Tom Incaviglia

Tom Incaviglia obituary, MONTEREY, CA

Tom Incaviglia

Tom Incaviglia Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Dec. 18, 2009.
TOM INCAVIGLIA
July 31, 1929 ~ December 10, 2009

MONTEREY - Tom Incaviglia, 80, passed away peacefully while surrounded by his family on Thursday, December 10, 2009. He was born in Monterey, California to Antonino and Anna Incaviglia. He was a graduate of Monterey High School, class of 1947, where he lettered in football, basketball and baseball. Some of his football teammates would remember him as an amazing drop kicker of field goals and extra points. "In those days we didn't need a holder", he would say. Over the next several years he would serve his country in the Navy, attend St. Mary's College on a baseball scholarship and sign a professional baseball contract with the Brooklyn Dodgers.
His three sons were very fortunate to have him as their father. It is through his example that they learned to be the father's and husband's they are today. Tom was old school; hardworking and strong, yet loving and gentle. He truly believed that if you worked hard, treated people the way you would want to be treated, and with a little luck from the good Lord, you could have a good life. This is who Tom wasÉBut his true labor of love, as he called it, was his biggest gift to us. He was all about the game of baseball. It was his gift handed down to us just as any father would hand down their experiences and knowledge. But this would not be just any hand me down; this was his life, his passion. He taught the game with that passion, the old school way of playing the game that is very difficult to find today. He was a pioneer that a chosen few had the good fortune to experience first hand. Over 40 years ago the commitment he taught his sons, the drills, the workouts, the mechanics, the theorys are still the core of lessons being taught today at the highest levels. His son, Peter is a testament and a witness to that. Tom's home was the ballpark. He was ahead of his time when it came to the training and the teaching of the game. Whether anyone knew it or not he educated and led many.
He continued his devotion to the youth leagues on the Monterey Peninsula by heading a group that transitioned Peninsula youth baseball from affiliation of Little League Baseball to Pony League Baseball during the mid to late 1960's. But his passion was teaching the mechanics of hitting where he regularly gave lessons in the backroom of his convenience store he owned and operated for over 40 years. He was also the varsity head baseball coach at Robert Louis Stevenson during the 1970's. He also was a proud member of several club organizations that included the Kiwanis Club, Pacheco Club, Compari Club and the Beach and Tennis Club.
He is survived by his devoted and loving wife of 55 years, Dora; his two sisters, Angie (Sal) Cardinale and Lucille Carter; his three sons, Tony (Kathleen) Incaviglia, Frank (Kathleen) Incaviglia, Peter (Diana) Incaviglia; and his five grandchildren, Thomas, Renee, Philip, Nicholas, and Gina.
A traditional burial will be held at the Santa Lucia Chapel on Wednesday, December 16, 2009 at 2:00pm. He will be put to rest just a high fly ball away from where he spent his happiest times.

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Mike Merlo

November 17, 2022

A honorable very kind man with a big heart, he always looked out for me as did the rest of his family and his friends and relatives that knew me.

Mark Avila

January 16, 2010

Personally, I have lost one of my heroes. Mr. Incaviglia will always be Coach to me. What I remember and treasure most was that his coaching effort and intensity was the same no matter what the ability of the athlete. All you had to have was a love of the game to have Coach's complete and undivided attention.

He was a great ambassador for the game and for healthy activity for the youth of the Peninsula; Coach's actions taught humility along with the basics.

My God, we had our own home town professional baseball player as our coach; he looked you right in the eye when he spoke to you; in his mid 40's he would still hit balls out of Jack's Park left field(before the plate moved) and just grin when we roared our appreciation.

What a productive 80 years for several generations of Monterey youth!

Vince Aiello

December 29, 2009

You will be missed but not forgotten

Jennifer Kunow

December 18, 2009

I will always remember Tom's smile and enthusiasm for life, especially at baseball games. He and Dora opened their home to us and treated us as if we were family, the times we came to Monterey to visit. I'll never forget the lovely Italian meal they fixed in our honor, the tours of Monterey, brunch at the Pebble Beach Club, all the fun times at UofA baseball games. Your passing saddens me, but leaves us all with wonderful memories of what an inspirational man you were.
Love, Jennifer Moran Kunow

john rosa

December 18, 2009

So sorry, he was a legend, an inspiration to so many kids over the years, he will be missed...My condolences to all

Nancy (Russo) Kavanagh

December 18, 2009

Our fathers had very similar styles of coaching in Babe Ruth and Pony League.
"Everyone works hard, everyone plays".
As a 'scorekeeper' I ran down bleacher steps to retrieve the lineup changes behind home plate from Mr. Incaviglia.
He always acknowledged me with a "Thanks sweetie" and back to coaching mode he went.
Very fine memories of those years and meeting men that taught the game of baseball and demonstrated high values.
Sent with deepest sympathy to you all from the daughter of the late Sam Russo.

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