Search by Name

Search by Name

James Henderson Obituary

James R. Henderson IV NORFOLK - James J. "Jay" Henderson IV, 61, died Oct. 9, 2010 in Richlands, Va. Born in Raleigh, N.C., he was the son of Anna S. Henderson and the late James R. Henderson III. Jay was educated in Norfolk Public Schools and graduated from Maury High School, Old Dominion University and the University of Virginia Law School. He practiced law in Washington, D.C., and Southwestern Virginia for more than 35 years. Jay was also an avid blogger, his blog "Backcountry Notes," was generally about the history, geography, and mores of Southwestern Virginia, an area he dearly loved. He was described by fellow bloggers and readers as being wise, witty, and gentle, as well as being a great writer. An avid fisherman, Jay was a longtime member of Trout Unlimited. Left to cherish his memory besides his mother are his wife, Leslie Hibbitts Henderson of Richlands, Va.; a daughter, Gabrielle deCourcy of Tazewell, Va.; a son, James R. Henderson V of Norfolk; three sisters, Lee H. Lewis and her companion Tony Colon of Raleigh, N.C., Meredith H. Heywood and her husband Mark of Whynot, N.C., and Leslie H. Williams and her husband John of Charlottesville, Va.; a brother, Christopher Henderson and his wife Betty of Watertown, N.Y.; three stepsons, Brandon Hibbitts of Pikesville, Ky., and Justin and Nicholas Trout both of Lebanon, Va.; a granddaughter, Daphne Hibbitts; a grandniece, Mara Green; his previous wife, Felicia who raised Jay's first two children; and six nieces and nephews, Anna Green, Christine Williams, Joel Heywood, and Seth, Robert and Christopher Henderson. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Trout Unlimited, 1300 N. 17th St., Suite 500, Arlington, VA 22209-3801 (www.tu.org/donate) or to your local American Cancer Society. Online condolences may be offered to his family through www.hdoliver.com.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Oct. 31, 2010.

Memories and Condolences
for James Henderson

Not sure what to say?





2 Entries

Peggy Earle

November 2, 2010

My dear Anna, Meredith, Mark, Lee, Tony, Leslie, Chris, Anna Green, et. al.
I was so very sorry to hear of Jay's death. I was forwarded his obit by a friend at the Pilot. Please accept my most sincere condolences at this terribly sad time.
My thoughts are with you all.
love,
Peggy Earle

John Greenbacker Jr

November 1, 2010

This message is for Anna: No parent should ever have to outlive her child. The only comfort I can offer in this situation is that Jay, just as you and Jim, met the standard Confucius set for the best of us in this short life; he was an honorable part of the process.

Showing 1 - 2 of 2 results

Make a Donation
in James Henderson's name

Please consider a donation as requested by the family.

Memorial Events
for James Henderson

To offer your sympathy during this difficult time, you can now have memorial trees planted in a National Forest in memory of your loved one.

How to support James's loved ones
Honor a beloved veteran with a special tribute of ‘Taps’ at the National WWI Memorial in Washington, D.C.

The nightly ceremony in Washington, D.C. will be dedicated in honor of your loved one on the day of your choosing.

Read more
Attending a Funeral: What to Know

You have funeral questions, we have answers.

Read more
Should I Send Sympathy Flowers?

What kind of arrangement is appropriate, where should you send it, and when should you send an alternative?

Read more
What Should I Write in a Sympathy Card?

We'll help you find the right words to comfort your family member or loved one during this difficult time.

Read more
Resources to help you cope with loss
Estate Settlement Guide

If you’re in charge of handling the affairs for a recently deceased loved one, this guide offers a helpful checklist.

Read more
How to Write an Obituary

Need help writing an obituary? Here's a step-by-step guide...

Read more
Obituaries, grief & privacy: Legacy’s news editor on NPR podcast

Legacy's Linnea Crowther discusses how families talk about causes of death in the obituaries they write.

Read more
The Five Stages of Grief

They're not a map to follow, but simply a description of what people commonly feel.

Read more
Ways to honor James Henderson's life and legacy
Obituary Examples

You may find these well-written obituary examples helpful as you write about your own family.

Read more
How to Write an Obituary

Need help writing an obituary? Here's a step-by-step guide...

Read more
Obituary Templates – Customizable Examples and Samples

These free blank templates make writing an obituary faster and easier.

Read more
How Do I Write a Eulogy?

Some basic help and starters when you have to write a tribute to someone you love.

Read more