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Sidney Lamar "Pepper" Smith Iii

1964 - 2018

Sidney Smith Iii Obituary

Sidney Lamar Smith III

1964-2017

Ellicott City, MD

Sidney Lamar Smith III, husband, father, poet, and Artist Communities Specialist at the National Endowment for the Arts, died on Thursday, December 28, of a sudden illness at home in Ellicott City, MD. Smith, known to all as "Pepper," was 53.

Born in Oxford, MS, and raised in Gulfport, MS, he grew up surrounded by a culture that valued art, storytelling, music, and a rich spiritual life. Those early influences, along with his generous spirit, made Pepper a beloved friend to many. Along with his wife Jenni, he devoted himself to enriching the lives of others. He is remembered for his kindness, curiosity, quirky wit, creativity, and astonishingly varied pursuits.

His wide range of interests began in childhood playing mid-fielder for Gulfport High's inaugural soccer team and serving as a riflery instructor to emerging twelve-year-old gun enthusiasts at Alpine Camp despite never shooting a gun before. He earned degrees in English from Millsaps College and Journalism from Ole Miss. During college, his entrepreneurial spirit was sparked founding the Pepper Tie Company, whose upscale neckties briefly graced the most fashionable men's stores in the South as well as Barneys New York. He traveled the Southeast covering gospel music as co-editor of The Center for the Study of Southern Culture's Rejoice! magazine and traveled farther doing missionary work in Honduras and China; soaking up culture and working odd jobs in Paris and Brussels; and serving in the Peace Corps in Szechuan, China, where he earned extra money by sitting in the window of a local tea shop whose owner thought the sight of a Westerner would entice customers.

Although never one to seek out the spotlight, Pepper was known to pop up in unexpected places: performing gospel music on the Mornin' with Buddy and Kay TV show in north Mississippi and acting as a colorful impromptu public access TV host for the Corinth, MS, homecoming parade. Most recently, he could be found mentoring numerous young people in Al Anon programs; meeting regularly with his poetry group; actively publishing short stories and poems; and advising aspiring performers in his role at the National Endowment for the Arts.

His faith drove a deep sense of social justice, often using his gift for language to shed light on these matters. As faculty advisor to Mississippi College's student newspaper, he fought the school's attempted censorship of articles critical of a scandal-ridden benefactor. Even his master's thesis addressed the racial inequities in newspaper coverage of the civil rights movement.

Throughout all of these endeavors, Pepper continually sought out ways to encourage and connect people. Through emails and handwritten letters of support, he knew exactly what to say to inspire. Using his own personal algorithms, he found joy in exposing friends and colleagues to new things particularly suited to their tastes, whether a recommendation concerning a little-known restaurant or a new book or movie. He also delighted in introducing people to others. He saw such good in his friends that when he made these connections, they involved lavish praise of both parties. As one friend put it, "An introduction by Pepper made you feel so special. You always aspired to be the person Pepper saw you to be."

Pepper met his wife, Jenni Ovenstone, at church in Alexandria, VA. As a couple, they were united in their devotion to serving others, and Pepper was an unwavering admirer of Jenni's ministerial talents and compassion. They both were dedicated to raising their son Andrew, who enjoyed Pepper's singular sense of humor, in particular, the twin hand puppets Romulus and Remus, who debated the day's current events during bath time.

He is survived by his wife, the Reverend Jennifer Ovenstone Smith, and his son, Andrew Austin Ovenstone Smith, of Ellicott City, MD; his mother, Jane Ray "Jeepsie" Smith, of Taylor, MS; a brother, Austin Fentress Ray Smith, of New York City; and a sister, Eliza Lyle Brighton; brother-in-law, Darby Harrison Brighton; nephew, Fentress Welch Morgan; and nieces, Blakely Ann Brighton and Addison Reyce Brighton, of Little Rock, AR.

Services will be held on January 6 at 2 p.m. at St John's Episcopal Church in Ellicott City, MD, and on January 27 at 2 p.m. in Oxford, MS. Location to be announced. In lieu of flowers, memorial gifts may be made to Andrew's education fund in honor of Pepper. Please send donations by check to St. John's Episcopal Church, attn. Andrew's Education Fund, 9120 Frederick Road, Ellicott City, MD 20142. Checks should be made payable to "Maryland College Investment Plan."

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Published by The Sun Herald on Jan. 4, 2018.

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Roderick Schrock

February 21, 2018

I was saddened to learn of Pepper's passing today. Every time our paths crossed I was reminded of his enduring love and advocacy of artists. Over the years I got to know him at the NEA, he made a lot of the work we do at Eyebeam possible. He is missed.

Gary Ryan

February 20, 2018

Damn I hate to hear this.

What a good fellow he was, rock-solid, honest, and warm-hearted. Whenever we crossed paths at Ole Miss we always stopped and talked about writing mostly, and creative endeavors, and good things about the world.

His light was like that light you see from a plane at night while flying over the countryside, lighting a barn or a house, bringing comfort to all near to it far out to the edges of its glow, and even so far as to where I sit looking down and wondering.

Thanks, buddy, for giving us light in your soft, quiet ways across the miles and across the years. We will miss you for sure. Godspeed.

Stephen Duncombe

February 8, 2018

Pepper was a more than just a funder of the work that we did at the Center for Artistic Activism, he was a genuine supporter, guider, and friend. The world is richer for having had Pepper in it, and a bit poorer now that he is gone.

Martha Neighbors

January 26, 2018

Pepper was an absolute delight. Kind, warm, witty, knowledgeable. He always had a great story to fit any occasion. I just learned today of his passing and I just can't believe it. His advice to me and friendship as an NEA grantee was invaluable. I shall always smile when I think of him. My condolences to his wife and son and to those many lives he touched.

January 18, 2018

Sidney Pepper Smith was delightful, encouraging and and inspiration. His kind-hearted spirit will be missed. - Joy Glidden, ESKFF

Patricia Eszter Margit

January 10, 2018

Pepper brought support for Art Kibbutz through the NEA for which I'm truly grateful for. But even more so I'm grateful for his friendship and for having faith in me. I didn't know him very well but he made a big impression on me, he was a wonderful person - always personable, attentive, genuine, gentle, and kind - always keeping his family in his heart. I'm in tears right now to hear about his passing. So sorry about your loss!

Bill Boyd

January 9, 2018

I think of Pepper's venture into neck-ties most every time I wander into a nice men's store. Not only was his small business a creative endeavor; it was an entrepreneurial leap in a context where ideations of the sort were rarely if ever encountered or encouraged. Pepper not only calculated and then took the leap; he did so with humble, almost sheepish delight. That understated drive, juxtaposed with the image of Pepper "teaching" riflery at Alpine Camp is enough to make me laugh and give thanks for such a creative, gracious and fearless friend and follower of Christ.

Brian Lusher

January 8, 2018

When I joined the NEA a year ago, Pepper made me feel so welcome. He went out of his way to share support and advice with me. I will miss him and his kind, sweet thoughts. He sent me so many articles on southern food, which we both appreciated.
Brian Lusher

Jan Williamson

January 8, 2018

My heart goes out to Pepper's family and his colleagues. I wasn't a close friend but I had the pleasure of knowing him through his work at the NEA Artist Communities grant program. Pepper made the NEA feel like a warm and friendly neighborhood shop. I always enjoyed talking with him. The last time I saw him at the Alliance of Artist Communities conference in Denver, he talked about how much joy his son brought him and showed me pictures of the two of them together. I think of Pepper everyday. The screenshot on my computer is a view of the White House taken from the old post office - from a trip to say hi to Pepper when his office was there. We went up to the tower together. It was a sunny winter day. The birds-eye view, makes me feel like I'm looking out of my window in LA, all the way across the country from California to DC. And there is Pepper on the other side. He was a dear. I'm glad to have worked with him.

Mark McComb

January 6, 2018

Pepper was my friend for many years. I received a letter from him just before Christmas and read portions of it to my daughters (he would come over to visit when they were young and play his guitar for them and just entertain them). He was a gentle and kind soul and I can't believe he is gone.

Tony Chauveaux

January 5, 2018

I know in my heart that man is good, that what is right will always eventually triumph and there is purpose and worth to each and every life.
-- These words by our Nation's 40th President are particularly descriptive, I believe, of Pepper.

Certainly, Pepper recognized the good and purpose in the lives of those he touched. And likewise, there was so much wisdom, goodness, purpose and worth to the life he led.

What a marvelous legacy Pepper leaves.

With all kind thoughts.

Rebecca Eddins

January 4, 2018

Friends come and go throughout our lives but the friends we make as small children are somehow different. We share laughter, tears, and joy so easily without the cautiousness that adulthood brings. Pepper was a dear friend to me in our Bayou View neighborhood growing up. He was the brightest kid in our class but he had the soul of a poet. The young artist in me connected with that. He inspired me and he'll always hold a special place in my memories of our childhood. To his family, my deepest sympathy for this profound loss.

Elizabeth Knight

January 4, 2018

It's wonderful to read about the life Pepper made for himself. As a small boy, his kind heart and inquisitive mind were evident. I am proud to have known him even though I haven't seen him in many years. The last time I saw him was in Jackson where we had a heart felt conversation and I could see what a caring person he was. My love goes out to Jeepsie, Lyle, Austin as well as his wife and son. Andrew has big shoes to fill and I pray he will remember the influence of his wonderful father.

Brenda Pittman-Eaves

January 4, 2018

Pepper was a very sweet man and will definitely be missed. My condolences to the family.

Martin Shapiro

January 4, 2018

Pepper was a valued member of our monthly poetry workshop, which met for almost a decade in downtown DC. He was always kind and supportive, a compassionate critic. We prized his poems: many were luminous, atmospheric portraits about coming of age in Mississippi, and some described his later life in the DC area. Yet his poems were wonderfully plain-spoken. On reading them, you could hear his distinctive voice, the soft southern accent. I, and the members of our group, will miss him tremendously. We were lucky to know him. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his family.

Patrice Walker Powell

January 4, 2018

Dear family and friends of Pepper Smith,
What an admirable, accomplished life! His sweet nature, intelligence and Southernly grace remain as examples of a life well-lived to all who knew him. May the Divine of our faiths envelop this sorrow; Pepper's spirit lights a path forward for many.

Joy Hird

January 4, 2018

Haven't seen Pepper since high school, but always knew he would make a difference in this world. Praying for peace & comfort for his family.

Peyton Readman

January 4, 2018

My deepest sympathy to the family. Pepper was my very first date. We went to a dance together. I think it was 7th grade. Pepper has always had a special place in my heart.
Peyton Readman

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