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Iva DeToma Obituary

Iva M. DeToma VIRGINIA BEACH - Iva Marie DeToma, 83, of the 1900 block of Beethoven Drive, passed away Thursday, Aug. 26, 2010. Iva was born in Augusta, Maine on March 25, 1927. She was the daughter of the late Harold and Katherine Meader. She graduated from Cony High School in Augusta in 1946 and then St. Margaret School of Nursing, where she became a registered nurse in 1950. Iva was a loving help mate for 60 years to her husband, Louis DeToma. Iva is survived by her husband, Louis P. DeToma; one daughter, Marie Hendricks; one son, Louis P. DeToma Jr.; three sisters, Geraldine Stanley, Theresa Judkins, Mary Ann Tartre; one brother, Harold Meader. She believed that you do not die when you live in the hearts of those you leave behind. A memorial Mass will be held at St. John the Apostle Catholic Church Thursday, Sept. 2, at 10 a.m. Her cremated remains will be placed in the waters of Schoodic, Maine. H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts., Laskin Road Chapel, is handling arrangements. Online condolences may be made at www.hdoliver.com. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made at www.childrenswish.org.

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Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Aug. 31, 2010.

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John Fucci

September 1, 2010

Dear Lou, Louie and Marie,

Although it has been many years since we have been a part of each others' lives, I am very sad to learn that Iva is no longer with you.

I have nothing but good memories of her and your family. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

September 1, 2010

Dear Lou, Louis and Marie
My heart goes out to you during this very difficult time in your lives. Both Jean and I want you to know that both Iva and you are in our hearts and prayers as we too mourn the passing of Aunt Iva.
I have always cherished the memories of the times we spent on Bailey's Island, 44 May Street Thanksgivings and most recently (26 years ago today), my wedding in Columbus Ohio in which both Lou and Iva made the trek to along with Marshall and my Mother. I probably never let you know how much that meant to me to have you in attendance as representatives of the Meader Family. Rest assured that my Aunt Iva will forever be a vibrant element of the many treasured memories I have of our extended family as we made the journey from toddler to adulthood. I don't need to tell you that Iva was a special person as you know that more than anyone but I do want you to know that despite the many miles and years that have separated us,my love and appreciation for Aunt Iva has never dimmed.
Please accept our deepest condolences and know that Iva's spirit will live on in our hearts and souls as we continue our own life journey.
God bless you all

With love and kindness

Mark, Jean, Bryan and Melissa Cameron
Appleton, Wisconsin

Jacinthe & John Albani

August 31, 2010

Dear DeToma Family
We are deeply saddened by the sudden loss of Iva....she was and always will be eternally in our hearts. May you all find strength, peace and love and remember she lives behind everlasting memories. We will miss 'our second mother' dearly and deeply!!!!

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