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Matbones
June 7, 2025
Found my CD of your band. What a nice guy. I remember the Halloween when you passed. Concerts in NY just weren´t the same without you. We´ll meet again.
1984
Lynn Mendelsohn
February 27, 2021
No matter where I was, you were always by my side; no matter where I am, you are still by my side. Forever your Mom.
Christopher Berlin
September 2, 2020
Hi Lynn, it's Christopher Berlin. I just found this and know that I hadn't spoken to Stu in a quite some time. I am very upset and shooken up by this. My condolences. Christopher Berlin
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Christopher M
July 26, 2020
Stuart was an amazing person. I remember playing bass in Active Lies with Stu when that band first started with Rob and Filipe. I can't believe it's been over a decade and I'm just finding this out. I had no idea Stu had passed...I've been telling stories to everyone I know about him for 10 years as of he was still here on earth. I remember our shows together all over long island. I remember the one time the casualties came to our show at the knitting factory, that was awesome those guys were my idols back in the day. He was always so energetic and creative, always everyone's friend. He really brought a whole new perspective to punk rock as a lifestyle. What a cool guy. Wish I could find some pictures of our shows together.
Lynn
July 22, 2020
To Stuart's friends, who have always been by his side, even 10 years after he has left us - you are all remarkable. He cherished each one of you and I understand why. Thank you.
With love and gratitude from Stuart's mom
Dave A
July 1, 2020
About a decade later and I still think of you. You were a great friend and a pure soul. I miss you a ton
Ed Mendelsohn
October 30, 2019
Stu, there isnt a day that goes by that your Mom and I dont talk about and remember you. We know that youre with us here on Maui, and that provides us with joy. We miss you dearly.
Always ready to go on stage...so proud of you....always. Mom
Lynn Bernstein
July 20, 2018
October 16, 2017
Love you as much as always, miss you until our souls can touch again.
Mom forever
November 5, 2014
Five years, Stuart - but you never really left - you are always with me.
Mom
Dave S
April 26, 2014
I did not realize that this talented young man had passed until recently. My condolences.
Casey F.
December 26, 2013
Missing you buddy
Astare Gannon
February 15, 2013
So sorry to hear of your passing..to young..planning a toast to those gone but not forgotten at the reunion. Your name will be among them.
Lynn Bernstein
October 31, 2012
Once again, as Stuart's mom, I want to reach out and say thank-you to all of Stu's friends. You are all incredible people - Stuart cherished and loved each and everyone of you. He was blessed to have you in his life.
Thank you to everyone who touched Stuart's life - and to all of those who Stuart touched in return.
Lynn Bernstein
Lynn Bernstein
October 31, 2012
Stuart,
It is three years ago that you left this earthly world, but you are always with us. Your family and your friends miss you, but we carry you in our hearts and in our memories. I hope you have found peace and are in a beautiful place - one day, we will be together again. You will always be my baby - I will always be proud of you - I will always love you - I will always be your Mom, no matter where either of us may be. I love you, Stu. Your mom forever, Lynn
Dave Cyrus Abolmoali
January 21, 2012
wow.... its been a while since i thought of stu and i had to look him up today ..
im so crushed by this...
i love this dood ... owe him so much.
i wish i could have thanked him for where i am now.
so bummed..
Stuart and His Mom - 1984
Lynn Bernstein
October 23, 2011
Although my sadness has not diminished with time, neither has my gratitude and appreciation to the remarkable friends Stuart had. To each and every one of you who has dedicated your time, your memorials, your love and your admiration for Stu, I want to say thank you. I really can't say it enough - you are all unique and wonderful people - friends who loved Stuart and whom Stuart loved in return. Thank you for keeping alive both his memory and the essence that was so uniquely Stuart.
Stu, you are forever in my heart,
and I am forever your Mom
September 21, 2011
I miss you
Jaime Holder
December 31, 2010
Stuart was a great guy when i knew him. We use to hang out back in the lower east side of NYC when we were teenagers. I'm so sorry for your loss....and to hear he has been taken from this world so young.
Stuart and Mom
Lynn Bernstein
December 2, 2010
Stuart,
I know you're here with me - I feel you in so many ways...I miss you every day and love you forever.
Your Mom, now and always
Shoon
October 5, 2010
hey Stuart,
the Omegas are dedicating their next album to you, I know you would be proud! Adieu mon ami.
Lynn Bernstein
May 4, 2010
My Stuart,
Thirty-five years ago today, you came into this world - six months ago, you left it. But from the day you were born, you will always be with me. I love you, Stu.
Mom
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May 1, 2010
Stuart,
Not a day, not a moment goes by that I don't miss you. I feel your love and your magic and I know that you are still close, watching over me and Grandmom. Be at peace, Stuart - and know how proud we were and still are of our "little Stuie". One day, I will be with you again, able to hug my little boy, able to feel the strength and warmth of you again. I love you, Stuart. Mom
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Stuart and his Grandmom
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November 22, 2009
Stuart,
I will never forget how we met at stop & shop,it still makes me chuckle..I will always cherish the times & conversations we had! I couldnt wait to show you my new truck because you were my inspiration to get that monster truck...and today I heard the sad news that you have gone, too soon,my heart is sad.My thoughts, and prayers are with your loved ones.Untill we meet again Love Steven & Bobby
November 16, 2009
Stu,
You were such a beautiful person, with a kind heart. It is so sad that you are no longer with us. You will be missed by many... You made an impact and touch the lives of all that you knew you. We hope you are in a peaceful & happy place.
With love, Carolyn & Bobby
November 15, 2009
So sorry to hear this news. I haven't seen Stuart in probably 10 years or so, but I have fond memories. When The Manix first started up, he was so excited to be in that band and recording at the studio. Glad I got to spend some time with him and play some gigs and do the Virus/Manix split. Cheers buddy...you were mint!
Chris Dillon
Adam
November 13, 2009
Stu, I remember always seeing you at my job for about a year,and one day i saw you wearing an Adolescents shirt and then we started talking every time you came in. I'm really going to miss our convos and joking around and you telling me to go to all these punk shows, I'm glad I was able to see Fear,D.I. and Agent Orange with you this past summer,one of the best shows of my life.You made my job much more bearable coming in every week. You showed me alot of good bands and it was cool that you had the same passion for music as me. I'll miss you man. RIP
-Adam
Elani
November 13, 2009
The loss of Stu leaves a massive, vacuous void of genuine heart and sincerity that can never come remotely close to being (even partially) filled. Sheer physical size and strength were only the tip of the iceberg; while he was on par with a Marvel book character,that was only ever a minor facet to Stu's richly wonderful, interesting and unique character filled with qualities that are not easy to come by in another human being. He was brave, undaunting and never afraid to stand by his convictions regardless of how (un)popular others may have considered credenda he held close. He was determined and resolute in his pursuits whatever they were and tenaciously persevered in achieving them. A true lion heart. He was an amazing friend; so generous, incredibly nurturing, very thoughtful, caring, and super loyal. It is a gut-wrenching realization to know that he is gone.
Jim Idol
November 11, 2009
Stuart..I really wish we got to do that band together.. I know it would have meant a lot to you..I am also going to miss your idiotic text messages..and how they made me laugh when I got them..
I will never forget the tour we met on..It was when KYI and the Casualties played in FLA..I will not mention what happened..but It was hysterical..You have always been a good friend and you will be missed at every California punk band show..they will just not be the same without you bro..
Trish
November 11, 2009
Stu,
You left a big hole here on earth but I know that there is now a bright light shining in the heavens. I will miss our jaunts to the library and price club. I miss you so much. Bev's gym is much emptier without your exuberant energy. My deepest sympathies to your family. Until we meet again...
Love,
Gerrard
November 11, 2009
I'm so sorry to hear the news. I never had the chance to get very close to Stu, but I always enjoyed our chance meetings at punk shows and around town. He was a genuine and warm person and he will be missed.
Palazzo
November 10, 2009
Stu was one of a kind a man who touched many hearts. He will be remembered forever. A passionate person in all that he did. We will truly miss him. Glad we had the chance to be a part of his life.
Neal Ungerleider
November 10, 2009
Just heard the news about Stu being gone. I remember hanging out with you around the LES and at punk shows all the time back in the 1990s. My thoughts go out to all of his friends and family.
Neal
Mitchell Rubin
November 10, 2009
To the family and friends of Stuart Bernstein,
It has been just a week since the funeral and everyone left behind feels a giant void! Stuart was simply a real man who was super strong yet sensitive, caring and kind. His legacy is one of love, passion for his pursuits, interest in others, being a responsible human being and a mensch. Stuart, was a superb young man that I admired greatly and whose life will long be celebrated by all that knew him.
My deepest sympathy to you Lynn, Claire, Ed, family and friends.
Sincerely,
Mitch
Ellyn & Greg Field
November 9, 2009
Stu,
We are so sad to hear about what happened. I know you are with god now and all that is close to him and you---
We think you are an amazing person and you will be truly missed by all that knew you- including US!! The body building world will NOT be the same without you-- you were a force to be reckoned with my friend!!!! To all his family and friends-- we are sorry for your loss-- and will pray for him and all of you--- Ellyn & Greg Field--
Paul Lynch
November 9, 2009
Hey Stu,
I haven't been able to stop thinking about you since I heard you passed away. All of these memories of us hanging out back in 1995-1998 have been coming back to me this week. You, Me, & Jane meeting Henry Rollins on 7th street, You taking us punk rock kids out for milkshakes on YOUR Birthday haha, Going to shows together at clubs that aren't even there anymore, Eating sushi for the first time in my life because of you, You sticking up for me when crazy dudes would pick fights with me, etc. Everything is coming back to me and I wish I got to spend time with you in these recent years. It's hard to believe that you're gone because you were larger than life and were as unique as could be. You were a real friend and you made me feel like the little brother that you used to tell people I was. I have nothing but great memories of you, I can't believe I'll never see you again, The world will forever be a different place without you here. RIP Stuart, I miss you
markus berke
November 7, 2009
Stu,
a funny guy who always carried himself well.I know stu from the gym and considered him as a GOOD buddy.The gentle giant i use to call him.stu always helped people around him and put them first,as i seen through my eyes.people like this are 1 in a million.
Thats what stu was 1 in a million
god bless you + god speed
markus
Casey F
November 5, 2009
Stu,
Somehow I feel like you are reading this. I keep looking at my phone whenever it goes off thinking its you man. I go through the texts from the last 3 months you've sent me and I just keep laughing at all the funny things you said and your sense of humor whenever things seemed dull. You were probably the person I was closest to in the last year, and I passed by the fridays 2 days ago and remember all those times we sat there and just made fun of whoever we wanted in there! LOL. No person made me laugh more than Stu...everything he said was meant to have a positive effect on someone. I'm left with so many good lessons and changes to my character as a person from knowing Stu. This is so hard, because with Stu you could talk about anything in the world and he would understand. People who didnt know him probably thought of him as an intense person because he was a bodybuilder, but deep inside he had not one bad bone in his body. He trained so hard inside the gym, he loved it...I remember we would stay after our workouts for 1 hour and talk on the bike and it went by like it was 5 mins because he was such a live person that had ambitions and had drive and didnt want to be lazy and wanted me and im sure others to do well in there lives too. Nobody can replace stu. He was the most unique friend I ever had...a heart that was priceless and a sense of humor that always made you feel better.Stu train hard up there buddy i miss you alot already. This is hard. I cherish every memory i had with Stu and everyone who knew him changed for the better. 1 love.- CASEY
Alan Yared
November 5, 2009
We are so sorry that our friend Stuart was taken at such an early age . Its extremely difficult to search for words of Comfort and Compassion, that may lead to Healing, for such a painful and regretable event . Though we only saw him at family Thanksgiving dinners or Forth of July celebrations those chance occasions were very special . His family loved him very much as did everyone who were fortunate enough to have conversation with him . Our hearts and our tears are with you," . In closing we would like Claire , Lynn , Craig , Debbie, Ed , and Ashley to know that " "We share in your grief and send our love," , Your longtime family friends, The Melnicks and Yared family .
Dominick ONeill
November 4, 2009
Big Stu, you became a very close friend to me. You helped me so much and im going to miss you alot. You were a great person and had a heart of gold. I wish we had more time to become even closer friends but you will always be in my heart and thoughts. I will never forget you...Dom
Kelsey and Dominick O'Neill
November 3, 2009
RIP Stuart Bernstein. We have only known Stuart for a short period of time but he was such a respectable guy. My condolences goes out to his family and friends, he will greatly be missed. Stuart inspired me everyday and the world will not be the same with out him.
RIP Stu
Love your friends,
Dominick and Kelsey
Ashley Smith
November 3, 2009
(I know this is a silly place to leave you a letter because you hated the internet but I don't care.)
Stu,
I loved you so much and in so many ways. You made me a better person and I could never thank you enough for that. You forced me to quit smoking and, after a year of nagging, you finally got me into the gym. You introduced me to some great bands and even taught me the right way to lace my boots. I don't know what I will do without you. Who will I talk to? Who will I go to shows with? Who can I call when I need to complain about life? You were the only person that could understand and feel exactly the same way I did. I miss you with all of my soul. I'd like to think you are back in the 80's now where you belong (Isn't that where you always said you wanted to go when you died?)
Eternally Yours,
Ashley
Ed
November 3, 2009
Stuart was my 'unofficial' godson. Over the 6 years that I knew him, we laughed together and cried together, and he will be missed by me and everyone else whose lives he touched. He was a big man in so many ways. The world is a sadder place today with his passing.
Stu...we miss you, love you and will always be proud of you.
Mom
November 3, 2009
My darling baby boy,
You were always a winner and always in our hearts. You will always remain a winner and be with us in our hearts. Be at peace, Stuart - be surrounded by love and family who welcome you now.
We love you, Stuart, and will see you again.
Mom, Grandmom, Uncle Craig, Aunt Debi, Kyle and Ed
November 3, 2009
I'm sorry I won't be able to make it to Florida to say goodbye, Stuart. Hope you read the last letter I sent you...
To the family, please accept my deepest sympathies.
shoon xox
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