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Memories and Condolences
for Jay McCarty
Chrissie Higgins Wirges
September 2, 2009
Liz and family,
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
I do not know you, but I shared 6 years of my life with Jay. I am heartbroken by your loss. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. May he rest in peace.
Brian Ackley
August 22, 2009
Liz, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Jay was one of the best musicians I have ever had the pleasure of making music with and a great man. I wish you and the kids the best and again, I am very sorry.
August 22, 2009
The Music community of Hampton Roads is deeply saddened by the passing of our brother .. Jay. He was admired by each one of us. We love you brother
Tom Heberling
August 22, 2009
Once a good man now a perfect angel. When I first met Jay I was amazed with his voice. I had just recently begun listening to Christian style music and when he sang "Sweep me Away" it was the first time I had heard it. It's become one of my favorites. He has made an impression upon me that will live on throughout my life . He was a blessing to me amd my family. Rest in peace Jay.
Greg Bicouvaris
August 21, 2009
To Jay's family :
Jay's spirit and enthusiasm was felt everytime I walked into Fink's Wheel Shop . His presence now will be eternal .
Darlene Howard
August 21, 2009
Liz and Family,
My thought and prayers are with you all during your time of sorrow. I did not know Jay but from what I have read and heard he was a wonderful husband, father and friend. May God bless you all during this time.
marilyn barden
August 21, 2009
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2009
Cynthia Graham
August 21, 2009
My heart goes out to you your family I was really sad to hear about his going home to be with the LORD. I've taken my car to Fink's and Jay always had a smile or encouraging word to say. He will truly be missed there at Fink's. I 'm really saddned that I can not attend this funeral. GOD BLESS YOU!
Sharen & Joe Souza
August 21, 2009
We were so sorry to hear of Jay's death. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Moe Sampson
August 21, 2009
August 21,2009
We thank God for allowing us to share most weekends in the past year and a half for the extraordinary gift He gave him in the Music Ministry at Hickory Ridge Community Church, Tidewater Drive Band, numerous shows, concerts, recordings & special projects. Loved his spirit & energy, which gave us a jump-start when he was present : We'll miss our times we shared together.
Moe Sampson & Family (TWD Band)
Cindy & Rob Simmons
August 21, 2009
Liz and family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cathy Wolford
August 21, 2009
I will really miss Jay. He was a positive influence in this world when there are so many negative ones out there and he was oh so real---and as a consequence a true Christian. God bless you Liz and family.
Effie Day
August 21, 2009
Liz & Family,
Memories keep those we love close to us forever, like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow. May your memories give you strength
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
August 21, 2009
We will truly miss Jay,he always had a smile on his face and a song in his heart. He was a true friend and co-worker to my son Cory. My Daughter Heather is going to miss him saying here comes Trouble when ever she was at the shop. I send my sincerest condolences to Jay's family and friends that God will give you strength to get through this, and I will keep them in my prayers.
Love, Corbie,Cory & Heather Snyder
Pete Lunde
August 21, 2009
Liz and family I am so very sorry to hear of Jays death. Jay was a great man who was always upbeat,with a heart of gold.
We all will miss him. May god be with you during this sorrowful time.
Effie Day
August 21, 2009
Memories keep those we love close to us
forever....
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and your family at this time of your great loss.
Mike Coard
August 21, 2009
I am truly going to miss Jay and his passion for Christ thru his music and his everyday actions. What a great christian brother he was. I will never forget the day he added a little bit of Jerry Lee Lewis to the end of one of his sets for me because I had told him how much I love the keyboard in all kinds of music and the way he played he reminded me of Jerry Lees talent. He will truly be missed on this earth and I look forward to the day I can hear him play for Jesus Christ in heaven.
Ron and Mary Barefield
August 21, 2009
Liz and family, Ron and I were very sad to hear of Jay's death. Even though we only knew him for a short time, we thought he was great guy. May God bless your family during this difficult time. I know the rest of your Sonlight family is praying for you also.
Kim Joyner
August 21, 2009
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Becky Clary
August 21, 2009
Jay will be missed terribly. I have known Jay for alot of years now, and he was a great guy. His love for music was only second to the love he had for his family. I'm so sorry for your loss. He will be remembered very fondly, and we will miss him making music.
Becky and Jay (Greenies dancers)
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