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PALMER, Scott W.
Age 43 of Elmira Heights passed away after a long battle with diabetes on September 26, 2012. Scott was born in Elmira to Richard and Connie (Gee) Palmer. In addition to his parents, he is survived by his son, Ryan Palmer of Elmira; daughters, McKenzie and Kristina Palmer and their mother Michelle of Elmira Heights. Sister, Kristina Palmer-States of Newfield, NY; Nephew, Kyle States, Aunts, Donna Gee, Linda (Curtis) Bolden and Judy Joslyn all of Horseheads, Uncle, Michael (Lorie) Cantaloupe of Cocoa Beach, FL; many extended family members and friends. He was a free soul living life his way. Family and friends are invited to call at the Barber Funeral Home 413 S. Main St. Horseheads, NY on Tuesday from 4-5:00 pm. His service will follow at 5:00 pm. Those wishing may remember Scott with memorials to a fund for his children, c/o Connie Palmer 2518 Beckwith Rd., Alpine, NY 14805.
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It's been just over 10 years since you left us. A lot has happened especially as of late. In the last year, I had a heart attack, open heart surgery, a small fire in the house, your father passed this last December, I came down with shingles.
The day after the 10th anniversary of your passing, your son Ryan was taken to Heaven to join you. I hope you were there waiting for him. We love you and miss you always.
mom
Family
October 1, 2022
Scott, it's been almost a month, and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think about you and miss you. I can't believe that you are gone, but know that you are in a better place right now. I am still struggling to know if I did the right thing. I always wondered what kind of mom I was, and seeing what other people have written about you, I guess I did OK. You truly were a great man who loved his family and friends with all his heart and soul. I love you and miss you everyday.
October 22, 2012
Scott was my nephew he was and is a special part of my heart. He had such a loving and trusting soul.
Material pocessions didn't matter to him. He lived with what he had and never once did I hear him complain or give up because he was dealt a bad hand. I got to see him and spend time with him alot the past few years and it wasn't until then I really got to know what a true blessing he was. I am honored to be his Aunt Linda and will miss him terribly.I hope that the love and caring he showed in his short life will help us all be closer. His Girls knew Scott's unconditional love as he showed them everyday. How fortunate they were to have such a amazing Dad! Jenn and Scott are watching over us and the bright light in the night or breeze blowing across our face is Scott and Jenn watching over us. I love you both with all my heart, till we meet again. HEL LOOOO.
Linda Gee - Bolden
October 15, 2012
Rick, Thank you:) Hugs- Kristina (Scott's Little Sister)
October 7, 2012
My condolences to his family. I knew Scott from the Heights and from school. I just learned of his passing, he was a great person with a gentle soul and will be greatly missed.
Denise Rice-Little
October 7, 2012
Scott Palmer had been a good friend of mine since high school. In fact, I met my wife Nancy of 24 years through Scott. For those who knew Scott, his family was a big part of his life every time I talked to him he was either doing something with or coming from seeing his girls. In addition he would tell me how much he appreciated his sister Kristina and his mother Connie for the times they were there for him when he needed them most.
Scott lived his life his way; he knew who he was and was very comfortable with himself. He was no different from the time I met him to the time of his passing, tee shirts and blue Jeans. Either you took Scott for who he was or we will leave that unsaid. Scott was well liked and knew a lot of people.
When you hung out with Scott you didn't need to be in a conversation to enjoy being with him, in fact, when we played pool we forgot whose turn it was and just had fun hanging out. Scott was not the guy you get the latest gossip from; sure he would from time to time share with you what was going on in his life, but that's as far as it would go.
Scott did not get caught up in ego. He didn't have to have the latest and greatest earthly possessions he did what filled his spirit. Perhaps Scott is sending all of us a gentle whisper to ask ourselves are we so caught up in the whirlwind of life that our balance is off. Do we give ourselves an excuse and say I will fill my sprit when I achieve this or that? We might not have tomorrow what can we do today to fill our sprit to live life our way, material things come and go but we only have one life there is no right or wrong way to live it only you know what fills your spirit. Love is the only thing that matters most, love is the only absolute that transcends the hands of time. Maybe that is another whisper from Scott, are we spending enough time with the people we love the most.
Some would say Scott was dealt a bad hand of cards with his diabetes, and no matter how bad things got for Scott he would brush his knees off so to speak and continue on with life. Perhaps another gentle whisper from Scott, how long do we stay down with the things that go on in our lives. Can we remember the strengths Scott had and brush our knees off and get back to what matters most.
Rick Dennison
October 6, 2012
Dear Connie, Dick, Kristina and Family - I'm sorry I waited so long to write, it's hard to find the words to say I'm sorry for your devistating loss. I was fortunate enough to get to know Scott through our little "adventures" together. He would speak of how much he loved his family and how special they all were to him and how he wished he could do more to show you all how much he loved you, but I think you all knew how much he loved you. He especially loved family gatherings - and his kids. He was a wonderful father, I saw that first hand. God bless you all and always keep the memories alive....
Katrina Lourdiane
October 6, 2012
My prayers go out to the family.. And to his two beautiful daughters. Scott u will be missed but never forgotten.. watch over your children as they are in good hands.. will all meet again at heavens doors.
Des K
October 4, 2012
Thank you all who signed the guestbook, called, attended Scott's services, or just kept our family in your thoughts and prayers. My brother was one of a kind, with a huge heart and free spirit. I will miss him everyday. Thank you from Scott's mom, dad & sister.
Kristina Palmer-States
October 4, 2012
So very sorry for your loss! Thoughts and Prayers
Debbie Wetherup
October 3, 2012
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998
Laurie Rosplock
October 2, 2012
I'm so sorry for all the loved ones lots of Scott may your loving memories of him last forever
DAVID SCOTT CHRISTMAN
October 2, 2012
So sorry to hear of your loss,and to be so far away, wish we could say the right things to ease your pain, but words can not say enough at a time like this,you and your family are in our prayers,just remember all the good things.
JoAnn & Joe Palading
October 2, 2012
So Sorry to hear of your loss of Scott , i have known him since we were kids and he had such a great heart ! He will be missed !! Great, great man !
Suzette Ferris
October 2, 2012
Sorry for your loss.
Gary and Deb
October 1, 2012
To Dick, Connie, Kristina, Scott's children, and his aunts - who all loved him so much; my thoughts and prayers are with you. It is some
small comfort at the moment to know that Scott is totally healthy, out of pain, and at peace. Hold fond memories in your heart; he has left some of himself in each of you and his legacy will carry on. Love, Pam Goldsmith
October 1, 2012
Connie, Kristina and family. I'm so sorry to hear of Scott's passing. My heart goes out to you at this time. May you find peace in your memories.
Kathy Bell
October 1, 2012
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Mark Pederzolli
October 1, 2012
Ryan I am so sorry to hear about your dad . He is just gone too soon . I just want you to know that I never forgot about you . And I am thinking about you through this .
Darlene Tadder
October 1, 2012
He was a great friend, you are a wonderful family. As always, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Terry Butts
September 30, 2012
Der Connie, Kristina and Donna and family, I was so shocked and saddened when I read of Scott's passing. He was always so special to me. Rest assured that you all will be in my constant prayers and thoughts. God Bless you all and keep you in the palms of His Hands.
Esther Hetherton
September 30, 2012
Dear Connie, Donna and Kristina, I was so shocked and saddened to read about Scott's passing. He was always so special to me. I will keep him in my prayers and in my heart always. You and all the family will always be in my prayers. God bless you all and keep you in tnhe palm of His hands.
September 30, 2012
Because Scott was such a kind and giving person, god felt his soul was better by his side than here on this earth..he is truly a free spirit now..pain free and at peace..god bless his family and friends and know he is resting in peace truly where he is at and we all shall some day be blessed in the presence of his kind caring soul again.
September 29, 2012
Connie, We are very sorry for your loss. We hope that you can find comfort and strength in the love of your family and friends.
Gary and Donna Bartlett
September 29, 2012
Connie I am so sorry for your lose Prayers are with you and your family
Faith Moffe
September 29, 2012
kristina I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Billie Sue Doan
September 29, 2012
Connie, Kristina & Family. I am deeply sorry for you loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Cindy Sullivan
September 29, 2012
Scott, What can I say in words on how I felt about you. You were such a great friend to me ever since we were kids. You were like the brother I never had. I am so sorry that you passed too early. To his family, I am deeply and truly sorry for your loss. You are with the Angels now Scott they will guide you and comfort you. Love you always, Nancy
Nancy Dennison
September 28, 2012
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of my good friend Scott Palmer. I will forevermore cherish the memories I have of times we had spent together, Scott my good friend you will be forever missed, I know you are in a better place, a place where it's peace, love, and joy as we know it here on earth times 10. R.I.P my good friend. My thoughts and prayers go out to Scott's family. I'm sorry for your loss.I will always remember how unique each friendship Scott had with people was, and how he shared something special with them whether it be music, Nascar, Paintball, etc.
Rick Dennison
September 28, 2012
I am sorry for your lost Shelly and girls.
judy Kelsey,stout
September 28, 2012
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