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John Alleva Obituary
Born in Providence, he was the son of Michele (Passalacqua) Almeida and the late John A. Alleva and stepson of Sergio Almeida.
Fiancee to Grace DiBenedetto and father of Sophia Alleva, who he leaves at home, Jon Alleva of Warwick, Haylee and Hannah DiBenedetto; brother of Gregory Alleva, Kim Pierce, Robin, Todd, and Gary Almeida; Uncle of 2 nieces and 1 nephew.
'His daughter was the best thing that had happened to him.'
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Memories and Condolences
for John Alleva
Lynn Anderson
September 8, 2008
Michelle, I don't know if you remember me or not but I remember both you and John. John and my brother, Mike, were good friends at Stone Hill. My heart breaks for you and Greg. You are in my thoughts and prayers. You have my deepest sympathy.
Rosemary Guignard
September 7, 2008
Michele-John was your son,your special son.Our children are a part of us that will live forever in our heart. John knows you were always there for him, you were his mom. Now its Johns turn, looking out for you where ever you are. God will be there for you and Greg and all your family, and thru time bring you peace. My heart is with you, Rosemary
Rosemary Passalacqua Guignard -St.Louis MO.
stan
September 4, 2008
hey bro i guess i should say goodbye but i prefer to say see you later. People say everyone has a special gift if you look hard enough. In your case it was pretty easy to see. You had the abilty to make every one around you laugh and feel better about what ever was bothering them. I couldn't begin to list all the things i will miss with you being gone , surfice to say you you will be deeply missed.
ps: if i know you, your trying to get a game together right know, save me a seat. love you bro
Lynette Guignard-Sielfleisch
September 3, 2008
Michele,
I use to think that the worst thing that could happen was the death of a parent. Then I became a parent and I realize that it would be a death of a child. I can only imagine the ache in your heart due to your loss. It almost seams sureal since you were at breakfast with us in St. Louis not to long ago and John called you while we were there since he had just returned to Rhode Island. Please know that you and the family are always in my thoughts and in my prayers. I just know that Aunt Marge is up there making John -John pestina and Uncle John is making sure it is being done right. He will be taken care of. All my love, Lynette
grace
September 1, 2008
its been a month and i still cant get over the fact you are really gone.i miss you so much and you missed sophia walking for the first time but i know you are watching over her and will be watching over the new baby too....i love you so much and know you are with me i just wish we had more time together but the 2 and half with you was the best years of my life and you know that you give me sophia and now this baby so i know you will live on in them and in my heart i love you always
Albert DeCubellis
August 31, 2008
I pray that although John's journey in this lifetime is now over, that he can now remain in peace for all eternity. May God grant you, Michelle, Greg and your entire family peace as well.
From me and my girls, please know we will keep you in our prayers during this difficult time.
Mike Benjamin
August 31, 2008
Greg&Michelle, When you see a childhood friend pass, who is your age, who you spent many days with, it really hits home. I have many nice memories of John starting at Stonehill School, and baseball down St Roccos. Fishing in Charlie Stones, hanging in the old neigborhood & seeing him periodically since HighSchool. He was a good guy. A good friend. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
Elisabeth DiBenedetto
August 30, 2008
i'm sorry for your loss.
haylee dibenedetto
August 25, 2008
john
i miss you i miss the days we spented in the pool and eating all mommy ice cream on her and u putting me to bed i love you and miss you.ill tell sophia and the new baby all about u and how much you love sophia..hannah misses you too she talks about you everyday about how you cooked better than mommy and she misses your cooking i love you john
a friend
August 25, 2008
I hope you have finally found peace...
a friend
August 24, 2008
john you were a great friend, the hole you leave in my life can never be filled. our thoughts and prayers are with your family always
John & Marilyn Dolan
August 20, 2008
Michele, Although we did not have the opportunity to meet your son John we are sure that with you as his mother he was a fine young man. Our prayers go out to you and John's family
a friend
August 19, 2008
In My Pocket
I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.
My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.
They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.
Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.
But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.
Heather & Joe DiBenedetto
August 18, 2008
Dear Grace & Sophia,
We are so very sorry about the sudden and sad death of John. We hope all the happy memories of him bring you comfort.
Love always,
Mom & Dad
Ariana Alleva
August 18, 2008
He was the greatest uncle there ever was. The sound of his voice still runs through my mind. The laughter we shared together still remains in my heart. The memories we mde will stay with me until the day I die. I love you more than words can explain, and I miss you more than my actions can show. The time we were able to spend together means so much more to me now than it ever did before.
I would give anything to just tell you I love you one last time. The way you used to talk to me and the way you used to hug me I miss the most. I want nothing more than to just have one last hug, but I wouldn't be sure if I could ever let go. I think about you every night and hope I will wake up and it will all be a dream.
You will always be missed, and I love you unclde John.
this is us on 5th ave and one of the last picture of sophia with both of her parents
August 17, 2008
Kimberly (Walters) Sorrentino
August 17, 2008
To John's Family and Friends,
My prayers are with you all at this difficult time. John was such a great person and will forever live in our memories. I am sure that I will continue to think of him often.
I have so many memories of John. I also met John in "the neighborhood". I remember the many rides w/Anthony, the many long nights at Muldoons, and endless trips to Foxwoods. No matter where he was there were always smiles and laughter. You couldn't help but have fun when he was around.
It has been a long time since I have seen John and have never met his son and daughter. I hope that they will know what a special man there dad was.
Kristen Clougherty
August 16, 2008
The disbelief of John's passing has made choosing the correct words to write difficult.
John and I worked together for years, but we became friends instantly. It was a rare day if we did not laugh at least once.
John had the ability to charm a room full of people and did it with very little effort. Simply put, those who knew John felt the same about him; John was just a very likable person.
I am so deeply saddened for John's family, and for his children, Jon and Sophia. As long as he lives on in those who loved him, he is never really gone.
My heart, thoughts and prayers are with each of you in this sorrowful time...
Joann Vy
August 16, 2008
Michele & Greg
Michele, I never got the chance to know John but from what I do know he was a great son and loved you dearly. I also do know that John is looking down at you smiling right now. I can not begin to imagine what you are going through and feeling right now and I am deeply sorry from the bottom of my heart. With loosing a son you have gained an angel that will now and forever be watching over you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Greg, you always spoke to me about John, how great of a brother he was to you, and how much fun you guys had when you were younger, always caring and loving you no matter what you put him through. John loved you then and John loves you now and always, keep his memories alive and in your heart forever.
Greg Alleva
August 16, 2008
Mom
Memories of my brother, we never seen eye to eye, but you would die for me like I would die for you. There is no bond deeper than a brothers love. Mom I have so many memories I will only list a few, like the nights before christmas when John and I would set out cookies for santa, we would wake up to a house full of presents, while the night before our poor father was yelling about putting the toys together. Baseball games on saturday at shake rocco, playing for the pardraes. I remember the first day my brother and I swam in the new pool and you yelled at us because it was half full. All the days just hanging around in our neighborhood with you (my brother), fish, berlim, boo boo, bryan, david, and every one else, those were the best days of our lives and we all realize that now. John... How can I leave out those nights at 2 in the morning when just you and I would gettine the lexus and drive to your favorite place (foxwoods). You my brother was always there for me, weather I was right or wrong, you always protected and provided for me. Mom John will always be in our hearts prayers forever.
Michael Santosuosso
August 15, 2008
It has been fifteen days and I still have not been able to accept it. Now, by reading all of these, makes it real. The old saying, "only the good die young," couldn't be more true. You will be missed my brother, and I always smile when I think of the funniest thing you ever said to me. "Mike, you know I don't do manual labor".
My sincerest condolences to your whole family.
"
Charlie & Karen Chatman
August 15, 2008
We met John in Florida and celebrated Sophia's 1st birthday with the family and friends at the beach. What a grand time we had. John was a caring father and a great guy. He will be missed by all who knew and loved him. Charlie & Karen Chatman
jasmine
August 14, 2008
grace,
i very sorry for your loss.just know he is up there watching over you
Jessica Cooney
August 13, 2008
John was a man that had a heart of gold, he would do anything for his family and friends. I started as shirley, johns, and little johns hairdresser and became true friends with them. John was a remarkable man, we used to have so much fun going to balls, I even beat him at poker once. To his mom,brother Shirley, John ,Sophia and Grace my heart goes out to all of you, I will keep you all in my prayers and I know that he is watching over everyone of you. God Bless
Billy and Becky Russell
August 13, 2008
Michele and her family
We only knew John for a short time, it was a joy to know him. He had a great smile and wonderful laugh. Though we are his mother's friends, he made us feel as though we were his friend too. He had that way about him. We know he will be missed. Though we can not imagine your pain, our hearts are with all his loved ones.
Maria Thomas
August 13, 2008
Michele and family.
John will be missed by all of us, family and friends. We are glad to have had the opportunity to know John and to enjoy him. He loved life and he truly loved his family. He was an amazing person. Our condolences to all his family.
Maria and Tom
Dawn Rich
August 13, 2008
I never got to meet John, but from what I have heard from Grace and the children he was a wonderful man, with a big heart..He will be missed so much by all his family and friends, but especialy by his daughter Sophia and his fiance Grace. He loved his daughter so much and loved to make her smile. John was a great man, so let's keep his memorie alive in his little girl, and remind her everyday how much her daddy loved her.
SARAH DI BENEDETTO
August 13, 2008
Grace,
only time will tell what happens and why... but remember the times you spend with John. And the love you had. John loved you and sophia so much. now you will always have John with you in Sophia and the new baby.
Kirsten Ruzicki
August 13, 2008
Grace, Sophia, Michelle, & Greg,
No one, could know, what each one of you are going through, right now. One thing that comes to mind at this sorrow time is, LETS ALL KEEP, JOHN'S MEMORY GOING FOR SOPHIA'S SAKE. She desrves to know how much her Daddy loved her, and how much he wanted to raise his daughter.
All our thoughts & prayers are with you, We are here for you...
Love, Kirsten Dirk Kim & Leah
KERI TIMOTEO
August 12, 2008
DEAR GRACE
I NEVER GOT TO MEET JOHN IN PERSON BUT WE DID GET TO TALK ON THE PHONE I KNOW HE LOVED YOU AND SOPHIA VERY MUCH THATS WHY HE CAME HOME TO BE WITH YOU TREASURE ALL THE MEMORIES YOU HAVE OF HIM AND KEEP THEM CLOSE TO YOUR HEART HE WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU IN YOUR HEART
Rosalie DeBenedetto
August 12, 2008
When tragedy hits your family it brings back memories that you haven't thought about - some make you laugh and some make you cry. My father use to say "Live everyday as if it were your last - because you don't know what tomorrow will bring" . Keep in touch with family and friends and let them know how you feel every chance you get...
robert
August 12, 2008
john was a great guy and loved sophia with all his heart and i just wanted to say im sorry to his mom and grace for your lost
john and sophia at the beach in june
grace dibenedetto
August 12, 2008
this a picture of john and sophia and john really loved this one cause they are both making the same faces
August 12, 2008
People come in your life for many different reasons some are long term and some are short, but the memories you created during that time never go away. My condolences to the Alleva's and Almeida's.
Kevin
August 12, 2008
I remember John from the neighborhood, and my fondest memories are the parties at his and Greg's house (sorry Michelle) with Shirley and Cindy and everyone else from the neighborhood. My condolences to his mom and Greg and his son Jon and Shirley and daughter Sophia.
Alyssa Piva
August 12, 2008
My Uncle John was one of the greatest men I ever knew. I will always remember all the holidays together as a family, how protective my uncles always were with me. I'm so grateful that I got to spend time with my Uncle before he left us, the day we spent together at Disney will always make me smile. For those that knew John you will understand what an amazing person we have all lost.He will always be remembered as the the big loveable guy, cracking jokes and having a huge smile on his face. I will miss him SO much, and he will be in my thoughts and prayers always.
Robin Almeida
August 12, 2008
Even though John and I were not brother and sister by blood, he was always one of my little brothers. I will also treasure the memories I have of spending time with John and what a wonderful man he was. I miss you John and love you.
Tina Pagliarini
August 12, 2008
Micheele, Gregory,
I am so sorry for your loss. John John was a great friend and person who will always be in my heart. We all had great times in silver lake at grandma's house.
David Benedetti
August 12, 2008
It was the last day of July as I was preparing my "old" tackle box to take my two sons fishing. In the box I discovered two fishing licenses, one with my name and one that said "John Alleva" dated 1992. It was as if he was saying "hi"...
Two days later I got the shocking news of his passing... was he saying good-bye?
To my old neighborhood friend who I have not seen in years where have all the good times gone? Fishing, High Lo Jack, Las Vegas, I remember them so vividly.
To John and his family you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Peace be with you...
grace dibenedetto
August 12, 2008
john was a great father and the love of my life.sophia is only 14months old but she will know what a great and loved father she had and john always said sophia was the best thing that had happened to him and he loved being a father and i will always love and miss him so much
john's fiancee grace
sandra & Gregory mitton
August 11, 2008
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Maria DeSimone -Maggiacomo
August 11, 2008
Dear Greg and family,
My heart goes out to you all for your loss. John was a wonderful person, brother, son and friend... I will miss see his smiling face. God bless to your family and his little girl..
Childhood friend,
joyce and tom mollo
August 11, 2008
we are so thankful for having the opportunity to meet john in florida and spend time with him. he was a most wonderful fun loving man. he will be sadly missed. michele, serge, and greg, we extend our deepest sympathy.
Alan De Palo
August 11, 2008
"John John" will be remembered by me as a great kid from the old neighborhood (Westwood). Boy we had a great place to grow up! Although I have not seen you in years it is sad to loose you. May you rest in peace and god bless your Mom and Brother Greg with the strength to hang in there. May you rest in peace...
David Pecchia
August 11, 2008
A friend that I grew up with in the old neighborhood. My thoughts and prayers are with the family at this time.
Scott Raposa
August 11, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with The Alleva and Almeida Family during this time. John will always be remembered.
Kim Pierce
August 11, 2008
I am so thankful for the time we spent together. John was a wonderful brother and we all will miss him dearly.
Gail and John Barrick
August 11, 2008
We just met John when he came to stay here in Florida with his Mom and stepdad a few months ago and he left a wonderful impression on us both. He was such a nice guy and sooo loved Sophia. We had some good times, and he was usually smiling. He will be missed by all that knew him.
Kellie George (Hill)
August 11, 2008
Michelle Greg & Family
I am so sorry to hear about John. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family. I have such wonderful memories of all of us together. Please know I'm thinking of you.
Michele Almeida
August 11, 2008
My last Christmas with both my sons!
Mom
August 11, 2008
The special bond of love that I shared with my son will always be a source of comfort to me. You never have enough time to share with the one's you love. But I do thank God that he allowed me the last months of my son's life here in Florida. John and I made a lot of wonderful memories together these last few months that will always be precious to me.
I know John will be missed by so many people that he held dear. To all of you, be happy that you made some wonderful memories with him, so that you will remember him fondly.
Thank you all for being a part of his life.
Arthur Zanfagna
August 11, 2008
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
David DeCubellis
August 10, 2008
As children, "John John" and I lived directly across the street from each other. I can recall the two of us getting into fights about silly kid stuff but then knocking on each other's door the next day to do the crazy stuff we did back then.
It grieves me to see John's picture and know that he is no longer with us. I have nothing but fond memories of his brother Greg and loving mother Michelle. That family has played a very big role in what I consider to be the best childhood a person can have.
Rest in peace, John. You will be missed. God bless you Michelle and Greg.
Susan Ricci
August 10, 2008
My deepest sympathy to John's family. My nephew, John Ferro, brought John into my life - he is the nicest, most polite young man that I will remember with a smile.
Eric Kopitsky Jr.
August 10, 2008
As a good friend who had a lot of love for you, isend my prayers for you and to your family..god bless..
kerri marano
August 10, 2008
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
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