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John von Dassow Obituary

John Robert "Bob" von DASSOW John Robert von Dassow, June 11, 1937-September 11, 2009 Bob von Dassow died on Friday, September 11, after battling cancer. A man of wide-ranging intellect, he was a poet, musician, musicologist, linguist, translator, scholar of French and Chinese literature, and supernumerary in the Seattle Opera. Well-known to the University of Washington community, Bob tutored foreign students, audited classes, haunted the libraries, and attended hundreds of concerts and lectures, always in beret, overcoat, and turtleneck with his trademark bookbags in tow. Born in Seattle, he and his brother Richard von Dassow grew up here until their father, John A. Dassow, a biochemist, took a job at the Ketchikan Fisheries Laboratory. Bob's first job was in the print plant of the Alaska Sportsman magazine, where his mother, Ethel M. Dassow, worked as an editor. In the 1950s Bob studied violin with a Mr. Sirpico in Portland, Oregon, and then attended Lewis and Clark College and later Reed College, where he earned local fame as one of the original "beatniks," outraging school authorities by appearing everywhere in long hair, blanket and sandals.He earned his M.A. from the University of Washington in 1965 and taught briefly at Utah State University before returning to Seattle, where he lived the rest of his life, bringing small moments into illumination through his poetry: Concert Dancers place themselves in darkness and wait, Wait, till the darkness comes to us, in turn, That sets them free. He is survived by his sister, Laura Dassow Walls; his first wife, Melita Gardner, and their children John A. "Sasha" von Dassow and Sumi von Dassow; his second wife Eleanor Hartmann and their children Eva, George, Peter, and Michelangelo von Dassow and their families; their daughter, Elizabeth, preceded him in death. A memorial event will be held in the future.

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Published by The Seattle Times from Sep. 18 to Sep. 19, 2009.

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Dieter Masak

March 29, 2024

I´ve always liked your openness...

August 8, 2010

I have so many fond memories of Bob and all of us from the early years. Love, Reni Moriarity

marty campbell

August 7, 2010

i completely though i'd made an entry last september when i first came here. i unbelievable do not believe i ever met bob. i feel so kindred spirit. i KNOW him through ken johnson my very dear friend of 42 years. he has meant so much to ken, over the years, bob is all so a friend of mine. i miss him. and i appreciate that his spirit so soars.

Ken Johnson

August 6, 2010

Bob's Memorial Event

Sasha has collected memorabilia to be display, and he will be playing his cello.

Saturday, August 7, 2010
4-6 p.m., including reception
Burke Room - Burke Museum
University of Washington

Reed College Days

Ken Johnson

August 5, 2010

Re photo of Reed College Days

Bob showed me this photo last summer -- it's the one that appeared in the Portland Oregonian that Laura mentions in the obit. Bob's plaid serape (or poncho) was replaced sometime in the following years with a bright red serape which he occasionally wore with his beret. The question may arise, What's in that pipe that he's smoking? I think the pipe was a prop.

Over the more than 20 years I knew Bob, he was always adamantly anti-drug (except for embracing caffeine), and he eschewed tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs because he was wary of their effect on his mind.

What a mind! Bob had an intellect truly precious and worth preserving. While I might have my senior minutes, I never knew Bob to have a senior moment. He readily switched between topics without hesitation, and he recollected information without pause. Bob was a professional musician (notice Bob’s hand in the photo) with perfect pitch. He lived a frugal, disciplined life in pursuit of developing his intellectual interests, and Bob was knowledgeable in a wide range of fields, including music and linguistics.

On languages, Bob would often surmise the nationality of someone he ran into on campus or in the community, and he would strike up a conversation with them in their native language (French, Spanish, Russian, Chinese, Arabic, etc.). Those people were always pleasantly surprised and would switch from English to their tongue.

Right up to his final days, Bob was reviewing language tapes for several languages such as Korean with which he was less familiar. Bob did not put much stock in an afterlife, although he was smart and flexible enough to hedge his bets. When I asked him why he was studying those languages, he said, "If there is a heaven, I don't know which language they'll be speaking," and so he wanted to be prepared just in case.

Bob -- Spring, 2009

Bob von Dassow

August 5, 2010

Bob - Summer, 2009

Bob von Dassow

August 5, 2010

Reed College Days - 2

Bob von Dassow

August 5, 2010

Reed College Days

Ken Johnson

August 5, 2010

July 28, 2010

Every time I went to a concert or lecture or poetry reading on the UW campus, he was there. I didn't know him personally, but always felt like I did know him in spirit. I knew he was a creative spirit. We will miss him.

DS
UW community

April 1, 2010

I stumbled across this obituary totally by mistake. I was in highschool with Sasha and we were very good friends growing up and I spent lots of time hanging out at his family home. Mr. von Dassow was always there at that time and he was always very cordial to me. In later years, I would frequently run into him either on his way to a performance or returning from one. I wondered why I had not run into him recently. Now I know. Rest in peace. Pam Chang--Seattle

October 3, 2009

May Bob rest in peace.

-- Anna G.

Tom Bannister

September 22, 2009

Condolences and assurances he will be remembered by me.

Ken Johnson

September 22, 2009

Bob usually had more than 1,000 books checked out of the UW library at one time. The printed word -- and speech -- were his mainstays, and he was slow to adopt the new web technology (such as a guest book).

Bob once told me that a library staff person with whom he was acquainted had mentioned that his account was used to train new hires on the vagaries of the library electronic checkout system! especially when it was challenged with such a large number of entries.

To clear room in his apartment, Bob agreed that I could return some of those books, and so I loaded up the back of my station wagon with over 600 books. I had arranged with the Undergraduate Library to drop off the books, and when we got to the loading dock, I called the desk and asked them to meet us with book trucks. A month later his apartment would again get cluttered, and so we arranged another trip. By this time, I had the phone number of the contact person at OUGL in my cell phone.

When Bob's daughter Eva and son Michelangelo were visiting him recently, Bob gave me his Seattle Public Library card to pick up some language CDs at the Wallingford branch while they went grocery shopping. Imagine my surprise on using Bob's card to check out the items when the computer informed me, "You have 97 items ready for pickup." Well, maybe I give a different number every time I tell this story, but you get the idea.

September 18, 2009

I worked at one of the libraries he frequented. Mr. von Dassow was one of my favorite patrons. He was always kind and polite, and would engage you about whatever topic he was currently studying. His passing is a loss to the community.

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