Madaline Bolander

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Bolander, Madaline
Madaline Mary Kilmartin Bolander, 86, a life-long city resident, died in Stamford early Thursday morning, January 31, 2013 after a lengthy illness. A caring and spirited woman of very strong faith and blessed with a wide circle of friends, Madaline was born in Stamford on June 13th 1926, the cherished daughter of Katherine Kilkenny Kilmartin and James Kilmartin, as well as the beloved wife of William Bolander, all of whom predeceased her. To those who knew and were fond of Maddie, she selflessly devoted many years to the care of her mother after her father passed away. Her compassionate support and constant consideration toward Katie over the years and their shared knowledge of Stamford's East side, their beloved parish of St. Mary's, where the Kilmartins were founding and faithful members, as well as their pride in, and devotion to, both their Catholic faith and Irish heritage were legend. A "Cove Kid" right to the end, Maddie was a constant and passionate local historian to her many neighbors and friends, and enjoyed life long affiliations with many local and national groups and clubs. Holding court on her front porch that bordered Cummings Park, and regaling several generations of friends and neighbors with wonderful tales of old and contemporary Stamford, and "all things Irish." Maddie resided in her family home for the entirety of her life until she recently needed more care and entered a convalescent facility. She also maintained another home in New Port Ritchey, Florida until recently, as well. Despite some serious health restrictions, Maddie kept current with friends, her clubs and her beloved hometown. A compassionate and devoted animal enthusiast, Maddie's life was made that much more full and enjoyable in times past by Buster, Smokey, and Chester, and most recently by her pride and joy, her loyal and beloved cat Missy. Maddie's sparkling, beautiful blue eyes absolutely smiled when Missy would visit at Regency Heights where the First Floor Nursing Staff, as well as Speech Therapist, Jaclyn Willette, took such wonderful care of her. Another significant dimension of Madaline's personal character and commitment was reflected in her exemplary work ethic and in her dedication to professional responsibilities. She was most proud of her fifty (50) year service to the Stamford Public School System, having first started while still in attendance at Stamford High School (Class of 1944) and then through full time employment upon her graduation. Maddie served in many different capacities at both the Central Office level, as well as in several local schools. She was the first Main Office and Principal's secretary at Westhill High School when it first opened, and retired from the same position at Rippowam Center in 1994. Maddie remained an enthusiastic and knowledgeable advocate of SPS, and always loved her service to and support of Stamford students, families, administrators and teachers. Madaline proudly served as Regent for Court St Mary # 82, the Catholic Daughters of America, and was a member of the Columbiettes of St. Augustine, Council 4; the Ancient Order of Hibernians; the Women's Auxiliary of the VFW; North Stamford Chapter 2002 of AARP and Stamford Senior Council. A life-long congregant at St. Mary's Catholic Church, Maddie was also a long standing and faithful member of its Rosary Society as well. In addition, she was a very generous supporter, both financially, as well as in advocacy, of many local and national charities, most devotedly to the Connecticut Humane Society, the ASPCA, and the Shiner's Children's Hospital. Predeceased by her parents and by her husband William Bolander in 1987, Madeline is survived by her cousin, Helen Harvey of Stamford and several cousins in Ireland. Her extended family and close friends include Donald Smith, Dorothea Ryan, Irene Mozdzer, Marylou Flowers, Lucy Smith and Theresa Infante. Madaline was also loved and cared for by Henry Diaz and his children, Jamilex, Henry, Jr. Jerry, as well as by Lucy, Denise and John Carrigan. We would also like to thank the wonderful Nurses at Stamford Hospital, 4th Floor North, for their exemplary professionalism and for the compassionate care given Madaline during her several stays there recently. Family and friends may call at the Nicholas F. Cognetta Funeral Home & Crematory, 104 Myrtle Avenue Stamford, CT on Sunday February 3, 2013 from 12:00PM to 2:00PM. A funeral procession will leave the funeral home on Monday February 4 at 9:30AM for a Mass of Christian Burial to be celebrated at St. Mary's RC Church, 566 Elm Street, Stamford, CT at 10:00AM. Interment will follow at St. John RC Cemetery, Darien.
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Published in StamfordAdvocate on Feb. 2, 2013
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