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Agnes Tompkins Obituary
The daughter of the late Agnes and John McMullen, she was born on Jan. 2, 1937, in the grand city of New York.
Agnes was a member of Sacred Heart Church in Groton where she was a eucharistic minister for many years. She retired from Groton Utilities, spent many summer evenings at Eastern Point Beach, organized too many family get togethers to count, and loved to shop for the latest bargain.
Agnes enjoyed telling stories of her childhood in the city to her grandchildren and thrilled them with the tale of her gang, The Devils. Grandma Aggie, or G as she often referred to herself, was always good for a laugh, a hug, a snippet of wisdom, or a sweet treat. She will fondly be remembered for her love of the Buffalo Bills, singing birthday phone calls, and ending every family prayer with a stunning rendition of God Bless America. She was our matriarch in every sense of the word and will be missed by many.
Agnes graduated from the High School of the Blessed Sacrament in 1954, and shortly thereafter started what would be her greatest source of pride, her family.
She is survived by her eight children, Donna and Karl Holman, Barbara and John Aspinwall, Doreen and Joe Wilson, Robert and Bonnie Tompkins, and Daniel Tompkins, all of Groton, Claire and Roger Thayer of Ashaway, R.I., Roger Tompkins and Ellen Hollander of Gales Ferry, and Marion Mayo of Norwich; as well as 27 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren who will inherit her legacy of love, compassion, and a servant's heart. She also leaves behind her beloved siblings, Mary, Barbara, Theresa and Johnny, all of New Jersey.
She was predeceased by her brother, Robert McMullen; her brother-in-law, Peter Morgan; and her daughter-in-law, Deborah Tompkins.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 10:30 a.m. Friday, at Sacred Heart Church, Groton. Interment will be in Elm Grove Cemetery, Mystic. Visiting hours will be from 4 to 7 p.m. Thursday, at the Byles-Groton Memorial Home, 301 Thames St., Groton.
In lieu of flowers, donations in her memory may be made to Sacred Heart Church, Sacred Heart Drive, Groton, CT 06340 or Safe Futures, 16 Jay St., New London, CT 06320.
Please visit www.byles.com to send condolence or sign the guestbook.
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Memories and Condolences
for Agnes Tompkins
Kristin LaFemina
November 11, 2014
So sorry to hear this news. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
cyrus williams
November 11, 2014
I am so blessed to have known Ms. Tompkins. What a great women, mother and daughter of Christ. I am prayng for all the Tompkins family.
November 10, 2014
condolences to you all,I had the great pleasure of doing Agnes's hair and getting to know her warm heart. She will be greatly missed . You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Danette Robinson & girls.
November 8, 2014
My most sincere condolences go out to your whole family. Please know that Agnes and the family is in my prayers.
Trisha Fleury
Marie Murphy
November 8, 2014
I am so very sorry for your loss Donna and family. May she be at peace.
Lynda Bedri
November 7, 2014
My deepest sympathy to your entire family. I worked with your Mom at the Utilities many years ago and have fond memories of her. May you cherish the time you had together and celebrate the love she shared with all of you.
Susan Welsh
November 7, 2014
Dearest Donna,Clair,Barbara, Doreen : So sorry for your loss at this time (during what is consider a very happy family event). I know your faith is strong and will help carry you through that this time. She will always be watching. Love and healing to all. Sue Sealey Welsh
November 7, 2014
My sincere sympathy to all of you at this sad time. Dorothy(Englund) Dussault
George Linicus
November 7, 2014
Roger
My sincere condolences on the passing of your Mom, to you and the entire Tompkins family.
George Linicus
Katherine Kane
November 7, 2014
Roger, I'm sorry to hear of your moms passing may you find peace and comfort with your beautiful memories of your mom. Thinking of you, Kathy
Janice Berry Herzog
November 6, 2014
With deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother. May you all find comfort through
Love and fond memories you each share.
Dana Patterson
November 6, 2014
Our thoughts and prayers go out to your entire family. GOD Bless this beautiful soul.
Laura Tompkins
November 6, 2014
I am so deeply saddened at the loss of dear Aunt Agnes. I would have attended her wake this evening, but I am unfortunately very ill. I will make every effort to attend the funeral tomorrow. We always wish we had more time to let those we love know how much we truly loved them before they pass..this is one of those times. Aunt Agnes, you were always so good to us "Tompkins" kids, especially after my mom died suddenly. I will never forget your kindness. Love to all my cousins at this sad time. You will be missed. Rest in God's arms. Love you always.
Eric Manes
November 6, 2014
Sorry for your loss
Eric Manes
November 6, 2014
Sorry for your loss
Bill Aspinwall
November 6, 2014
Sorry for your loss, our thoughts are with your family
Tracey St. Louis
November 6, 2014
My thoughts and prayers go to the whole Tompkins family.. Agnes will be sorely missed by many. What wonderful memories you will all carry with you of her.
November 6, 2014
My thoughts and prayers to all of the Tompkins family. Aggie was a beautiful and classy lady.
Linda Schneider
Maria Addona
November 6, 2014
Dan
I was so sad to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family . I wish you and your family the strength to find courage and peace for the road ahead. "The girls" are here to support you through this journey of grief . Love Maria A.
Patricia Sonnone
November 6, 2014
My heartfelt condolences to the family of Agnes.
Agnes was such a dear soul.
I remember her fondly from my days as a teacher at Sacred Heart school.
Her children and grandchildren loved her
so much.
May God grant eternal rest and peace in the kingdom prepared for his faithful ones.
Kindest regards to all of you.
Theresa and Henry Jorsz
November 6, 2014
Oh Agnes, words alone fail to express our love for you! Your kindness, affection and acceptance of Henry and I as your " what's two more!" Adopted kids thrilled us! Your awesome family truly demonstrates how you loved!
To all your family, we share in your sorrow, and offer our deepest sympathies! Our prayers continue for your beloved Mother, and all of you! Eternal rest grant on to her oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. Through the Mercy of God that Agnes, and all the souls of the faithfully departed, rest in peace. Amen
Henry and Theresa Jorsz
November 6, 2014
Oh Agnes, words alone fail to express our love for you! Your kindness, affection and acceptance of Henry and I as your " what's two more!" Adopted kids thrilled us! Your awesome family truly demonstrates how you loved!
To all your family, we share in your sorrow, and offer our deepest sympathies! Our prayers continue for your beloved Mother, and all of you! Eternal rest grant on to her oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. Through the Mercy of God that Agnes, and all the souls of the faithfully departed, rest in peace. Amen
Gina Murphy
November 6, 2014
Sorry to hear of your mothers passing ,Thinking of all the Tompkins
Laura Zeppieri
November 6, 2014
So sorry to hear the news about "Aggie". She was a beautiful lady. I loved to talk to her. We all missed her when she retired from Groton Utilities. (Back in the good old days.) My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Laura Zeppieri
Peg Ackley
November 6, 2014
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Fay
November 6, 2014
Doreen..so very sorry to hear fo yout Mom's passing..a loss at any age diminishes us us...G-d Bless you and your family../may she rest-in-peace now
Alice Carboni
November 6, 2014
My deepest sympathy to the entire Tompkins family.
Your mom will always hold a very special place in my heart. xoxo
November 6, 2014
Sorry for your loss. A great women and a great family she raised. You all are a tribute to her.
Ellie and Pam
Alfred Mayo
November 6, 2014
To my ex- mother in law family I am heart broken to hear her passing, my love she gave us all in return.
She was a special person to me when she listening and care.
It was time my Mother-in-Law was a mother to me, want nothing but the best.
Thank you Ms. Tompkins for being parts of my life and the friendship we all has with you through the years.
In the house of heaven we have another homecoming GOD giving love one. RIP
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