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Robert Carnes

1953 - 2015

Robert Carnes obituary, 1953-2015, Pittsfield, MA

Robert Carnes Obituary

Robert Joseph (Bob) Carnes

1953 - 2015 PITTSFIELD Robert Joseph (Bob) Carnes died peacefully on April 10, at Berkshire Medical Center holding hands with his wife and daughter while friends at his bedside recited the 23rd Psalm. Bob was born in Boston, on Aug. 17, 1953, son of Alfred Carnes and the late Dorothy Pace Carnes. He graduated from Xaverian Brothers High School in Westwood, Mass. in 1971 and from the University of Notre Dame in South Bend, Ind. in 1976 with a Bachelor's Degree in History. While at Notre Dame, Bob was the First Cornet in the Marching and Varsity Bands. He was named "Musician of the Year" two years in a row. Bob graduated from Suffolk University Law School in Boston in 1979 with a Juris Doctor degree and practiced law with a private firm before moving to Berkshire County in 1982. At that time, Bob was hired as an Assistant District Attorney by the Late Anthony J. Ruberto, who would become his mentor and great friend. In subsequent years, Bob was appointed as First Assistant District Attorney and became the lead prosecutor responsible for the superior court trial list. He supervised staff, argued cases to the Appeals Court and Supreme Judicial Court and oversaw the operations of the Berkshire County Drug Task Force. In June of 1990, Bob was appointed District Attorney of Berkshire County by Gov. Michael Dukakis to fill Ruberto's term of office when he was elevated to a judge. For several years after leaving the District Attorney's office Bob was a solo practitioner in his own law office with a diverse trial and appellate practice. In 1986 Bob returned to school to the former North Adams State College and earned a second Bachelor's Degree in Business Administration. In 2001 until the time of his death, Bob worked for the Commonwealth of Massachusetts Sex Offender Registry Board within the Department of Public Safety. He was the Chief Administrative Hearing Examiner for the state, responsible for conducting classification hearings and rendering decisions under the state's Megan Law. Bob created hearing policy, oversaw staff training, and edited numerous decisions and orders for this administrative public safety agency. Bob was a member of Hope Church in Lenox, Mass. where he served as a member of the Finance Team and attended Bible study classes. He enjoyed watching Notre Dame and New England Patriots football games and the Boston Red Sox. For thirty five years, Bob and his father attended a Notre Dame football game in person every fall. Bob also loved to be in the company of his wife and daughters. Bob leaves his adoring wife of 27 years, Maryann, who he married on February 14, 1988 at Holy Family Church in Pittsfield; and two daughters, Sophie, a student at Drexel University in Philadelphia, and Rosemary, a student at Russell Sage in Troy. Besides his wife, two daughters, and father; Bob also leaves behind two sisters, Carol Thormahlen (Henry) of Lakeville, Fla., and Patricia Burke (Michael) of Natick, Mass.; a sister-in-law, Barbara Knudson (Paul) of St. George, Utah; three nephews; and two nieces. In addition to his biological family, Bob leaves three friends he considered to be his brothers, David Chenail (Judge Judith Locke) of Williamstown, Dr. Santo Triolo of Kihei, Hawaii, and Judge Paul M. Vrabel (Mary) of Pittsfield. FUNERAL NOTICE: Calling hours for Bob will be at Hope Church, 259 Kemble Street, Lenox, on Friday, April 17 from 4 - 8 p.m. The funeral will be at Hope Church on Saturday, April 18 at 11 a.m. and will be presided by the Rev. Dr. Douglas Foss, Rev. Michael Tuttle, Rev. George Karl and Pastor Wesley Ross. Bob will be buried privately at St. Joseph's Cemetery, Pittsfield, at a later date. Romans 8:38-39



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Published by The Berkshire Eagle from Apr. 14 to Apr. 15, 2015.

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Anna Bono

April 28, 2015

Maryann,Rosemary ,and Sophie
We were so sorry to hear of Bob's passing. I remember him as a young man,and what a gentle soul he was.As he grew older and build his life with his dear family, the more his compassion seem to grow. That kind of kindness will leave a hole in life, but I have no doubt, Maryann, his special brand of "Bob" will continue to grow with you,and your girls.
Anna(Triolo)Bono & family

Fr. Daniel B. Brunton

April 20, 2015

Dear Maryann, Rosemary, and Sophie,
My computer has been broken down for over a week now, and I was just put back online yesterday (as you know, I was always a Computer "Dummy"!) I just learned of your loss of your Husband & Father, as I read the obituaries from the Eagle every AM. I called Ned Roche & he confirmed the sad News for me. Since Bob is already buried, be assured that I will celebrate a Mass for the repose of his soul, and for the needs and intentions of his Family. As the Scriptures tell us the "good works that we
do follow us to the Kingdom." May Bob truly Rest in Peace, and provide the Grace, comfort, strength & Peace you need during these sad, days of your loss. You all know what a great Husband & Father he was & will continue to be as he showers the grace peace, comfort & strength you need, as you miss the love you shared as the Carnes family of Harding St.God Bless you all.

Joy Bishop

April 19, 2015

Dear Maryann, You may not remember me as I left the Berkshires almost 30 years ago but
I have never forgotten you as you have always
been in my thoughts and now in my prayers

Diane Pomeroy

April 19, 2015

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.

Leo Evans

April 15, 2015

Bob was an excellent lawyer but an even better person. My deepest condolences

April 15, 2015

Dear Carnes Family, I just now heard of Bix's passing. I can't believe it and am devasted by the news. There was a group of young men who lived in the east wing, second floor of Standford Hall at Notre Dame back in 1971-72 who created a bond that could never be broken. Bix and I were part of that small group. Unfortunately time and life-events physically separated us after that year, but we all stayed in touch and none of those individuals are ever out of mind. I'm sure I can't begin to imagine the grief you are feeling, but please know that I am profoundly saddened by this news. Bix was and continued to be a life-ling friend and confidant. Please know that he, you and the family will be forever in my thoughts and prayers.
Dan Gebhart

Joy Sprott

April 15, 2015

Maryann, I am sorry for your loss and your family is in my prayers. I have requested prayers from Silent Unity for you all for the next 30 days.

Tricia Pelkey

April 14, 2015

Dear Maryann, Sophie and Rose, we are so, so sorry for your lose. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. If you need anything, please let us help.

Bob and Tricia Pelkey

Lillian Pearsall

April 14, 2015

Dear Mayann, I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Kim Kie

April 14, 2015

Dear Maryann, Sophie and Rosemary,

So sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you joy. May you find peace through your faith and the love of family and friends.

peace,
Kim

Kris Pollard

April 14, 2015

Maryann and family- So very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Susan Lyman

April 14, 2015

Bob was top notch in every way. A truly bright, humble, honest, decent soul. To his family, my deepest sympathy.

Teddy Kozlowski

April 14, 2015

Maryann, you and the girls are in our thoughts. You may be in pain, but he no longer is..... Love...

Debbie Capeless

April 14, 2015

My deepest sympathies to Bob's family. He was always such a gentlemen. I hope your fondest memories sustain you through this difficult time

Charles McDonald

April 14, 2015

A mentor without ego...his quiet patience navigating complex theory in impartial, understated brilliance. Family, colleagues and friends will dearly miss his wry humor and genuine friendship. Rest peacefully, Bob. You got it right and showed the rest of us the way.

Rob Reff

April 14, 2015

To the families of Bob (Bix) Carnes,

My wife, Janet, and I are deeply sorry for your sad, sad loss. Bob, or Bix as we called him at Notre Dame, was a special, one of a kind man. He was one of the bravest and selfless persons I have ever had the pleasure of calling my friend. My heart is broken for all of you. He will be missed beyond all measure.
May God continue to bless him and all of you now and going forward.

David Raines

April 14, 2015

You are missed. Rest in peace Bob.

Jeanne Kirchner

April 14, 2015

Maryann, I am so sorry for your loss.

Craig Millard

April 14, 2015

Very Sorry for your loss. Bob always did a wonderful job for us in North Adams.

Kermit Goodman

April 14, 2015

My deepest sympathy and condolences to Bob's family. I knew him on a professional level for many years. He was always conscientious, honorable, decent and professional. This is but an example of just how unfair life can be. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Dan Less

April 14, 2015

Bob was a wonderful man. He had a brilliant mind. He was patient and kind. He was a wonderful teacher and mentor and good friend. The world is a better place because of Bob. Thank you for all you did for all of us.

Debb Ostrander

April 14, 2015

Marianne and family - Bob was not only my co-worker at the Da's Office but a good friend. He was a wonderful man with a great sense of humor. My thoughts are with all of you at this difficult time. Debb Ostrander

Lenox Police Department

April 14, 2015

Please accept our sincere condolences at the passing of Bob. Our prayers and thoughts are with you all.

Paul Caccaviello

April 14, 2015

My condolences to Bob's family and friends. For his dedication to his family, his brilliance, his sense of humor,all of his accomplishments among many other things, he was an inspiration and his legacy is something to aspire to.

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