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Phil Shapiro
February 3, 2007
Yesterday was February 2. Exactly a year ago in the early morning, you finally found peace. It was a mixed feeling. You were in such pain your last months, that watching you in a peaceful "sleep," was somehow comforting.
It has taken a year to nearly erase remembering you as you looked at the end. I constantly look back to the "good times." If only you were here in body.
Love always,
Phil
Dave Shapiro
February 2, 2007
It has been a year today since Mom passed, and I miss her terribly. Most days are okay, but there is a big hole in the heart of this family, and sometimes it just hurts. Just feels really unfair. I just wish she was here to show her the boys, to tell her how much I love her, and all she's meant, and still means to me.
Mindi Estrada
February 1, 2007
Hey Mom,
Tomorrow marks a year, and while it hasn't gotten any easier it is easier to see some good. Like we didn't leave anything unsaid, I have no remorse or wishes that I could have said this or that.
A lot has changed this year and every time soemthing happens, I want to call you. Even today, when I went to the doctor- I wanted to call you and give you the update. But I guess you know, I guess I have to think that you can hear and see all. I miss you so much.
Kali totally knows you, she sees your picture and says "Grandma, then points to me and says mama". It's so sweet.
That's probably my biggest sadness, that you don't get to know or see her- or will know baby "J".
It's hard, Mom. I miss and love you. We all do. You know...
Love you,
Me
Phil
January 7, 2007
Dearest:
What a great gathering for you! There was never any doubt in my mind that you were there at all times. Everything went too smoothly to believe you didn't have a hand in it.
I know you would have rather had everyone at the house for dinner (made by you), but my limits are frozen waffles and Jello. I miss you and pray that you approve of the stone.
Love always,
Dave Shapiro
January 6, 2007
We dedicated Mom's headstone yesterday, while it seemed so sadly final, it has been made so much easier to be surrounded by family, in a spirit of love. I feel so supported by the family, and even though Mom was the tie that bound us together, we are tied forever in our common love for an uncommon woman.I want to express appreciation to all the cousins, and their spouses and families, for making the journey here to be together. I know travel is never easy, and it has meant the world to me, to be surrounded by the love and support.To those that may be reading this, who have not been able to see the stone yet, It reads: Forever, your hugs, your laugh, your love. There was so much to Mom's life, but everyone who knew her knows that at those three things, she was incomparable. The rabbi said, There is no "closure" to the grieving, but time and G-d make it easier. I sure hope so.
Phil
December 2, 2006
It's now ten months since you left. Every day something happens to remind me of the "happy days." Rider is here today and ALWAYS says he loves and misses you. Dana is doing well. Mindi is having her boy and they are both fine. Russell, Heather and the girls were here for Thanksgiving. David, Russell and Mindi made a Thanksgiving you would have been proud of! Love Always,
Mindi
October 16, 2006
Happy Birthday Mama! I know "all you want is a card"- but I am bringing you balloons, too. We love and miss you very, very much.
Love, Me, Rick & Kali
Phil
October 16, 2006
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Hope you like your new silk flowers. I know they don't smell nice, but they'll last. At your last birthday, you told me it probably will be your last. See, you were wrong. We all love you and miss you.
LOVE ALWAYS
Me
October 2, 2006
Hi Mom,
8 months...we lit a candle for you last night. Today will be Yiskor service, temple isn't the same without you...
Love you.
Phil
September 26, 2006
Hi Love:
As you know, I rejoined Beth El. The "old crew" misses you. It's far from the happiest new year, but being with Mindi & Dana at services was wonderful. I'm sure you have services where you are at. I say a prayer for you every day. I hope you hear it. Love Always
Mindi Estrada
September 22, 2006
Hi Mom,
I went to the doctor today and the baby's heartbeat sounded good and strong. In two weeks I am going to make the appt to find out if it is a boy or girl. Remember when we went and found out I was having a girl with Kali? That was such an exciting day! You squeezed my hand and Ricky's hand so hard!
Yesterday was a really hard
"missing you" day. Today is better. Not good, but better.
The holidays are coming up this weekend, and we are all thinking about you.
Love you forever and ever.
Phil
August 4, 2006
I was talking to a friend today and he told me, "Things weren't so good a year ago." I agreed that a year ago we were pretty low. It reminds me that for the past six months you have, I pray, left your pain and sadness behind you. Your family misses you every minute, but knows you have joined old friends and family. Stay well.
Love always,
Mindi
August 2, 2006
Hi Mama,
I can't believe it has been a half of a year already. Time goes by so slow, yet so fast.
We buried Grams today. I hope that this is the last person we bury for a long, long time.
I miss you so much. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you.
Miss you and love you so much.
P.S. Did you catch a balloon?!
Phil
July 30, 2006
Dearest:
As you know, both Mom & Dad are in your area. Please look in on them from time to time.
Love Always
Mindi
July 30, 2006
Hi Mom,
Please keep an eye out for Grams.
She'll be so surprised to see you there.
Love and miss you.
Me
Linda Yagoda
July 27, 2006
Hi Joyce,
wanted to let you know how comforting it is to always hear you engaging in conversation with me when I doubt myself or feel low.
You are missed dearly and just know you are often thought of,
warm hugs and lots of love. Keep an eye on Fred for us. and Say hi to mom. Give her a big hug too. Love,
L
July 25, 2006
Your always in my thoughts. Mindi misses you so much esp., right now. Maybe you can come to her again, she was so happy when you did the other night. I know you are watching over her.
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you today! Your missed and loved!
L
July 25, 2006
Your always in my thoughts. Mindi misses you so much esp., right now. Maybe you can come to her again, she was so happy when you did the other night. I know you are watching over her.
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you today! Your missed and loved!
Carmella George
July 10, 2006
Hi Joyce,
Freddie Rosas is with you now.
Please watch over him, he needs a Mom now more than ever and with your nurturing I am comforted to know he is in good hands.
Saw Phil on Saturday, he looks pretty good in those red G strings!
Phil
July 6, 2006
Five months! There is no way to express how much you are missed.
Mindi got the job! You must have had a hand in it, but I'm sure Mindi would have succeeded without any of our help.
Mindi worked hard to pack up some of your clothes. I'll give them to Hospice. We all love you and miss you.
Love Always
Mindi Estrada
July 4, 2006
Happy 4th of July, Mom. Bet you have a great view of the fireworks. Please watch over me tomorrow, I could use some of your magic.
Love and miss you so much.
Phil
June 5, 2006
Another month goes bye. . . . We all cheered Dana as she finished the Rock & Roll Marathon. I'm sure you would have yelled the loudest!
Love Always
Me
June 2, 2006
Just thinking of you and missing you so much.
Mindi Estrada
May 14, 2006
Hi Mama,
Happy Mother's Day. Please sit with us today and enjoy all your gifts.
Hopefully Kali will show off her walking for you today!
I miss and love you so much.
Love,
Me
May 3, 2006
Hi Hon:
Everything turned out fine at the hospital. (Of course, you already knew that). Three months! I hope you're "settled in" and happy. You certainly deserved a rest from all your suffering.
I brought you some new flowers. Hope you like them. Guess what? I finally made Jello! All by myself!
Love ALWAYS,
Phil
Mindi Estrada
May 2, 2006
Hi Mama,
Thinking about you. 3 months now...I know you are watching Dad...please keep an eye on him today- he is going in for his heart thing.
Kali's party turned out great. I can't believe she is one! Your presence was missed.
Big hugs, love you FOREVER.
April 21, 2006
Hi Hon,
As you of course know, Heather, Russell and the girls are coming to California! I agree that you used you "influence."
Mindi took over your job as "Seder Maker." She did a fantastic job! I'm sure you were more than proud.
They cut down the pine tree today. No more pine cones or needles! I know I bother you every day to give you a daily report, but I want you to know how many people miss you and wish you well. You are here and everywhere else.
Love ALWAYS,
Phil
Mindi Estrada
April 20, 2006
Hi Mama,
I can't stand it and I have to tell you the awesome news! Russell got a job at Chico!!! (I waited over 9 hours...)
I wish you were here to help celebrate. Lisa says you probably not only know, but had something to do with it.
Your candle is still burning. Do they normally last this long?
Oh, I miss you so, so much.
I am so grateful for our friendship and close bond. I feel so lucky to have you as my mom.
I hear stories of other people who have lost their mom and the regret that they feel. I don't have any regrets, no guilt, no secrets. We weren't like that.
How do I keep that with Kali?
I wish you were here. She will be one next week.
The party isn't going to be the same without you, and your laugh.
I love you, Mom. Forever. You're the best!
David Shapiro
April 19, 2006
Rider and I lit a yartzeit candle tonight, and we talked a little about Mom. I couldn't help but cry a little, so did Rider.We talked about how letting go of the tears helps us heal, but it doesn't feel like it. The sad times are not as often now, but the sense of loss is no less intense. It is almost as if reality is finally setting in, and I realize at a deeper level just what a loss we all have suffered by Mom leaving us. I wish I could have the thousands of hugs and kisses we were cheated out of, to hear that laugh. You know-- THAT laugh.
Missing Mom, Dave
Phil
April 4, 2006
Hi Hon!
Over two months now. Of course, you were sick for most of 2005. I find that I can remember the "good times" more & more. I know you have visited me a couple of times. I wish I knew if there is a message, or something you want me to do. Please give Mindi a visit. She needs to feel you. We all think about you constantly.
Love ALWAYS
Carmella George
April 3, 2006
Hi Joyce,
It has been awhile since you left us for a better place; however, it is only now that I can write to you.
The last time I saw you, you could not speak; however, you squeezed my hand and I could tell that you could hear me.
I will always remember your smile, warmth and your laugh.
Hope you are enjoying desinging those kitchens!
Save me a chair up there,
Love,
Carmella Rosas George
Mindi Estrada
April 2, 2006
Hi mama,
Well, it has been two months...Kali said her first word last Monday. She said "baby". You would have loved it. Hopefully you heard it. I miss you so much.
Love forever.
David Shapiro
March 8, 2006
I want to thank everyone who contributes here.It's real hard sometimes, just like Uncle Jim said it would be.The sadness just hits, and I feel the hole Mom left.The love I read from everyone helps so much. We all miss her together, and I don't feel so alone.
Judi Chapnick
March 7, 2006
Joyce:
This was written to send to our friends and family. I am sharing it here.
Phil called to tell us the sad news while we were in Chicago. We spent the night at Jim and Sharon's. Jim was to wake us before he left for work; he came in the room and asked if we had just heard the phone ring, which we had not. The phone ringing was Phil, telling him that Joyce had just died. Hopefully, she didn’t suffer; she sure put up a valiant struggle to stay alive. She had difficulty breathing at the end. But her blood pressure was strong! Hospice was absolutely amazing…what a selfless group. Poignant that we were staying at Jim’s, Barry’s brother.
Barry said that he didn’t realize until the last few years (before she became ill) how important she was to all of the family, to Phil, to her kids, to all of us and the nieces (Geri, Stephanie, and Dana) and nephew (our son, Michael) and that she was a leader. When she became ill, all went out to see her, including Michael from Singapore, and Dana from San Francisco, and Geri, Stephanie, Jim and Sharon from Chicago and Russell, Heather and the girls from Minnesota, and us, from St Louis, each several times. Dana and Joyce loved being in the kitchen together. She shared her favorite recipes with us in December, and Mindi has all of her recipes. We were with her on Chanukah, Barry made the Latkes the first night, and Joyce made them the second. She had a look of pure joy, grating and cooking the potatoes. We are going to miss her. She and I have said for a very long time that we are sisters, not sisters-in-law. Joyce and Phil, have 3 kids, 8 grandchildren…4 born this year!!! May 29th would have been their 40th wedding anniversary.
This morning, I was thinking of all our shared times over the years. Joyce was a beautician in her first life, and did my hair. Taught me how to fold laundry! She and I went to my brother’s wedding in LA; Barry had finals. He met us in LA and we whisked him off from the airport to our first trip to San Francisco. She refused to take care of my curly hair while we were in the humidity there. She told everyone we were engaged, before we were officially. She married Phil a year after we got married, then their oldest, David was born a week before Michael. This began her second life, as a full time Mom. We were together often; they took care of Michael when Barry was in the hospital. We had gone to see Barry with my mother-in-law, Phil took care of the boys, no cell phones, 40 miles away (Montrose and Marine Drive) and they lived in Highland Park) When we got to the hospital , she called Phil, who said Michael had 106 temp, we raced back, they went with me to the hospital. They were godsends. (It was roseola)
We moved to Iowa City at the same time they moved to Parsippany, New Jersey. They visited us in Iowa City, with now 2 boys, 16 months apart: Russell and David. When they arrived at 2 in the AM, they threw the boys to us, and went to sleep. They cried all the way! They then took care of Michael in NJ while we went to a meeting in Vermont. In 1973, they moved to San Diego, now with Mindi, too, and we moved to New Orleans. We saw each other in each place plus Chicago. Whenever, wherever! My mother-in-law moved to SD, in about 1978, so it was an added excuse to go west. (When there was only one highway!!! And Phil had a bumper sticker: You have seen San Diego, now go home.)
We went out when Barry’s Mom was dying and for happy occasions. They were very active at the Synagogue, went for Bar/Bat Mitzvahs; and Joyce and Phil always had people in the pool. She even became a swimmer. Joyce came to Chicago for Barry, Jim and Joyce’s Mom’s funeral. Michael was in Israel. She took Geri, Stephanie, and Dana to Michigan Avenue for a fun day; they all returned giggling: she wouldn’t let Sharon or me join with them; it was their special time.
We moved to St Louis. After only seeing our kitchen twice: for Michael’s Bar Mitzvah and Dana’s Bat Mitzvah, many years ago, she took the original plans of the 1929 house, redesigned the kitchen area, and it has been redone. Upon completion, she and Phil met Russell and Heather and two of the 4 girls at our house for Chanukah (warmer than Minnesota.) It is a wonderful kitchen, and is now even more meaningful. Joyce is a CKD (Certified Kitchen Designer) and designed kitchens for years and became a leader at Home Depot, working with the other staff, checking and re-checking their measurements and work. This was the third stage, or third career.
Lucky us….a very close family, we all go to all of the weddings. A few years ago, we saw them 6 times in one year. Lawyer Phil officiated and became the “Rabbi” at Michael and Vanessa’s small wedding overlooking the beach. Dana, Michael, Vanessa and us would meet in San Diego to have Thanksgiving with the Shapiro’s …Joyce loved that holiday. Barry used to go to Anaheim for meetings right before Thanksgiving, so we just continued this as a tradition, and Phil’s parents, Nettie and Joe, who moved there from Chicago were also with us, as one very large, close family. We enjoyed walking on the beach, and one time when we stayed at the Capri at Pacific Beach, Joyce and Phil brought the Thanksgiving dinner there. Michael taught Rider how to make dust in the sand. Joyce was an amazing, special grandmother to her first grandchild, Rider, and as the others kept coming, she found an incredible amount of love for each.
Joyce, I sent this to all our friends and family. It has been hard to write here, for both Barry and me. He asks me to tell you that he will be careful of his thumb while slicing potatoes for latkes. We are thinking of you always in so many different places, but especially in the kitchen (with Barry cooking and me drinking my glass of wine, as you drew in the plans of the kitchen.)
You have drawn the family together; we saw Phil last week, and will see him again for Dana's run in June. You will be cheering her on with us.
We love you and miss you, dear sister,
Judi and Barry
Joyce (Grandma) surrounded by boyfriends
Phil
March 7, 2006
Dear, One of my worst problems is that I keep picturing you as you were at the end. I have come to understand that "body" was not you.
I believe that the part that was you was already in heaven. You were probably re-arranging the furniture and designing new kitchens.
I now surround myself with memories and photos of the "real you." Here you are with your boyfriends.
Love ALWAYS,
Phil
Russell Shapiro
March 6, 2006
To all who read these pages,
It means so much to to me to see how my mom touched you all. Not many folks get to spend their time on this planet making an impact. My mom did and that is why there is such a void now that she is gone.
One month has passed since the funeral but I can't say I have come very far. This morning I was doing a dual diaper change and I felt so angry that my mom would never see these babies again. Stories about her will fill all of her grandkids minds, like my own mind is rich with stories of 'Papa' though I never met him.
I hope we all find the same peace and strength one day that my mom showed in her last month.
Love, Russell
dana chapnick
March 3, 2006
auntie,
i have put off writing in the guest book for too long. it's hard for me to express just how wonderful of a person you were and how much you mean to us all! i have so many fond memories with you. your energy, charisma, positive attitude, dedication to all in your heart and true fighting spirit are a model to live by.
i feel so blessed that i was able to spend so much time with you over the past few years since moving to california. auntie, you were always so honest and candid with me. i appreciate that more than you know. you reminded me of the importance of family and always filled me with confidence and determination.
i will always remember your fantastic laugh that came straight from the toes and overflowed out and touched all those around! and god, i remember your strength...
i know you are in heaven making sure we are taken care of. do you know that i got accepted to thomas jefferson? on the day same day you left us... it was a bittersweet moment, but as stephanie put it, "it was a god moment!" you and uncle phil have been sooooooooo supportive and encouraging through this whole application process. thank you.
i'm heading back to san diego next weekend to spend some quality time with the famfam and also to visit t.j. i can't wait to give big hugs! you know you gave the best hugs, right? especially since you were my height and i never felt squashed in your arms!
i'm also in the midst of training for the san diego rock 'n roll marathon. we're working hard to raise money to support patients and their families who are living with blood cancers. it's a great group with such inspirational people! and of course our family is amazing and has been so supportive!
one of our coaches in particular is amazing! she is fit as and pure muscle... and imagine that she used to be 335 lbs! wow! she one day decided that she needed to make a life change and with hard work, she did it!
but what keeps me going... what keeps me pushing through the hills and past the cramps is hearing you cheer me on and telling me to fight with all i've got! how could i not fight after watching your courage and the determination with which you fought? you're the real inspiration.
so, every morning when i lace up my shoes and for every mile i run i'll be thinking of you ok?
can you feel the love we all send you up in heaven? cuz we all feel your love. it's truly everlasting. big hugs auntie. i miss you, dana
Phil
March 3, 2006
A month has passed. I woke suddenly at 4:35 a.m. on March 2. The days go by slow and the month went by too fast.
Love ALWAYS
David Shapiro
March 2, 2006
Dear Mom, It's been a month now, and I wanted to write something in here to the people who have written , and people who read your guestbook. I feel so lucky that everything I felt I needed to express to you before you passed, I was able to. Like everyone, I miss you, and I often feel your presence in my heart, and I have been feeling like it helps me to be a better man. What I wanted to express now, and I hope I can do it adequately, is how blessed and lucky I am to have had you for my mother. I grew up always knowing you cared deeply, that I (like Russ and Mindi) was the light of your life, and nothing was more important than me.That my mom would do ANYTHING to make my life better. No sacrifice was ever too great, and I know I put you through a lot. I never once, not ever felt neglected.All of my needs were met and then some. Your friends, siblings, coworkers, even the grandchildren , everyone who met you can surely imagine, but only Russell, Mindi, and I know what it feels like to have you for our mother.Loved us like a rock. Thank you, Dave
Grandma and Kali- she loved you so much.
Mindi Estrada
March 2, 2006
Hi Mama,
I can't believe it has been a month. Heck, most of the time I can't believe you are gone, let alone gone for a month.
I look at all of the people that have signed this book, and I read what they wrote...you were such an incredibly special person in so many people's lives.
I miss you. It's not getting any easier, I know with time it will.
Today Ricky turns "2"- I know you would have been so proud, so I will tell him for you.
Kali's getting a new tooth- I always talk about you to her. She will know all about you, and I will share pictures and video with her- don't worry. Although I know you never did. I just found this picture I have been looking for of the two of you. I am posting it on here.
Love you, Mom- miss you more.
Geri Millunchick
February 26, 2006
Dear Uncle Phil, Mindi, Russell,& Dave,
I just wanted to tell you that I have been thinking of all of you everyday. Aunt Joyce was the most loving and caring person I have ever met.
I still remeber my dad getting that awful phone call last spring; We were sitting at Tommy's baseball game when Aunt Joyce called my dad. She informed us that they found 2 black spots by her lungs. Needless to say we were shocked and stunned. That afternoon many tears were shed. With each call that followed the news got worse and worse. When we headed out to California in June I was so amazed at Aunt Joyce's positive attitude. Everytime I talked to her on the phone she was so positive.
I am so thankful that I made the trip in Jan. to see her and give one final hug and kiss. Not a day goues by that I haven't been thinking about her and remembering all the fun and good memories.
I love you all very much!
Love, Geri
Mike Bean
February 23, 2006
Dear Davey, Mindi and Shapiro Family,
I just wanted to say that we are sorry for your loss, and that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love to all,
Mike Bean and Family
Linda Yagoda
February 23, 2006
Goodmorning Joyce,
I know you are in a better place listening in. As I speak to you, I can hear your replies and they are comforting. I had some quite time and shared with you the photo albums of our friendship over the years. The tears both in happy and bad times. Remembering the times we shared personal embaresments and laughed hysterically, you,me,Larry and Phil. I still share those stories.
Just wanted to drop you a line - even though you are with me. Love,
Linda
Rider Shapiro
February 22, 2006
Grandma, I love you and miss you. I hope you are having a good time there. I hope you have friends there, and got to see your parents. Love, Rider
Nicky Guzman
February 21, 2006
Dear Joyce:
It took me a while to sign this guest book, as I didn't want to leave anything out. I wanted to make sure that you know I will always remember you and keep you close in my heart. Our story goes back a long time. In the beginning you were "Phil's wife" but with time, you became my friend, and in the past 12 years, you shared so much of my life, and Gabriel's (Onchondo) life, that I could not have you called you by any other name. I can still hear you calling Phil and me in for dinner, or coming into the office to share a story about Rider. The love you showed to that little boy will be engraved in my memory forever. You displayed such pride and joy for him and all your grandchildren. I loved hearing the stories. I also loved how you were so much part of my life, our wedding, our telling you that we were going to make you and Phil a new aunt and uncle with the birth of Veronica, your trip to our house with Rider to meet Veronica when she was only a week old. I'll miss our talks about diets and exercising. I'll also miss our double-dates. I remember you would always laugh and comment that you were old enough to be our parents, and here you were, double dating with Gabriel and me. But we loved spending time with you guys, the sushi, the saki. I've lost count of the many special occasions we spent together. I still get a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes when I think that those days are gone. I have the many pictures, though, of all the fun times. I'll show them to Veronica and tell her about her Aunt Joyce, and how fun, wonderful and loving she was. I'll miss your hugs and kisses. You always made me feel so welcome in your family, and I will never forget you. I miss you very much, my friend, but I know that you are now with God, and at peace. I'm trying to keep an eye on Phil when I can and make sure he's doing well; although it will never compare to how well you took care of him. We miss you and love you, and will never forget you. - Nicky and Gabriel
Phil
February 20, 2006
Dear:
It has been almost three weeks since you left us. By now you must be "all set up" in heaven. I'm sure you have joined your Mom & Dad & that makes me happy. I'm also sure you've made a lot of new friends. Do they need kitchens done in heaven?
We hope you enjoy the flowers that Mindi, Dave and I have left you. Just don't be lonely, we see and talk to you every day! I'm also excited that Dana may be moving in. There's no one to yell at me!
Love ALWAYS
The Two Amigos
February 20, 2006
michele shapiro
February 18, 2006
hi joyce, it's taken awhile for me to write you. I think of you every day.I'm not so good with computers either,and my typing and spelling suck. Thank you for coming to say goodbye on the morning of your passing ,kainoa was sleeping and davey was in the shower but I woke to feel you in our room.It was a sweet thing to do. I feel you've been to visit a couple times now and it's always a good feeling to have you visiting the boys. You were such a loving grandma to Rider ,no one will ever compare to the love you both shared with eachother.It was so special to watch Davey with you in the end of your battle with cancer,he was so gentle and loving toward you,I've never seen that side of him,and it was so beautiful to behold. I intend to follow your lead by making my family our family my top priority as you did. I remember you telling me that when your kids were just children they often said that you were so mean that they had the meanest mom ever. And you told me that , that was fine with you,you knew how much you loved them and you had to be tough with them sometimes because you loved them so .caring to much was better than not caring at all. Your never ending loyalty and care and devotion and love to your family are so admired and respected by myself and so many others. You are a rare bird miss joyce, I hope to follow in your footsteps,in that regard.I miss you so very much. I don't miss so much doing your hair [ha-ha] girl you had some hair [whew] I miss your laugh, your hugs,your kiss. your hope and faith and possitive energy were contagious. Please watch over us all . I love you always your daughter from another mother , michele xoxoxo
Mindi Estrada
February 14, 2006
Hi Mama,
Happy Valentine's Day. I miss you so much...I keep picking up the phone to call you. You're the best ever. I love you so much.
Jerrold Dolins
February 12, 2006
Phil, Davey, Russ and Mindi,
I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences to each of you and your families. Although distance has kept us from knowing one another in a more meaningful way, I do have fond memories of Joyce’s mother, my Cousin Lee, and would often run into her on the north side of Chicago.
May the Lord continue to hold you and yours in the palm of his hand.
Love,
Cousin Jerrold Dolins
Phil
February 9, 2006
Dear, It has taken me a week to get the courage to read your Guest Book.
Our only consolation is that you are finally rid of pain and suffering.
I made sure that you were wearing your favorite pj's for your trip. The last few months had me praying often for God to finally take you. I begged you to "let go." I know you understand why I kept asking you. I'm truly sorry you had such a painful nine months. You certainly didn't deserve it.
I know you are complaining about your thick hair and wanting to lose weight. I miss your cuddle. Love always.
Terry Berman
February 9, 2006
SHAPIRO FAMILY,
MY VERY FIRST MEMORIES ARE SPENDING TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY. AS FAR BACK AS I CAN REMEMBER, THERE WAS MINDI, DAVID, RUSTY, PHIL, AND JOYCE. WE WENT TO BETH EL WHEN IT WAS JUST A HOME WITH A BOISTEROUS RABBI. DURING HOLIDAYS, DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN JOYCE WAS THE "POCKET LADY"? SHE HAD AN OUTFIT WITH A HUNDRED POCKETS WITH PRIZES AND TOYS IN EVRYONE. SOMETIMES I THINK SHE LET ME TAKE TWO. I LOVED SPENDING TIME WITH YOU GUYS, GROWING UP IN YOUR HOME. I ALWAYS FELT WELCOME AND PART OF THE FAMILY. JOYCE FED ME, LET ME SPEND THE NIGHT, AND EVEN MADE ME DO CHORES WHEN I WAS THERE TOO LONG. BUT WHAT I REMEBER MOST AS I WRITE, IS THE HUGS AND THE BIG KISSES I WOULD GET FROM HER WHENEVER I WAS OVER. A FEW TIMES SHE WOULD YELL AT ME AS IF I WERE HER OWN, BUT ONCE SHE GOT HER POINT ACROSS, IT WAS BACK TO OL' JOYCE.
MY LOVE AND CONDOLENCES TO YOU PHILLIP, MINDI, DAVID, AND RUSTY. YOU GUYS ARE A BIG PART OF MY HAPPY CHILDHOOD AND I THINK OF THE SHAPIROS OFTEN...
LOVE,
TERRY BERMAN
Tress and Tina Balch
February 9, 2006
To the Shapiro Family,
What a wonderful blessing it was to have had the pleasure of knowing Joyce. The fingerprints of her beauty and joy are seen through all of you.
Dick Verlasky
February 9, 2006
Phil:
To my old softball playing buddy . . . I was sad to learn of your wife's passing. Many condolences, my friend, many condolences.
Dick
Larry Yagoda
February 9, 2006
Phil and Family,
Joyce had been the sister I never had, As well as one of my best friends (Phil included). I will miss her terribly. My thoughts, and prayers (in my own way) are with you all
Rebecca Lack Mowbray
February 8, 2006
Dear Phil and Family: I was saddened to read about the news of Joyce's death in the paper on Sunday. I know what a loving and wonderful relationship Joyce and Phil have always had and her loss must be immense. I hope it helps to know that she is no longer suffering. I offer my deepest condolences.
Linda Yagoda
February 8, 2006
I had the pleasure meeting Joyce through my jewlery business back in 1978. That is when I pierced Mindi's ears.
I interacted with Joyce and Phil and they introduced me to my current and present husband, Larry. Joyce was my best friend/mother at times and when she need the pat on the back and comfort of being held, I was ther for her. Joyce and I have been through many life's crisis and have been there for each other. I made sure I was there, in her weak state, to lay next to her, hold her and tell her how much I loved her for all her love and support she gave me through the years. I gained comfort kissing her and holdng her next to me. Although she may not have had the strength to return a conversation, I knew she was with me and felt the Love I had- for her then as through the 30 years of friendship.
You have left a legacy of what how people should treat each other; with love and respect and a different way to look at life on a day to day basis. We are not here forever and "who are we to deny our partners the happyness they deserve in life." This I have learned and live my life by. Thank you Joyce for your wisdom and love.
Linda Yagoda
Tommy Goodbody
February 8, 2006
Joyce,
Say hello and hug my sweet JuJu for me. You'll find her hangin with the Jerry and Bob Marley crowd up there.
You can't miss finding her. Big smile, warm blue eyes and a hug for everyone.
Your ceremony was beautiful. I really enjoyed the personal touches the Rabbi added to the celebration of your life.
Although we all grieve diffently, I can relate to the pain of loss your Phil and the kids are going through.
Life isn't easy and when you throw in the passing of a loved one it just makes this life that much harder.
Please hug JuJu for me!
Peace and Love,
Tommy Goodbody
Kim Brogan
February 8, 2006
Dear Phil & Family,
I am so sorry. My mother died of lung cancer and I know how sad it is to watch someone slip away from it. I really enjoyed Joyce and her "spontaneous combustion." I remember her laugh at the party I threw in law school. She was a sweetie. I know this must be incredibly difficult. I believe sincerely that our loved ones go to a place where the little pains and joys of our lives no longer matter. They are whole, breathing deeply, able to function as they did in their youth. Please let me know if I can do anything. Love, Kim
STEVE SHANNON
February 8, 2006
MINDI AND FAMILY:
I CAN'T BELIEVE YOUR MOM HAS GONE. WHERE DOES THE TIME GO WHEN WE BELIEVE WE'VE GOT LOTS LEFT??
I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW SHE WAS NOT DOING WELL OR I WOULD HAVE SEND A NOTE OR SOMETHING! SHE'LL BE MISSED. I DON'T HAVE A LOT OF FRIENDS OR PEOPLE I KNOW CLOSELY, BUT SHE WAS ONE OF THEM AND I'LL MISS KNOWING THAT SHE'S AROUND.
SORRY I MISSED THE SERVICES MINDY.
MICHAEL WORKS WITH YOUR DAD, STEVE VICTOR AND TONY KALIKAS AT THE FIRM AND THAT IS HOW HE FOUND OUT AND WENT IN OUR STEAD TO THE SERVICES....
SEE YOU AT THE NEXT GET TOGETHER?
YOU KNOW?....2/21/06? SOUND FAMILIAR?
SAY HELLO TO YOUR DAD. I TRIED TO CALL YOU, BUT YOUR NUMBER WAS NOT ANSWERING.
TAKE CARE PHIL, SEE YOU NEXT WEEK MINDY...
STEVE SHANNON
858-204-2040
Margaret Lewis
February 7, 2006
I have only known Mrs. Shapiro for a short time, but could tell what a very wonderful, loving, and caring mother, wife and grandmother she was. I am really going to miss our conversations we had on the days that you would pick up Rider from school. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family . . .
Margaret Lewis
Whittier/Del Sol Academy
Jean Hegland
February 7, 2006
There are so many things our family loved about Joyce--her vivacity, her generosity, her love of fun. But perhaps what meant the most to us was how immediately and completely she welcomed our Heather--and by extention, us--into her family. Her warmth was contageous, and we were always so happy to see her, talk to her on the phone, or even hear how about what she and Phil were up to through Russell and Heather. She was so proud of her family. Her husband, children and their spouses, and grandchildren obviously meant the world to her. And we were glad to be even a small part of that. We will miss Joyce a lot for a very, very long time, and we are are keeping Phil, David, Russell, Mindi, and the whole dear, extended family close in our hearts.
Much love,
Jean, Douglas, Hannah, Tessa, Garth
Russell Shapiro
February 6, 2006
Mom,
When I first heard the news, I felt thankful that your suffering ended before it became unbearable. You fought with such dignity and strength. However, now I find myself missing you terribly, selfishly.
With the love you taught me, Russell
Lisa McDade
February 6, 2006
Dear Shapiro Family,
I met Joyce through my contractor who was creating my dream kitchen, he raved about her! I knew exactly what I wanted but needed Joyce to measure and give her 2 cents! She was so funny, sweet and as excellent as I'd been told. I made her lunch (had to be carb-free!) and we chatted for hours.
I was standing in this beautiful kitchen that she helped create when I almost dropped my coffee seeing her name in the obits. She promised to come back when the kitchen was done so she could see her work in real life, not on paper. Just last month I gave her business card to my mom so Joyce could help her with her kitchen. I'm saddened that she's gone; she was a special person and I'm grateful that our paths crossed.
Godspeed Joyce and may your family find comfort knowing that they'll see you again one day.
Lisa Laycock
February 6, 2006
Joyce/Mom,
You are wonderful mother and friend. Always encouraging, nurturing , loving and kind. You always made me feel like a part of the family. You and Dad were there when I needed you the most and I will always be greatful for that. Thank you for allowing me to be apart of your life. It was an honer and a privilage. I love you.
Love Lisa
Lora Roberts
February 6, 2006
Dear Shapiro Family,
I feel so lucky to have met Joyce and to have had the opprotunity to work with her. She is held in my heart as a fabulous person, full of energy, empathy, wisdom and hope. She always treated me as if I was one of her own family members, supporting me through everything I did, decisions I had to make, situations I needed advise on, or simply someone who cared when I needed an understanding shoulder to lean on. She lives on in my fond memories and warm heart, but she will be greatly missed by us all. With much love and sympathies, Lora.
Mindi Estrada
February 5, 2006
Mama,
For some reason my other note to you didn't get printed...but I know you hear me. I miss you. We all miss you. I just want to hug you and tell you I love you. There's no one like you in the world. I am scared for tomorrow, but I'll be holding dad's hand and together we all will make it. You made us such a strong family.
I love you so so much.
Ira Beltran
February 5, 2006
Dear Shapiro Family,
I had the privilage to have worked with Joyce for a few years and will forever admire and remember both her words of advice and encouragement. I am lucky and honored to have known such a great lady and she will be missed by all who knew her. My condolences for your great loss.
Ira Beltran
Judith Scott
February 5, 2006
Dear Phil,
I'm so sorry for your loss....everyone's loss. I really loved Joyce a lot...and I made sure that I told her every time we talked.
I love you too Phil...for the way that you loved Joyce (& your entire family) You had a relationship with Joyce to which we should all aspire.
Joyce will really be missed, and I'll miss seeing you two together.
God Bless. You're all in my prayers.
Nancy Beland
February 5, 2006
Dear Phil and family;
I am saddened to learn of Joy's passing. She was such a wonderful person. But, you know that. May your memories bring you peace. Most Sincerely and with Blessings; Nancy formerly from Summerville at Clairemont
David Shapiro
February 5, 2006
Dear Mom, we already miss you so much. I was looking through photos, and I found one of you hugging the mailperson when we moved into the house on Quapaw. So like you. You introduced yourself (first day there) We're the new people here! And grabbed the mail-lady and hugged her. We are going to miss that unconditional, spontaneous love of yours. Mom, I hope you are happy, and I know you deserved peace, but please watch over us.
Mindi Estrada
February 5, 2006
Mama,
I love you so, so much. I just don't understand all of this and how to deal without you. I don't know what to say that you don't already know. I just feel better being able to write to you. I know computers aren't your "thing", but hopefully you will see this.
I love you. Tomorrow's gonna be hard, but I'll hold dad's hand and help him.
I wish I could have one more hug from you- NO ONE gives as good a hug as you. I miss you.
I hope you are OK and not scared anymore. I love you.
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