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John Tepper Marlin
April 19, 2010
Don and Nan are relatives who became friends. They had shared interests with my parents (my mother Hilda van Stockum was Nan's second cousin once removed) before I met them. Don was working for the Urban Institute in the 1970s on performance measurement issues. We had some good conversations when I started working on the same issues and he did his best to steer me in the direction he thought was best (I often took his advice... but in retrospect not often enough). Nan and my mother and sister Brigid shared a love of painting. The memorial service for Don was at a human-scale church, the Westminster Church in Southwest Washington. The chairs were in a circle, as Don requested before he died, creating a friendly atmosphere appropriate for the serious and sympathetic group who came to pay their respects. Don directed the productivity program at the Bureau of Labor Statistics, and his unit was well represented at the service by current employees. The service was presided over by Nan's first son Harry (named after her father Harry Boissevain). The neighbors, relatives and co-workers who gave eulogies alluded frequently to Don's hard-working nature and his generosity. I should add that he told me once that he had been approached about an increase in pay at another agency whose work product he did not approve of. He told me that he was just not interested in that... he had a deep-rooted sense of Right Livelihood. With sympathy for your loss to Nan and sons and your families.
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