Barbara Louise "Bobbie" Alling

Groton - Barbara Louise (Jones) Alling, widow of Ward T. Alling II, of Windham Falls Estates, Groton, and formerly of Windward Way, Waterford, died on Thursday, Oct. 14, 2010.

She was born Jan. 31, 1923, in New London, to Lt. USN Gilbert A. and Pearl Prentice Bosworth Jones. She graduated from Williams Memorial Institute in 1940, second in her class with scholastic and Harriet Peck honors. In 1944 Mrs. Alling graduated with honors from Connecticut College for Women, earning a bachelor of arts degree and was elected to the National Honor Society, Phi Beta Rappa.

Bobbie married her beloved Ward at the Conn College Chapel on Oct. 22, 1944. Many said their love could be seen in their eyes, so that they could not imagine one without the other. Their marriage of 62 years was a model union, one of equality and respect, filled with humor and love.

Besides raising a family with her husband, Mrs. Alling taught students and local schools for over 20 years, including substituting in Waterford schools and teaching math at the Bulkeley School, and Spanish and/or Latin at St. Bernard High, Waterford High, and Mitchell College. She also taught English as a second language at Nuestra Casa and was a member of the Connecticut Council of Language Teachers. Before the children were born, she had worked in the Pay Dept. at EB and as a histologist, lab technician, and secretary to the pathologist at Lawrence & Memorial Hospital.

An active volunteer in her community, Mrs. Alling served in many capacities from student council chairman at WMI, president of their Spanish, Latin, and science clubs to helping at the New London Day Nursery, rifle and first aid training and aircraft spotting during the war years at college to Scouting with the children, PTAs and president, secretary, or treasurer of various groups. More recently, she worked as a bereavement counselor with Hospice, as a Literacy volunteer, an AARP Income Tax counselor for the elderly with her husband in Florida and Connecticut, a life member of the L&M Lambs Club, and the auxiliary where she gave over 2000 hours of volunteering as assistant treasurer and in the Lobby Shop, Chaplain's office, and ER. She was a member of the pre-1955 WMI Alumnae Association and served on the Alumni Board of the Williams School.

Active in her church, Mrs. Alling served 27 years as a Sunday School teacher, over 35 years as a Deaconess, and four years as the chairman. She also served as leader of the youth choir, the Junior BYF, and on various other boards and committees of the church, a charter member of its Circle 12, a counselor at Camp Wightman, and a delegate to the American Baptist SUNL Association.

With her interest and travel and family, Mrs. Alling updated several family histories that were previously in print only to the late 1800s, communicating with cousins by the dozens, and traveling with her husband to England for research. Later, she joined the Society of Mayflower Descendants and the Lucretia Shaw Chapter of the DAR.

Bobbie is survived by three children, Carol A. Losacano and her husband, Paul, of Niantic, Ernest L. Alling of Uncasville, and James T. Alling and his wife, Mary, of North Haven; eight grandchildren, Benjamin, Brenda, Lisa, Paula, Scott, Tiffany, Peter, and Anthony; and seven great-grandchildren, Addie, Hayden, Kayla, Megan, Paul, Ryan, and Sydney.

In addition to her husband, two precious children predeceased her, Janet L. Alling and Ward T. Alling III.

Calling hours will be held from 4 to 6 p.m. today Saturday at Byles-Groton Memorial Home, 310 Thames St. Her burial in the River Bend Cemetery, Westerly, is private. A memorial service will be held at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, Oct. 30, at the First Baptist Church, 268 State St., New London.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the church in her memory.

Funeral Home

Byles-Groton Memorial Home - Groton
310 Thames St.  Groton, CT 06340
860 445 4844

Published in The Day on Oct. 16, 2010