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for John Wren
Toni Griesmer
January 2, 2009
Dear Traci, Jordan and Miles,
I have tried many times to sit down and write some meaningful words that will help to comfort you during this time, but I have concluded that there are no such words. No words can adequately describe how much we all love and miss "Big Tom". He was a wonderful brother-in-law, always a calm and steady presence, always ready to help in any way or just to lend an ear, and I am so lucky to have had him as my brother. I have been deeply touched by the outpouring of love and concern that have been shown to you, Jordan and Miles. It is a true testament to you, the kind of family you and Tom have built and to the kind of man Tom was. I will always cherish all the wonderful memories that we shared with you and "Big Tom", and we will always do our best to take care of you and the kids and keep his memory alive and present in our lives. He was truly a wonderful person and like my favorite movie, "It's a Wonderful Life", Tom had a wonderful life with you, Jordan and Miles, and as the angel, Clarence says in the movie, "No man is a failure who has friends", Tom touched countless people during his life and we are all much better off for having known him. "Big Tom" will always be with us, I would like to think, like Clarence, he is our Guardian Angel and he will always be watching over all of us.
We love you so much, Traci, Jordan and Miles, you will always be in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Toni
Greg Land
December 30, 2008
The following words were written by Tom’s friend Greg Land and read at the Memorial Service by Pastor Jeff Scott.
I can't remember exactly when I first met Tom, but it was when we were around 10 or 11 I am guessing. To be honest, I am not sure how he even came into the neighborhood, he was simply there one day.
But I can remember every moment since we met. I can remember us going to Salem Redbird's baseball games as kids and heckling the opposing players until they were ready to ring our necks. Thank you Mr. Wren for hauling Tom and I around, that was great fun and the memories will last a lifetime.
Oddly enough, I had gotten out of the habit of going to those games but Tom never did. During one of our many phone conversations he chided me for not going and said "you need to take the time to go.." and I replied “Tom remember I have 5 kids and you have 2". So you guessed it, I went. Every game my 9 year old son Kendall and I attended this past season we always looked for Tom, and we always could find him right behind the visitor’s dugout with Jordan and Miles. Guys, you can tell me later if your Dad was still heckling the players.
We both shared a love forbaseball...yes indeed. And Miles, all those baseball cards that your Dad has saved for you...remember that he got all those Ricky Henderson rookie cards from me! May the memories of those cards always remind you of your Dad buddy.
As a side note Jordan, can you let me in on the secret of how you and Miles seemed to always have a handful of baseballs and cracked bats and God knows what other mementos at each game. Your Dad would just smile that wide grin and shake his head in disbelief...but he wouldn't tell.
Later, after we both tumbled through Northside High School, Tom would find his way to college at Radford while I moved on to Va. Beach. I fondly recall those weekend trips from the beach to Radford to see Tom. It was always a good time and, we best just leave it at that.
Speaking of Radford, thank you Traci for choosing to go there as well; you made Tom a very happy man and a whole man as a result of your decision. His devotion to you was entire and I can only aspire to be as good a husband to my wife as Tom was to you. He spoke often and openly of his love for you. Regardless of his rather bushy goatee, there was no "macho" to Tom when it came to you. He was a puppy dog in love and proud of it! Mr. Wren, your son Tom, learned that lesson from you; you were a fine teacher and he was an eager student.
After college, Tom called me and informed me that he was possibly coming to Chesapeake to take a job with the State Probation Office. I was ecstatic; after accepting the position he moved in with my brother Tommy, mutual friend Chad, and myself until Traci could move down.
It was great to have had this intermittent time with Tom; it was quite apparent that Tom had begun the transformation from "college kid" to adulthood. His priorities were set and they were clear. He was preparing for the next step in his life with Traci while we were still "living for the day". I was proud of Tom and to be honest, I was envious of him too. He had set the table for his future while I was still sorting the silverware.
Tom remained in Chesapeake while I moved back to Roanoke. At this time I had begun to see my wife Bonnie and as time evolved we both were soon to be married. Tom to Traci and Greg to Bonnie. Our weddings were one week apart and I had the honor of serving in Tom's wedding and he in mine. Our families would both be blessed with children in the ensuing years and as Tom and Traci made their way back to Roanoke we would often discuss our growing families over the phone.
During those conversations it was clear that Tom was not a fantastic
employee, although I am sure he was, or that he had recently earned his Masters Degree, which he did, or that he was enjoying his new position on the faculty at Radford University, which he was, but that he was first and foremost a father, a husband, a son, a brother and an uncle. He couldn't stop talking about his family.
Tom was my brother and quite literally a part my family, my whole family. My cousin Randy and Tom were also the very best of friends and I know that I speak for him as well when I say that I miss him greatly. That gimpy walk, the taking off your glasses to clear your eyes after a hard laugh, the too high white socks. The good, the bad...I miss it all buddy and bid you a reluctant farewell Captain.
-Greg Land (Dec. 5, 2008)
Tom Griesmer
December 29, 2008
The following words were written and spoken by Tom’s brother-in-law and friend, Tom Griesmer, at the Memorial Service…
I suspect that each of us knew a little different Tom Wren. You knew him in a way that matched his many roles in life. You may have known him as a childhood friend, work colleague, a neighbor, college professor or student, probation officer. You knew him as a son, son-in-law, brother, uncle, dad, a husband.
I knew Tom as a brother-in-law. One of the many blessings Tom and I shared was that we were part of a loving extended family. As son-in-laws together in the Miles family we spent lots of time together over the years. Our families vacationed together at the beach in Florida, we’ve been to Walt Disney World together, and our families go to Myrtle Beach each summer. We’ve spent many Thanksgivings, Christmas’, Labor Days and regular weekends together. I knew Tom as “Big Tom”.
The name “Big Tom” minimized the confusion with two son-in-laws named Tom. But the name surely fit the man. It captured Tom’s giant heart, playful spirit, gentle way and frankly his six foot plus frame.
Over the years I witnessed Big Tom in his most important role as a father and husband. Many people fill their day with appointments and activities demanded by society. Many also wonder how they will fit in time for the family. Big Tom approached it a little differently. He started with the family time and activities and let the world have whatever time was left in the schedule.
Big Tom’s activities with Jordan and Miles included countless baseball and football games. Listening to an excited Jordan and Miles talk about the free baseball, hockey puck or autograph obtained at the last game, you clearly saw a father completely devoted to his children. He took Jordan to the ballet. He was Miles’ baseball coach.
Tom recently said that the sun always shines on Tom Wren. It was true. At a recent Radford basketball game, Tom, Jordan and Miles arrived prior to game time. They were starving. They were disappointed when they learned that due to renovations at the building they weren’t selling food. At one of the timeouts a local pizza place was giving away a hot pizza to one person at the game. You guessed it; the sun was shining on Tom Wren. That’s right; they got a hot pizza delivered to them in the stands that night. At the beach, Big Tom would sneak out of the condo early in the morning and take Jordan and Miles to breakfast. If there was something fun to do in town like the Globetrotters, they were there. They valued their time together.
His devotion to Traci was inspiring too. Whether it was something small like stopping by the store to pick up a diet Coke in a Styrofoam cup for her, bringing flowers home or buying a bead for her necklace for no special reason, he was always looking for a way to treat her special. They shared many things including a love for learning, love for reading and a love for spending time together and just talking.
Tom’s top priority in life was his family. I always left a vacation, weekend or outing with Big Tom with the thought that I needed to be a little more like him.
Yes, the sun did always shine on Big Tom and he cast a large shadow. A shadow filled with tremendous love and devotion for his family. A love that inspired others. A love that will endure.
-Thomas F. Griesmer (Dec. 5, 2008)
Bryan Murphy
December 28, 2008
The following words were written and spoken by Tom’s friend and colleague Bryan Murphy at the Memorial Service…
Allow me to predicate my words today by saying that while this may be the most difficult task I have ever confronted, I do so proudly and with honor, because I do so in remembrance of a great man and wonderful friend.
Tom Wren was often affectionately referred to, in our office, as “Big Baby Boy.” Some years ago, while passing through a nursing home, Tom got onto an elevator where a petite elderly lady already stood. When Tom entered the elevator, this stranger, without prompting, immediately looked up and said, “Why you look just like a great Big Baby Boy!”
Tom was obviously not embarrassed or hurt by her recognition of his boyish good looks, as he has proudly told this story often, and from that emerged his nickname. But, behind his youthful appearance, was a kind man with a big heart, who was always willing to help those around him. It was these attributes that made him such a good officer and teacher, a trusted friend, and above all a devoted father and husband.
Tom successfully fulfilled many roles, and I believe he was proud of each of those titles. While he was certainly a consummate professional, respected by all his peers, I know he was no more proud of any title bestowed on him than that of father and husband. Tom made no secret, that he was a father and husband first and foremost. Traci, Jordan and Miles, Tom loves you so much. He spoke of you daily, and his office was a virtual scrap-book of his life and love for each of you. His walls and desk were covered with your photos, drawings, cards, and letters, and he would seize any opportunity to proudly boast of your accomplishments, great or small, but they were all great in his eyes.
I always felt that one of Tom’s greatest talents was his ability to inject humor into the most serious of situations. I remember several years ago, during a team building exercise at an annual staff meeting, a speaker asked each person in the room to stand, and reveal something about each ourselves that few others would know. (In this room full of stiff probation officers) After several of the safe answers that you might probably expect, (my own included) Tom stood, and with a straight face, admitted that he, in fact, had been the body double for Patrick Swayze during the filming of Dirty Dancing.
Tom was one of those people you meet in life who had the uncanny ability to endear himself immediately with his inquisitive nature, propensity for understanding, his kind words, and his unfailing willingness to offer help, in any situation. Through our countless conversations about work or home, I came to admire his analytical and thoughtful nature which was always tempered with that familiar, dry, sense of humor.
What I most admired about Tom Wren was the strength of his character. Tom was a man who prioritized integrity, self-responsibility, and loyalty, over status, recognition, and accolades. Galatians 5:22 instructs that strength of character is a true measure of a man, in offering,
“The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control”.
Without hesitation, I can assure you, my friend, Tom, measured well in each of these categories. I Corinthians 13, also describes the depth of a man’s love as another measure of a man, in saying “Even though I speak with the tongues of men and angels, without love I am nothing.”
I am confident that anyone who knew Tom and saw him in the company of his family would be sure that this man’s love knew no boundaries. He is the kind of man who I hope that my own son will grow to become. If he does so, then I will have been a successful father.
It is so hard to recover from a loss like this, largely because there are so few people like my friend, Tom, in this world. For certain, this loss will scar my life….our lives and our world. But, despite the pain that often accompanies a scar, scars also serve as reminders. So, this is a scar that I will wear proudly, as I remember my friend, Tom, often with love and admiration. We are going to miss you, “Big Baby Boy.”
-Bryan Murphy, U.S.P.O. Friend & Colleague (Dec. 5, 2008)
Connie & Jim Miles
December 25, 2008
Traci, Jordan & Miles,
On this Christmas day, we just want to write a bit about our wonderful son-in-law, Tom Wren. We were so fortunate to have him as part of our family. Tom was like a son to us.
He was loving, caring, funny, trust worthy, intelligent, a good listener, a hard worker, good manners, but above all, a wonderful father and husband. The Miles family received an extra special blessing on that beautiful October day that Traci & Tom were married.
We miss him so much and struggle daily with losing our beloved Tom.
He will always have a special place in our hearts. Tom was an exceptional man and we're so thankful that our paths crossed and he touched our lives. Our prayer is that Tom is our angel looking out for all the Miles', Griesmer and Wren families, especially his loving wife, Traci, and children, Jordan & Miles. We treasure our memories. He will always be with us.
Love, Connie & Jimmy
Kristine Wade
December 9, 2008
Wren Family,
I was so sorry to hear about Tom. I knew Tom from Radford University and Alpha Phi Omega. I remember him as a quiet leader with a ready smile and a possitive outlook. He will be very much missed. I have found memories of Tom and his sister Elaine. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Barbara Callinan
December 9, 2008
My condolences to all the Wren family. I have fond memories of my visit to Roanoake when Tom was only eleven and even then so devoted to his mother, my cousin MaryEllen. May they rest in peace together.
Aunt Noreen, Gordon & all the family (Quilty, Co Clare, Ireland)
December 8, 2008
To all the Wren Family,
We were all deeply saddened to hear of the sudden loss of Tom. We have very fond memories of his visit to quilty and especially remember how gentle & good he was to his mum MaryEllen. We send our sympathies, thoughts and prayers to you all at this sad time.
Mrs.Delphinia Roberts
December 8, 2008
To the entire Wren Family. My name is Delphinia Roberts and I meet Mr. Wren, by him being probation officier,for my nephew and my brother, through Roanoke Federal Probation. They both thought the world of Tom.He was a man that believed in fairness, and honesty, to the fullest. Tom helped me to keep the two of them in line. He would contact me on the regular,to make sure that everything was going well for me dealing with the two of them. At times, I would call him ,If I felt the need for him to make a home visit,for their heartheadedness.Tom would always answer to my every call. Tom helped to make it possible,for my nephew to travel to the Bahamas for a family reunion vacation, while being on probation.He also encouraged me to finish my Masters Degree in Criminal Justice. He told me that helping others was a real blessing. Praise God, I finished,one month ago but I never got the chance to tell him.My son was sick in Roanoke Hospital, for over a month. In my heart , I know that he will be so proud of me. In my mind, I can see him smiling and praising me,for my great works from Heaven. He will be greatly missed by me, my brother and my nephew. God has placed Tom in our lives and our family ,will never forget that man that cared for everyone, that he meet in his walk of life.Our prayers will forever be with you all.I can honestly say that we truly loved Tom, because he became part of our family.From Delphinia Roberts and Family and Jeffrey and Leonard Dillard and family.
Tina (Mazey) Trivette
December 8, 2008
To the entire Wren Family,
I was shocked and deeply saddened upon hearing the news of Tom's untimely passing. I will always remember Tom as a very funny and very GOOD guy. He truly made the world a better place with his quiet humor and gentlemanly ways. He was so proud of his family. I feel for you all, especially Jordan and Miles, and pray that God will provide you with some understanding. Please hold tight to Tom's love and your many, wonderful memories. We, as well as many others from afar, are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. God bless you all.
Robbie & Kathy (Marven) Moses
December 7, 2008
To the family of Tom,
We are so very, very sorry for your loss. I graduated high school with Tom & my husband was a year ahead of us in school. We remember what a great guy he always was. We are sending many thoughts & prayers to you all at this time.
Douglas Grant
December 7, 2008
To the Wren Family,
I had the honor of being an Alpha Phi Omega brother of Tom at Radford University. I was very shocked to hear of Tom's untimely passing. My deepest sympathies are with the entire Wren family and to all of those that knew Tom. In times like this, words do not seem to capture the true essence of an individual. Those of us that knew Tom, know that he was a kind gentle soul. He was intelligent and had a great since of humor. We knew that he had touched our lives in some important way. Reading some of the responses, it clear that he had a special quality to connect with many people from all over. His kindness and generosity will me missed. We are all better people for having known Tom.
Steve Dove
December 6, 2008
I was saddened to hear of Tom's passing. As Tom's roomate of 4 years at Radford University we shared many good times. I can only say my life was better then and still is because Tom was in it. At this time, my thoughts remain with Traci and the kids.
Wendy Thompson
December 6, 2008
Sorry for your loss. I had the opportunity to work with John "long distance" in that I am a USPO in Winston-Salem, NC. He was a great help to me many times. May God comfort your family during this difficult time
Ida Nanny
December 6, 2008
Traci, Jordan & Miles - I was truly shocked to hear about Tom's passing. I had the privilege of being assigned as Tom's secretary at Federal Probation in Roanoke when you all moved back here. From day one I always found Tom to be such a genuine, caring and kind-hearted person who always placed his family as Number One in his heart and thoughts. He was always sharing with me special little things the children did and would just beam and smile so proudly. He was just a real jewel of a person to work directly with. I am now retired from Federal Probation but have had contact periodically with Tom since I left, and he was always such a gentleman to me. Tom will be greatly missed by all who he has touched in life. You and your family have a Special Angel looking over you. He is your brightest shining Star beaming in the night sky. Please know Tom will always hold a special place in my heart.
Traci Judy
December 6, 2008
We will miss Tom very much. I graduate from High School with him. My church and I are praying for you and your family. My God comfort you.
Cheryl Crowder Rakes
December 5, 2008
We are thinking about you and your're whole family. I did not know Tom but in the past few days Ive heard an overwhelming amount of people speak of how WONDERFUL he was to be around. Traci...i am praying that you and your children find peace.
Bobby,Marie & Bethany Ward
December 5, 2008
We are sorry for your loss, we are
putting you and the children in our
prayers.
Bobby,Marie & Bethany Ward
December 5, 2008
We are sorry for your lose, we are
putting you and the children in our
prayers.
Mary Simon
December 5, 2008
I am sad to hear about Tom. I didn't know him personally, but I had a graduate class with him at RU, worked on projects together and chatted with him during class. He was one of those people who you could just tell was a good guy, who had upstanding values. I am so sorry to hear about him passing.
Bakir Poljac
December 5, 2008
To the Wren family,
I was deeply saddened and surprised to learn of Tom’s passing. I had several graduate classes with Tom at Radford University. We graduated together in 2007. He was a truly wonderful man and a great friend.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Debbie Foster, Probation Clerk
December 5, 2008
To the Wren Family,
May God comfort you during this difficult time.
With sincere sympathy,
Stephanie Caldwell Galbraith
December 5, 2008
My thoughts and prayers have been with you all week, still can't believe it. Tom was very loved in high school and always made everyone laugh. May your memories bring you comfort in the days ahead.
Christina (Young) Pocrnich
December 5, 2008
Dear Wren family -
I wish to extend my deepest sympathies for your loss. I knew Tom through Alpha Phi Omega, although not well because he graduated the semester I became a Brother. However, he was my very first Brother/Pledge interview and I will always remember him.
My thoughts will continue to be with your family. May God comfort you.
Kathryn Heisig
December 4, 2008
Dear Jordan,
I'm extremely sorry about your dad. I love you and I miss you terribly. You and your family are all I've been thinking about since I herad about what happened. I've been thinking about absolutly nothing else. May God be with you all through this difficult time.
Much Love,
Kathryn Heisig
Mike Urbanski
December 4, 2008
To the Wren family: I knew Tom as a bright, compassionate, thoughtful, steady and thoroughly dedicated United States Probation Officer. It has been a privilege to have worked with Tom and to have relied on his judgment, insight and professionalism. Tom will be sorely missed by our court and nation. May God bless all of you.
Deborah Patterson
December 4, 2008
Traci, Connie, Jimmy & family, With my deepest sympathy on your loss,
Debbi Patterson
Katie Sandlin
December 4, 2008
Jordan,
I am so sorry about the loss of your father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please let me know if you need anything!
Lynn Dozier
December 4, 2008
To the family of Tom Wren:
My sincere condolences to the entire Wren family. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal; love leaves memories no one can steal. May God's love will comfort you
Thad Snyder
December 4, 2008
To The Wren Family,
My family and I want to express our regrets over the loss of Tom. I have known Tom since elementary school and considered him to be one of my dearest friends during High School. There have been so many fond memories I have reflected on this past week, but the consistant theme was of a truly funny individual who thought the world of those who graced his life. I was very fortunate to have had the opportunity to reconnect with Tom at our recent reunion and looked forward to continuing to build on the relationship we developed almost thirty years ago. Please find comfort in the fact that he is now in a better place and know that as long as he is kept in our hearts he will always be with us.
John Grant
December 4, 2008
Words cannot express how sad I was to hear of Tom's passing. Tom and I worked together when he was in the Norfolk Office of U.S. Probation. The lunch hours we spent laughing and joking will never be forgotten. Nobody who ever met Tom, be it co-worker, probationer, or stranger, could ever have a harsh word to say about him. He could light up a room with his smile or break the tension with one of his witty quips. We are all better people for having known him. I grieve for your family and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Pat Simmons
December 4, 2008
To the Wren family - I am so sorry to learn of the death of Jim and Connie's son-in-law. A friend from the Fincastle Presbyterian Church -
Ronnie, Tracy, Bayley and Garrett Belcher
December 4, 2008
To the Wren family:
Please accept our deepest condolences during this sad time. We are so sorry for your loss. Godd bless you and your family during this very hard time.
Denise Wade
December 4, 2008
Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for your loss. I worked with Tom at the U.S. Probation Office in Norfolk, Virginia, and he was a terrific person with a wonderful sense of humor. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Susan (Jones) Badger
December 4, 2008
To the Wren Family, May God be with you all in the time. I remember Tom from high school. He was always nice and smiling. Recently, I have come to know his sister, Barbara, through my dad, David, that visits Barbara and the gang at Famous Anthony's. I also was able to talk to Casey about attending RU and she was so excited to follow in Tom's footsteps and go to Radford. Tom will be greatly missed by all. Please know that your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers throughout this difficult time.
Darren Mazey
December 3, 2008
I am so deeply sorry for your loss, I can't believe we are without one of the most kind, generous, and caring people that I have ever known. As I think back to everything that Tom and I have shared, I will always remember his quick wit and endless humor. From the times in the neighborhood trading baseball cards, through high school classes and weekend memories, being in each others weddings, starting families, and being together at the 20 year reunion...Tom always made me laugh, but it is so hard right now to do that. I was so happy to see Tom on Saturday, we talked for 45 minutes about our jobs, our wives and especially our children. He was so happy about Jordan adjusting to middle school, Miles playing baseball, and Tracy getting her teaching certificate. It was so good to see him again and get to catch up. As we returned to our seats, I looked back to tell him goodbye...I said "see ya buddy, take care". I know I will see him again one day and we will laugh together.
Kimberly (Nickens) Carter
December 3, 2008
Dear Wren Family,
My heart goes out to you in the loss of your husband and father. I am so sorry.
Tom lived across the hall from me our freshman year at Radford. Anytime my suitemate and I needed anything, we'd call Tom and he'd take care of it for us. I met him through a mutual friend. He helped make the year more managable.
My heart shares your sadness.
Vicky & Gary Rowland
December 3, 2008
To the Wren Family,
Words are so inadequate at a time such as this. My heart breaks for each of you at the loss of Tom. He grew up with my nephew, Greg Land,
and he was always a joy to be around. He use to come to the VAMC with some of his clients for an appointment and he always made it a point to say hello to me and give me a big hug. He was without a doubt our nephew by choice. He has given this family so many fond memories that will always remain in our hearts. Our thoughts, prayers and love remain with each of you.
Paige Crocker
December 3, 2008
Dear Jordan,
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I love you and miss you. Please know I am thinking and praying for you. I hope you know you can call me if you need anything at all.
Love,
Paige Crocker
Wendy Wall
December 3, 2008
Dear Traci,
You have been on my mind and in my prayers. Greg and I are glad to do anything you may need.
I am praying that God will surround you with friends and family who will comfort you. His Word says that He can provide a peace that transcends our understanding, and I wish that for you.
As you go through the tough days ahead, please remember that "the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18
God bless your heart!
Love,
Michael Philpott
December 3, 2008
I went to Northside with Tom and remember him as a quiet,intelligent classmate who was always willing to help.I am truly dismayed to hear of his passing.
Heather McNeil
December 3, 2008
I knew Tom from RU (his undergrad years). There are many of us from Alpha Phi Omega who learned of his passing through our connections on Facebook. Many of have fond memories of a wonderfully nice young man.
I particularly remember a time when Tom with another friend drove me around Radford as part of the fun & ritual of becoming a pledge with APO. I ended up not feeling well after the ride around town and he took time to sit with me, give me water and ensured that I was okay. That memory has stayed with me for 18 years. He was a thoughtful, kind and wonderfully fun friend.
My deepest sympathies to your family.
Karla Bower
December 3, 2008
Traci,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. From reading about your husband, it is so apparent what a wonderful friend, husband, and father he was. I can't imagine what you are going through right now, but God knows and He is right here with you. He is the Great Comforter and I pray that you and the children will feel His presence during this very difficult time.
Your friend,
Karla Bower
Randy Cargill
December 3, 2008
I am so sorry to hear of Tom's death. He was a thoroughly decent man. He cared about the people he supervised in his work. He cared about the people whose lives he summarized in reports to the court. More than once, Tom would remark that a client had been dealt a bad hand. I enjoyed being around Tom and especially enjoyed watching him interact with my clients. He had this way of quickly gaining the trust and respect of people who generally are wary and distrustful of probation officers. He was cheerful. He was introspective. He was insightful. He was not cynical though given every reason to be cynical given his line of work. I will miss Tom. I hope Tom's family finds some comfort in these words and the words of those who admired Tom.
Johnny and Bethany Vaughan
December 3, 2008
Our deepest sympathy goes out to the Wren Family. Tom was an incredible friend to our family and he will be remembered in the highest regard. Hearing my mom tell me about Tom's passing was very difficult. I realized immediately how much he had meant to me growing up. He was 5 years older than me but took me under his wing as an older brother would. Even at a young age Tom understood what challenges my mom and I were facing. My father had passed when I was one and Tom was the one who taught me to play baseball, football, basketball, pool in the basement and many other things a kid without a dad needed to learn. Tom was a special person that touched the hearts of everyone who knew him.
With Love
Robin (Hardy) Stevens
December 3, 2008
Traci,
I am so sorry to her about your loss, I did not have the honor of meeting your husband, but from what I have read he was an amazing person.
May the peace which comes from the memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead.
Aunt Celia, JJ and family
December 3, 2008
To all the Wren family.
No words can express how truly sorry we all are at the loss of Tom. We have such lovely memories of Tom from when he visited us in Ireland and on our many visits to Roanoke and of course the wedding. We will treasure those memories. It is with regret that we cannot be with you at this time. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Tiffany Kinsey
December 3, 2008
To the Wren Family,
I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Tom was a wonderful teacher. He will be truly missed. May God comfort you during these hard times.
Fay Spence
December 3, 2008
To the Wren Family - My thoughts and prayers are with you all through this devastating time. As a defense attorney, I had the privilege of working with Tom briefly in Norfolk and then more extensively in Roanoke. He was a caring, compassionate man who believed in every person's capacity for goodness. He will be sorely missed. I still cannot believe he is gone. My children are the same age as his, and I grieve for the children's loss, especially. We always shared stories about our kids.
Although you don't know me, please let me know if there is anything I can do, even if you just need someone to talk to.
Thomas King
December 3, 2008
TO THE WREN FAMILY please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of Tom.He was not only my probation counselor he was my friend.He wAs a kind man and it helped tremendously knowing he was not against me he was with me.May he rest in peace and may you have a piece of mind knowing he is with the lord
Gwynneth MacKenzie
December 3, 2008
To the entire Wren Family -
Tom and I were in Alpha Phi Omega together at RU and what a great person Tom was! He always had a smile and kind word and what a great ability to make us laugh! I am deeply sorry for your loss and send my very best wishes and prayers to you all. What a gift to the world Tom was and I was very lucky to know him.
My deepest condolences to you all -
Natasha C. Palmer
December 3, 2008
Traci, Jordan, and Miles,
I was deeply saddened to learn of Tom's passing. I worked with Tom at the U.S. Probation Office and I can never forget that he was the person who encouraged me to apply for a position with this office. He will be missed, but we can each say that we were blessed to have had him in our lives. Please know that the many people whose lives he touched during his brief journey on this earth are praying for you.
Judy Clark
December 3, 2008
To the Wren Family -- Tom was a nice and caring coworker. I did not work directly with him as I work in a different office in Abingdon. He was always a kind and gracious person. I know he will be sorely missed by you. May God sustain and keep you during this time. In God's love,
Russ and Beth (Wimmer) Stockton
December 3, 2008
Traci and family,
Russ and I are so sorry to hear of your loss. I did not know your husband, but after reading all the wonderful things about him, I know he was a wonderful husband and father and man. He will truly be missed. We are praying for you and your family.
Elizabeth Larson
December 3, 2008
Traci and Family,
I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers during this time.
Kelly Kiser
December 3, 2008
Dear Traci, Jordan & Miles:
We are at a loss for words right now to express the sadness we feel for the passing of your loving husband and father. We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers as you go through this difficult time.
Rick, Kelly, Katelyn & Lauren Kiser
Tammy, Alexis, and Madelyn Brown
December 3, 2008
Traci, Jordan, and Miles
Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time in your life. We are so very sorry for your loss.
Stephanie Coelho
December 3, 2008
I'm so sorry to hear about the death of Tom. I knew him at Radford. He had such a great sense of humor and was so nice and friendly. I'm thinking about your family at this difficult time. Love, Stephanie (McGough) Coelho
Sheri Prillaman (Medina)
December 2, 2008
I am saddened to hear of Tom's passing. I pray for God's perfect peace and protection around your family. I ran in to him several times last year as our children played church league basketball. I'm grateful that our God is an awesome God with a perfect will for our lives. Tom seemed to be living out God's will for his life and doing it in a way that was bringing Glory to Him. I will never forget his sincere smile and kindness.
Kevin,Kristi,Madison,Owen,Kylind Spence
December 2, 2008
We are so heartbroken for the loss that your family is suffering .When the news came to us we were in disbelief and even writing this it still seams so unreal.Tom was such a wonderful man and the best husband and father one could hope for. I have grown to love and respect him for his wisdom and his devotion to his family.When things like this happen it puts everything into prospective, To hold tight to the time we are together and always tell our loved ones just how much they are truly love. And in your family you could feel the love you have for each other. I cant imagine another holiday without Tom being there smiling,I know that at this point there is not much that will ease your pain but just hold tight to you kids and all the beautiful memories you got to share together and one day you will be reunited again.I have herd you dad say before that "The sun always shines on Tom Wren"and now it will shine on you Jordan and Miles threw Tom. We love and a praying for you all the time please know if there is anything we can do please let us know.
Shannon Wilborn
December 2, 2008
My deepest sympathy goes out for Tom's family, friends, and children. Tom was a dear friend growing up in Roanoke who always had a wonderful personality and smile that always up-lifted everyone. I had the priviledge of reconnecting with Tom at the NHS reunion.
You will be missed my friend and I look forward to meeting you again in a better place. My prayers are with your family during this difficult time. God bless ~
Allison and Steve Harris
December 2, 2008
To the Family of Tom Wren,
Please know that our thoughts are with you. We were so sad to hear the news about Tom. What a great person he was.
Sincerely,
Allison and Steve
Melissa Wood
December 2, 2008
Dear Traci and family,
I was so deeply sorry to hear about your loss. Unlike so many others, I did not have the opportunity to personally meet Tom; however, after reading other entries left here on this guestbook and hearing about him through Traci, I can truly understand what a wonderful husband, father, and person he was. Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Karen Hutchings Weinig
December 2, 2008
Dear Traci and family
Words can never express how sorry I am for your loss. Tom was one of the kindest men I knew and I know he loves you and the children deeply. I think of the Wren Family with fond memories. I will keep you in my prayers always.
Eulah Price
December 2, 2008
To the Family of Tom Wren;
Please accept my condolences. I met Tom only recently because he taught a Radford University course in Roanoke. He was committed and genuinely enjoyed working with the students. He was quick to say it. His respect for his students was exemplified by their reaction to his passing. They in turn respected him and expressed what a wonderful teacher he was. So, I recall my few conversations with Tom and remember a gentleman who through his work revealed his humility and belief in others. Please accept my prayer in acknowledgment of your loss and my hope that you will find comfort and peace in the memories of your loved one.
Heather Plunkett
December 2, 2008
Dear Traci, George, Elaine, Casey, Jordan, & Miles,
My heart is so saddened by your tremendous loss. Tom was not just a friend, but like a brother to me. I have so many fond memories of Tom. He was so funny, reminding me of a Seinfeld type of character.:) I will miss his quick wit & his kindness towards others. He was one of my best friends & I am so thankful for the time I had on this earth as his friend (I that he called me his friend, too)! I will never forgot old Northside High School Class of 1987(Too many memories to write about in this letter), College orientation (Quest at Radford), parties with everyone, his meeting & proposing to Traci, him being in my wedding & I being apart of his (It was so lovely)...the birth of all our children, Casey's HS graduation (Tom always loved you so much)etc...& through it all, no matter how long it may be between talking, it was always the same.... just like old times. It was the test of a true, loyal friend. I was so thankful that he, Traci & the children came to the family event at our 20th HS reunion. It was so fun & he was beaming! He loved his family so!!!! I am also so glad he came to the Saturday night event! What fun everyone had! These are memories I that I will always cherish.
May God take care of you all during these trying times. Thank you for allowing me to share in some of these wonderful memories. I am here for you all. God Bless you.
Love,
Heather (Peyton) Plunkett & family
Terri Curro
December 2, 2008
Dear Traci, Jordan & Miles,
There are no words to express the sadness that we feel for all of you at this difficult time. Your family were one of our first friends when we moved to Roanoke and you all have a special place in our hearts. The Tom we saw everyday was a devoted husband and father, and not to mention a great neighbor and friend. I know it does not offer a lot right now, but I know he is in a better place and he will be watching from up above. May God Bless you at this difficult time. Draw strength from the great memories and know how much you are loved and supported by many.
Love,
Mike, Terri, Tommy & Joe Curro
Your next door neighbors....
Courtney Sullivan
December 2, 2008
Your family is in my prayers. Tom was a great teacher and mentor. He will be greatly missed.
John and Patty Frost
December 2, 2008
To the Wren families,
We were so shocked and saddened to hear about Tom. We both thought the world of him, and our hearts break for your loss. Words fail, but somehow faith doesn't, and we pray that you will find some sense of comfort in God's love in the difficult times ahead.
John and Patty Frost
Wanda & Danny Bond
December 2, 2008
Dearest family of Tom Wren, we want to express our deepest shock, at the loss a great Guy. Tom lived on the street over from us growing up. He spent a lot of time here in our Circle on Bunker. We all loved him so very much. He was always so full of himself, he beemed life within and out. My son Tony Bond was one of his deerest friends, as well as Greg Land. Where you seen one you usually saw all three. We are deeply saddened to hear of his passing. May God send you an Angle to watch over you and your family during your time of need. We will miss him. Love & Prayers, The Bond Family on Bunker Lane, Roanoke Va. Danny, Wanda, Tony & Son, Tina & Family
ASHLEY PRESTON
December 2, 2008
TO THE WREN FAMILY,
IM SO HURT THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY OR WHERE TO BEGAN! THEIR ARE NO WORDS OF COMFORT TO DESCRIBE A BROKEN HURT. WREN WAS NOT JUST A TEACHER TO ME AND MANY OTHER STUDENTS, HE WAS A BLESSED SOUL THAT FED MY SOUL AND SPRITS AND MANY MORE. MY CONDLENCES GO OUT TO HIS WIFE AND KIDS. I WISH YOU ALL PEACE AT YOUR TIME OF BEREAVEMENT
Lori Coughlin
December 2, 2008
To the Wren Family
The world has lost one of the greatest men I have ever met. I will always remember him fondly.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Stephan King Tanya (bohannon) Gray
December 2, 2008
We are sorry to hear about Tom.We remember he was always fun and always had a smile on his face at school. He was truly loved by all. He will be missed, but He is with the Father in heaven now. Our thought and prayers are with his family.
Leigh Lucas Wolfrey
December 2, 2008
To the Wren family,
Tom was truly one of the kindest people I have ever met and I, like so many, will miss him deeply. Please know that God has called Tom home, he is happy, and you will see him again one day. Your family is in our prayers.
Leigh Reynolds
December 2, 2008
Tracy, Jordyn & Myles:
We were saddened to hear about Tom. Your family is in our prayers. May God comfort you during this time and the days to follow.
Leigh & Barton Reynolds
(your next-door neighbors from 2000-2005)
Kelly Stallard
December 2, 2008
Traci, Jordan, and Miles,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. Tom was a great guy and will be missed. Love, Dipper, Kelly, Parker , and Cody
Nina Long
December 2, 2008
Tracy, Jordan, and Myles: Words can not express how deeply sorry I am for your loss of such a devoted husband and proud father. Tom loved you so much... not one conversation passed without him boasting about you all... :)
I worked with Tom at State Probation in Norfolk and US Probation just before he transferred to Roanoke. Tom had such an amazing sense of humor and an incredible outlook on life. He was a positive spirit and he will be missed by so many people who absolutely adored him!
I pray that your beloved memories of Tom will help guide you through these uncertain and difficult times. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Jean Mabes
December 2, 2008
Traci, Jordan, Miles, Connie and Jimmy,
It is so heartbreaking to feel the sadness and loss that you all have. We know that Tom will always be in your hearts and thoughts. Jimmy told us today that Tom was always saying, "The sun always shines on Tom". We thought that was such a wonderful thing for him to say. The sun (and the Son) is truly shining on him today! May this bring you peace in knowing that he is in a glorious place forever with the ones that are no longer here that he also loved so dearly. May the Son shine on him forever! There is a song that goes..."Heaven is more beautiful with you there." Just hearing about the kind of man that Tom was from others, we are sure that it is much more beautiful today with him there!
We love you, Don & Jean Mabes, Salem, Va
Jackie LePore
December 1, 2008
There are teachers who come and go. There are teachers who come and stay with us our entire lives. Mr. Wren was that kind of teacher. He pushed us and motivated us. He believed we could make more of ourselves than, at times, we thought ourselves. One day we will achieve big things, that maybe only he thought we could, and we will thank him because it will be because of him that we have just done so. As one student said, he was a friend, a mentor, and a teacher to us. He will never be forgotten, only missed. Thank you for being that person we all need, especially as students.
Kenny, Mary & Logan Johnson
December 1, 2008
Traci, Jordyn and Myles,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and we are deeply sorry for your loss. Your Neighbors on Meadows
Bre Vassar Sawyer
December 1, 2008
Tom Wren will always be remembered as a gentleman, a genuinely nice person, and kind heart. He was wonderful and so loved. He will be missed tremendously.
Kimberly Poff Siemon
December 1, 2008
Dear Wren Family, I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. (greg land's cousin)
Pat Fix
December 1, 2008
To the Wren family, I offer my sincere condolences in the loss of Tom. He was a fine young man, taken much too early. I work in probation, although not in the same office as Tom, and have enjoyed knowing him since he arrived in this district. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time and into the future. May God embrace and comfort you always.
Scott Setchel
December 1, 2008
To the Wren Family. I am deeply saddened when I heard the news of Tom's passing. Part of my childhood I lived down the road from him on Clubhouse. We both went to school together at Burlington. We played on the same baseball teams as we grew up. Tom was always a bright, quick witted and incredibly funny. One of the funniest people I know.
My thoughts and prayers go out to him and his family during this difficult time.
God Bless
David Collins
December 1, 2008
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Tom and I were APO brothers at RU. He always had a smile and a kind word. Tom was a joy to be around. The world is a better place because of him. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family.
Alethea Adkins
December 1, 2008
My heart goes out to you Tracy, Jordan and Miles, and all of your family. It has been such a pleasure and privilege to work with Tom these past few years since you moved back to to Roanoke. I loved Tom's sense of humor and his pleasant attitude about everything. He was such a joy to work with and such a hard worker. He and I served on our Training Committee together, and he always made our job more fun. He will be sorely missed around here. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. May God's grace sustain you through this difficult time.
Paul Moon
December 1, 2008
To the Wren Family,
I am very sad to hear of the passing of Tom. You all do not know me, but I was Tom's "Big Brother" in Alpha Phi Omega at Radford University. Tom's humor and kindness would always bring a brightness in everyone's life around him. I know he will truly be missed by many. He and I did not really talk after Radford, but I have always thought of him as a good friend.
My sympathies go out to your family at this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Paul Moon
Emily Keiser
December 1, 2008
Dear Jordan,
I am so sorry about your Dad. My Mom and I are praying for you and your family at this sad time. Love, Emily
Frank Lawler
December 1, 2008
With deepest regret I would like to offer my condolences to the Wren Family. I was fortunate to have worked with Tom in Norfolk in the late 1990s. He was an exceptional fellow who will be greatly missed by many. My prayers will be with Traci, Jordon and Miles in the upcoming days. May God comfort you during this time of deep sorrow.
Frank Lawler (Virginia Beach,Va.)
Jeannie (Mabes) Gallagher
December 1, 2008
Traci, Connie, Jimmy, and Family,
Praying that God will bring peace and comfort to you. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. If you need anything please let me know.
Kim Parrish Horton
December 1, 2008
I am so sorry for your loss. I graduated from Northside and Radford with Tom and thought the world of him. We reconnected at the reunion and he spoke so highly of his life, his wife, and his children. He will be greatly missed. May God provide comfort for your family during this difficult time.
Jenny Copening
December 1, 2008
Traci, Jordan, and Miles,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that God gives you peace and understanding during this difficult time. We are thinking of you.
Tyler and Jenny Copening
Cindy & Jim Silvey
December 1, 2008
To the entire Wren Family: We were shocked and saddend to hear of the sudden loss of Tom. We have fond memories of him during the time we spent working together in Roanoke. He was a gentleman, hard worker, quick witted and a joy to be around. His love for his family was obvious and we know he will be missed greatly. Our sincere thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Amelia Tuckwiller
December 1, 2008
Traci and Family,
I am so deeply sorry to hear about Tom. I never had the opportunity to meet him, but I can tell from your family scrapbooks and from everyone’s kind words, that he was a great husband, father and friend.
Please know that I will be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Cindy Davidson
December 1, 2008
Traci,Jordan, Miles,
We want you all to know that we are thinking of you. Please know if you need anything at all we will be there for you. Your family is in our prayers.May God's peace surround you.
Love Cindy and Trish
Jason Picard
December 1, 2008
Traci,
I am sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time of need.
Jack Call
December 1, 2008
Mrs. Wren -
I was one of Tom's professors in the CJ program at RU. He was such a bright, inquisitive student - the kind of student every professor loves to have in class. I was delighted when he began teaching adjunct for us because I knew he would do a superb job and would be extremely conscientious. I saw Tom and your children at the RU basketball game on campus last month. His love for them shined like a beacon in the night. I will miss him. I will be remembering you and the kids in my prayers. God be with you.
Esther (Goldberg) Harrison
December 1, 2008
Traci-
It is with great shock and sadness that I sign Tom's Guest Book. He was a wonderful person-he had a smile that could light up the room, and a hearty laugh that matched it. He was kind. He was good. Though college was a long time ago, I remember when he met you-he was so very happy, and with you, so complete.
My prayers are with you and your boys-I am so sorry for your loss.
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