Rich was born in Trenton, N.J., Oct. 4, 1947, the third of four children born to the late Robert B. and Doris (Oliver) Cain. He recalled a "great childhood" growing up in a Detroit neighborhood surrounded by peers he thoroughly enjoyed.
It was in Detroit that he became an active member of Westminster Presbyterian Church, its youth group and its summer camp on Higgins Lake. Rich's experience at Camp Westminster prepared him in 1977 to begin summer work with the State of Michigan as a Camp Licensing Consultant, a position from which he planned retirement in 2008. Rich considered himself extremely fortunate to work toward providing, in cooperation with his fellow consultants and the staff members of "his" camps, for the safety of children in beautiful northern Michigan settings.
Rich earned a Bachelor of Arts from Alma College in 1970, and with the support of his church was subsequently enrolled in the Presbyterian Seminary, Louisville, Ky., until the death of his sister, Barbara, led him to return home as comfort to his parents. For the remainder of his life he lived his faith in caring for loved ones and responding to the needs of others, especially children. Rich began a career in special education on the childcare staff at Hawthorn Center (Northville) before earning a Master of Arts in the College of Education from Eastern Michigan University in 1977.
While employed at Hawthorn Center, Rich worked alongside and subsequently married Cheryl Ann Eldridge at Westminster Presbyterian Church in Detroit on April 9, 1977. They relocated to Leelanau County the following fall when Rich accepted a teaching position in the Northport Schools. Aside from missing family and friends downstate, Rich never regretted trading the pace of urban life for the more manageable rhythms up north.
Richard continued his career in special education as a teacher and teacher consultant for TBAISD from 1981 until his retirement in August this year. During that time the network of persons with whom he served expanded to include school staff, families and children in the Kalkaska, Buckley and Leelanau County Public and Parochial Schools. As in his camp licensing position, he valued and was valued by those in all positions within the school systems. While a teacher in the TBAISD New Campus program, the Michigan Assn. of Teachers of Emotionally Disturbed Children recognized Rich as Teacher of the Year.
Rich and Cheryl built a home and life together in Bingham Township, a life forever blessed by the birth of their daughter, Leslie, and son, Brett. As a father, Rich was a loving presence in every aspect of his children's lives, providing discipline and support, coaching them, applauding them and holding them close to him. In recent years he was honored to see his children choose careers in human service upon completion of their university educations. Rich expressed in every contact with family his love for each of us and received ours in full measure.
He is survived by loving family members; wife, Cheryl Cain of Suttons Bay; children, Leslie Cain of Portage and Brett Cain of Fort Collins, Colo.; brother, Robert (Mary Ellen) Cain of Ann Arbor; sister, Mary Ann (Patrick) Herek of Brighton; sister-in-law and brother-in-law, Karen and Norman Peters of Brighton; special cousins, D. Jeffrey (Teena) Cain of Parker, Colo., and Barry Cain and his partner, Pete Owens of Virginia Beach, Va.; together with the nieces, nephews and additional cousins with whom he shared mutual affection across time and distance.
In addition to his parents and sister, Rich was preceded in death by loving parents-in-law, Don and Lucille Eldridge.
A Memorial Celebration of Life and Love will be held at 3 p.m. on Sunday, Sept. 14, 2008, at The Presbyterian Church of Traverse City, 701 Westminster, Traverse City. The Rev. Wallace Mayton and the Rev. Dale Swihart, long-time friends and fellow seminarians, will officiate. Following services, Rich's family will receive friends for a time of sharing memories and a light luncheon in the Fellowship Hall. Cremation has taken place.
In remembrance of Rich, memorials may be directed to Traverse Health Clinic and Coalition, 3183 Logan Valley Road, Traverse City, 49684. The Clinic and Coalition provides medical diagnostic and treatment services to persons in three counties who would otherwise be without them. Rich and his family truly valued the health care available to them through his employee insurance plan and wish that no one be deprived of that comfort.
Each winter Rich and Cheryl daily lit a candle on their table to dispel the morning and early evening darkness until spring restored light. As an alternative to flowers, you may honor Rich by bringing to the memorial service a small candle and holder of your choice which will be lit and placed on a unity table at the church, symbolic of the light and love he brought into our lives.
Arrangements were made with the Reynolds-Jonkhoff Funeral Home and Cremation Services; www.reynolds-jonkhoff.com.
This obituary was originally published in the Record-Eagle.
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Chuck Guenther
September 22, 2008
Dear Cheryl
Iam devestated by Rich's passing. I just found out yesterday and have not stopped thinking about him, you and the kids. Rich brought so much joy to my life. When we started New Campus together he was always a calming influence on me and those around him...and we sure needed as much calm as we could get!! My heart and prayers go out to you and the family.
With most sincere sorrow.
Chuck
Kathleen Parcia
September 14, 2008
Cheryl,
My heart knows part of what you feel having Rich physically gone from you. The memorial service today was a celebration of the man you loved. You were ever so brave to stand at the microphone and share this journey with all of us. The Maya Angelo quote sums it up for sure ~ people may forget your words and your actions but they won't forget how you made them feel. I am truly grateful for you and Rich opening your home to me when I needed it the most after Travis died. It was a peaceful, warm and safe haven for me. And you both were so loving and gracious. Please know that I'm right around the corner from you and we can get together while Rich and Travis and all our other loved ones are together.
Until then...know how much love surrounds you and Leslie and Brett.
Blessings,
Brad Harris
September 14, 2008
I have really enjoyed Rich and his encouragement as our Youth Camp Consultant in Manton.MI. He was easy to talk to and great to work with. We will greatly miss Rich and his yearly visits to us at Whispering Pines Wesleyan Campground. He was well liked and cared about. What a great man!
Know that the Cain family is in our prayers and thoughts.
Youth Camp Director,
Brad Harris
Camp 180
Bill Cataldo
September 13, 2008
Cheryl, Leslie & Brett,
Since first grade, when Brett had the honor of introducing me to your family, I have come to view you all as not just great friends, but family as well. The support Mr. and Mrs. Cain showed during soccer games from elementary through high school kept us going. You both not only encouraged us athletically, but academically and socially as well.
I can’t remember how many game days we spent in your basement watching Michigan football games while playing ping-pong. Years later, upon our return from college, Spartan games would also be televised while talking about my future career in education. I think I speak for us all when I say that Rich and Cheryl had a helping hand in taking a group of boys and helping them become adults.
I don’t view Rich’s passing as the loss of a great friend’s father. Rather, I view it as the loss of a fatherly figure who I hold memories for through every major stage of my life. There are not many people that hold that distinction in my life, let alone ones who were so kind hearted and willing to do anything for others. For those reasons, and many more, he will be greatly missed but far from forgotten.
From the Cataldo family and Erin, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love,
Dolly, Pete, Kevin, Bill and Erin
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Herb Boyer
September 12, 2008
Dear Cheryl, Leslie & Brett, (& Marianne & Rob),
With my deepest sympathy and kindest thoughts I write this to each of you. Rich impacted so many people's lives in a positive and en"Rich"ing manner. It is still hard for me to come to the realization of Rich's passing. It was an honor for me to have Rich as one of my best friends for all these years. Rich was always more socially conscious and progressive thinking (against wars, social injustice, etc.) in that regard especially when it came people caring and directly helping with other peoples welfare/needs. I always respected him for his caring characteristics and viewpoints. He was an excellent listener. Our friendship developed over many years. We attended the same Westminster Church on Hubbell Street in Detroit, Camp Westminster at Higgins Lake, we went to Cooley High School, attended Highland Park Junior College together for 2 years, and then based on his advice we attended and graduated from Alma College. During these many maturing years, we studied together, hung out at each others houses (helped drive our parents nuts) did many social and fun things...due to similar interests in music, cars (fast), ping pong, sports, etc. Most of all we seemed to communicate well together due to his great listening ear and he was able to provide logical & sound advice. Rich was always very sociable and created friends and acquaintances very easily.
I remember some of the times that we worked out in Iowa together during various Spring Breaks and especially the entire Summer of 1970. We worked together on the track section crew laying ties and replacing rails. We worked hard (sometimes in 110 degree heat) but we all got along great with the other crew members (mostly college kids...our age) and he was liked and respected by the whole crew. He always had a fun loving attitude that inspired us all to work harder and accomplish high work objectives even though the work was kind of tiring and very repetitious. He made it fun. I will always remember that Summer with him, because after that he went on to the Seminary and I had to go into the Navy. This was a transitional period of time in both of our lives...but we did correspond via the mail during that time period. What was kind of neat about our friendship was that after returned from the military service (1973) we still could communicate and have fun together, even though we changed (matured) quite a lot. In these later years we sort of drifted apart due to jobs, family, obligations, distance, etc...but it was Rich that kept in contact via Christmas Cards and/or periodic phone calls.
Rich truly heeded his calling and put his many talents to work to benefit others. I was most fortunate to have been considered one of his close friends and I am truly grateful for all of his positive influences and impacts that he has made upon me in my life. He made me a better person. I still sense that Rich is still with me (us) in some manner....maybe not physically, but in other loving, caring, & guiding presence. I will never forget Rich and will be always be grateful for the time I spent with him. We send to each of you our Love.
Herb & Sally Boyer
John Sutliff
September 11, 2008
I was a young camper when I first met Rich. The summer of ‘67, or was it ’68? He was the camp canoe instructor then, and I believe he also served as a counselor.
I really can’t remember where my love of canoeing started, but I am pretty sure Rich was directly responsible for helping develop it. Even now I can hear him yelling out from the shore “DON’T PADDLE ON THE SAME SIDE.” As far as I am concerned, that was his trademark. Of course, the reasoning behind his ranting was that he didn’t want us to capsize and experience the frigid waters of Higgins Lake in June!
Because of that early experience, Rich will always be with me throughout the rest of my life. Whenever I am in a canoe, I instinctively switch my paddle to the other side when the bowman invades that territory. It is second nature to me, I don’t even think about it. Today I own both a canoe and a kayak. I have made multiple trips down the Au Sable and each one of them brings back terrific memories of Camp Westminster and Rich.
Rich will be remembered by my kids too because I find myself yelling “DON’T PADDLE ON THE SAME SIDE” to them when we are out on the water and they break Rich’s cardinal rule.
God grant you fair winds and following seas Rich. We will miss you!
Jim Allison
September 11, 2008
Rich was a person I considered as one of my best friends. I felt extremely fortunate to spend much of my life with him. We grew up in the same neighborhood in Detroit, attended the same schools and church and also shared a friendship that was very close.
One of the most significant adventures of our lives was our experience at Camp Westminster on Higgins Lake. We were both campers and counselors together and truly developed our faith in God and Christ while spending our summers there.
Rich was just a joy to be with and will certainly be missed by all his friends and family. A part of him, whether it be his love for life or his humor will always be with us. We can also say without reservation that Rich's life was a life well lived.
Jim and Cindy Allison
Ruth and Elmer Peterman
September 10, 2008
This is one of those events that is so very difficult to comprehend, let alone understand. All of us who worked with Rich on various teams at TBA, loved working with him. He was caring, competent, fun and he loved kids. He was very proud of his family. Our prayers are with all of you as you deal with this huge loss.
Marthe Soden
September 10, 2008
Dear Cain family,
I was so very sorry to hear of your loss. I remember Rich from our high school days at Westminster Church in Detroit. He had a big heart and an outgoing, fun personality. I am sure he will be sorely missed and foundly remembered by all who knew him.
Sincerely,
Marthe Schneider Soden
Ginny McCormick Newman
September 10, 2008
Dearest Cheryl, Leslie, and Brett,
My family was so deeply saddened to hear of your loss. Even though I never worked with Rich it is evident just how much joy he brought to those he came into close contact with. Please know you are held up in prayer today and always. God Bless you and your family.
Brenda Brooks-Murphy
September 9, 2008
Dear Cheryl, Leslie, Brett, and Family,
Our hearts and prayers and deepest sympathy go out to you. We were stunned and heartbroken to hear of Rich's passing. Dick and I have known Rich as a great friend for many years through our work in camp leadership at Crystal Conference Center in Frankfort . We too will always remember his wonderful laugh and sense of humor, his dedication to children and camping programs, the way he always took the time and genuine interest to sit and talk, to hear about our families and our camp family and program, to trade stories about Alma College and teaching. He spoke with love and humor of his wife and family and it was evident how very proud he was of his children, and how much he loved his life.
My favorite times with Rich were when he would join us at camp for lunch, which, believe it or not, always seemed to be grilled cheese and tomato soup no matter what year it was! He also never seemed to tire of the same camp songs over and over!
I called upon Rich for guidance many times. Our camp Deans appreciated Rich for his support and respect. Rich was a wonderful person, and we will miss him dearly.
Sincerely,
Brenda and Dick Murphy
Crystal Conference Center (DOC)
John Vanderlind
September 9, 2008
Dear Cheryl and family: We share your sorrow at the sudden passing of Rich. No one knows the pain of such a loss more than the family. But we, your neighbors, friends and colleagues support you through the days ahead when the sun and flowers will again warm your hearts.
Sharon Husted
September 9, 2008
Cheryl, Leslie & Brett:
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of Rich -- a wonderful husband, father and friend.
We are truly blessed to have known him. We will never forget the friendship your family has shown Chauncey and our entire family over the years. And, especially the wonderful times we all had when the boys played soccer together.
The times you opened your house and welcomed the young boys with open arms has truly meant the world to not only Chauncey, but our entire family as well.
Our prayers, love and support are with you always.
The Husteds -- Gary, Sharon, Chauncey & Brittany
Ellen/Jerry Cook
September 9, 2008
Dear Cain Family,
We were sorry to hear of Rich's passing. We enjoyed meeting with him each when he visited the Christian Life Club in Manton, MI. He always dealt fairly and kindly with us.
Revs. Ellen and Jerry Cook
Directors of the North Michigan CLC Camp
Monica West
September 9, 2008
Dear Cain family,
My name is Monica West I am a RN in the Ortho clinic at U of M. I did not take care of Richard while he was in the hospital but I did talk with his wife on the phone a couple of times. I just wanted to say how sorry and sad I was when I heard about Mr. Cain. I did not do much for Mr. Cain although I hope I helped get some things done for his wife. I know all to well how it is to loose a love one. From what I have read about Mr. Cain he sounded like a worderfull man, husband, father and friend. I wanted his family to know how sorry I am for their lost. May you find peace knowing Mr Cain is in heaven with GOD. GOD must have needed a good man like Mr. Cain in heaven to help him. My thoughts and prayers. Monica West
Sue Arnold
September 9, 2008
Dear Cheryl, Leslie, Brett, and family,
Our family is keeping each of you in our hearts and prayers at this difficult time. Rich's spirit will continue to live through each of you.
Janine Winkler
September 8, 2008
Dear Cheryl,
You are loved and held in prayer.
Janine Winkler and family
Thomas Ault
September 7, 2008
Dear Cheryl, Leslie, Brett and family,
I loved your father for all of the joy and laughter he brought to this world. I still can't believe this loss. Rich's memory, his love for others and his zest for life will live on in all of us. My most sincere prayer for quiet peace and my saddest condolences to you. TA Ault
Joyce MacManus
September 7, 2008
I worked with Rich at Pathfinder School for what seems forever. I always looked forward to having him walk into my classroom. He was kind, gentle and always had a sense of humor. Many of the children we tested are grown now. Our last conversation was at the end of the school year. We talked about how to spend our retirement. My heart goes out to his family. I feel a personal lost knowing I will never see him again.
Barbara, Chris and Sean McCann
September 7, 2008
Dear Cheryl, Leslie and Brett
What wonderful memories our family has of our early (younger) days in Northport, teaching with Rich and celebrating the Cain, Kimmerly and McCann kids' birthdays together for so many years. Please know that the sound of Rich's infectious laugh, his patient and kind attitude, and the effects of his outstanding character will forever remain with those whose lives he touched. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
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