Marye Scheid Obituary

SCHEID--Marye H. on March 14, 2009 in Reston, VA. A former resident of Forest Hills Gardens, she was the beloved wife of the late Charles J. Scheid, Jr. MD; Devoted mother of Sharon Flynn, Mary Louise Duncombe and Charles J. Scheid III, and is also survived by nine grandchildren and one great-grandchild. A mass to celebrate her life will be held on Friday, March 27th, 2009 at 10:30am at Our Lady Queen of Martyrs Church, Forest Hills. Interment will be at Cemetery of the Holy Rood, Westbury, NY. Contributions in her memory can be made to: Xavier High School Annual Fund, 181 Randolph Road, Middletown, CT 06457

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Published by New York Times on Mar. 22, 2009.

Memories and Condolences
for Marye Scheid

7 Entries

sharon flynn

March 30, 2009

Megan's reading from the Old Testament at the Mass to celebrate Nana's life.

A reading from the Book of Ecclesiastes

“There is an appointed time for everything,
A time for every affair under the heavens.
A time to be born and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot the plant;
A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to wear down and a time to build;
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather them;
A time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces;”

Sharon Flynn

March 29, 2009

Geoff's reading from the Old Testament at the Mass to celebrate Nana's life.

Book of Ecclesiastes…continued

“A time to seek and a time to lose;
A time to keep and a time to cast away;
A time to rend and a time to sew;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate;
A time of war and a time of peace.

What advantage has the worker from his toil?
I have considered the task which God has appointed for us to be busied about.
He has made everything appropriate to its time
And has put the timeless into their hearts,
Without ever discovering, from beginning to end, the work which God has done.”

The Word of the Lord

Sharon Flynn

March 29, 2009

Brian's reading from the New Testament at the Mass to celebrate Nana's life.

A reading from the Book of Revelation

“I heard a voice from heaven say,
‘Write this:
Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.’
‘Yes,’ said the Spirit,
‘Let them find rest from their labors,
For their works accompany them.’”

The Word of the Lord.

Sharon Flynn

March 29, 2009

Mom's Eulogy
Part I

As most of you know, Marye Helen Scheid, met Charles J Scheid Jr, the soon to be doctor and man of her dreams in Washington, DC on VE Day in 1945. They were married in Massachusetts two years later. But first let me go back a little….

Mary Ellen Danahy was born in Lawrence, Massachusetts on January 4, 1924. The eldest of 10 children, she was raised in an Irish Catholic family, a family with humble blue collar roots. Sometime after receiving the sacrament Confirmation, when she took the name Helen, she dropped her middle name of Ellen and added the “E” to the end of her first name, Mary. Thus she became Mary with an “E”, adding to the uniqueness of the character and persona of our mother, your nana, your gi-gi, and your friend

Anyway, mom and dad moved to NY, and lived there together for over 50 years (except for a brief stint on a military base in North Carolina) First, they lived in Richmond Hill and then moved to Forest Hills. They had three children-- Sharon, me, the eldest and often a troublemaker, Mary Louise (LuLu), the fun loving middle child and most even tempered of the three of us and CJ III, their son and their pride and joy!

Dad was a successful doctor and busy most of the time, so that left mom to essentially care for and raise the children on her own. She never missed a beat…..We all attended Catholic elementary school (I went to St Benedict Joseph Labre, Lulu and CJ went here, to Our Lady Queen of Martyrs,) and went on to Catholic high schools and Catholic colleges .During all those years, with her support, we enrolled in every extra curricular activity that we wanted to and she saw that we got there or transported us herself. Our mom was an ever present fixture at PTA meetings, conferences, all school functions and in every audience when we competitively swam, debated or at anything else we did. She was our biggest fan and was there to celebrate with us when we were victorious and comfort us when we weren’t. It really seemed to me that she never stopped…and...no matter how much went on during the day, we always sat down at dinner time to a home-cooked meal which always included Mashed Potatoes!!! Fast food was a no-no to mom. Several nights a week, she cooked again at 10 or 11 at night, so that dad had that steak or chicken dinner on the nights he had late office hours!

Mom loved living in Forest Hills. A typical day for her would be: Get everyone off to school and dad off to work, pour herself another cup of coffee and have her usual gabfest with Aunt Ceil on the phone at 9:00 am. Then she’d do her household chores, and always have time to stand outside and talk to Frances Doyle. By 11:30 am she would be ready to head to Queen of Martyrs for the 12:05 mass and afterward to Austin Street to shop and meet her friends like Norma, Gerri, Irene, Agnes, Pat and others.

Mom was very active in the OLQM Woman’s Club, the Saint John’s Hospital Doctor’s Wives Auxiliary and the Forest Hills Community House.

(continued in posting below)

Sharon Flynn

March 29, 2009

Mom's Eulogy...Continued
Part II

She coordinated my wedding and Mary Lou and Mike’s wedding -- both held here at Our Lady Queen of Martyrs and proudly attended CJ and Joanne’s wedding in New Hampshire. I’m sure that she was a bit saddened that we all moved away from the area.
But, she never let on and we were all aware that our parents wanted us to have the best and if it meant moving away…well then so be it.

After we all married, came the real bonus for mom and dad….grandchildren…they loved it!!!. Nana, as she is known, never missed a birth, baptism, communion, confirmation, graduation, bridal shower, wedding or baby shower. She remembered every birthday with a card and a check and every Christmas the same way. Jill, Megan, Geoff, Maureen, Kate, Matt, Jennifer, Charles and Brian,----you were always a great source of joy for Nana and allowed her to have bragging rights to show off your pictures and list your latest accomplishments to her friends and acquaintances. I never thought I would see nana as happy as she was when she was talking about or surrounded by her grandchildren, but then something happened…rather someone….ABBY… and she became a great grandmother or----Gigi--- and although she was only a Gigi for 8 months before she died, Abby brought her such joy and added to her circle of life.

Over the years, she managed to get through the sad times; the deaths of her parents, dad’s parents, some siblings, her good friends and finally dad, her husband. She said she got through it with the help of God. In her last years, the weekly mass, rosary and Catholic communion service at Sunrise were of great importance and solace to her as she prepared to complete her journey here on earth and join dad again.

Mom followed God’s plan for her life. She was devoted to His mission for her which was to be a wonderful daughter, wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother. She accomplished it all and so much more with a quiet resolve. Mom was generous and wise and always gave everything of herself and never expected a thank-you. She was truly amazing!

So to Gigi from Abby; to Nana from all of your grandchildren and grandchildren by marriage, Jill and her husband, Dave; Megan and her husband, Derek; Geoff, Maureen and her husband. Kevin; Kate, Matt, Jennifer, Charles and Brian; and to our mom from CJ, the son of your dreams and the apple of your eye and his wife Joanne; from Lulu, your daughter, the wise one, wonderful cook and lover of shopping, just like you, and her husband, Mike; and from me, Sharon, your eldest, who now bears the official nickname of the “General” that you, in cahoots with John F., bestowed upon me;
We thank you for everything!

And in my role as the General, I have one final order for you, mom. Together with God and dad, look down on all of us from time to time, and rest in peace for all eternity!

Richard/Mary Lockwood

March 24, 2009

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Charles Scheid

March 22, 2009

Nana, I'll always, remember you, because you were the best Grandmother I ever had. I'll never forget when you used to bake me banana bread when I was little. I know you'll be re-united with Papa up in Heaven. God's Speed.
-Love Your Grandson Charles "J" Scheid 4th.

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