Antoinette Rochelle "Toni" Bolster-Filbin

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Antoinette "Toni" Rochelle Bolster-Filbin passed away on Oct. 30, 2012 at the age of 24. Toni graduated at the age of 16 from Athens Area High School with the class of 2005. She later went on to earn her bachelors of science in nursing degree RN-BSN and graduated with Magna Cum Laude honors from Elmira College in 2009. After graduation Toni worked for two years at Arnot Ogden Medical Center in Elmira, N.Y. Toni's efforts to help those around her did not end with her nursing career, for the past few months she had been volunteering for the American Red Cross in the Greater Binghamton, N.Y. area. Along with her love of helping people, Toni also loved being surrounded by family and friends. She was also enchanted by the company of characters her favorite authors introduced to her in the mountains of books which she so lovingly read. Determined to love life, Toni never let anything in get her down. She was always full of the fun-loving spirit for which everyone who knew her came to love.

Toni is survived by her parents, Scott M. Bolster and Averill Gaieski-Bolster; sister Jade Bolster; paternal grandparents Neil and Patricia Bolster; fiancé, Rawley Filbin; his parents Ronna and Chip Filbin; his siblings Halsey Filbin, Savannah Filbin and Ramie Shepard; maternal aunts Melanie Gaieski, Monique and John Lattimer; maternal uncles, Michael and Lisa Gaieski, David Gaieski, Joseph and Mindy Gaieski; paternal aunts Sandra and Rick Houper, Marlene and David Raynor, Julie Bramlett; paternal uncle, Mark and Elaine Bolster; several cousins, relatives, and close friends, including her Facebook family and fellow Cystics; and not to forget "Tucker" the family dog.

Toni is predeceased by her maternal grandparents Marion and Edward Gaieski and her paternal uncle Douglas Bolster.

There will be a brief memorial service from 1 to 3 p.m. on Nov. 3, 2012 at the Roberts Funeral Home in Wellsburg, N.Y. and an informal gathering at the home of Scott and Averill Bolster to follow, all are welcome to attend. The family would like to request that everyone wear informal bright colors to match Toni's bright personality. (Purple being her favorite color). In lieu of gifts or flowers Toni's family respectfully asks that memorial donations in Toni's name be made to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, 5818 East Molloy Road Syracuse, NY 13211, with "In Memory of Toni Bolster," written in the memo line of the check.

A love letter to Toni from the love of her life Rawley, written on Oct. 30, 2012:

Dearest Toni,

Today was both the best and worst day of my life. Your last text message to me reaffirmed that I truly am the luckiest guy in the world and that you are the greatest love of my life. However, as you know, life is unpredictable and at times unfair. Toni I miss you so much. Your smile and laughter washed away even the most horrible of days and your eyes glowed with the feistiness and courage that anything was possible.

I am laying here tonight, trying to explain to Tucker what has happened. I know in my heart that I am not alone, and that I will never truly be alone. I know that I've told you a thousand or so times but I wanna say it again anyway, you're my girl babe, you are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

I have no idea what happens after we leave here, I would hope it is a place with less needles, pills and meds, and every day you feel healthy and happy. We make a great team Toni and someday I look forward to being with you again and starting the life we had planned together. I know that you will wait for me because I will be waiting for you.

I love you Antoinette Rochelle Bolster (you're my girl).

With all my heart,


Published in Daily Review on Nov. 2, 2012