, and provocative.
That first characteristic DRIVEN I'm sure all of you have seen this in Alan. Alan was long on determination, thoughtful about what we wanted to accomplish, and disciplined. Alan was the first in our family to finish college, though it took three schools (Whitman College, Pitzer College and finally the University of Washington) before he found his calling.
Alan was driven to start and run his own company Macabe Associates, names after on his favorite movies, McCabe and Mrs. Miller. In business, Alan was driven to grow, driven to get to the top, and driven to help others grow and succeed.
Alan was an introverted leader introverted not in the sense of being preoccupied with his own internal thoughts and feelings, but rather in the value and pleasure the found in solitude. His colleagues didn't notice that so much though instead, they all appreciated and benefitted from his open-door' policy.
Closely related to Alan's drive was that second word: RESPONSIBLE. For most of his life, Alan described himself as an avowed atheist. From my point of view though, realist may be a better word for Alan. To Alan, what you see, is what there is. There is nothing more. So, each of us is defined by our actions we are what we do. And we are each fully responsible for what we do.
Alan believed that each of us holds primary responsibility for our own happiness. In interpersonal communications, this meant that he, and each of us, must communicate what we want or need from others. If we fail to do that, then we should not complain, or at least not blame him (or others) when we don't get the responses we want or think we need.
I remember once when Alan and I were living together in our early 20's, and a friend of mine who was visiting from out of town had to the house after I was gone. She took her smaller travel bag to the car, parked on the street, leaving the bigger bag on the porch. When she turned around, Alan was there, smiling, and she asked, Aren't you going to carry that down here for me? Alan replied simply, Why? Because it's heavy, she insisted. And he closed the conversation saying, Well, it's not going to be any lighter if I carry it.
That story is also an example of that last of those three words that describe Alan: PROVOCATIVE. I'll bet ALL of you have examples of how provocative Alan could be. To those who hadn't acquired the taste for Alan's approach, or misunderstood his intentions, he could seem blunt, cold, or even mean. But that was never his intention. Alan's aim would be to challenge you, to engage you, to get you to think and ultimately (often) to get you to act to be yourself' and own up to who you are.
DRIVEN, RESPONSIBLE, PROVOCATIVE my three words for Alan. Yes, but then there's a plus one' Alan was also WRY.
Another story from when we lived together in our 20's in an old craftsman-style house in Wallingford. In the crawl space under that house, Alan once discovered a discarded bird cage. The bird that (presumably) once lived in the cage was still in the cage: a parakeet stiff, but odorless and mostly intact, with still-sky-blue feathers and a corn-colored beak, and one foot was still attached as well. Alan was delighted by the find and, as we were planning a party soon, he cleaned up the cage and gave it pride of place by hanging it in the dining-room bay window, moving the perch so that the bird was propped up on it and leaning against the cage. It looked pretty realistic, as I recall we all welcomed it as part of the party décor.
Our roommates were in on the gag, of course, but our guests were innocents. One of the sweet young girls we'd invited first saw the bird from the entryway, and she was thrilled enough to note, You've got a bird, Alan? Alan matched her tone in explaining enthusiastically that he had just found him. What's his name? she asked, and Alan explained that, because it was such a rare, almost miraculous find, he thought the most appropriate name was D.B. Cooper. Many of you may know or now remember D.B. Cooper was the epithet given by the media to the only airline hijacker who has never been found or even identified. The original D.B. Cooper disappeared with $200,000 in ransom money after jumping out of a commercial flight between Portland and Seattle, in 1971. Fascinated, the young woman approached the cage with a little whistle and a gentle tap then shrieked and jumped back in alarm as D.B. Cooper tumbled from his perch and disappeared into the torn newsprint at the bottom of the cage.
Pleased as punch, Alan gleefully explained: D.B. stands for Dead Bird
Wry that was Alan. Even in the hospital last month, we still got to see Alan's wry smile. I'm sure each of us can bring to mind an image of Alan's handsome face with that wry smiling lighting it up let's keep that as our favorite memory.
A. H.
March 8, 2017
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
March 6, 2017
So sorry for your loss. When someone you love becomes a memory the memory become a treasure so treasure the memory
Matt 5:4,5
California
February 27, 2017
My deepest sympathy for your family. May god provide strength and comfort as you endure the days ahead. ( 2 Corthinians 1:3,4).
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Michelle Pickering
February 8, 2017
Alan was an amazing man. I had the pleasure of working for him for many years and these were the best years when thinking back on my career.
He was a great leader and just full of life.
One of my favorite memories was the day I walked into his office and there was a hummingbird in his office, in a bag (it was deceased). That stayed in his office for at least a week and every time I walked in we would start another discussion around the bird and it colors and just how majestic the bird is.
He always had items in his office to start up a discussion or even a challenge. He had a love for peeps and having those to bring to meetings just to see who would eat them. It started a quest where every time I went to the store (during Easter) I would look to see what new peeps I could bring him.
I loved his spirit and just the person he was overall. There are no words that can express the sadness about losing this great man.
Please know that he was truly loved by so many and shared so much with so many people to help them grow and thrive in business and in life.
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