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Haroldee Ruth Obituary

RUTH, Haroldee, born August 18, 1946. Passed away at her home in Tucson, Arizona April 5th, 2006 after fighting her battle with small cell lung cancer using her "own weapons system…my gravel-bottomed Irish hooliganism." This culminated a fiercely independent life that began in Traverse City, Michigan, led to the stage in Chicago, teaching theater at the Interlochen Arts Academy, to her most recent passion, "doing TV" as a committed teacher, facilitator and producer at Access Tucson. Haroldee grew the world around her in wonderful ways, starting at home with her magical garden, which includes several ponds and fountains. Her door was always open, her coffee pot always hot, and her heart always receptive to anyone in need. Those she helped weren't just the two legged variety. Dogs, cats, and songbirds were a part of her life. She inspired others through her voracious and eclectic reading habits. Current events and politics were never far from her thoughts. A proud and reflective liberal, Haroldee championed free speech for all. The loves of her life encircled her husband and lifemate, Kelly Martinsen; her three sons, Edward, Sean, and Timothy; her sister, Dale and brother, Jon, and her parents, Lois and Bye. She is survived by four grandchildren, numerous nieces and nephews, countless other close friends and colleagues, and her other son, John. Haroldee reminded us recently of her determination to enjoy the end of her life on her own terms, telling us "I actually felt joy at taking control of this important journey. You know me, I always want to be the boss." In lieu of flowers, the family suggests remembrances be made to Access Tucson.

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Published by Arizona Daily Star on Apr. 9, 2006.

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Glenn Gauthier

April 3, 2019

Back in the days, Haroldee, Her son Eddie ( he was about 2 then. Cheryl (Banana Woman ) Stallings ( 8 months pregnant with her daughter Elon ) Paula Averbach ( stopping off in Boston to see her boyfriend ), and me, decided to take a trip to NYC to see Rudy Kocevar for the weekend.

Off we went in Haroldee' s 56 Buick with no back seat on an adventure I bet none of us forgot. We drove to Sarnia, Canada and drove straight North 350 miles before we realized we were on the wrong road! We turned around and headed back to Sarnia as there were no roads that took us Southwest.
Continuing on to London, we stopped at a police station and asked to sleep in the parking lot. Rested we drove on to NYC, 52 hours after leaving Traverse City!
What a trip for a bunch of 19 year old's !

Barbara (Challender) Sutton

April 18, 2006

Sympathy to all family and friends. So sorry to learn of Haroldee's passing.

Janet Bush

April 16, 2006

Haroldee I remember from TC Heights grade school and some from high school. I recall her as a free spirit. So sorry to hear of her passing. Love and light to her family and host of friends.

Here's Haroldee and Rudy along with Paula and Tom and Doug camping it up in the year book 1963

April 13, 2006

Rusty and Jo May

April 13, 2006

Our heart and love go to all those dear people that have had such a great loose.

Glenn Gauthier

April 13, 2006

We ment in tenth grade. She was an actress, me a conservative boy from Catholic school. Boy did she teach me a thing or two!

Ruth, the leader of the pack... Rudy, the instigator...

Glenn, the follower...

Traverse City Senior High was never the same after the reveiw of "Rebel Without a Cause"!(neither was the school paper,The Black and Gold!)

I miss you, Dear, I wish we stayed as close as we were "way back then".

My condolences to you, Kelly,Dale and Jon. And to all the family and friends whose hearts She touched.

Lillian Butler

April 10, 2006

She took me under her wing while I was at Interlochen; I was dealing with both being very far from home and having family problems. I was coralled into Thanksgiving dinner, learned to like apple wine, and was given a shoulder to cry on. I regret not contacting her again these last months. See ya on the flip side, Haroldee.

Ed Carmien

April 10, 2006

Haroldee was a remarkable woman who influenced many. She will be missed. May others continue her good works as the best kind of remembrance possible.

Effie Gregory

April 10, 2006

I want the family to know that I am blessed to've known Haroldee. She was the type person God desires us all to be. She was such a kind and loving person who cared for all his creations. God bless you. May he give you the stength to endure your loss.

Nancy Crandall

April 10, 2006

I have so many memories or so many good times.

Phyllis (Cooper) McIntyre

April 9, 2006

Gone too soon, my childhood friend, gone too soon.

JIM - BETTY RISDEN

April 9, 2006

HAROLDEE MY COUSIN MY FRIEND I SHALL MISS YOU I PRAY THAT WE SHALL MEET AGAINE ON GODS THRESHOLD YOU WE A KIND HEARTED PERSON ALWAYS READY TO HELP A PERSON IN DISTRESS,A SMILE A KIND WORD A ROCK GARDEN SHARE YOUR HOME THANK YOU

Dale Murton

April 9, 2006

My "seester" my friend gone too soon.

Dale Murton

April 9, 2006

My seester my friend gone too soon.

Cathy Philo

April 9, 2006

To Bye, Dale, and Jon, Our Condolenses, prayers, love and sympathies are with you and your families at this time. I always liked her named for I always thought it was different. God bless you all. Cathy Anne Koon Philo

vicky Hildebrand

April 9, 2006

HD, we will always have you in our

hearts!! John and I will miss you

your wisdom,smile and open arms

we love you john & vicky

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