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Mary Lynn
March 31, 2023
Always missing you Mom.
Mary Lynn
April 1, 2021
Love you mom.
james sim
March 31, 2021
My sweet Nancy, miss you so much, All my love
MAry Sharp
April 2, 2020
Miss you Mom.
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James Sim
March 31, 2020
Oh Nancy, you are missed and loved so very much. Love you for always
James Sim
March 31, 2019
My sweet, sweet Nancy. I miss you more today than ever. I love you so much.
James Sim
April 3, 2018
Hi my sweet Nance. Thinking of you this Easter. Knowing HE has risen and you are right there with HIM makes it easier. Miss you so much.
November 21, 2016
Thank you Debbie. I miss her so much. Appreciate your kindness, Jim
Debra Habiniak
December 11, 2014
Dear old friend Jim sim I saw the original notice and was so saddened by your loss you dont remember me., but I remember you and I believe I may have known Nancy too along the way met her in " duck soup". I know its so late , nevertheless, I hope you'll accept my deepest condolences I'm delighted you're a christian and am so glad she left you with that greatest gift of all Jesus
God bless you my friend
Debbie Faas from Renss.
jim sim
April 3, 2012
Hi Sweetie, three years and I can still hear your voice and see your smile.Missing you does not go away. I feel your kindness all around me. You are a special lady,Nancy Jane.Please pray for me and ask Jesus to give me some blessings,Love you,Jim
Mary Sharp
April 1, 2012
Hi Mom - although I talk to you all the time, I wanted to leave a note in your guestbook as well. Tomorrow is the 3rd anniversary of your new life, but I miss having you here. Even though you were in Florida, I could count on talking to you over the phone. I really miss being able to laugh with you about anything silly. There are just some things you want to share with your mom, and nobody else. The biggest part of my life I want to share with you is my children - especially Maryssa. She will do something hysterical and I look up and say I wish you were here for this mom. Then I realize you probably do see her, and you are laughing right along with us. But for selfish reasons, I want you here.
I brought you new spring flowers a couple of weeks ago when it was nice out, but I removed them because the cemetary is having their spring cleanup week this week. So the flowers will be back before Easter.
I love you, have a wonderful Easter celebrating the awesome gift of eternal life God gave us.
Marylynnieisaguinnie
Jim Sim
April 3, 2011
My dearest Nancy,I just want to hold you again.All the suffering I saw you go through, you little angle. I never meet a more sweet,loving and caring person. Look at the great job you did with your children. Your ["my Mary"] Mary is a spitting image of you. Nance almost sat on the phone waiting for her weekly phone call from her Mary and "Daddy". You should have seen the joy and happiness on her face when she told me "I talked to my daddy today and he loves me," "he told me he loves me" And he called every week and said the same thing. And towards the end, as soon as I walked in the door she told me she talked to her Anth for over an hour. She just wanted to be loved, and I love you everyday my sweetheart. I miss your cooking[on the days she was able to], your humor, your beauty, rubbing your hands to make them feel better,and your loving, caring ways towards the whole world. Nance would cry watching the news, she cared and prayed for everyone.You taught me a lot about praying and being a better person Nancy.You were my whole world.I love you so much,I am lost without you and long for that day.We all miss you.
Mary Sharp
April 2, 2011
Today is the 2nd year anniversary of mom's new life. She has beautiful purple and white flowers in her cemetery vase. We are getting together for a meal to commemorate this day. Last year we went to an excellent Mexican restaurant and then to an ice cream parlor, both of which mom would have enjoyed! Tonight we are getting together at my house. EJ is going to cook us a new pasta dish (he is an excellent cook who creates his own recipes, like mom did). There will be plenty of olive oil, garlic, butter and cheeses involved. And of course dessert...there is a great cake place in Delmar where I picked up a yellow cake with buttercream frosting. Samantha Jane will be making her first visit to Aunt Mary's house since her birth in January.
Often Maryssa will do something that makes me laugh and/or want to pull my hair out, and I am reminded of my mom's stories about me when I was little. She said I was into everything, and I was my own boss, as well as the boss of others. I see a lot of that in Maryssa and wish I could talk and laugh with mom about it.
I also miss her silly phone calls when she would ask me "have you seen Days lately?" (Days of our Lives was mom's soap opera, which I started watching in my teens with her). I still DVR it, in a way it makes me feel close to her. When it gets really stupid (as soap operas do!)I laugh and think, mom would have called me about this.
I also miss her encouragement. She was great at making me feel better when I needed it. Even though the process of getting there may have been extremely annoying. She basically had to pull things out of me, which she knew how to do. I started a new job this week and really could have used a pep talk from mom.
Today I remember mom, as I do every day, but today is extra special. I look forward to spending time with my bro's and look forward to the day I see my mom again.
I miss you mom.
Mary Sharp
January 10, 2011
Yesterday mom got to watch with joyful eyes the birth of her third grandchild, Samantha Jane Mulligan. She would have been so proud of Jen and Anthony.
Over the holidays we made some of mom's favorite food including lots of Christmas cookies with Aunt Dodie (nut horns, almond spritz's, walnut dreams, etc), bleu cheese ball, dip, and plenty of over the top dishes made by EJ. It was nice for us all to be together for the second Christmas since mom went to Heaven.
Now it is January, the holidays are over, and usually this is a very hard time for a lot of people. But we are rejoicing in the birth of our newest family member. Congratulations to Jen and Anthony.
Mary Sharp
September 10, 2010
I won't speak to my mom via an online guestbook because guess what...she is not using a computer in Heaven. She didn't even like using computers here. I remember her complaining that the mouse moved the arrow waaaaay too fast across the screen...she hated that! But I would like to note some memories here for anyone who may be thinking of her and want to reminisce or have a chuckle.
Mom would call me Girlie when I was in trouble. She would purse her lips and point one finger at me and squint her eyes and say "Girlie!", followed by whatever was appropriate at the time ("Girlie, get in the car!" was a memorable one when I was out doing something I shouldn't have been doing).
Mom used to hate driving with me. The last time she came up to Albany I was driving to my dad's house and she was freaking out on I90. "Slow down!" "Watch out for this guy!" I said I'm sorry but there is no way to get across the river except the highway. She used to love driving up Madison Ave. to get to the mall. The commute took longer than the shopping did.
Speaking of the mall, Mom would take me and Anth to the same Friendly's in Colonie Center I now take Taylor and Maryssa. Mall trips were fun...we'd stop at the Cathedral where Anth would sqweak his shoes as loud as he could, mom would say a prayer and light a candle, then we'd go shopping and have lunch.
Mom was a great person to talk to about food. Any time I had something really good, I would call her and we would talk about it in detail. I still think to call her when I have something good or something she would have really liked.
I remember in my late teens mom would let me smoke cigarettes which she would never do now, but back then it wasn't such a big deal. I thought it was really cool at the time to have a smoke with my mom. But I'm glad we both gave that up years ago.
We went to the Jersey Shore a few weeks ago which reminded me of going to the beach with mom. She loved to see the "sparkles" on the water, and play Aunt Jane's game with the waves, "No Matter What".
Mom had a good laugh last time she stayed at my house, she noticed the pots and pans hanging in my kitchen had dust on them. That would never happen at her house.
Well that's about it for now. Don't forget mom's favorite saying, "when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade."
Jim Sim
August 23, 2010
Happy birthday Sweetheart, I miss you so. All my love,Jim
Jim Sim
September 11, 2009
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2009
sjc
August 28, 2009
May God comfort you?
2Thess. 4:13,14
Patricia Gross
April 23, 2009
My sincere condolances to Nancy's family. Nan and I were classmates at both St. Margaret Mary's grade school and VI high school. She was always fun to be around!
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Pat Gross
Jackie Nash
April 13, 2009
My sincere condolances to the family of Nancy. I worked with her on 6 Brady-Farrell and enjoyed her friendship. Not only was she an excellent nurse, but a delightful person!!! Her great sense of humor and that wonderful smile were hard to beat! I have fond memories of her and she will be greatly missed. Sincerely,
Marianne Farrell
April 7, 2009
So sorry to hear of Nancy's passing. I have many happy memories of high school days together. God bless her family at this difficult time.
Marianne Barry Farrell
Sue Flint
April 7, 2009
Mary,
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
April 7, 2009
Dear Jim and Andrea,
We were very sorry to hear about the passing of your sister, Nancy. Please accept our deepest sympathy. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Scott and Ann Fadeley
Ellen M. Hedderman
April 6, 2009
Dear Dr. and Mrs. Papandrea, and Mrs. Pettijohn,
I just want to take this opportunity on behalf of the entire Hedderman family to express our condolences on the passing of Nancy Jane, and to let you know that we are thinking of you during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Ellen M. Hedderman and Eleanor L. Hedderman
(Jack and Jane Hedderman's niece and sister-in-law)
Joe Sawyer
April 6, 2009
How sad to hear of the passing of Nancy. Throughout the late 1960s and early 1970s she was a friend and a joy to be with. We've not communicated since those days, but I know she will be missed by all. My best to all of her extended family. She will be missed.
Claire McInerney
April 6, 2009
Dear Virginia,
My condolences to you and your family on the loss of Nancy. It must be very difficult to be missing your dear sister. Love and hugs from your friends in New Jersey.
In sympathy, Claire
The Seeley Family
April 6, 2009
Dear EJ, Anthony, Mary & the Whole Fam,
We were so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. May the love and support you receive help you through this arduous time. For now, you remain in our thoughts and prayers.
With love and respect,
Jim and Frosine Stolis
April 6, 2009
Dear Jim and Andrea,
So sorry to hear about your sister. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. May Nancy's memory remain eternal in the hearts and minds of all those whose lives she touched.
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