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Jose Abeyta Obituary
Joe, our beloved husband, father, grandfather, great-grandfather, brother, brother-in-law, uncle, nephew, cousin and loyal friend passed away peacefully in his sleep at his home, surrounded by his loving family, on Monday, April 1, at 8 a.m., at the age of 79. Two hours later, in a well-conceived moment of perfect timing, he was joined on his journey home by his adoring older sister, Mary J. Torres.
Joe was born in Las Vegas, New Mexico, the fourth son and fifth of 12 children born to the late Higinio and Julia (Garcia) Abeyta. From his early adolescence, Joe's deep love of family began to take shape when he was called upon to act as a caregiver for his aunt and uncle and help take care of their farm. In 1944, he and his family traveled by train from New Mexico to Vallejo in order to make a better life for themselves, and Joe made it his permanent home.
Joe attended Grant Elementary School as well as Franklin Junior High and graduated from Vallejo High School in 1952. During that time, he was a star catcher for multiple local city teams and developed a love for baseball that lasted all of his life.
Joe had already been delivering newspapers as a youngster when in 10th grade, he landed a part-time job at the Times Herald, a job that became full-time for the next 25 years. He perfected his trade as a linotypist, from apprentice to journeyman, and then worked in Oakland for two years at the Intercity Express before returning to the Times Herald. Due to a workers' strike in 1978, Joe changed professions and became a warehouseman for Lucky's for 17 years until his retirement.
From 1953 to 1955, Joe answered his country's call to duty in the US Army, where he proudly served as a sergeant in Korea and earned three medals for his bravery. Three years later, on May 3, 1958, Joe married Esperanza (Hope) Torres in Crockett, CA, and together they had three daughters, Saundra, Patricia and Loretta. They would have celebrated their 55th anniversary next month.
Joe and his many brothers and sisters were a weekly presence every Thursday at the Chris' Club, where they gathered for lunch and enjoyed interaction with other family members and friends. Joe was also a former Elks Lodge participant and enjoyed camping and traveling. He was an avid fan of the 49ers and Giants and saw them win two World Series in the last three years.
An avid golfer, Joe's favorite times were spent cruising the fairways at Blue Rock Springs with his brothers and close friends. Joe's accuracy on the course was impeccable and his putting unmatched. He routinely walked off the green chuckling after winning "dollar sinkies" from the others in his group. His greatest joy, though, came from the special times he spent with his family. He always supported his grandchildren by closely following their athletic endeavors and attending their games, tournaments, competitions and dance recitals.
He was a strong, patient, sincere and humble man who will be remembered for his gentle kindness and infectious smile. He liked to say, "I'm just an ordinary man" but to his family he was an extraordinary man, a loving husband, and a proud father who never complained or had an unkind word for anyone. Joe's greatest legacy is and always will be his family.
Joe will be profoundly missed by his devoted wife, Esperanza (Hope); their three loving daughters, Saundra (Jonathan) Abeyta-Tain, Patricia Abeyta and Loretta (Michael Wagaman) Abeyta; grandchildren, Angelica (Damian) Vallis, Joe (Alma) Reyes, Alyssa and Jessica Reyes, and Michael Wagaman; and great-granddaughters, Adelina "Addy" Reyes, Yazmeen and Ilyanna Vallis, and his faithful and loving canine companion, "Tank," who never left his side.
Others who will feel his loss deeply include Joe's sister, Cecelia (Ray) Canepa; brothers, Jerry (Donna) and Leo (Lucia) Abeyta; and numerous nieces and nephews who loved him dearly and will always have fond memories of their "Uncle Joe." He is now reunited with his brothers, Nick (Katie), Vidal (Mary), John (Tessie), Donald, Gilbert and George Abeyta; and his sisters, Mary (Joe) Torres and Mariana (Ray) Cordeiro.
Joe's wife and children are especially grateful for the compassionate, continuing love and kindness that was always displayed by everyone who visited him or sent him well wishes. We would like to thank the wonderful staff at Vallejo Kaiser Hospice and specifically, Sarene, Bathsheba, Mary, Michelle and Darryl, who showed care, compassion and love while attending to our father.
A Rosary will be held at 7 p.m., on Sunday, April 7, at Twin Chapels Mortuary, 1100 Tennessee St., Vallejo. A funeral mass will be held at 11 a.m., on Monday, April 8, at St. Vincent Ferrer Catholic Church, 925 Sacramento St., Vallejo. Committal service and inurnment will follow at All Souls Catholic Cemetery, 550 Glen Cove Road, Vallejo.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that any donations in Joe's honor be made directly to Kaiser Hospice Vallejo, 1761 Broadway, Ste 101, Vallejo, CA 94589. Please sign the online guest-book at www.timesheraldonline.com.
Arrangements are under the direction and care of Twin Chapels Mortuary, Vallejo, (707) 552-6696.
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Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
April 1, 2024
After 11 years, Joe, we still remember your disarming smile, your gentle demeanor, and your unwavering devotion to those you held dear. Your family still misses you deeply. May you be at peace, Joe, basking in the ecstasy that is the presence of God and surrounded at last by the joyful company of all those you have ever loved and have ever lost.
Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
April 1, 2023
Thinking of you today, Joe, on the 10th anniversary of your passing, knowing that you soar in the light of God and still look down on your loved ones with your benevolence, your joy, and your smile.
Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
April 2, 2022
We remember you, as always, Joe--with sadness, yet with gaiety; with sorrow, yet with joy. The memory of your smile still looms large, and the kindness of your heart still touches our lives.
Kathryn Marocchino
April 1, 2021
Remembering you with fondness, Joe, on the 8th anniversary of your departure from this world. May you bask eternally in the sunlight of God's mercy and love, until we see you again . . .
Kathryn and Gianfranco
Saundra AbeytaTain
April 1, 2019
Dear Dad,
Happy "1st" dad! I miss you so much, we all do. Wishing with all my heart that you were here with us. Time goes by so fast. I can't believe it's been 6 years that I had to say goodbye to you forever. No April Fools on that day, huh dad? I'm sorry it's been such a long time that I've written. But you know dad, talking to you and our family everynight when I look up into the sky and see the beautiful twinkling stars shinning ever so bright, always makes me feel as your eyes are looking down at me and you're listening to me. When it rains I tell myself those are your tears from heaven. I will always talk to you and our family rain or shine. When I see a plane pass by, I tell myself that's your signal that you are listening.
A lot has happened dad since the last time I've written. This Wednesday, 18 months ago we lost our baby Milo. It happened so quick that it saddens me that I didn't get to say goodbye to him. He was having health issues and I knew it was going to happen eventually, but I didn't think it was going to happen that quick. I pray that you were there for him as you are for the rest of all our 4-legged babies. The only thing that gives me a piece of mind is that he and Marti are back together again and that he is no longer in any pain. Being in heaven there isn't any more pain and suffering, right dad? Please keep an eye on him. He was my little baby boy and how he depended on me. Marti was more independent. How I miss the pitter patter of their feet and the noise their tags would make, when they would be coming toward my direction. Take care of him dad and all the rest of them. Embrace them, watch over them, make sure they don't wonder off and keep them by your side.
The rest of us are doing okay. Loretta is doing better from the L.V. shooting. She broke her ankle recently and is on the mends. Trish broke her knee at work, also on the mends. Michael is in college, driving, has his own car and just got hired to work at Applebee's. Alyssa is graduating in June. Going to be a P.T. assistant. Jessica graduated from Cal Poly last December, looking for work now. Just got back from a trip to Hawaii. Joey is a dad again. He and Alma have a son and named him Joseph. Mom is mom and doing fine. I'm sure you're able to see what she has done to the house. I try dad, but she's stubborn.
Jonathan is busy working as always and getting ready to play baseball this month.
Me, I just turned "60." I've been doing yoga for 2 years now and I love it.
Dad, please take care of yourself and always all our babies. Please give them kisses and hugs. To Mi Mi and Marti Marti (my wiggle and jiggle butts), grandma loves and misses you both dearly with all her heart and soul. I wish all of you would come in my dreams. You know what I haven't seen in a very long time dad, your car. Everytime I drive to Napa I'm always looking for it. As for you dad, my 1st love, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me forever in my heart. I LOVE YOU!
Love, your daughter
Saundra
P.S. Dad, the S.F. Giants finally won tonight!
Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
April 1, 2019
Remembering Jose Abeyta on this special day, April 1, and sending heart-felt love and warm hugs to his entire family. Keep on golfing with the angels, dear Joe.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
August 13, 2017
Hi Dad,
I know it's been quite a while since you've heard from me. Time goes by so fast, but that's no excuse. I'm sorry I haven't written in quite a while. I keep missing the holidays, but don't you ever think that I forget you. Not a day doesn't go by that your not in my thoughts, my heart and in my mind along with the rest of our family and friends that are with you. I know Uncle Joe Garcia is with you now. Grandma Abeyta has her brother again. So many things are happening here. Joey and Alma's baby will be here next month and it's a boy! Finally! Poor Michael is surrounded by girls in this family. You should see him dad, he's so handsome, polite and is now in his senior year. Infact, he just had his senior pictures taken. He's learning to drive so he can get his permit. You'd be real proud of him. As for Patricia, Jaxx passed away recently. So you have another 4-legged fur baby to watch over. How many is that now dad? Way way too many. They come into our lives and then they're taken from us way to soon. It's really hard. Yesterday was Marti's "1" year anniversary of not being with us. We miss him so much. Please, please keep an eye on him. He's headstrong and stubborn, but that's our "Marti". You use to call him "Scare Face or Killer."
Also Dad, please wish Grandma Torres a Happy "100th" Birthday from all of us. Her birthday was Friday and I hope all of you celebrated her special occassion.
Mom is doing fine. The front of your house was just redone on account of dry rot underneath the windows because of the hedge. Turned out really great dad. It looks just like when you built the addition. Talking about additions dad, we want to extend the area in front of where the kitchen table sits. Where are you dad when I need you, I always need you. You were so smart with everything, but when it came to projects around the house you were your own carpenter. I loved working along side of you and you taught me a lot. I remember when you built our large family room so we could have a place to invite our family and friends. The party's we use to have were so much fun. We'd play pool, listen to music from your wonderful stereo system and you didn't care how loud we'd play it until mom would make us shut it off. All our friends that we grew up with loved and respected you so much and as we became adults our friendships grew and so did yours. You were everybody's dad. You always loved having your family around and that's why you also extended the kitchen. You showed me how to remodel a kitchen from beginning to end. Which takes me back to the day we tried laying down the linoleum floor. What a day it was between you, Uncle George and myself. Talking about the blind leading the blind. I had never done this before and neither did the both of you. The cuts weren't coming out and what Uncle George was suggesting on how to fix it was hilarious. Looking at it in hind sight, you should of hired a professional. This brings tears to my eyes dad, because I miss you so much. I loved being around all of you. The relationship all of you had for each other always amazed me. Coming from a family of 10 siblings, everyone got along. You'd tell each other off, but in the end that respect was always there. What wonderful memories you've given me and this is what we'd do every Sunday morning when mom would go to church and we'd talk on the phone. We'd reminisce about the past. I loved hearing your stories.
If you don't mind dad, I'd like to send a message to Marti through you.
Hi my sweet boy. It's grandma and I can't believe it's been a year that we haven't seen each other. Grandpa, Milo and I miss you so much. The house isn't the same without you honey. I pray the you are now healed, walking around and playing with all the other little animals. Knowing you, you're the leader of the pack. Please stay close to Li'l Grandpa and Li'l Grandma. They love you very much also. We received flowers a couple of weeks ago on your behalf from the company I ordered your food from. That was so thoughtful of them to had remembered you even though they had never met you. Milo is now using your stroller. We're back at UC Davis, of course for Milo. He's lonely and he misses his brother. We take him just about everywhere we go. Lookout for him, honey. He's having some serious health issues and I'm not ready to lose him either. Your Auntie Kathryn told me that this weekend being your anniversary the Perseid meteor shower is happening right now and this is you smiling down at us. I tried looking last night, but I couldn't see anything. When I'm finished writing to you and your Li'l Grandpa I'm going to go outside to see if I can see your smiles. If I can't see anything that's okay, because everynight I look up at the sky and find the brightess star to tell you, Li'l Grandpa/Grandma and the rest of our family, how much I love you, miss you dearly and wish all of you a good night. That bright star is my line of communication with all of you. I hope you can see me. Good night my baby Marti.
Thanks dad for letting me talk to Marti. You may have to translate for me. I'm going to say good night to you too. Please give my love to all our family and look after each other. Again, thanks for all the wonderful memories you've given me.
Love, your daughter
Saundra
P.S. Next time we talk about the S.F. Giants. NOT GOOD.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
April 1, 2017
Hi Dad,
Happy April 1st. Sadly special day that will be with me forever. Long time no hear huh Dad, but I'm always here. Life gets so busy and time passes by so fast, but always know you're in my heart. This past March brings back so many memories of our last month we got to spend with you until the 1st day of April. Four years ago today our lives changed. You left us to go to Heaven and 2 hours later Aunt Mary left also to join you in Heaven.
The holidays have come and gone and now were into another year, 2017. Were already into April, we're all getting older and the most recent exciting news for our family is that a new addition will be arriving in September. Joey and Alma are having another baby. I wish with all my heart you were here with all of us to see our family grow and share these special times together. I wish I had the power to roll back the years to when I was that young innocent little girl that always loved being with her daddy. Well, I'm an older woman now that still and always will need her dad. We all need your guidance, wisdom and most of all your love. It gets lonely, you were our rock. You know what I haven't seen Dad in a long long time, your vehicle. Everytime I'm in Napa I'm looking for it. I really need to see it. Coincidence maybe, but it gave me such solace to see your Pathfinder on the road. Somehow to me there was a connection. You don't come into my dreams, in which I've asked you to, but maybe that was your way of showing me you were there for me. Show me a little sign, okay Dad?
Well, baseball season begins tomorrow. Let's hope the S.F. Giant's are better this year. I'm pulling for the Oakland A's too. They're long over due for a win. The Oakland Raider's are moving to Las Vegas, Nevada and the 49er's, I don't even know what to say about them. They're nothing like when you and my uncles would go to watch them in S.F. all decked out in your 49er clothing. Those were the days Dad, those were the days.
We just lost another member of our extended family, AT, Mary Jones grandson. You remember him Dad. Loretta and Michael's ring bearer at their wedding. Please open up your arms and embrace him for us. Remind him of how much he's missed as well. He was so young, only 24 years old. Life is so precious. How's my Marti and Tank? Please tell me they are with you and the rest of all our 4-legged babies. Please tell Marti we miss him so much and that we love him dearly.
As for you Dad, always know how much I love and miss you dearly. Please give the rest of our family that are with you a big strong hug, kiss and smile.
Love, your daughter
Saundra
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
October 1, 2016
Hi Dad,
How you doing? We're watching the S.F. Giants game right now against the LA Dodgers and we're winning. The Dodgers won the western division and right now we're fighting for the wild card against the St. Louis Cardinals. Now baseball is finally getting exciting. The first 1/2 of the season the Giants were in 1st place. In fact, we were so far ahead of the Dodgers. Then after the "All Star Game" it's like they forgot how to hit and from there, everything went down hill. They couldn't find their mojo. Now they're back in it, fighting for the wild card. They just finished their game. They won, Dad! If they win tomorrow, they'll be the 2nd wild card.
Today is Marti's "16th" Birthday. If it's alright with you Dad today is going to be a remembrance, tribute to Marti. This is my only way of communicating with him through you.
"Happy Happy Birthday my sweet little grand baby, Marti!!" I wish with all my heart you were here with us so we could hug you and kiss you like we always did everyday of your life. From the very 1st day I met you, you would get so excited to see me and let out a little stream and wiggle out of the arms of the person that was holding you so I could embrace you along with Milo. Once you and Milo came to live with us, your grandparents, was one of the happiest days of our lives. We were so happy that you and Milo were back together again. We have so many wonderful fond memories of what a charactor you were. When you both came to live with us we wanted you to learn how to socialize with other dogs. Oh Marti, what you did to that 6 month old huskie's nose. He was 4 times the size of you and then you had your back up, Milo. I know size never matter to you. Being a minature daschshund, you had the napoleon personality, the little people syndrome. You were the leader and Milo was the follower. One day you were trotting from the backyard with a long branch in your mouth. You were so proud of it. You tried to go through your doggie door with it in your mouth, but it was too wide. So you dropped the branch infront of your door, went through it and then the flap went up, out popped your head and you pulled the branch through lengthwise. We stood there watching you in amazement. What a smart little boy you were. Then you and Milo always running around, chasing each other doing relay races. How you use to chase the squirrels when they would try to out run the both of you when they were on the fence and then they would come to a stop to tease you. That's when the 2 of you would start with your barking. One day you began digging in the backyard along with the help of your little brother. You would stop, turn your head to listen, trying to figure out where the noise was coming from, then continuing with your digging. We didn't realize what you were looking for until one day I heard some type of scraping coming from under the ground. You would dig so deep that your face was buried in mud with your butt and hind legs up in the air. You wouldn't dig with your paws. You would bite the dirt with your mouth, toss it to the side and then continue the same way. I'd bring you in the house wash you all up and right back outside you'd go. You were so determined to find what you were looking for. The yard looked like the moon with pot holes. Finally you found what you were looking for, moles. I think you surprised them or they finally became deaf from all the barking and that's when you nailed the both of them. You were so proud of what you had acomplished, that you brought them in the house to show us. We couldn't make out what they were. I thought they were birds, until we went out to the the backyard to see. How we use to love having you in our bed. You use to love to burrow under the covers. You would crawl all the way to the end of the bed and Milo always next to me. Then when you would get too hot you'd crawl back out and you'd throw your body ontop of the covers. It didn't matter where you landed. You never had a concept of fear. When it came to breakfast Milo would wait patiently and as soon as you smelled grandpa's coffee brewing you'd start with that little noise you use to make to let me know you were hungry. If I wasn't fast enough you'd let me know. Gradually you would get louder and louder and then came the barking. You were always the verbal one and boy would you tell me off. These are just a few of many memories we will always have of you. I'm so sorry Marti for everything you had to go through with all your health issues. What a trooper you were with me, taking you back and forth to doctors trying everyway possible to help you. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for being in our lives for the 14 years we had each other. You and Milo have fullfilled our lives in everyway possible. We miss you and love you so much and I know Milo misses his brother too. He's so lonely without you. He's so quiet without you. You use to be the instigator. The only time he barks is when a stranger is passing by or if one of Kathryn's cats is in the yard. Gee, I wonder who taught him that many many years ago, you! Happy Birthday Our Little Wigglebutt!
Dad, please give him a hug and a big kiss from his grandpa, Milo and me (grandma). I hope he is listening to you, staying close to you and now pain free. Please let him know how much we miss him and love him. Always keep an eye on him Dad, he is so little. I don't want him to get lost or lonely. The only thing that consoles me is that he is with you. Please give Tank a big hug and kiss for us also. Wish him a "Big Happy Belated Birthday." He turned "13" on Sept. 23. Mom misses him alot too. Tank was her companion. I'm visualizing all our 4 legged fur babies running around you Dad. You've got a lot of responsibilities having to take care of all of them and they all love you. We love and miss you too, Dad.
Love, your daughter,
Saundra
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
September 10, 2016
Happy Birthday my Sweet Sweet Dad,
I can't believe you're "83" years old today Dad. I'm sure you're having a wonderful celebration with all our family and friends in heaven, but we're missing the special family celebration here without you. You always make every party special. You're not only celebrating your birthday today, but Uncle John is also celebrating with you in heaven his daughter, your niece Andie's marriage today to Christian. Jonathan and I weren't able to go. I haven't felt up to going out for a while. Milo hasn't been the same since Marti left us. He won't leave my sight. He follows me everywhere. He is very insecure without his beloved brother. We take him just about everywhere, even to a restaurant that allows outdoor dining. We haven't been the same since we've lost Marti. Please tell me he is now with you and Tank, running around again with all his legs free of pain. You can always tell me in my dreams Dad. You know, I still haven't had a dream of you yet, I'm still waiting. Marti is my little boy and I don't want him to be lost and wondering around by himself. Please comfort him and take care of him like you always did with all of us. I miss you, love you and Happy Birthday again to my one and only special dad.
All my hugs and kisses.
Love, your daughter
Saundra
P.S. Well Dad, what can I tell you about the S.F. Giants that you already don't know. The guys have been playing their hearts out, but as usual management stinks. Up until the "All Star Game" they were in "1st" place, 8 games ahead. Now, they're in "2nd" place, 4 games behind the LA Dodgers fighting the NY Mets and St. Louis Cardinals for a wild card spot. Dad, send them a little of your baseball guidance.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
August 12, 2016
Hi Dad,
Oh what a day it's been Dad. It's a real sad day for our home. Marti is now in heaven with you and the rest of our 4 legged babies. Please be there for him, he only knows you. I use to say that if anything were to happen to Jonathan or myself, you or Loretta would be the only 2 people allowed to come in this house because of Marti and Milo. How I love him so much, my little wiggle butt. He brought so much life into my life from the very 1st time I saw him. He was my grandbaby from the start and eventually he and Milo became mine. He was with me for 14 yrs. He didn't quite make it to 16. It was one of the hardest decision's I had to make today. In my head I know that it was time to let him go, but in my heart it's aching. He had been progresssively getting worse in the last couple of months and he only weighed 8.8 lbs. At one time he use to weigh 14 lbs. He looked like a little dog from a 3rd world country. There were times he wouldn't eat and of course that contributed to his weight loss along with his other health issues. He could no longer walk or stand on his own, but that was okay. Marti became 1st in every aspect of our lives. We dealt with every situation Marti had to deal with. He was now what I called under comfort care. One of us was always with him. He was such a trooper and fighter till the end. I cradled him in my arms, kissing his head with Jonathan and Milo by my side, repeatedly telling him I was so sorry for everything he had to go through and that he would be seeing you soon, his Li'l Grandpa as he knew you. I gave him a message to give you and Grandma Torres. Today our lives came to a halt. Jonathan and I feel so empty and you know, Milo does too. Milo for the longest time was the baby of the house, but when Marti began showing signs of his illness and needed more attention, Milo stepped aside. He new Marti was sick and he was there for him in his own way and that's why Milo was there with us today, to also say goodbye. He licked his face.
I have such wonderful memories of both my babies from the moment they walked into my life. All I ask of you now Dad is to watch over him. He's my little boy that followed me everywhere, always by my side along with Milo. I want him to be walking, running and to be pain free. Hold on to him for me Dad and don't let him out of your sight. Marti is a very high spirted determined little boy with a bolt of energy. Remember when we went camping and I left our campsite to take a shower and who came looking for me when Jonathan was suppose to of been watching over him, MARTI! I want to believe that he will return this way once he is in heaven. I miss him so much. This home will never be the same again without my little boy, Marti. Rest in peace my love.
Dad, I hope you and Tank had a wonderful reunion. I can imagine Tank running or should I say galloping toward you almost knocking you down. That's the way he use to greet you when you would get home. Life is so precious. I love you Dad and I miss you so much! My love to everyone that is with you.
Love, your daughter
Saundra
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
June 22, 2016
Hi Dad,
It's with great saddness to tell you that our beloved "Tank" passed away today. He had been sick for a while and it was mom's decision to let him go. Mom, Jonathan, Marti and myself were with him to the end. I bent down to kiss him and told him that he was now going to be with you again. I then whispered in his ear to please give you a big kiss and hug from all of us. He was such a devoted companion to you. He went everywhere you went. I use to tell you not to take him with you when you had to go into the stores. I was always so afraid that someone could steal him. You would tell me that no one would be able to see him since he was always sleeping in the back of the pathfinder plus the windows were so dark. What a character Tank was and he was a tank. He was the biggest one of his litter. The day you bought your pathfinder in 2005 after leaving the dealership we stopped to pick Tank up to come live with you and mom. The family that had Tank could no longer take care of him. When you got home you not only surprised mom with your new vehicle, but with a new dog. Tank didn't run he use to gallop like a horse and that wagging of his tail use to knock everything down. How he loved you dad so much. He lived for you. He couldn't wait for you to eat your meals in the family room on your TV tray. You would be on one side of the table and his big head on the other side. He'd stare at you with his beautiful droopy eyes so patiently waiting to see what you were going to feed him. That was a habit you started dad. You always shared your food with him. I use to get after you on account of his weight. You use to tell me that "1" little cookie or what ever you were giving him at that time wasn't going to make a difference. Of course it will, it adds up and it's going to take a told on his body eventually. Tank always had the most prettiest white teeth with his beautiful black hair.
If you haven't seen him yet please look for him. He's going to be looking for you. I can only imagine the reunion you two are going to be having. He's never going to leave your sight again.
Tank is now home with you. We're all going to miss him, but knowing that the both of you are back together comforts us even more. Take good care of each other. We LOVE and MISS YOU BOTH!
Love, your daughter
Saundra
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
June 19, 2016
Hey Dad,
"Happy Dad's Day!" To you and all the dads in heaven that have touched our lives. We miss you so much Dad! If you were here with us we probably would be celebrating indoors. It is very hot today. Also, today is the last game between Golden State Warriors and Cleveland Cavaliers. It's the World Series of basketball, the finals. I know you were never into basketball, but boy it's exciting. We've watched all the games through the season and you get to know the players. It is the 7th game, the Warriors have got to win. The game is about to start, so I'm going to watch the game and then I will continue to write hopefully with some wonderful news.
I'm back dad. Not good news, the Warriors lost. It was such a journey this season with 73 wins. I'm in total disbelief. This one hurts. Now back to baseball. The S.F. Giants are in 1st place dad in the NL West. Maybe they'll make it to the World Series this year. It is an even year. That's been their pattern winning 3 World Series in 2010, 2012 and 2014.
Mom's doing better in her recovery from her knee surgery along with Loretta's surgery. I'm beginning to walk again after having my cast removed 2 weeks ago. Nothing has changed from my last surgery, the burning sensation is still in my heel.
Marti is the same. He has such a strong will to live. He barks when he needs something and I've learned how to decipher his barks. He is on comfort care and anything we can do to make him more comfortable we will do it for him. Tank is the same, just getting older like the rest of us.
Dad, we recently had another family member leave us, your cousin Art Garcia. We just keep losing more family members. One of these days there's going to be more in heavan than here with us. I miss all you guys. It's hard not to be able to see you or pick up the phone to talk to you like we use every Sunday when mom would go to church. Or a reminder call to let you know the S.F. Giants were going to be on TV. Luckily I have your voice recorded on our answering machine telling me that the game is about to start. I play it often to hear you. I may not be able to see you in person, but there is this "1" real bright shining star I see everynight when I take the boys out into the backyard, I see your beautiful smile looking down at us in this radiant star. So I look up and I talk to you and then I end it with a good night. Please always keep that star shining for me. When it gets cloudy and I can't see your star, Jonathan tells me not to worry your relaxing on a cloud.
Well Dad, it's time to say good night now. I just want you to know how much I miss you and love you. All my love to our family and friends that are with you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
April 1, 2016
Hi Dad,
This day as many we miss you terribly. It's been "3" years to long. God, I miss you so! You know you are always in my heart and mind. I'm so sorry I haven't written to you in such a long time. I missed writing to you during the holidays right into the the New Year. I can't believe it's already April Fool's Day today. Boy, has the time gone by fast. A lot of things have been happening dad. Mom fell on her knee on Super Bowl Sunday and broke it in 3 places. She tried jumping over a board in the backyard. She had surgery within 3 days of her accident. She now has 3 screws along with a wire. She's doing better. Yesterday, Loretta had surgery, also on her knee. Loretta will be up and moving quicker than mom. I'm going to have surgery again on my foot next month. I hope and pray this is the answer to my problem. I'm so tired of feeling this pain that I've had to live with since 2012.
What else has been happening to our family? Well, Aunt Mary sold her home here in Vallejo and moved to Napa. She's a lot safer and happier living there. Some of our family just got back from another family vacation. They went on a cruise. Uncle Ray was in the hospital recently. He is doing better. Patricia is in the process of having her kitchen remodeled. You know how she loves to cook and this has been her dream for so long. It's not done yet, can't wait to see it. We also had some work done here. Uncle Leo, cousin John and Jonathan moved a gas line in-between the kitchen and dining/living room wall. We're hanging a flat screen TV on that wall with a recessed wall mount and the pipe was in the way. It had to be moved over about 3 inches. It was great to hear Uncle Leo and cousin John's voices going back and forth the way they speak to each other. You know whose voices were not here that day, Dad? Yours, Uncle George's and Uncle Joe's. You guys were always so funny when you were working on a project together. Who would know more, who could out smart the other and then Uncle George out of left field would come out with one of his crazy comments or jokes. I loved the love and respect you all had for each other. So hearing Uncle Leo and cousin John speak to each other that day brought back such wonderful memories. I hope someday I get to hear all of you again.
Anyway Dad, Marti isn't doing so well. He's been having a real hard time walking and it's progressively getting worse. He has aged tremendously in the last 6 months and today he turned 15 1/2. He is my baby and it's breaking my heart to see him this way. The house is paded with yoga mats/area rugs and we carry him everywhere he needs to go. Poor little guy has gone through so much having to to go to UC Davis and also having acupuncture. It's not physical, it's neurological. Marti is such a fighter and a trooper with having to live this way. Remember Dad the name "J" gave Marti many years go? Marti Marti, the 1 man party! He's my little senior citizen now. We're trying our best to make him as comfortable as possible. He's got a good appetite though. Milo on the other hand is doing great. The one that had to have emergency back surgery is running around like nothing ever happened to him. As Jonathan calls him "The Baby Bullet." Tank is still trucking along. We take him to the vet regularly, but he also has a hard time getting traction when getting up. I know he misses you too.
I think this is enough updates for now, Dad. Please don't ever think that I have forgotten you Dad. I look at that beautiful picture of you every morning with that gorgeous warm smile that cousin Teresa took of you when we all went camping. Always remember that I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU so much. My love to all our family and friends that are with you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Dad, guess what's starting? BASEBALL!! The S.F. Giant's have won the last 2 exibition games against the Oakland A's. Let's hope they continue winning when the season begins next week.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
September 10, 2015
Happy Birthday My Handsome Dad!
Another birthday Dad. Today you would be "82" years young. You never wanted to be reminded of your special day. Of course I would tell you, that when you reach a certain age you begin to count backwards in age. At one point I became older than you. I'm starring at your picture right now as I always do every morning when I turn the computer on for the day. You know Dad, you are a handsome man. Marti, Milo and I are sitting at the computer writing to you so you can receive this birthday wish on your special day. Since you are not here with us I hope you and our family in heaven are having a wonderful celebration of your own. There are 3 of you with September birthdays here and in heaven.
The S.F. Giants played against the Diamondbacks yesterday and they lost. The team has so many injuries this year, I can't imagine them making it to the playoffs. Everybody needs to get healthy again and they need to recruit quality starting pitching. We are now 8 1/2 back from the LA Dodger's who are in 1st place for the west division. As far as the Oakland "A's" they are in last place. They are fighting their hardest to show their pride. I'm tired of seeing the same teams year after year in the World Series, like the New York Yankee's or the St. Louis Cardinals. Give someone else a chance if the S.F. Giants can't be in it. Hey Dad, 3 World Series in the last 5 years isn't bad. I'm so glad you were able to see 2 of them with us.
We celebrated Mom's birthday last Friday. She wanted to go eat at a place call the Habit. They make pretty good hamburgers and salads. You would love their milkshakes. After eating we went to the movies. We celebrated yours and mom's birthdays. I think she had a good time.
Tank is doing well. He is getting older and whiter around the face. Mom says he is starting to loose his footing. He misses you so much Dad. Because of you he use to get some exercise. I wish mom would walk him.
We're all doing okay. I just miss you so much. As I'm starring at your picture Dad, the one I told you about I just realized that that picture was taken 9 years ago today by cousin Teresa. It was our last camping trip to Burney Falls. You are sitting in front of our screen tent having a cup of coffee early in the morning. I can tell it's early because you have a sweatshirt on. During the day it would get really hot. Wow, what a wonderful flashback of memories you have just given me. It's as if I'm reliving them again for the 1st time. Thank you for these wonderful memories Dad. You know Marti and Milo were there also just as they are with me now. Marti is aging fast Dad. He is going to be 15 yrs. old in 3 weeks. He is really having a hard time walking on his legs. His back legs are also very wobbly like Tank's and his front legs tend to buckle under where his paw and knee meet. It breaks my heart to see our babies age. They are my life.
Well Dad, I wanted to wish you a "Happy Birthday" and to tell you how much I love you and that I'm always thinking of you. Do you hear me talking to you? I hope so. You were always such a good listener. I hope some day I'll be lucky enough to see you in my dreams. I haven't been to Napa in quite a while, so I haven't had the opportunity to see if your car is out on the rode like I have in the past. I hope I get to see it again and meet the new owner.
Stay out of trouble Dad and my love to all of you.
Love,
Your daughter and the boy's, Saundra, Marti and Milo
P.S. Jonathan also sends his birthday wishes and misses his dad so much, you.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
July 4, 2015
Hi Dad,
"Happy 4th of July!!" Gosh, I miss you so much Dad, another day without my dad. The S.F. Giants are playing right now and getting ripped by the Washington Nationals. The all american national pastime, baseball and hot dogs. I'm having a flashback Dad when you use to coach for Patricia's softball team. I wouldn't play, but I would go as a spectator. Remember we would play catch in the backyard and you would always tell me, "You throw like a girl?" Of course I would, I am a girl I would tell you. You would never compare me to what Patricia and Loretta could do. I was never into playing sports because I was always afraid of getting hit/hurt. All it took was the 1 time of getting injured while playing baseball with the neighbors, pitching and getting hit right in the eye while wearing my glasses. I ended up with a bruised face and broken glasses. That ended my participation in sports, but I love watching the games! Patricia and Loretta were the ones that were into playing sports and they were great at it. Then the passion of playing softball continued on to your granddaughter Alyssa. How you use to love watching her play. You never missed a game. I know you were very proud of her. You use to tell me she was a mini version of Patricia.
Anyway Dad, I'm always thinking of you and all our memories we've shared whether it was doing something together or just talking. Just last week I was coming back from Kaiser, San Rafael from seeing my surgeon traveling on highway 37 having to pass Lakeville Rd. There are stop lights at that intersection now, finally! While waiting for the light to change I was telling Jonathan that a long time ago there were no lights at this intersection. Can you imagine how many accidents they must of had there? I'm sure it took a lot of deaths for them to finally put stop lights.That area has always been known as "Blood Alley". I was sharing with him a memory I had of when you and mom use to take us camping when I was a little girl to a place called K.O.A. near the Russian River off Asti Road. How I dreaded having to come back home because I knew we would have to make that horrendous dangerous left turn without lights at that intersection. It was such a scary feeling and being so young, worrying if we would make it across that long and wide intersection and with having to pull our trailer. Those cars would be speeding so fast. I use to be such a worry wort and get my stomach so knotted up. But you know Dad, you'd always make it through. I had all the faith in you, you never let us down. You always took such good care of us, all the way till the end. Thank you, thank you for being my dad and for being the person you always were.
Today is the 4th of July and if you were here you'd probably be at the Benicia park having a barbecue with Uncle Leo. Those were the days, huh Dad. I hope you are having a celebration of your own with the rest of the family and friends that are with you in Heaven. Maybe playing some baseball of your own today? I know there is more than enough of you guys to play. Until next time Dad, I'll write soon. Hopefully by then, I'll be back on my feet and my hand will be back to normal.I love you and miss you dearly! My love to all of you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. The S.F. Giants just lost again. The Oakland
"A's" are on now. I know you weren't into the American League, but baseball is baseball Dad and it's so much fun to watch the other teams. Mom is really getting into it now.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
June 21, 2015
Hi Dad,
"Happy Father's Day!" To you, all my grandpa's, uncles and friends in heaven. Another year without you Dad to celebrate "your special day". What would we be doing today? We'd be having a barbecue and watching the S.F. Giants baseball game. Right now they're playing against the Dodgers. Doesn't look good Dad. They're trailing 10 to 1. I can't believe this. If they were to win today we would finally be in 1st place. Sad to say it's not happening. As I'm writing to you Dad I'm constantly having to change the score because that's how fast the Dodgers are scoring. The Giants beat the Dodgers the last 2 games and I was hoping they would win today to sweep this series. Well the Warriors won after 40 years. I know you weren't into basketball, but Oakland really needed this. They get such a bad rap all the time. They worked so hard to win and they are a wonderful group of young men that get along and play so well. They are a band of brothers.
Eleven years ago on Father's Day we were all on that wonderful "Mexican Riviera" cruise. Boy we had a blast. Remember Dad? I was so blessed to have gone on that wonderful trip with you and some of our other family and friends. The family is planing another cruise next year. I'm sure if you and Uncle George were here and healthy you both would be going also. I'm so glad you got to go on all those special trips after you retired. You worked so hard all your life to provide for us. You enjoyed life and that's what it's all about.
Everybody is okay, other than missing you immensely Dad. We've had some scary health issues with our family and friends in the last 4 weeks. I'm sure all of you heard our prayers. As I told all of them, there are a lot of "Angels" around us meaning all of you watching out for us down here.
Anyway Dad, just wanted to wish you a "Happy Father's Day." Let you know what's been going on and to tell you how much I love and miss you. Please give all my love to the rest of the family.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. We just scored Dad. It's now 10 to 2 in the 8th inning.Hurrah!!!!
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
April 1, 2015
Hi Dad,
It's yours and Aunt Mary's anniversary today Dad. It's been 2 years since we've lost you. Does time fly by, it does. But time doesn't change how much I miss you and need my dad. As I'm writing you I'm getting all chocked up. It doesn't get any easier Dad when the rest of us are making memories, whether it's a special occasion/holiday, an activity or just a reason to get together and you're not here to share in the celebration with us. It seems like it was only yesterday that you were here watching your last Super Bowl game with Jonathan, Marti, Milo and me. You were all dressed up in your S.F. 49er's gear, since they were playing in the Super Bowl. You looked so handsome, you always did. You don't know how many people including your brothers and sisters have told me that you were the most handsome one of the family and with the sweetest personality to match. They told me that when you were growing up all the girls in school were after you, but you were only interested in playing baseball. They also told me you were an awesome catcher back in the days. Wow Dad, imagine if you could of played in the pros, what your life would of been like instead. As I'm writing you, I'm starring at this beautiful picture of you that cousin Teresa took at our last camping trip as a family to Burney Falls. I'm so grateful to Teresa that I have this picture of you to look at always. You look so happy with that beautiful infectious smile. Now you are making me laugh Dad. I want to share a special memory with you. Last night I had tomato soup with my dinner. Was it a fluke, wasn't planned. Call it a coincidence, maybe. But it brought back memories of when I was a young girl in elementary school and you were working nights for the Times-Herald Newspaper, and because you were home during the day I was able to come home for lunch. You would make me my favorite, tomato soup and a 1/2 of sandwich. You would take the time to stir the tomato soup so it would be smooth and not lumpy. Now when mom made tomato soup she would leave it lumpy and also add pepper. I did not like it that way. You always had my lunch ready, knowing I only had 45 minutes to eat, walk back to school and have time for recess. That was real special to me Dad. Not that many fathers could do that for their children on account of them working during the day. It was meant for me to have tomato soup last night. Thank you for that wonderful memory of my childhood. Well Dad, baseball season is here, FINALLY! Spring training is just about over. We lost Pablo Sandoval this year. It's also an "Odd" year and we haven't won a World Series during an "Odd" year, but you never know. They have won 3 in 5 years, I guess Bochey isn't so bad, huh Dad? I'll leave it along for now. Your family is doing fine including Tank. Dad, I love you and I can't tell you enough how much I miss you. My love to all the family and friends with you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. You can't believe who I'm listening and watching on Jonathan's new Smart Phone, The New Kids on the Block. Remember them Dad?
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
October 31, 2014
Hi Dad,
Happy Halloween! My 2nd halloween without your presence. It's a rainy day today Dad. You know this is my favorite holiday of the year. I didn't think I was going to be able to hand out candy this evening because of my surgery, but I'm standing and starting to walk. We'll see how many trick-or-treaters we get on account of the rain. Not only are we celebrating halloween today, but it's the S.F. Giants "World Series" victory parade in the city today. Can you believe Dad we won a "3rd" World Series championship in 5 years! They are calling it a "Dynasty" winning a World Series every 2 years for the last 5 years. What do you think of your Giants now, Dad? If someone had told me that the Giants were going to make it to the playoffs and then to win the World Series this summer I would have laughed and never believed them. At the beginning of the series they were doing so well, then around the All Stars they went bad. This was a weird baseball season. As for the World Series, what a roller coaster ride, each game gave me the chills. If the Giants got any help from you, thank you Dad. I'm so glad you were able to see them win 2 World Series in person (TV), but the 3rd you had to see it from Heaven with my uncles. If you had been here I know you would had dressed up in your Giants gear like you did the very last time I saw you dressed up for the S.F. 49er's when they played in the Super Bowl, Feb. 2013. They lost though. But, all in all it's an exciting day today, I just wish you were here to see it with all of us together. I miss you so much Dad. The holidays are coming again without you. You use to get so excited to see your family all together. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH! Please give my love to the family. I'll write to you soon again, I'm going to go watch the parade on TV.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. You know what I'm going to go through now Dad, baseball withdrawal. I know they need to rest and it's football season, but baseball is my favorite. I hope you guys are playing some baseball in Heaven, you were an awesome catcher in your younger days. Throw'm out in Heaven, Dad!
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
October 3, 2014
Hi Dad!
28 years ago today we were moving into our new home. Who's was always there to help us? You Dad. When I moved from Vallejo to Santa Rosa in 1977 you and Uncle George helped me move, then when I moved back the following year again it was the both of you. This time Ray Campos helped us move. It was 1 of the hottest days of the year. We were moving from an apartment that we had lived in for years into a new home, how excited we were. Someone had left an empty grocery cart at the bottom of our apartment stairs, so Uncle George decided to use this grocery cart to transport our food. He packed all the food into the cart. We were using the red company truck to move all our belongings. There wasn't any room left for this cart to be placed on the truck, so Uncle George with his great ideas tied the grocery cart to a ladder that was on this truck. If you remember Dad, this red truck was long and it had a ladder that was even longer than the truck. It resembled a fire truck. I was already at the new house unpacking and waiting for all of you. I couldn't even imagine what I was about to see, my dad, my uncle and my dear friend driving down the street with all my belongings along with a grocery cart hanging on for dear life. What a sight it was. The 3 of you driving across town with cigars in your mouths, it looked like the Beverly Hillbillies. You didn't loose anything. That's my dad, my uncle and my dear friend always there to help. I will never forget that day Dad and I wanted to share it with you, Uncle George and Ray Campos. I still can't believe the 3 of you aren't here with us anymore, but in Heaven. I miss you guys!
Dad, guess what I finally saw 4 days ago on September 30th in Napa? Your Pathfinder again. Jonathan was driving and I was in the passenger seat. We were on Trancas St. waiting for the light to turn green to get on Highway 29 when I looked to my right and saw a vehicle in your color wondering if it was your SUV. Both lanes turn left to get on the highway, so I asked Jonathan to let this SUV go first so I could see the license plate. While waiting for the light to turn green both the driver and I looked at each other. I now know what he really looks like. Jonathan let him go ahead of us and sure enough it was your license plate. We were both leaving Napa. I know I told you last time if I see your vehicle again I'm going to follow it so I can meet the new owner. You could tell he was in a hurry on account of the way he was driving and he got off in American Canyon. That's okay, I know 1 of these days I'm going to meet him. To be able to see your Pathfinder for the 3rd time Dad, made me so happy. I was starting to doubt that I wasn't going to see it again, it had been close to a year since the last time I saw it. You don't come in my dreams, but I'm seeing your vehicle. What are you trying to tell me? I got this overwhelming sensation of calmness. I don't know how else to explain it. Well Dad, I just wanted to tell you about these 2 wonderful experiences and to let you know how much I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!
Please give my love to the family.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S.
Well Dad, I guess you know where the S.F. Giants are in the playoffs. In all honesty, I didn't think they were going to make it this far. Baseball has been real weird this year. Look what happened to the Oakland "A's". Gosh, I wanted them in the World Series this year. It's their turn, they are so overdue. Today's the 1st game the S.F. Giants play against the Washington Nationals. It's the best 3 out of 5. They are a real good team. It starting to get exciting! Time to bring out the S.F. Giants flag, change our white porch light bulbs to orange and hang the S.F. Giants wooden welcome sign. It's time for Orange and Black Dad!
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
September 10, 2014
Hi Dad!
Happy "81st" Birthday! I am so sorry I haven't written to you in quite a long time. I've been out of commision for the last couple of months, which you know why. I do feel better today. In fact, I saw my physical therapist this morning. As of today she now has me wearing a shoe along with using crutches to begin walking. This is what I have been waiting for, for such a long time and this happened on your birthday which makes it that much more special, Dad. I know you were always listening to me in my deepest sorrow wondering when I would get out of this depression. Thanks for not listening to 1 of my requests, you know what I mean Dad. Being laid up for 8 weeks this summer I missed so much. Father's Day came and went along with all our family's birthdays in Heaven. So now let me wish you a "Happy Belated Father's Day" Dad along with your birthday today. Please tell our family "Happy Belated Birthday" also.
This past saturday we were together celebrating Jessica's departure to college. These get togethers are never the same without you. When it came to the cake, well let's just say that was always one of your favorite desserts. There's always so much left over and you would be the one to take the rest home, since you didn't want it to be thrown away. You know Dad, I always told you that to entice you to take it home. You'd say, "Oh no, don't throw it away, I'll take it home." Nobody was ever going to throw it away, it was our way to get you to take it.
Joey, Alma and Adelina (Addy) have relocated from the East Coast to L.A. for Joey's job promotion. Alyssa is back living at home working as a sales representative selling wine for now. Li'l Michael isn't so little anymore Dad. I've noticed his hair is getting darker, not so red which I loved. He's going to American Canyon High School and he loves it. You're grandkids are really growing up Dad, you'd be so proud of them all. Oh, by the way Loretta did get her job at Napa State Hospital and she already got a better position. Mom's fine, she says she really misses you and so does Tank. He is getting older and it's getting harder for him to walk.The rest of us are okay. Work is really really slow right now, we need for it to pick up.
I'm sure you know about the earthquake we had here in American Canyon, Napa and Vallejo. Very scarey when it happened, this one was different, but were all fine.
Jonathan and I stopped by to see you and the rest of the family at All Soul's today. We really miss you and the rest of the family. Not a day doesn't go by Dad, you know, you're always in my heart, in my thoughts and in my memories. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. I guess you can see that the "S.F. Giants" are doing a lot better now that they brought up some of the minors. They should have been brought up sooner. It's starting to get exciting now that they are winning and the season is coming to an end. Let's just hope they make it to the playoffs. The Oakland "A's" well that's another story. They were doing so well until they did that trade with Cespeds. I wanted to see them go all the way this year to the World Series, it's their turn. Jonathan's baseball season is over for this year.
Football season is in full swing! Patricia just went to an "Oakland Raiders" game with cousin Danny Garcia, she had a blast.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
April 1, 2014
Dear Dad,
Well Dad today's the day 1 year ago that you left us. It was actually 8:00 a.m. when you began your journey to Heaven. You looked so peaceful. All the water in your tummy and legs you had been retaining along with all those red blisters disappeared. You looked perfect Dad. I just stood there touching you, caressing you and placing a Kleenex over a cut you had on your arm. You were so warm to the touch. I kept thinking today is APRIL FOOLS DAY, are you playing a joke on all of us? I know you weren't, it was just wishful thinking. A lot of family came by to say their goodbyes. I felt like my heart had broken into a million pieces, but I could also see that you weren't in any pain anymore. You looked so handsome and so restful. So I had to let you go. In the meantime dear Aunt Mary was getting ready to start her journey into Heaven. Aunt Mary left us at 10:00 a.m. I couldn't believe that you both left us on the same day 2 hrs. apart. For 2 siblings to pass on the same day, I don't even know what to call it. Knowing that you both were together did comfort me. Being the gentleman you always have been you chose to go first so your older sister wouldn't be alone. You accompanied her and then stepped aside as Uncle Joe came for his wife. As I've said before, what a celebration all of you must be having in Heaven. You know Dad, I'm still waiting for you to come to me in my dreams. It hasn't happened yet. I haven't seen your vehicle since last October and I'm still waiting to see it again. I look for it every time I go to Napa. As Loretta has told me, I'm sure your telling us to get on with our lives and we have. But a day doesn't go by that you aren't in my heart and mind. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey Dad how did you get the S.F. Giants to win? Everyone knows it was a miracle. I know you were there. The rain finally stopped so the Oakland A's were able to play their home opener, they looked good but I think they needed you too.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
March 31, 2014
Hi Dad,
One year ago today we were celebrating Easter, our last holiday with you. You were now asleep on your way to Heaven. You put up a good fight, hung on for as long as possible, but your body was so tired Dad. We knew we had to let you go. Even though it was Easter, God Bless our family, they still came to see you and spend this holiday with us. Loretta in the kitchen making breakfast. The rest of us being with you in the living room making you as comfortable as possible. What an awesome family we have Dad. I know you could feel and see our presences. At the same time, Aunt Mary was also on her way to Heaven. Kathy and her family were having to experience exactly what we were all going through. I really don't think any of us knew that day was going to be our last. I know the rest of our family in Heaven were patiently waiting for the both of you. We got to have you both 1 more day, Aunt Mary in Napa and you Dad in Vallejo. I know you both were communicating and what you both had in stored for us was going to be a big surprise. When leaving that evening was one of my hardest nights. I didn't know if that was going to be my last night to say good night. You'd been asleep for 2 days and I knew I was never going to hear you whisper to me again, "Saundra go get me a "Sneaker" I'll eat it later when your mom is asleep." Of course I would comply, I would tuck it in your pocket and tell you, if you get caught "don't volunteer any information." Your words Dad, I live by them. I felt like 2 kids trying to get away with something. One night mom heard the candy wrapper, you got busted. Boy did we hear about it the next day from her, you denied it. Another memory I wanted to share with you Dad and there will be many more to come. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU as always. Give Aunt Mary an extra big hug and kiss for me and to the rest all of our family in Heaven. Until tomorrow Dad.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. It's opening day today for baseball. It's raining right now. The S.F. Giants home opener is next week so they are playing out of town today, but the Oakland A's home opener is this evening here in Oakland and it's really coming down and windy. I hope you're playing some baseball in Heaven. There is more than enough of you to form some teams. Show them what you've got. Get behind home plate and show them that fantastic catcher you are. "Throw them out in Heaven, Dad!" Jonathan is back to playing baseball this year, after recuperating from his ankle surgery. Please keep an eye on him Dad. I know I give you alot of work, but it's out of LOVE!
March 31, 2014
Hi Joe,
Tomorrow is one year that you and Mary left us. I miss you both and remember you both in my prayers every day.
I know you have a lot of family in Heaven so you are not alone.
Mary Abeyta
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
March 29, 2014
Hi Dad,
A year ago today was our last day to enjoy your conscience sparkling personality. Thank God cousin John stopped by to see you the night before. When he walked in he saw how hard of a time we were having trying to wake you up to take your much needed medicine, he immediately took over. John with his loud rugged voice said, "Uncle Joe wake up!" You barely opened your eyes but you heard him and replied, "Hey John" and you tried so hard to swallow your medicine, and you did. That medicine is what kept you alive Dad for the entire month of March. I will be eternally grateful to John for what he was able to accomplish, he gave us you 1 more day. What a wonderful family we have Dad. We are so lucky to have such a large family and that's what you always wanted, to always be together. A year ago this month of March was such a whirl wind ride being with you. You gave all of us a reason to be together. We had so much fun and did we have some wonderful meals and the sweets, um what can I say. Dad you were like a little boy in a candy store. How you loved your strawberry milkshakes and your "Stogies" cookies that resembled cigars. We got to celebrate Loretta's and my birthdays and our last holiday, Easter. Every day was a celebration of life. So many family and friends came over to be with you. When they'd walk in your eyes would light up. Everybody loves you Dad! When the girls and I came over that morning wondering if we were going to have 1 more day with you, boy did you surprise us. You were awake. I knew the end was near. I didn't want to think beyond that day. You had woken up in the middle of the night like you did every night hungry, wanting to eat your oranges and your "Sneaker" candy bar. Complaining to us mom wouldn't let you have your candy bar. We were going to enjoy every minute with you, not knowing that was going to be our last day. That day Patricia gave you a little shower that you enjoyed so much. You came out of the bathroom in the transport, you wanted to be in the family room that you had built. You told me for the first time that you were scared, cold and you asked me to hold your hand. We covered you in the beautiful hospice blanket that was given to you as a gift and I put your hand in my hand and I held on for dear life. You slept a lot Dad that day and you did eat for the last time. I think in away we girls knew that today was going to be our last day with you. This time you asked to go to bed which you never did before. You hated sleeping in your hospital bed, but you promised 1 of the hospice workers that you would. You were always a man of your word and you would tell us, "Why did I open my mouth and promised her that." Anyway Dad, I'm just reminiscing our day together a year ago. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH! Thank you for giving us this wonderful month of March, it was and honor and such a pleasure to be with you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. Spring training is over the season of baseball is about to begin. I'm sure you know that the S.F. Giants lost the 2 last games playing in the exhibition games against the Oakland A's. Today was their final last game and it was rained out. I hope the S.F. Giants do better this year than last year. A little help from heaven would help.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
January 1, 2014
Dear Dad,
"Happy New Year's, Dad!" Today is the beginning of a new year but also today it's been 9 months since you and Aunt Mary left us. I can't believe it's almost been a year without the both of you. Last night we were invited to Mary Jones home. Now that Loretta and Li'l Michael are staying with her, Loretta made one of her delicious Mexican meals. I know you would had been there with us to celebrate the new year. You may have not stayed till midnight, but I know you would had wanted to be with us like you always do, in my heart. Being together as a FAMILY has always been so important to you and it will continue through us. We had such a great time being with Mary and her family. Last night was Uncle Joe Torres 8th Anniversary of not being with us. Yesterday, Kathy, Arturo and their family were at the Grand Canyon celebrating Uncle Joe's and Aunt Mary's life by releasing some of their ashes together. What a beautiful moment it must have been to have done this and on one of the most difficult days of Kathy's life, to have lost her dad on this day will now be remembered by this special memory. You know Dad, Uncle Vidal's Anniversary is this Friday, the 3rd. It's going to be 39 years for Aunt Mary and my cousins to have been without a husband and a dad. That has got to be so hard for all of them. Uncle Vidal missed out on so much of all their lives. He was taken from them at such a young age, but he should also be so proud of what a wonderful job Aunt Mary has done being a single mother in raising all 6 of her children and alone at that. I shouldn't even complain, I was so lucky to have had you with me for 54 years. Doesn't mean I don't miss you, I always will. Let's see what 2014 has in store for all of us Dad. This year Alyssa will be graduating from college and on to graduate school, Jessica from high school to college and Li'l Michael will be leaving St. Basil's to go on to high school. Adelina (Addy) will be turning "1" on the 14th. In some ways this past year has flown by so fast, because life goes on living. But a part of me died right along with you Dad. I don't know how to explain it. I just want all of us to stay healthy and succeed in our careers. I know you're always keeping an eye on all of us. Please don't take anyone else in our family to Heaven right now. There is enough of you in Heaven to keep you busy and entertained. Happy New Year's to all of you and please give my love. I LOVE YOU DAD!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. This time last year we were starting to get excited that the S.F. 49er's possibly had the chance to go to the Super Bowl. They're in the playoffs this year. Will see!!
Along with Grandmas angel in the flower arrangement I made for you both I added a miniature S.F. Giant's baseball cap for you. I hope you like it, because it's you. You were an awesome cather and for the passion you had for baseball. I always wonder if you're playing any baseball in Heaven. If you are, "Throw them out in Heaven, Dad!"
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
December 25, 2013
Dear Dad,
"Merry Christmas, Dad!" We're spending our 1st Christmas without you. Today we got together at Patricia's home like we always do to celebrate Christmas. I bet your ears were burning. Our stories and memories of you are unforgettable. Today was a happy day because our family was together, but also a sad day because not only were you not there but neither was Loretta. She had to work, our family was incomplete. It was so hard not having you both at the table enjoying your meals that Patricia had cooked with such love. Even after eating your large meal you couldn't wait to get to the delicious desserts. Dad, how you and I enjoyed our sweets. I've totally cut back for health reasons, and actually I feel so much better. One of our topics of conversation this evening was how you loved those "Stogies" in reality they were the Pepperidge Farm creme filled Pirouette Rolled Wafers. How you had all of us in March eating them with you or should I say putting them in our mouth as if they were a cigar. Oh Dad, how we miss you so much. I still can't believe you're not here with us anymore. I hope you are having a wonderful Christmas in Heaven with the family. Always remember I need you and that I love you so very much.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. Please always keep an eye on us, I know you do. Loretta applied for a new job at Napa State Hospital this month. We're just waiting for the response. She needs to find a job closer to home and that is more secure. Please see what you can do to help her. Her commute to Healdsburg is way too far and her job is very unstable right now. We need some good news right now for this family.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
December 18, 2013
Dear Dad,
Today, December 18, is my wedding anniversary. You did me the honor 9 years ago today to walk me down the aisle to marry the love of my life, Jonathan. You looked so handsome and proud in your tuxedo. I have been so blessed to have had 2 wonderful men in my life. I thought it was so cute when you joined Jonathan and I on the stage and ate with us instead at the guest table. It was always the 3 of us together. How Jonathan loved you so, he always will. Your the Dad he never had, that's why he called you Dad. How he wished he had met you earlier. You took him under your wing just like you did with everybody. Everybody misses you and loves you so much. Do you remember our dance Dad at the wedding? We danced to "Always Forever" by Heatwave. You were the one who showed me how to dance when I was a little girl. You took me to all those Mexican dances you and mom use to attend. You asked me if I was now happy, how could I've not been, being with the 2 most important men on one of the most important days of my life. Our immediate family was in our wedding and Michael marrying us made it that much more special. The rest of our dear family and friends were there also to celebrate. It was a perfect Christmas Wedding. Today is a happy day for me Dad, but also a sad day, because you are not here with us. Today I was in Napa picking up a case and also seeing my dentist hoping I would see your vehicle again on the road. You know my intent, if I'm lucky enough next time I'm going to follow it and hopefully meet the new owner. I need to know who he is. I get very emotional every time I drive to Napa. You still haven't come into my dreams, why Dad? I need to see you and feel your presence. It's been a little over 8 months since you left us and it's going to be really hard not to have you here on Christmas Day.
This summer Jonathan and I built our fence facing Jerry. You would be so proud of us Dad. It turned out so beautiful. It has a hidden gate and it's about 8 feet tall. We stained every board before nailing it up. If you had been here I know you would of been right along helping us like you always did. This fence is not coming down, it is so strong and sturdy. Uncle Ray came over to see it, and was amazed of the way we constructed it and built it. He said he had never seen a fence like this before. It was a wonderful complement to hear.
Dad, tomorrow is Grandma Torres anniversary. It will be 5 years since she left us. Please tell her how much I miss her, love her and also think of her everyday. All my family is disappearing on me. It's hard Dad really hard. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. Tank went to the vet today. He's 30 pounds overweight. He needs to cut back on food and also be walked. Keep an eye on him, he really misses you too! My love to the whole family.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
October 31, 2013
Dear Dad,
Happy Halloween, Dad! This is my favorite holiday and time of the year, and you aren't here to share it with us. Tomorrow will be 7 months since we started missing you. I was remembering one Halloween when I was in elementary school at Steffan Manor and I dressed up as a "Fairy Princess." Back then the costumes weren't anywhere as elaborate as they are today with all the fancy accessories they have to complete your costume. I needed a wand. Do you remember Dad what you did? You took one of your old golf clubs and cut the handle off. Then you cut out 2 star shape cutouts on this real thick metallic paper you had. You glued the 2 stars cutouts together with the golf club handle in-between. You added glitter around the edges of the stars to finish it. My wand looked so pretty, Dad. I knew no one else was going to have a wand like mine. It was an original. Thank you Dad, you completed my costume for me. You made me feel so special. I came home for lunch that day to get dress with your help, couldn't wait to get back to school because we were having our Halloween parade and party. Just as I was leaving you took a picture of me standing in our driveway by our station wagon "The Comet". I'll never forget that day, Dad.
Two days ago I was in Napa again, leaving from my dentist office, guess what I saw Dad? Your Pathfinder again. I couldn't believe it. It was an older man driving your SUV this time, wearing a red black flannel shirt. He was on the farthest right lane. When he made his right turn to get on the highway that's when I saw your license plate. I was on the farthest left lane already committed to making a left turn. If it hadn't been for the 3 lanes and traffic in-between us I would had followed him to meet him. I'm praying that one of these days I'll get the opportunity to meet this family that bought your Pathfinder. Are you trying to tell me something Dad by seeing your SUV? This is the 2nd time in 2 months. You haven't showed up in my dreams yet, but I'm seeing your vehicle. I love you, I need you and I really really miss you. Happy Halloween to all of you! I hope you can now eat all the candy and sweets you want.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad! I guess you know who won the World Series yesterday, the Red Sox. They deserved it. I know you would have gone for the Cardinals being that they are in the national league. Anyway, baseball season is over until next year. So, I'm going through the baseball withdrawal right now.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
October 1, 2013
Dear Dad,
Today like any other day I smile thinking of you, but my heart breaks knowing I can't have you by my side. I
can't believe it's been 6 months since we lost you. God we miss you so! Everything I do reminds me of you. As summer has come to an end I've been reminiscing of all our summer vacations we had when we were little girls. You and mom would take us on on these wonderful "1" month vacations. What an adventure each trip was. We went to Oregon, Washington and then on on to Canada. We stopped at every sight seeing tour there was to see. I had never seen such beautiful redwood trees in all my life which have always been my favorite. Our delicious dinner at the Space Needle was fabulous and then the ferry to Canada. Then you took us to Yosemite, Las Vegas and then a tour of Hoover Dam. From there we went to Tijuana, Mexico to attend a wedding of some dear sweet friends. All our Disneyland, Universal Studios, Knottsberry Farm trips, even as we grew up as adults were so much fun. Why, because we were always together as a family. Then all the way to Guadalajara, Mexico, we got to meet mom's side of the family. You and mom bought this small trailer so we could afford to take all these trips. It was tight quarters for 5 people and 1 small dog, Sparky, but we did it. That trailer was our hotel on wheels. When it came time to hooking up the car to the trailer I would always guide you. Sometimes we'd get lucky on the 1st try, then other times it would take a couple of more trys, but eventually we'd get it right and then we'd be off to our next destination. We always met such nice people along the way. You would be driving the Lamons Pontiac pulling the trailer and I would sit in the front seat with you. You told me I was your navigator. I was in charge of keeping track of the miles from every gas station stop and also the music on our 8-track you had placed in the glove compartment. We'd be driving down the freeways listening to The Four Tops, Tom Jones, Engelbert Humperdink and so many others. Mom was always making comments about everything. You would have mom sit in the back seat and tell her to quick being such a back seat driver. Also, the great camping trips we'd take to Crazy Horse with all our uncles, cousins and friends. Wow Dad, those were the days. Also, all the drive-in movies, baseball games, party's, reunions, I could go on and on. I know you know what I mean. There's 1 place I wish you would of taken us to visit, New Mexico. I would of love to have seen your birthplace. I only get to hear the stories from our relatives, but it's not the same. Why didn't we ever go? Thank you Dad for giving us girls a wonderful childhood and such memorable memories. Dad, when are you going to come in my dreams? The girls have seen you in their dreams. I'm still waiting. I wish you could see how tall L"il Michael has grown and Jessica got her 1st job working at a restaurant called "The Habit." Time is going by, but the emptiness is the same without you Dad. Today is Michael's and Marti's birthday. Melissa had her baby boy, Jax on Uncle Leo's birthday, another new addition to the family. This Saturday we will be having our 1st family reunion picnic without you and Aunt Mary. It's going to be real hard Dad. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. Well I guess you know we are now entering the playoffs for baseball. The "S.F. Giants" stunk this year. They came in 3rd place. But guess who's made it this far, "The Oakland A's!" I'm really happy for them, they deserve it. The "San Francisco 49er's" aren't doing so good either. I remember when they were in the Super Bowl this year and you were dressed to the 9 in all your "49er" clothing from head to toe. You looked so handsome Dad. A true fan you were. Take care and my love to the whole family.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
September 10, 2013
Dear Dad,
Today, September 10, is your 80th birthday. "Happy Birthday, Dad!" It's been 5 months since we've enjoyed the pleasure of your beautifully infectious smile. This evening a few dear family and friends celebrated our endless love for you with memories, then a toast while releasing some balloons carrying all our love to reach you in Heaven. I'm sure you are having your own celebration in Heaven with the family. Dad, Patricia in her adorable backyard has made you this beautiful "Living Garden" in your memory. Of course there's a section dedicated to your S.F. Giants along with all the other decorative metal accents with solar lights. They light up so pretty at night. I wish you were here to see it. Dad, do you remember 4 years ago we were camping at Burney Falls with some of our family and friends and we celebrated your birthday there? This was our last camping trip together. We had such a great time. You slept in your Pathfinder and Uncle George slept in our Murano. We backed the vehicles into the screen tent. This was the trip that you scared all of us 1 night when you didn't come back from the restroom. It took us an hour to find you. Being so dark at night it was so easy to get lost that one could easily loose their sense of direction. Thank God we found you. Even though you told all of us you were never lost, just sight seeing. Really Dad, at that hour of the night? So when it was my turn to go, you told me to wait, you brought out your huge flashlight. When you turned it on and pointed it up, it lite up the sky so bright like one of those lights they use when something is being advertise. You told me that I wouldn't have any problem finding our campsite, no way I could get lost now. You were always so prepared for any situation Dad. Dad, on August 27th, I was on my way to Napa (Highway 29) and to my surprise guess what vehicle was driving next to me? Your Pathfinder, I couldn't believe it was your vehicle with your license plate. A young girl was driving it very cautiously with an adult. They looked like a nice family, I'm so glad I was able to see who bought your vehicle. It brought tears to my eyes. I know why your vehicle appeared at that very moment. Thank you, you are my Angel! You were watching over me that day. I miss you so much! As always, I miss all our talks we use to have. I LOVE YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey Dad. I'm sure you now know that the S.F. Giant's are in last place. This was not their year. But the Oakland A's are in 1st place right now. I hope they make it all the way. They work so hard and deserve to make it to the World Series. They're long over due. I'm praying, a little help from you? My love to the whole family.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
July 22, 2013
Dear Dad,
13 years ago today Dad you and I were at the Napa Nissan dealership helping me choose the right car to purchase. We actually had spent the whole week prior looking at different cars, but at the end we ended up back at the same dealership where we had always purchased our vehicles. When it came down to negotiating the price you took charge as you always have and I just sat there thinking how blessed I am to have such a wonderful Dad that still looks out for his daughter even at the age of 41. I was single, and I needed you, my Dad to help me make this big decision. I couldn't have done this without you. I always looked for your approval. You always made me feel so safe. Thank you again for always being there for me. The car you helped me pick my Nissan Sentra has been a wonderful, faithful little car. It hasn't let me down. I don't know if you remember that Mom even had the car blessed by a priest after I purchased it. I love you and really really miss you.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. The S.F. Giants are looking better after the All Star game. It happens like this every time. Now the Oakland A's need a little help. Don't forget about them. I know the S.F. Giants are your favorite and you always go for the national league but they are a part of us especially living in the bay area. My love to the whole family.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
July 4, 2013
Dear Dad,
Happy 4th, Dad! Another holiday without you. It's now been 3 months since you've been gone from our lives. I remember you use to come over and we would have a barbecue along with our dear neighbors/friends Kathryn and Franco and you would stay until it was time to go see the fireworks in Benicia. Couldn't talk you into going to see the fireworks though, which was okay. I guess you had seen enough throughout your life. You also would say it was kind of late to stay out. The main thing was that we were altogether. In our family we never needed or need a holiday or reason to get together, because every time we are together it is a celebration. You were always the first to say, "Yeah I'm Good For It, I'll Be There." I know the last couple of years you went to the Benicia park to celebrate the 4th with your brother Leo, and some of the other family members. I know today is going to be a hard day for them as well without you being there. You just don't know Dad what an impact you had in all our lives and that's why we all are having such a hard time excepting your absence. You use to tell us that you were just an ordinary man. No Dad, to us you were an extraordinary man. Writing to you is my way of letting you know how much I miss you; love you and always, always thinking of you. This is one of my ways I can feel connected to you from here to Heaven, I guess I can call it "My Stairway To Heaven." Dad I know you and the family are having a wonderful celebration of fireworks of your own in Heaven. So happy 4th of July to all of you, until next time. I LOVE YOU!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. We S.F. Giants fans now really need some magical miracle. They are now officially in last place, last place Dad! Can you believe this? What happened? As you use to say Dad, "Looks Like Someone's Sleeping On The Job." They were the World Series Champions of "2012." They are literally falling apart. I can't imagine you are too busy and not watching this disaster as it unfolds. They need help. I don't know if you have any pull Dad, but if you do, now would be the time to use it, please! Right now they are in a rain delay. Maybe that's your way of giving them a cooling off period before they play their next game.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
June 30, 2013
Dear Dad,
Do your remember what happened 38 yrs. ago today, Dad? Feb.'1975, I was 15 yrs. old and I had gotten my learners permit (written test) for driving. Today was the day you drove me to the DMV for my other driver's test (behind the wheel). I waited for you to get home from work that day to tell you "I" was finally ready to take the final test. I was so nervous on our drive to the DMV. You were so patient and encouraging, telling me with all the practices we had I was ready and you assured me I would pass. You waited for me to make the decision on my own with no pressure knowing that any teenager could get their license on their 16th Birthday. Even though my birthday was in March, I knew I wasn't ready. You taught me how to drive the Comet (station wagon) first. You wanted me to learn how to drive a stick shift. Automatics were too easy to drive, you said. In case of an emergency and the only car you have at your disposal is a stick shift, what are you going to do? You were right. All our practices were around the corner from where we lived at a grocery store parking lot on Oakwood Street. Sometimes we would bring Sherman (our dog) with us and he would either be in the car with me or outside chasing the car while you stood outside in the parking lot watching me drive and putting the car into gear. I remember the noise it would make. What wonderful, unforgettable memories Dad! Thank you for all you have taught me, for teaching me how to drive and remembering this special significant day we spent together, one of many. I wanted to share this special memory with you. I miss you and love you!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey Dad. What's going on with the S.F. Giants? Can you work some magic? Mom bought a new car yesterday. It's a Versa 2014. It's perfect for her and for safety reasons it was the right choice. She traded your Pathfinder and her Altima for the new car. I know you would have given her your stamp of approval. I miss seeing you drive up behind the wheel of your Pathfinder with your infectious smile you always had. When you bought your SUV I was the one that drove it home for you sitting by my side. Yesterday, I was the one who drove it back to where you bought it without you sitting physically by my side. It was one of the hardest things I had to do, because I was loosing another part of you again, Dad. I was talking to you all the way there. Please forgive me. You worked so hard to finally get the vehicle you deserved. The girls and I wanted to keep your vehicle, but we just couldn't afford it. I hope who ever buys your SUV has as many wonderful experiences, memories that we all did in your SUV. I took a lot of pictures with your license plate. Please keep an extra eye on Mom in her car. It's all new to her. Always give my love to everybody and everybody behave in Heaven.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
June 16, 2013
Dear Dad,
"Happy Father's Day, Dad!" Just a little message to tell you how much I miss you and love you. It's been a little over 2 months since you've been gone, it's our 1st Father's Day without each other. Today we would of been watching the S.F. Giants baseball game together and having a barbecue with the family. The family is getting together today to celebrate your day, Father's Day. As you instilled in all of us Dad, it's all about FAMILY and your legacy continues in all of us. It was 9 years ago today we embarked on that wonderful "Mexican Riviera" cruise. What a great time we all had and I'm so glad I got to share that with you, the family and our friends. Not a day doesn't go by Dad, that I don't think of you and miss you. It's hard Dad, really hard. "The miracle of your love is that it is never farther than a memory away." I LOVE YOU!
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. You better be having the time of your life with the family in Heaven, that's the only way I'm able to cope without your presence. Give my love to everybody and everybody behave. What a party you all must be having. I feel for Grandma and Aunt Mary. Dad, Tank sends his love too! He misses you so much.
Saundra Abeyta-Tain
May 3, 2013
Dear Dad,
Today, May 3, is yours and Mom's 55th wedding anniversary. "Happy Anniversary, Dad!" I miss you, love you and will always need you. My heart aches for you, but knowing that you and Aunt Mary walked into Heaven together is what consoles me. As the true gentleman you always were, you stopped on your way Home to call on her and take her with you. I can feel the warmth of your souls as you both embrace the rest of the clan. I can only imagine the family reunion you must all be enjoying. FAMILY is one of the important values you taught us, and spending this wonderful past month of March together with you was an incredible gift that you gave all of us. We will always treasure it! I have been so blessed to have had you throughout my 54 years. You have given me so many precious memories that I will cherish in my heart forever. Dad, I will miss seeing you; hearing your voice, your cute sayings and comebacks; playing your harmonica; and last--but not least--feeling your love. Thank you for being my Dad, my confidant, my best friend, and the best dad in the world. Eat all the sweets you want now, Dad, especially your "Sneakers" and those "Stogies." Enjoy all the sweet oranges, and drink all the strawberry milkshakes you desire. The word "moderation" doesn't exist anymore.
Love,
Your daughter, Saundra
P.S. Hey, Dad. Don't forget. Even in Heaven, "Don't volunteer any information!" I LOVE YOU!
Baby Addy with G-Pa ~ Joey & Alma
May 2, 2013
May 1, 2013
May 1, 2013
Youngster!
Patricia Abeyta
April 29, 2013
Our handsome man.
Patricia Abeyta
April 29, 2013
Family @ Joey's & Alma's wedding
Patricia Abeyta
April 29, 2013
Dad, Brother Leo, Sister CeCe
Patricia Abeyta
April 29, 2013
Grampy and Jessica at a family BBQ.
Patricia Abeyta
April 29, 2013
SUPERMAN!!
Abeyta
April 27, 2013
Patricia Abeyta
April 27, 2013
Miss you my Daddy! Thank you for being the "BEST DAD" ever!! My heart has a hole....love you so much!!
April 9, 2013
May you draw close to God.at this difficult time.James4:8
Phyllis Crayton
April 8, 2013
Trish, you and your family have my deepest sympathies with the passing of your Father. It's never easy losing a loved one and the hurt is so deep. I will be praying for you and your family during this difficult time. May God Bless you!
Kathryn and Gianfranco Marocchino
April 8, 2013
Dear Hope, Saundra, Patricia and Loretta:
Our hearts go out to all of you on the loss of your beloved Joe. Gianfranco and I will always remember him as a wonderful, funny and compassionate man whose sweet smile and gentle disposition endeared him to all. What a pleasure it was to have counted him as a friend for 25 long years, along with all of you who have been such an integral part of our lives. We have shared so many memories, so many good times, and so many sad times. Thank you all for having welcomed us into your warm and kind-hearted family. It was a privilege to have been among Joe's friends.
Pat McCoulf
April 8, 2013
Dear Hope & Family,
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear
husband and father. You are all in my
prayers.
God Bless,
Pat McCoulf
Lee Whitney
April 7, 2013
were sorry for the Abeyta family's loss. Joe has always been a great neighbor and friend. Our love goes out to the family.
Love, Lee & Denise Whitney
In our hearts forever
kathleen Makinano
April 7, 2013
Uncle Joe, My Mom is the luckiest person in the world to have been escorted to Heaven with you by her side.Your smile will never be forgotten..We had so many good times together. Saundra,Trish and Loretta together we will be sad,yet joyful, most of all we will know we were loved. Mom and Uncle were very special!!
Uncle Joe Rest in Peace
Rich and Marilyn Albro
April 6, 2013
Our condolences to the Abeyta Family. Joe was a good guy who always had a smile on his face. He's playing the course up in heaven with George and Jamie is driving the golf cart..
Cathy Phillips(Abeyta)
April 6, 2013
My condolences to the family, Joe was my Brother-in Law for 27 years along time ago. He was a good man & truly loved his daughters. He will be missed by many. RIP
GEORGE BUIS
April 6, 2013
RIP OLD TIME FRIEND.
April 6, 2013
April 6, 2013
April 6, 2013
I certainly enjoyed seeing my Dear Uncle Joe on my last few visits to Vallejo. I had an enjoyable and memorable golf game with him at Blue Rock Springs with Cousin Kathy and of course "The Gang." I can remember when the brothers played poker in Grandma's back room and Uncle Joe gave us a nickel (maybe it was a dime) to stand behind him and bring him good luck. What a sweetheart.
Lisa Ryland-Butler
April 5, 2013
So sorry for your loss. My prayers will be with your family.
April 5, 2013
Joe,
You have been a great brother-in-law. I will miss you. You have such beautiful daughters and they showed their love by taking such good care of you at the end.
Mary
Mary Alyce (Maes) Pallotta
April 5, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure my parents (Cayetano and Margaret Maes) were waiting there to greet him and show him the way. In life they were such close friends and I'm sure they are together again.
Toby Montez
April 5, 2013
My deepest heart felt sympathy to Hope, Saundra, Patricia, Loretta and all others of the Abeyta family. The Abeytas have been family friends since we came to Vallejo, over 40 years ago. "Brother Joe", as the group from Blue Rock Golf Course called him, was a great friend with a true kind heart. He always had a funny comment to make and managed to always keep the golf group "in line"(which many times was no small feat). It is obvious, Joe, that you will be dearly missed by many, we especially miss you on Sunday mornings at the golf course. I have very great memories of the time spent with you, Joe, and am very thankful to call you my friend. "Fore!" and "Go 9ers!" Rest in Peace, Brother Joe.
April 5, 2013
We're sorry to hear of your loss, Hope. Pleas accept our sincere condolences. Marie, Morris And Glenn Coats
April 5, 2013
My husband, Joe, and I remember many happy afternoons serving and visiting with the Abeyta family on Thursday afternoons. We are saddened to learn of Joe's passing followed by Mary just 2 short hours latter. Our love and sympathy to the whole family. Joe and Carol Klingensmith...formerly from Chris' Club 1970-2001.
Judy Moore
April 5, 2013
What a truly great man my Uncle Joe was. He was always so kind and had a great personality. He was always a pleasure to be around. He will be greatly missed by all.
Paula Blakeley
April 5, 2013
To Hope, Saundra, Tricia and Loretta: Thank you so much for sharing you amazing father with me the last couple of months. He was such a loving man and I love him and will miss his infectious smile.
Leslie Johnson
April 5, 2013
I cannot find the words, as they could never explain how special you are, nor how grateful I am to have had the honor and privilege of knowing you. Always treated like one of your own, I will never forget how you always protected us and how you were always there and you will always be in my heart. To Hope,Saundra, Trish, Loretta and all of the family, may God comfort all of you. I love all of you so very much.
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