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Barbara McKay Obituary
McKay, Barbara (Tomkowiak)
Webster. Age 67, entered into rest after a long, courageous battle with cancer on March 10th, 2010. Predeceased by her parents, Frank and Estelle Tomkowiak. Loving Wife, Mother and Grandmother (Bachi). Survived by her life-long best friend and husband of 48 years, Charles. Sons Michael (Dawn), Scott (Jeanine), Thomas (Margaret), and daughter Donna Miller (Scott). Grandchildren, Ashley Whipple (Christopher), Brandon McKay, Cathorene McKay, Valerie Miller, Kyle McKay, Nathan McKay and Samantha McKay. Brother Frank (Mary) Tomkowiak, and Sisters Joanne (John) Schifano, Paula (George) Glidden, and Sister-in-Law Lorraine Engel. Many loving nieces and nephews. Special friends Karen Santoli and Marilyn Moran. Barbara worked at Kodak for over 30 years, loved outdoor activities with her husband and being with family. Barbara was a former member of St. Cecilia's Church, current member of St. Rita's Church.
Family will receive friends Sunday, March 14th 1-6 PM at Falvo Funeral Home, 1295 Fairport - Nine Mile Point Rd., Webster, NY 14580 (Route 250). Please meet the family for a Celebration of life and Mass on Monday, March 15th at 9:30 AM in St. Stanislaus Church, 34 St. Stanislaus St., Rochester, NY 14621, and Interment at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, kindly consider donations to the Lipson Cancer Center, 1425 Portland Ave., Rochester, NY 14621.
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Memories and Condolences
for Barbara McKay
L. Connie Kawka
March 18, 2010
Barb was such a happy person - always with a smile. I sat next to her at Peaches when some of us from St. Stanislaus got together for lunch. I was impressed at the trips that she was taking with Chuck in between treatments. She wanted to enjoy life.
She is an angel in heaven now- watching over Chuck and the family. She will be there. May your wonderful memories bring you comfort and peace.
March 15, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I will always have fond memories of Barbara. She was a beautiful person inside and out. May your memories be a source of comfort to you at this time. God bless your family.
Love, Pearl Catone and daughters, Donna, Paula, and Debbie
Hilary Glidden
March 15, 2010
Dear Chuck, Joanne, Paula, and all the family,
I am so sorry to hear of Barb's passing. From my visits to her home, I know that she was a strong and loving woman who cherished her family and friends and that she will be missed. You're in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that your memories of Barbara will be a source of comfort during this difficult time. Love to you all.
Pete & Judy Klem
March 15, 2010
Chuck and family, Judy and I are deeply saddened by Barb's passing. She is in a better place now and no longer suffering. Unfortunately since we moved to NC we haven't seen you guys which is really sad. I remember the days Barb and I carpooled and cherish those memories. We always had a lot of fun working together. We will keep her in our prayers.
Ann Thompson
March 15, 2010
So very sorry Chuck & family for the loss of your loved one. Barb & I worked closely together at Kodak for many years. I also have wonderful memories of meeting her in Webster for bagels & evenings out for dinner and dancing together to zydeco music. She will also be in my heart...
George & Nancy Townsend
March 13, 2010
To Chuck and family,
George and I are so sorry for your loss. No words of comfort seem to touch the sorrow that you are all feeling today. However, the wonderful memories that you hold in your hearts will last a lifetime and bring comfort when you need them most. All our love and thoughts are with you today, tomorrow....and always.
Christine Allen
March 13, 2010
Love, thoughts and prayers to the family of Barb. I worked with her at Kodak. I am so sorry for your loss. Barb was a truly wonderful person.
Gayle Paprocki Livingston
March 13, 2010
Chuck and Family, We are so sorry for your loss of your beautiful Barb. I can see her precious smile and caring heart when I think of her. We have been friends for many years. I am sorry that I cannot be there with you all. Love and Prayers to you, Gayle Paprocki Livingston
Carol Meloni
March 13, 2010
To the McKay Family,
My deepest sympathy at your loss. Barb fought a brave battle.
I worked with Barb twenty five years ago at Kodak Park Accounting. I remember her as friendly, helpful and energetic. She loved her family and spoke of her children often.
May Barb rejoice in God's loving care in Heaven and be forever free from pain.
May you find comfort in each other.
Grace Placide
March 13, 2010
To the Dear Family,
I have known Barb for the past 33 years. She was a kind thoughtful generous and unselfish person. She always did whatever she could to make life better for others. She had all the characteristics of a true friend. She was with me in sadness and happiness, and I appreciate and Thank God for having such a wonderful person in my life. It has been such a wonderful blessing to have her as a friend. I thank the family for allowing her to share her life with me.
God Bless You all and I will keep you in my prayers.
March 13, 2010
Chuck, I have so many fond memories of Barb at Nazareth and infamous 12 of us. It was nice we stayed in touch for so many years and I will sorely miss Barb's smile and great sense of humor. I will think of her at our reunion as she was so determined to make. She is in her own reunion now with her deceased family and friends. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I am sorry not with you at your time of need but we are in Florida and not due home until the first part of April. Karen O'Brien
March 13, 2010
Jeanine, Scott and family
My love and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Love,
Aunt Joanne
March 12, 2010
So sorry to hear of your profound loss. We will always remember Barb's wonderful smile and her love of family. We are away and unable to attend the services. God bless you all.
Elaine and Dario
Lynn Placide
March 12, 2010
My Dearest McKay Family,
I am so sadden by the loss of Mrs. Mckay. She has been a true friend to my mother Grace and was there for my family at the times we needed her the most. When my father became ill and eventually passed away the person who came to pick us up at school was your Mom and the food we ate during those holidays while my Dad was in the hospital was prepared by Mrs. McKay's loving and caring hands. The list goes on and on. What a blessing to have her in our lives for just a little while. We will miss her tremendously, her gentle, kind, sweet ways and true friendship to our family will never be forgotten.
God Bless you all and Keep you in perfect peace!
Marcia Mendola
March 12, 2010
Dear McKay Family,
Our Class is saddened to hear of Barb's passing. We promise to pray for her at our Nazareth Academy Alumnae Reunion Mass on Mother's Day Weekend. She is probably already preparing the "heavenly homestead" for her family.
Fondly,
Marcia Fuehrer Mendola
Nazareth Academy, Class of 1960
Geralyn Ruffell
March 12, 2010
Scott, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Geralyn
Dee Burns
March 12, 2010
Dear Chuck and family, So sorry to hear of Barb's passing and that I cannot be there. Sending my sympathy and prayers and letting you know my heart goes out to all of you at this time of sadness. With deepest sympathy and fondest memories of wonderful times we had together.
March 12, 2010
I worked with Barb for 20 years. She was truly a wonderful person. We shared many a stories over the years sitting side by side in our cubicles. Barb knew how to live life to the fullest, and she will be sadly missed. I considered Barb to be one of my closest,dearest friends, and we have remained that way since her retirement 6 years ago. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Sincerely
Linda Conte
Jamie Von Buren
March 12, 2010
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
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