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Muncie - Thomas Bender, 76, passed away Monday, July 13, 2020, at the Indiana University Health Ball Memorial Hospital following a brief illness. He was born on August 11, 1943 in Muncie, Indiana the son of John Bender and Shirley (Swope)Bender- Brinson.
Thomas graduated in 1960 from Yorktown High School and later married the love of his life Lynn (Whittenburg) on August 7, 1989 in Manchester, Tennessee and she survives. Mr. Bender had worked as a Supervisor for Westinghouse until they shut down while he had served the Eaton, Indiana police Dept as a reserve. He later worked for the security Dept. at the Ball Memorial Hospital for 24 years prior to his retirement in 2005.
Besides his wife of 30 years, Lynn, he is survived by 3 daughters, Kim Brown (Mike), Jennifer Bender and Elaina Lunardina (Denni) , all of Muncie; 13 grandchildren Haley and Jason Watson, Jeffery and Meranda Minnick, all of Muncie, Kennedy and Cole McCarty , Seattle, Washington, Chris Palin, Jr. and Kim and Stephanie Brown all of Muncie; 4 great grandchildren; 2 brothers, David Brinson (Martha) and Steve Brinson (Kathy), both of Muncie; 1 sister, Barbara Erwin (companion Rick Jackson), Muncie; several nieces and Nephews.
He is preceded in death by his parents; step father Delbert Brinson.
A Private family committal service will be at the Parson Mortuary with Pastor Larry Waters officiating. Private burial will follow at the Tomlinson Cemetery.
Memorial contributions may be made to American Kidney Foundation Fund 11921Rockville Pike Suite 300 Rockville, MD 20852.
Online condolences may be made to the family in care of www.parsonmortuary.com.
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Jennifer Paille
July 8, 2025
I can't believe that it's been 5yrs, I talk to you everyday I miss those goofy little talks we had! Mom tells me pretty much every time we see each other or talk that I remind her of you I love that.. I listen to the police scanner everyday, I miss you and I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! Your daughter Jennifer
Jennifer Paille
July 19, 2020
Dad, you were always good to me and I am proud to say that I am your daughter! You are a great man, father, and most of all a grandfather!!! I will always love you!! XOXOX!
Mike brown
July 17, 2020
To one of the greatest men I've ever known. It has been an honor to be your son-in-law.
love Mike brown
Kim Brown
July 16, 2020
My Dad, My friend, my Superman,
Dad could do anything, he was always here for me. And Dad loved everyone he met, no one was a stranger. You put up with a lot from me and I was privileged to be able to help take care of you at the end of our time together. I miss you so! Till I see you again!! Love, your daughter.
Kim Brown
July 16, 2020
Susan Campbell
July 16, 2020
It was an honor to know him. I always enjoyed our talks.
Ashley Crowder
July 15, 2020
MY friend Tom!! It was a dear pleasure to care for you the last few months. It was my pleasure to hear u talk so highly of ur loving wife Lynn and family!! You have a huge heart and loved those that meant the world to you!!! I will always remember our talks, our accomplishments, our little good morning rotuines!!! You will be dearly missed my friend, know that I loved you as my grandpa!! Till we meet again my friend!! Ride those clouds high!!!
Steve and Stephanie Woods
July 15, 2020
Uncle Tom you will be truly missed! Theres no more suffering now and I am sure you are rejoicing Mom and all our family that was there waiting on you! Our condolences to the family we love you all and we wish we could be there. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers!
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