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Jay Lee Chiles Nov. 26, 1941 - July 9, 2009 Dr. Jay Lee Chiles, 67, died unexpectedly in Palo Alto, CA, on July 9, 2009. A longtime resident of Portola Valley and Palo Alto, Jay was one of the best known and most respected maxillofacial and oral surgeons in the Peninsula/South Bay region prior to his retirement in 1990. Jay was born and raised in Aberdeen, SD, the second son of Albert B. and Mabel Lee (Pershing) Chiles. He was educated at South Dakota State University (B.S.), the University of Minnesota (D.D.S.) and the Mayo Clinic, where he completed his residency in oral surgery. Together with fellow Mayo Clinic graduate Dr. Thomas Poore, he ran a large and very successful practice with offices in Menlo Park and Redwood City. Jay lived in Wailea, Maui for the last 10 years of his life. He loved the island for its beauty, tranquility and breathtaking sunsets. A long-time lover of classical music, Jay also served for a number of years on the Board of Directors of the Maui Symphony Orchestra. Jay is survived by his brother and sister-in-law, Ross Chiles, MD., and Sharie Chiles of Austin, TX; and by his two nieces, Bethany (Chiles) Gonzales, also of Austin, and Lesley (Chiles) Welch of Cedar Park, TX. Jay leaves behind scores of people whose lives he touched and enriched. No one will miss him more than his best friend of 25 years, Louis E. (Louie) Olave Jr. Even before retiring from his practice, he and Louie traveled the world together, journeying to various and sundry locales in Western Europe, the Caribbean, and the South Pacific. When Jay moved to Maui in 1998, Louie made it to the island at least four times per year. Jay spent the holiday season and every July with Louie and his partner, Coit D. (Chip) Blacker in their Palo Alto home. It was in the course of his most recent stay with Louie and Chip that he suddenly passed away. Celebrations of Jay's life will be held in Palo Alto and Wailea. At his request there will be no memorial service. Those who wish to honor and remember Jay are invited to do so by making a donation in his name to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN. Arrangements entrusted to Roller & Hapgood & Tinney Funeral Chapel, Palo Alto.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jul. 14 to Jul. 16, 2009.

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Louis Olave

July 9, 2025

I can´t believe you passed away 16 years ago today. I think of you each and every day. Keeps around me with your big, bright spirit.

Louis Olave

December 25, 2024

I feel your beautiful bright spirit surrounding me always. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

December 25, 2024

Mele Kalikimaka. I never stop thinking of you. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

July 9, 2024

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July 9, 2024

I can´t believe you passed away 15 years ago today. Please continue to surround me with your bright spirit. Love you and miss you.

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March 31, 2024

Happy Easter. I never stop thinking of you. Keep on surrounding me with your bright spirit. Love you and miss you.

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January 1, 2024

Happy New Year! I never stop thinking of you. Keep on surrounding me with your bright spirit. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

July 9, 2023

I never stop thinking of you. Please continue to surround me with your bright spirit. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

April 9, 2023

Happy Easter. I never stop thinking of you. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

December 30, 2022

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December 30, 2022

I never stop thinking of you. Our big house is still looking wonderful. I feel your bright spirit surrounding me always. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave

July 9, 2022

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July 9, 2022

It´s hard to believe you left this earth 13 years ago today. Not a day goes by that I don´t think. Keep on surrounding me with you beautiful and bright spirit. Love you and miss you.

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April 17, 2022

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April 17, 2022

Happy Easter. I think of you each and every day. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave

December 25, 2021

Mele Kalikimaka. I never stop thinking of you. Keep on surrounding me with your bright spirit. Miss you and love you.

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December 25, 2021

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December 25, 2021

Mele Kalikimaka. I never stop thinking of you. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave

November 26, 2021

Happy birthday, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Please continue to surround me with your beautiful, bright spirit. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave

July 10, 2021

Aloha Jay, I never stop thinking about you. Please continue to surround me with your bright light. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave

April 4, 2021

Happy Easter. Keep on surrounding me with you beautiful bright spirit. Love you and and miss you.❤

Louis Olave, Jr.

February 14, 2021

Happy Valentine’s Day.❤ I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

December 26, 2020

Mele Kalikimaka, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave

December 26, 2020

Louis Olave Jr.

November 26, 2020

Happy Birthday and Happy Thanksgiving. I think of you each and every day. Love you and miss you.❤

Louis Olave Jr.

November 26, 2020

Joanna Ladd

July 13, 2020

It's been a very long time since I saw Jay but I was blessed to be his hair designer as well as dear Louis' - back in the day!! Many years I was blessed with his intelligent, calm, kind presence and sweet laugh. Rest in peace and Aloha Jay. You were such a good man.
love love love, Joanna Ladd

Louis Olave

July 9, 2020

I cant believe you passed away 11 years ago today. I think of you each and every day. Keep surrounding me with your bright and beautiful spirit. Miss you and love you.❤

Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

April 12, 2020

Feeling your beautiful spirit.

Louis Olave, Jr.

April 12, 2020

Louis Olave

April 12, 2020

Happy Easter. I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

February 15, 2020

Happy Valentine's Day. I think of you each and every day. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

January 4, 2020

Aloha Jay, sorry that I'm late in wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. My dearest Eleanor passed away on December 26th. I know you welcomed her when she arrived in heaven. I think of you each and every day. Please continue to surround me with you beautiful bright spirit.Love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr.

November 26, 2019

Happy birthday, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Keep surrounding me your your ever so bright spirit. Love you and miss you.❤

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 9, 2019

Aloha Jay, I can't believe that you passed away 10 years ago today. I think about you each and every day. Please continue to surround me with your ever so bright spirit. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave,Jr.

April 21, 2019

Happy Easter. I think about you each and every day. I miss you so much. Love you, always.

Your spirit will live on forever. Happy Easter, Easter Bunny. I will never those words. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

April 21, 2019

Feeling your incredible spirit on Maui, always. Happy Easter. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave

April 21, 2019

Louis Olave, Jr.

December 25, 2018

Mele Kalikimaka, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you.

November 27, 2018

What a wonderful birthday celebration we would have had for you, Uncle Jay! We all love you and miss you! I know you are continuing to share your spirit with Louie. I feel so lucky to have known you. Blessings to you at this special time of year.
Randy

Louis Olave, Jr.

November 26, 2018

Happy birthday, Jay. I think of you each and every day. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 10, 2018

Aloha Jay, I can't believe it's been 9 years since you passed away. I think of you each and every day. Please continue to surround me with your incredible spirit. Love you and miss you.

Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 10, 2018

Sunset in memory of you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 10, 2018

Louis Olave, Jr.

March 31, 2018

Happy Easter, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave,Jr.

December 25, 2017

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Louis Olave, Jr

December 25, 2017

Merry Christmas, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Sending all my love, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr.

November 26, 2017

Happy Birthday, Jay. I think of you each and everyday. Miss you and love you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 9, 2017

It's hard to believe that you passed away 8 years ago today. I think of you everyday. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

February 14, 2017

Happy Valentine's Day, Jay. I think of you everyday. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

December 31, 2016

Happy New Year, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Love you and miss you.

Louis Olave, Jr.

December 25, 2016

Merry Christmas, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Miss you and love you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr.

November 26, 2016

Happy Birthday, Jay. I will celebrate you today and always. Sending you all my love, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr.

November 24, 2016

Dear Jay, Happy Thanksgiving. I think of you each and everyday. Please continue to surround me with your bright spirit. I miss you and love you, Louie

Your spirit will live on forever. Love you, Louie❤

Louis Olave, Jr

July 9, 2016

Louis Olave, Jr

July 9, 2016

I never stop thinking about you, Jay. I'm honoring and celebrating your life on Maui today and always. Keep on surrounding me with your bright spirit. Love and miss you.❤

Louis Olave, Jr.

June 18, 2016

I never stop thinking about you, Jay. Please continue to surround me with your ever so bright spirit. Love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

March 27, 2016

Happy Easter, Jay! I never stop thinking of you. I miss you and love you. Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

February 14, 2016

Happy Valentine's Day, Jay. I think of you everyday. Please continue to surround me with your beautiful spirit. Love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

January 1, 2016

Happy New Year, Jay. Your spirit will always be with me. Love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

December 24, 2015

Merry Christmas, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Please continue to surround me with your beautiful spirit. I miss you and love you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

November 26, 2015

Happy Birthday and Happy Thanksgiving, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. Miss you and love you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr.

July 9, 2015

Dear Jay, It's so hard to believe that your passed away 6 years ago today. I never stop thinking about you. Please continue to watch over me. I love you and miss so much. Love, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

April 5, 2015

Happy Easter, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. I love you and miss you! Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

February 14, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. I miss getting all the beautiful cards, that you always sent to me. Miss you and love you! Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

January 3, 2015

Happy New Year, Jay. I miss you so much. I will always remember the love we shared. Please continue to watch over me and give my Mom and Dad my love. Love you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

December 24, 2014

Merry Christmas, Jay. I never stop thinking about you. I know you are celebrating with my Mom and Dad. I love you and miss you. Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

November 27, 2014

Happy Thanksgiving, Jay. I know you're celebrating with my Mom and Dad. I miss you and love you. Louie

Louis Olave,Jr

November 26, 2014

Dear Jay, Happy Birthday!! I never stop thinking about you. I'll always remember all the great times we shared together. I miss you more than ever. Your spirit will live on forever. Love you, Louie

July 11, 2014

Dear Uncle Jay, I'm a few days late in entering my thoughts here, but it's just given me more time to think of you, which I do often. We miss you so much. We miss you at our gatherings, which, sadly, are few and far between these days. I know you would have moved back to PA by now, and maybe would have helped me with my sound system, which still goes un-installed, but most importantly would have spread your loving friendship throughout our ever-more-isolated, uber-rich neighborhoods. You remain one of the finest people I have met in life. I hope you know how much you are loved and missed. We raise a glass to you, Jay! Randy

Karen Griego

July 9, 2014

I honor you on this day and always for being such a wonderful man and friend to our family. I always felt you were part of our family and we loved you like a son and brother. I'm sure you are with my parents now and we will meet again someday. Much love, Karen

Louis Olave, Jr

July 9, 2014

It's hard to believe Jay passed away 5 years ago today. I think of him everyday. He was an incredible man, so kind and loving. Jay you
are missed, by so many, but never forgotten. I love you and miss you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

April 19, 2014

Happy Easter, Jay. You will always be my special Easter Bunny! Please give my Mom and Dad all my love. I never stop thinking about you. I love you and miss you, so much. I look forward to seeing you again, one day. Please continue to look over me and keep on sending me all your love. I will always love you, Louie

Louis Olave, Jr

March 7, 2014

Thinking of you now and always. I miss you and love you. Louie

January 3, 2014

Hello Jay, I think of often!! Your my first love!

Louis Olave, Jr

January 1, 2014

Happy New Year, Jay. I miss you and love you.

Louis Olave, Jr

December 27, 2013

Hi Jay, Christmas was very nice this year. I thought about you and my Mom the whole day. I brought out some of your favorite Christmas things and enjoyed them very much. I look forward to seeing you again one day. Gussie sends you a big kiss. Love you and miss you, Louie

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