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Thomas Phelps Obituary

Phelps, Thomas Edward Thomas Edward Phelps died peacefully on Thursday, August 9, 2012 at the age of 68, of cancer. Husband for 46 years of Trent Barnes Phelps of St. Louis; father of Valier Phelps Stewart of Overland Park, Kansas and Natalie Phelps Tate (Mrs. Jason Tate) of Marion, Illinois; grandfather of Taylor Phelps Stewart and Payne Carlson Stewart of Overland Park, Kansas; brother of Richard Dwight Phelps (Victoria) of Mammoth Lakes, California; uncle of Elizabeth Casey Phelps, Robert Dwight Phelps, Andrew Milton Phelps and Patrick Handley Phelps. Mr. Phelps founded Donelan Phelps, a brokerage, then investment advisory and venture capital firm, with Patrick M. Donelan in 1968. He was active in the Young Presidents Organization where he received the Hickok Award while serving as chair of the International Executive Committee. Tom served as trustee for the Donald L. Barnes Foundation charitable trust and for over fifteen years he served as trustee for the Brehm Preparatory School, Carbondale, Illinois, serving students with learning disabilities. He was vice president of Individual Learning Solutions, founded in 2008, a not-for-profit serving students with learning challenges and their families. Services: Friends are invited to attend the Memorial Service to be conducted at St. Peter's Episcopal Church, 101 N. Warson Road, at Ladue Road, Ladue, on Friday, August 17, 2012 at 11:00 a.m. Private Committal. No visitation. In lieu of flowers, the family will be grateful for any memorials to: Individual Learning Solutions (www.individuallearningsolutions. org), Wounded Warriors (www.woundedwarrior project.org), the Brehm Preparatory School (www.brehm.org) or to a charity of one's choice. A Service of THE LUPTON CHAPEL

Published by St. Louis Post-Dispatch from Aug. 12 to Aug. 14, 2012.

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Brian Brown

August 13, 2012

Trent, Valier and Natalie,

We are all terribly sad to hear of Tom's passing. I feel very fortunate to have had the opportunity to know Tom, and learned so much from him during his time at Brehm. We owe so much of who we are today as a program to Tom and all of you. His leadership, guidance, and commitment to Brehm helped to reestablish our vision and mission and ultimately achieve Carol Brehm's dream. Tom was such a wonderful man and his impact on Brehm will be long lasting. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

August 12, 2012

Trent, I am so terribly sorry about the loss of Tom. It touches me that during all of time of your concerns about him you were taking on our Reunion Album. You are very much in my thoughts at this very sad time for you and your family.

Louise Knight

Brenda Miller

August 12, 2012

Trent, Valier and Natalie,
Tom had a tremendous impact on everyone who met him. His passion to explore the full potential of everything he did impacted all who worked with him. I feel honored to call him my mentor and friend who instilled a passion for visualizing the possibilities. Our time on the Brehm Board was a unique experience of watching what can happen when you combine passion and vision into a strong path towards a united goal. Brehm's success was only possible thanks to Tom's heart, soul and leadership. Will and I are so sad to hear of Tom's passing, but know that he will live forever in the hearts of those he touched.

Char Reed

August 12, 2012

Tom's vision, guidance and compassion have touched many lives, including my own. I have long been and remain forever grateful to both Tom and Trent for the roles they played in firmly establishing and advancing the Brehm Programs. My deepest sympathies to his family as they honor his life and mourn his passing.

Joe Milligan

August 12, 2012

Trent, Valier, Natalie and Families.
Donna and I are very Saddened to hear of Toms passing. He was a Great and Inspirational man. Because of the many things he instilled in all of our life's, he will always live in our Hearts and Minds. I remember so many of our days together on the Brehm Board and the friendship that grew from that. I am honored to have been able to call Tom our friend. There are so many things that he so willing put his heart and soul into in our small part of the world that many, especially children with various needs will always continue to benefit from his Legacy. Our thoughts and Prayers are with you all at this difficult time.
Joe and Donna Milligan

Carol Marshall

August 12, 2012

Natalie, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I know you have the strength to do what is needed this week. Love, Carol and John

John Rolwing

August 12, 2012

Tom was a genuine nice guy, husband, father and businessman, and we are sad to learn the end came. My deepest sympathies to Trent and Louise joins me in offering our condolences to the Phelps family.

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