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Capt. Benjamin D. Tiffner
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Benjamin D. Tiffner Obituary
Early in life, Benjamin planned to join the military. At 19, he enrolled at the United States Military Academy at West Point and graduated in 2000. After Infantry Officer's Basic Course, Airborne School and Ranger School, he was assigned to 1st Battalion, 23rd Infantry Regiment., at Fort Lewis, Wash., and served as an infantry platoon leader, reconnaissance platoon leader, and company executive officer. He served in Iraq from November 2003 to March 2004. Upon graduating from the Special Forces Qualification Course in April 2006, he was assigned to 5th SFG(A) at Fort Campbell, KY.
His awards and decorations include two Army Commendation Medals, Army Achievement Medal, National Defense Service Medal, Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary Medal, Iraq Campaign Medal, Global War on Terrorism Service Medal, Army Service Ribbon, Combat Infantryman Badge, Expert Infantryman Badge, Parachutist Badge, Ranger Tab, and the Special Forces Tab.
At the time of his death, Captain Tiffner was a Special Forces Operational Detachment – Alpha team leader assigned to Company C, 1st Battalion, 5th Special Forces Group (Airborne). While three of Benjamin's ODA team members were injured, no one else was killed in the attack.
Benjamin died a Christian, heartily fulfilling his calling from God. He had talked with his family the day of the attack. To his parents and sister, Ben expressed concern for the spiritual needs surrounding him and resounding confidence that he was where God had led him, Ben confidently stated that he and his men were making a difference in the war effort. In his earthly life, Benjamin Tiffner was wholly dedicated to praising the glorious grace of his God.
Ben grew up both in the Philippines, where his family served as missionaries, and later in the Charleston, West Virginia area. While in high school, Ben played varsity basketball and soccer at Cross Lanes Christian School. He was home-schooled his last three years of high school. He loved competitive sports and hunting, and throughout his career in the Army Ben demonstrated an unusual passion for excellence combined with real personal humility. By God's grace, Ben's thoroughly-converted character made him an outstanding leader, counselor, soldier, friend, son, and brother.
On December 4, 2007, Captain Tiffner will be buried with full military honors at Arlington National Cemetery. The service will be held at Murphy Funeral Home (703 920-4800) at 10:00 AM, and the graveside committal will be at 2PM.
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Roxanne (Tuffelmire) Rudicil
July 5, 2025
Thinking of you.
Joel Woodward
November 7, 2022
November 7th is always a hard day. My heart still goes out to Ben´s teammates and family.
Kevin Wilkins
May 29, 2017
Memorial Day 2017, I remember Ben Tiffner. I knew him as a young man, still a teenager and just a year older than me, when we crossed paths at Camp of the Hills in WV. I got to know him some on a backpacking trip and even then it was easy to picture him as a soldier, with a quiet strength and confidence but a ready smile. I was shocked and saddened to read years later of his death in Iraq. Ben's bravery and sacrifice are still appreciated and are not forgotten.
Dear Tiffner family, may God bless you as you continue to honor the memory of your son and brother. My own brother-in-law graduated from West Point, served in Afghanistan, and is now in ministry to cadets at West Point, so I have just a taste of what Ben's life was like. I am sure only eternity will tell the full story of the lives he touched. To God be the glory!
Eloise Canada
May 26, 2015
Remembering Ben this Memorial Day May 25th 2015.
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Sheila Hensen
February 18, 2014
Dear Tiffner fanily this is your cousin send this letter to tell sorry to see one of our own has fallen in war. We have another solider over there now, my son Michael he is in the Army also. He goes back to Germany. I'm the niece of Butch Tiffner is sister was my mom. We are a very proud Family of soldiers that serve our country. God bless them all.
David Williams
November 7, 2013
Six years ago the world lost a good man, but that man left a lasting impression. Thank you Ben.
mikah tiffner
November 6, 2013
in ur memory i have decided to make a poster for my school for vetrans day and am trying to win first place and lately trying not to cry i love u and u were an amazing leader and uncle
Dan Gray
November 6, 2013
Ben, the years have seemingly flown by and yet not a day passes when I don't think of you. I remember growing up with you, playing Army with you and Seth, Josh, Jason and Jared Coulter, Andy, Robert Ostman, and a bunch of others. I can still hear your laughter and I remember how much you were a Chicago Bears fan. (By the way, they beat my beloved Packers Monday night). I miss you still. Thank you for your friendship, your service to God and country, and for the example you set for those around you. We will meet again, I'm sure of it. Until that day, just know how much you are still loved and missed, my brother. Now, and always.
Your brother from another mother,
Danny (Gray)
mikah tiffner
November 5, 2013
thank u so much for being the best uncle ever "i love u for ever and always" i will never for get u and will always remember u and when i have kids i will tell them how great u were and thank u for being a leader to our country
January 31, 2013
Dear Tiffner family, Thank you again for allowing your son to defend freedom...he paid the ultimate sacrifice for us. The sweet memories of him as a boy are awesome...beautiful smiley Ben...always a soldier. We love you!
Sunny Van Zyl
January 30, 2013
Remembered
David Williams
November 11, 2011
Man I miss Ben. He was like no other officer. He took advise from his team members, he worked hard, stayed out of NCO business, and he helped anywhere he could. I wish I could have served with him longer. Ben was an awesome man that had a great relationship with God and friends. I am sure the good lord had his reasons to bring Ben home; but it still hurts. I tell the November 7, 2007 story to my students every class that comes through and hope they learn from our mistakes we made that day so they do not hurt like we do.
-De Oppresso Liber
Peggy Childers
November 7, 2011
To the family and friends of Capt. Benjamin D. Tiffner:
Please accept my remembrance of Benjamin on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Valerie O'Hare
November 5, 2011
To the Family of Capt Tiffner: Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Ben life inspires me daily.
Gina Lara
January 13, 2011
He is very missed. I am sure of this. My prayers Are with the family. Blessings to you all.
Peggy Childers
November 7, 2010
To the family and friends of Capt. Benjamin D. Tiffner:
Remembering Benjamin on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Susan Bray
May 31, 2010
As another year passes this is only a vapor compared to eternity that we will have with Our Lord. I remember you and your family this Memorial Day.
Dennis and Sunny Van Zyl
April 20, 2010
Your body may lay with the other heros, your spirit is with the Lord, but the memory of you will remain with us. Thank you for giving your all for us.
Kate Manuel
October 31, 2009
During the summer of 1999, I worked at the Civil War Center in Shepherdstown, WV. During that time, Ben completed an internship at the center. We all had a quite a fun time. The last time I saw him was a brief vist the following semester at West Point. Since then, I've wondered what ever happened to Ben. Sadly, I just learned of his brave endeavor and passing for our nation. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Brad Stueber
October 13, 2009
Although time has passed, I continue to remember and honor Benjamin and to keep his family and friends who miss him so much, in my constant prayers. Please know that you are not alone and that many of us stand with you and care. I may have missed the blessings of knowing Benjamin in this life, but I have determined to get to know him when my time on earth ends and I join him in heaven. May God give you His peace and many joys in your lives as you remember and honor Benjamin, your and our hero. God bless you and all who may read this!
David Strohacker
October 12, 2009
It has been almost two years and I still hold your memory. Thank you for your service and I am proud to have served with you and your Team. You are remembered and never will be forgotten.
CPT Shepherd, Eric
SSG Strohacker, David
3-7 Cavalry
Susan Bray
May 25, 2009
Although we never met I have spoken to your mom and the door is always open to our home if they would like to visit your grave at Arlington Cemetery. You are with our creator now and are wrapped in his loving spirit. Maybe I do feel a kinship on this Memorial Day with you as I have visited the beautiful State of Alaska where you grew up.Can't wait to meet you and worship the Lord of Lords together. You truly are a hero.
Kris (And Leah) O'Kelly
January 13, 2009
I want you to know your family has been in our prayers! I enjoyed all of those fond memories at the Camp of the hills
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December 8, 2008
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Peggy Childers
November 27, 2008
Thanksgiving Day, 2008
To the family of Capt. Benjamin D. Tiffner:
Benjamin gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
In Memory of Benjamin ~ (Debra Estep)
November 8, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Benjamin, but I am remembering
his service and sacrifice. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
November 7, 2008
Ben,
Thinking and praying for you on the 1st anniversary of your passing into eternal glory. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends", John 15:13.
July 5, 2008
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Capt Tiffner and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
July 5, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Capt Tiffner!
michael souci
June 29, 2008
To the Tiffner family,
Benjamin was one of my first Platoon Leaders growing up in the army. I just wanted to let you know that I learned a great deal from him. He was caring and profesional, It has been a great honor to serve under him. My deepest regards to you all. You will all be in my prayers and i will never forget Capt. Ben Tiffner (blue 6) sincerly SSG Michael Souci
Emily Toro
June 13, 2008
Hello, My name is Emily and I'm the mother of a fallen soldier by the name of Pvt. Isaac T. Cortes KIA on Nov 27, 2007 in Iraq. My condolences to you and your family for your lost. I wanted to share with you about a wall in Chicago where they are adding the names of fallen soldiers who have died in the war. I will be heading to Chicago next week for the reading of names and Benjamin will be one of the names I will have the honor of reading. Peace be with you and God Bless..
Linda Hammons
May 26, 2008
On behalf of Cornerstone Baptist Church family and Missions to Military....Remembering Ben and family on this Memorial Day. May God's comfort continue to flood your hearts.
Dan Keenaghan '00
May 22, 2008
Ben
Thanks for your sacrifice. You are well remembered this Memorial Day.
Dan Keenaghan '00
May 22, 2008
Ben
Thanks for your sacrafice. You are well remembered this Memorial Day.
janice breithaupt
May 11, 2008
Dear Tiffner's, Just wanted to wish you a special Mother's Day Judy....may the Lord Himself send along a love note of comfort, joy, love and a special memory of your precious son. Thinking of you all often. Love, The Breithaupts...janice and charlie
Susan Bray
May 10, 2008
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner,
I was thinking of your son Ben and how he must be watching out over you both. I am sure he would love to give you a great big hug with mother's day approaching. I haven't yet visited Arlington Cemetary where he is buried but have remembered him and our conversation (Judy). Every Memorial Day my husband and I bring our dog (Spirit King) there and celebrate with the rest of the "Rolling Thunder" Veterans.The tremendous sacrifice Veterans and their families have made for our freedom. Please know Ben is remembered even though we never met, but we will in heaven with Our Good Lord.
Tony Douglas
May 3, 2008
I am saddened to hear of the loss of such a great man. Ben was my classmate and friend. I can't think of him without smiling. He was a joy to be around and my prayers go out to his family.
Mason Thornal
March 23, 2008
Dear Tiffner Family,
Ben and I were Ranger buddies at SFAS. I went during the summer before my Junior year at West Point and we was a brand new Captain going through the selection process with us. I learned a lot from him professionally and will never forget joking around with him out in the woods of Fort Bragg. I am now an Infantry Platoon leader in the 82nd and just returned from a year in Iraq. I wish I had heard sooner, I was nearby him in Baghdad, but I just heard the news and I wanted to express my condolences to you all. I hope to join SF just like Ben and I hope I can be half the leader he was. God Bless.
Mason Thornal
Ft. Bragg, NC
Sandy & Christy Frazier
March 20, 2008
Dear Tim and Judy, So many years have gone by sense New Tribes, Fradonia days.But I can still see little Ben there. We do not grieve as the world grieves But we still grieve.and
We grieve with you.
You are in our prayers.
Shane Venezia
February 18, 2008
Dear Tiffner,
Ben was my PL at Ft. Lewis, he helped me through MANY tuff years. He "brought" me with him when he took over the RECON platoon and inspired me to be a better leader and even more a better person. I was blessed to know Ben, You are all in my prayer and I know we will see each other again. Ben, you are gone but will NEVER be forgotten !!!!!!!!!!
Kirby Vaughan
February 15, 2008
Ben was my captain and also a close friend. He never had a doubt about the good he was doing serving in Iraq. Ben's faith in his savior never wavered. I admired his character and conviction, and I can't say enough about his impact on me in the short time that we served together. He taught me about belief in a cause and compassion for your fellow man. His quiet example also taught me about leadership and teamwork. He was more than a teammate, he was a brother. I still miss having him here with me, but I know that where he is now is where he truly deserves to be. Rest in peace, and a job well done Ben.
David Williams
February 9, 2008
I was under Bens command. I did not consider him an officer. He was a great leader, mentor, and friend. I admired this man for what he stood for; honor, integrity, and justice. I miss him a lot and think about him everyday.
Dave Williams
Lee-Ann McKay
February 5, 2008
Hello Tiffner family. I was sad to hear the news of Ben. Although we can find comfort in the fact that he is rejoicing with the Lord right now, I know you all feel so deeply the loss of your dear son and brother. I will be praying for you.
This is Lee-Ann (Jepma) Mckay, by the way. My parents Bill and Joanne send their love and wanted me to tell you that they will be praying for you. They were saddened by the news. We all remember Ben running around at Aritao playing army guy!
Please give my love to Becky.
Sincerely, Lee-Ann
Bryan Nichols
January 22, 2008
Dear Tiffner Family, I am so saddened to hear about Ben. He was one of the most kind hearted gentlemen I knew. I will always remember his laughter, his contagious smile, and friendship.
Thank you, Ben, for being one of the brave souls to defend our nation and ensure my children's future.
ROMANS 8:28
Zeke Johnston
December 27, 2007
Dear Mr. Tiffner, thank you for your kindness, friendship,and wisdom that you gave me in the short time I knew you.I will never forget.Thank you for displaying the love of Jesus Christ to me and many others.Sir,you are a true soldier of the cross and my hero.
Josh / Ben
December 13, 2007
Seth / Ben
December 13, 2007
Becky and Ben
December 13, 2007
Ben and Sarah
December 13, 2007
PNG
December 13, 2007
Home
December 13, 2007
The 3 Amigos
December 13, 2007
"The A Team"
December 13, 2007
Ben
December 13, 2007
Capt Tiffner 1976-2007
December 13, 2007
Q School grad & moms
December 13, 2007
"The Team"
December 13, 2007
Alisa Shaw
December 9, 2007
Dear Tiffner Family,
I was so saddened to hear of Ben's passing, but I rejoice to know He is with our Lord! I was a classmate of Ben's a long time ago & I have not seen or spoken with Ben in years but remember him for his integrity and sweet spirit. Scott & I will be praying for your family during this difficult time. I am truly, truly sorry for your great loss. May God grant you peace and comfort.
Blessings,
Alisa (Whitt) Shaw
James Dunne
December 5, 2007
My prayers go out to the family and friends of Cpt Tiffner. Sadly I did'nt know him personally, but as a former member of 5th SFG(A), I have known many like him and the moral fibers and charecter they are made of. I too have lost my share of brothers and friends as well. Take comfort in the fact that he is with the lord now and remember that the greatest of healers are prayer and time. Cherish his memory, celebrate his life. Never Forgotten!
Ben Herman
December 5, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner,
Ben was my PL at Ft Lewis right after he finished West Point. He was hands down the greatest leader I have ever had in my 10 yrs in the military. Your family will be in my prayers. God bless Big Ben for his outstanding leadership and positive outlook on everything. Heaven is a much better place with him there.
Joseph Dees
December 4, 2007
Dearest Tiffner family,
In Proverbs David speaks of a friend that is closer than a brother. Growing up in a foreign place under harsh conditions seems to have a way of bonding friends and co-workers into much more. It seems when we go seperate ways that we are leaving members of our family. Though we may not have the ability or time to keep up with all those we miss, our thoughts and prayers often include them. We are forced to leave there lives, safety, and protection in the hands of the Lord. It was a shock to my family and I to see Ben's name on a list of those who have given there lives for the safety and freedom we enjoy. We have great sorrow for you in this time of hardship. We rejoice however, knowing that Ben is now in a place where we long to be with our Father in perfect peace and rest.
with deepest sympathy,
December 3, 2007
To the family and friends of CPT Tiffner, my condolences to you. I was shocked to hear of Ben's passing this morning. Though it has been many years since Ben was assigned to me as a plebe at West Point, I will always remember his uncommon qualities. He was honest, hardworking, loyal, good humored, and a fine friend. I will never forget Ben.
Respectfully,
CPT Bart D Wilkison
Joyce Graley
December 2, 2007
To the Tiffner family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We are thinking of you and praying for you every day.
The Graley family - Paul, Joyce, Lisa, and Michael
Victoria Lilly
November 30, 2007
To the Tiffner Family,
I am deeply sadden about Bens death. I was at church (Bible center Church) when I Found out about his death. My parents didn't wanted me to know for a couple of days. One thing that I get torn up about is deaths, But I had a family meber say to me when I was torn up about this is that I will be able to See him someday and I can't wait. There was only one thing I remeber about Ben was that He was my Babysitter at Bible Center before the Evening service. I go by that room where he watched me at. Every morning on Sunday and I think about How Ben was amazing Guy that loved the Lord. you Guys our in my prayers.
Ginger Tiffner
November 29, 2007
I wish to express my deepest sympathy for the loss of your son, Ben and to thank you and other families for the sacrifices you indure to insure the safety of all Americans. God Bless.
Neshad Asllani
November 28, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner,
I heard for the tragic loss of your son Captain Ben Tiffner from my friend David Gotaas. My sincere condolences to you, from a Kosovar who understand the loss of loved ones and the fight for the right cause, you, Americans are leading in the world today.
Unfortunately, I didn’t have a chance to know Captain Ben, but I had a chance to know American soldiers and understand service above self and determination to fight terrorism in the world today.
Kosova is a small country, but Kosovars are ready to fight for the right cause.
God bless you Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner, God bless America,
Neshad R. Asllani
Wendy Beaver
November 28, 2007
Just wanted you to know that we are praying for your family. We have the utmost respect for what Ben represented in life and in death. God has brought an angel home. It is apparent that Ben has touched many peoples lives during his life. God Bless your family
Kathy Cummings
November 28, 2007
I remember all of you from your time in Sod and also at the Camp. Your devotion to each other as a family and to serving the Lord together was always very apparent. I know my words can't possibly ease the hurt you feel now but Ben left behind a wonderful testimony. I pray that the Lord will comfort all of you in these and coming days.
SFC (Ret) Roger (Rocky) Senatore
November 28, 2007
To the family and friends of a fallen Brother; please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. May God bless you and men of his Team.
Judy Burford
November 25, 2007
I mourn the homegoing of Ben Tiffner, along with his family, who have been longtime friends and such wonderful examples of Christlike living. So sorry that I'm unable to attend the services, my heart and my prayers are constanty with all family, friends, and brother soldiers who knew Ben. His testimony was a great blessing, and may it continue on and touch every person who knew this wonderful young man, soldier, and servant of Christ. God bless you all.
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
November 25, 2007
My heartfelt sympathy to the Tiffner family in the loss of Benjamin. I did not know Benjamin, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. My heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. Benjamin you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
"To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Jeremy Corley
November 24, 2007
Tiffner Family,
I was one of the civilians in attendance at the memorial service. I had the pleasure of knowing Ben as he was stationed at Ft Campbell. I became friends with him and Neal Smiley. Ben was a great person, leader, friend, and example. His character showed in all that he did. If you knew Ben you were better for it. He was an exceptional athlete as well. We played softball, football, basketball, and volleyball together. He was one that lead by example. He always maintained his composer and spirit. One of the many things I admired about him. But most of all, by knowing Ben at all, you would be shown the face of Christ. His testimony and faith was evident in everything Ben did. I thank you for sharing your son and brother. If it weren't for brave soldiers like Ben carrying out their missions, then people like me wouldn't be able to enjoy our freedom each and every day. Forever grateful, we'll miss you Ben.
David Gotaas
November 23, 2007
Dear Family and Friends:
Today (November 17), I attended the memorial service for Ben Tiffner at Fort Campbell, Ky. Ben was the son of my cousin and he was killed in Baghdad while on patrol. There were about 30 civilians (Ben's parents/siblings, wives of soldiers, and various friends) and about 300 soldiers with many standing in the foyer and along the sides of the chapel. It was truly a memorable event aimed at his comrades as I do not think the family had much input into the service; however, I was struck by the tremendous bond between the soldiers of the 5th Special Forces Group (Airborne) a/k/a the Green Berets. It was very emotional for me. My esteem for our soldiers' commitment has greatly increased due to this experience as I better understand their loyalty and commitment. Ben was an exceptionally humble man who loved his soldiers and his opportunity to serve in the United States Army. I pray that I will maintain composure at his funeral at Arlington National Cemetery on December 4th.
The service was well planned from the invocation to the benediction. The front of the chapel included flowers, a framed portrait of Ben in full combat regalia, two framed montages of his life, and the symbolic boots, weapon, and beret. Ben's parents and siblings sat in the front row (stage right). The five speakers included Chaplain Dubinin, 5th Special Forces Commander Lieutenant Colonel Miller, and personal tributes by Captain Smiley (his best friend since West Point who escorted Ben's body back to US), Staff Sergeant Young (read Ben's biography with a photo tribute and spoke of how Ben stayed by his bedside for days after a major accident), and Mr. Baumgardner (formerly assigned to assist Ben in the development of Ben's combat unit in Baghdad). Amazing Grace was played on the bagpipes before the "Last Roll Call" when names of several soldiers were called out with the acknowledged response from each soldier EXCEPT for Captain Benjamin David Tiffner. Ben's name was called out three times with a stronger force each time, but still no response; then the Silent Tribute, the Firing of Volleys, and Taps. Before the benediction, the Ballad of the Green Beret was played over the sound system. Afterward, there was a reception at the 5th Special Forces Group Hall where there is exhibits of soldier who have won the medal of honor as well as mementos of previous conflicts/wars.
The entire ceremony was so meaningful beginning with the soldiers directing traffic in honor of their fallen comrade to the token items placed by his soldiers after the service by his boots. Ben's parents and his siblings seemed to hold up much better than me. They had gathered together as a family for the first time since Ben's death only the night before.
Two words stand out to me relative to Ben's death. The first one is that most mysterious word, "Why?" The second word is the what may be known as God's favorite word "Come". I think of the scripture verse, "Come all ye that are heavy laden and I will give you rest." Ben's family must now deal with his earthly possessions including a house, a car, and a motorcycle, but they are at peace knowing that Ben is in heaven with our Lord and Savior.
On the drive back to the Nashville Airport, many hymns came to my mind and all of them seemed appropriate for the moment. Tears came to my eyes as I thought of Ben's life being snuffed out so early, but I am grateful for his 31 years on earth. Let me conclude with one of the beatitudes from Matthew, "Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted."
Wayne Lovell
November 22, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner, you gave your all to your homeschooled son, and he gave his all to his men and his country. Thank you from an Alabama homeschool family. Stand Firm.
Joshua Apel
November 22, 2007
Sir, I remember serving as your RTO in 3rd PLT, 1-23IN...you told me to call you Ben but I still called you sir. I found out a few days ago about what happened and wanted you to know that you are greatly missed and there are sad hearts in 1-23IN. I know you are in a good place and watching over your brothers. Miss you, sir.
Dave Barbuto
November 20, 2007
Mr and Mrs Tiffner,
I was deeply saddened to hear about Ben's death today. I was an Assistant S-3 when your son was the Recon Platoon Leader in 1-23IN. Then, I was the Battalion Logistics Officer when Ben was the XO of Bravo Company. In both capacities I worked closely with Ben at Fort Lewis, and in Mosul. I loved working with him for a multitude of reasons. He always maintained an extremely positive attitude, took care of his soldiers, and accomplished his mission. He was an excellent officer and put the needs of others in front his own.
I know that Ben died doing what he loved, and for that I know you are grateful. I have since gotten out of the Army, and much like Forrest Horan, I look at my son every night when he goes to bed, and I thank God for strong and determined men, like Ben, who protect us.
Your and Ben's sacrifice for my family, and all Americans, will never be forgotten. I am extremely proud of having known Ben, having been able to serve with him, and learn from the way he lived his life.
My deepest sympathy goes out to your family. Your loss can never be replaced, but I find peace knowing that Ben is with God, again, protecting us.
Sincerely,
christian Durham
November 20, 2007
Ben, we had some great times in 1-23 IN together. Many times have I thought about the fun times we had during train-up and the deployment to Iraq. Even though you left the battalion long before me, I always seemed to run across your name and recall the memories of our time as XO’s together. I can’t say thank you enough for the mentorship, leadership, and friendship. My deepest sympathies go out to your family and thank you for your sacrifices.
JAMES MILLIGAN
November 20, 2007
To Capt Benjamin D. Tiffner
Sir, you will be greatly missed by all that served under you. Until we went again old friend on top of that mountain were we all will sit around the fire and tell stories of yesterday.
Mark Eckerman
November 19, 2007
Hey there sir! I was in your platoon for awhile and we had a great PL, you. I'm sure the guys from HHC 1/23 and everywhere else have much sorrow in their hearts now that your no longer with us. You always led myself and the others of our platoon in the right direction. I remember when we had a long chat on our way to Yakima one day, I still follow the advice you gave me that day. Thanks for everything. May you rest in peace Sir.
November 18, 2007
Ben, Thank you for your service. We are all forever indebted to the Tifner family.
Mission Complete
November 17, 2007
Back at Lewis
November 17, 2007
JRTC
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The Leaders of Recon
November 17, 2007
Planning at JRTC
November 17, 2007
In the motor pool
November 17, 2007
Platoon party at Miller sylvania park.
November 17, 2007
Ben in the back ground behide team two
November 17, 2007
Battle Planning at NTC
November 17, 2007
Wife of A fellow 5th Group Soldier
November 17, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
MSG(p) Stanley Sobiech
November 17, 2007
To the family of Ben. One of the greatest persons and Leaders that I have ever known. I was his Platoon Sergeant in the Recon Platoon in 1-23 Infanrty, and together we made the best recon Platoon in the Brigade reshaping doctrine in the newly formed Stryker Brigade, being recognized on several occasions which is a direct reflection of his execllent leadership style. The men of the recon Platoon loved him very much, and they would do anything for him. The Army lost a Great leader and the rest of us lost a great friend. He will be missed very much. I am so sorry for your loss, God Bless. "Go Deep"
MSG(p) Stanley Sobiech
November 17, 2007
To the family of Ben. One of the greatest persons and Leaders that I have ever known. I was his Platoon Sergeant in the Recon Platoon in 1-23 Infanrty, and together we made the best recon Platoon in the Brigade reshaping doctrine in the newly formed Stryker Brigade, being recognized on several occasions which is a direct reflection of his execllent leadership style. The men of the recon Platoon loved him very much, and they would do anything for him. The Army lost a Great leader and the rest of us lost a great friend. He will be missed very much. I am so sorry for your loss, God Bless. "Go Deep"
Gina Lara(Meyers)
November 16, 2007
To: Cousin Judy & Pastor Tim and family, I am soo sorry to hear this bad news and pray for you all at this difficult time.I wish you all a godfilled healing at this time in your lives. Much Love, Gina and family
Kevin Hawn
November 15, 2007
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of this brave soldier. My prayers and thoughts go out to his family and friends during this time of sorrow. No words can express the sadness you must be feeling. However, remember that he is a true American hero who will not be forgotten. He was fighting for the weak and downtrodden, trying to give them the freedoms that many in our own country take for granted. I, my children, and all of America are indebted to him forever. Thank you Capt. Tiffner for your service to our great country. Again I am so sorry for your loss. God rest your soul young soldier.
Kevin Hawn
Proud Uncle of Wayne M. Geiger
KIA 10/18/2007--Iraq
Emmett Pepper
November 15, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Tiffner, Seth, Josh, Becky and Sarah,
I went to school with Ben, Seth and Josh at CLCS in Junior High and interacted with all of you through Awana at Bible Center. I have moved from Charleston after college and have not seen any of you for many years. In fact, I doubt you even remember me. I remember Ben, though.
We were in the same grade at an age when it is easy for kids to fall into selfishness, shallowness and mean-spiritedness. Ben did not. I always remember him as genuine, kind and humble. This world could use a little more of those qualities that he displayed at a young age.
I never knew Ben as an adult, but based on his accomplishments and obvious bravery, I wanted to communicate to you that I believe I had the pleasure of knowing a brave, honorable man in his formative years. You should all be proud to have raised and molded such a person.
I commend Ben for his bravery, dedication, hard work, and service to our country.
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you cope with this horrible loss.
-Emmett
Lance & Laura Ostman
November 15, 2007
Dear Tim, Judy, Becky, Josh, Seth & Sarah,
We have so many wonderful memories of your years here with us in the Philippines! Your family is such an example of faithfulness to the Lord. We just want you to know that we are praying for you all in your time of grief. Reading the things Ben's fellow soldiers wrote show us what kind of man he was. We know you are proud of him! May God comfort you as only HE can. We love you!
Lance & Laura
Gracia Burnham
November 15, 2007
Tim and Judy and all,
I'm having trouble expressing what I want to say to you today. If I had called or e-mailed every time I have thought about you and prayed for you in the last week, you would be sick of me!
I know that Ben was doing what he loved, but I also know that he was doing what he did so bad things like what happened to Martin and me don't happen to others. I was so grateful to the soldiers who flew me out of the jungle the day Martin died and I was rescued. And I know that Ben was praying for us during our year of captivity.
A friend of Ben's called me today just to chat and make sure I had heard the news. He was a total stranger but by the time he got off the phone, I felt as if I had made a friend. He said such kind things about Ben and called him "a terrific leader." You must be very proud of him!
"All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy and the God who comforts us. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others." II Cor. 1:3
You as a family held us up during our trial. Now it is time for me to hold you up!
With love to you all,
Gracia Burnham
Brad Stueber
November 15, 2007
I did not know Captain Benjamin D. Tiffner. However, his is a son of every American, one in whom we are so proud of and very grateful to for his heroic sacrifice for freedom. Benjamin, you are my brother in Christ and that gives us great comfort for now. Rest in peace until that day when we can join you there. My sincerest sympathies go to the Tiffner family and friends.
Melvin and Betty Turley
November 15, 2007
Tim, Judy and Family:
Our thoughts and prayers have been with all of you since we learned of Ben's death. It was our pleasure to know your family as you served the Lord at Bible Center Church in Charleston, West Virginia. Ben's life was an excellent example of a true Christian. Your family remains in our prayers. May God bless you.
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