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Dwayne McFarlane Obituary

Cass Lake soldier killed

Bomb claims man, 20, who survived earlier attack on unit

BY BILL GARDNER

Pioneer Press

Spc. Dwayne McFarlane Jr. of Cass Lake, Minn., was behind enemy lines in Iraq even before the U.S. bombing began nearly two years ago. Twice he had come home to Minnesota, and twice he had gone back to Iraq.

McFarlane, 20, had seen fellow soldiers die around him, but he told his family not to worry about him the last time he was home in September.

"He said he'd be OK," said Don Bellanger, an uncle who raised McFarlane as a son in Cass Lake, near Bemidji in northern Minnesota. "We said, 'Be careful.' "

On Sunday, a military representative arrived at Bellanger's home to report that McFarlane had been killed that day by a bomb while on foot patrol near Baghdad. He is the 11th Minnesotan to die during military operations in Iraq.

McFarlane was a 2002 graduate of Cass Lake-Bena High School, where he was on the basketball and track teams. The 2000-01 basketball team went to the state tournament.

Word of his death spread quickly through the small town of about 900 people and the high school of 230 students.

"We had a moment of silence during our announcements this morning," said Patti Haasch, principal of the high school. The school flag will be at half-staff until McFarlane's burial.

The summer McFarlane graduated from high school, he decided to enlist in the Army, Bellanger said.

"One day he said, 'Take me to Bemidji,' " Bellanger recalled. The two drove the 12 miles to the Army recruiting station in Bemidji, and McFarlane signed up that day.

"He didn't want to stick around here and work for minimum wage," Bellanger said.

Luann Frazer, director of Indian education programs for the Cass Lake-Bena schools, said McFarlane loved to go inline skating.

"He liked to hang out and skate," Frazer said. "He used to do aggressive blading, where they go and do grinds and go down rails and jump off garages."

"He was just a happy-go-lucky young man," Bellanger said. "He was always on the go."

McFarlane was a forward observer behind enemy lines when the U.S. bombing of Iraq began in March 2003, his family said.

Last summer, his unit was attacked, and several of McFarlane's fellow soldiers were killed.

"A guy got shot right in the neck right next to him," Bellanger said. "They told him to come home for a couple of weeks."

McFarlane then returned to Cass Lake for two weeks in September, the last time his family saw him.

McFarlane hoped to go to college after he left the Army.

"He wanted to design cars," said Bellanger's wife, Alvera. "He had a future. He had goals."

She said she knew the news was bad when she saw the military representative at their home.

"I wish it wasn't him, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone else, either," she said.

Bellanger said McFarlane moved to Cass Lake from the Twin Cities when he was 6 years old. He has three brothers and two sisters living in the Twin Cities, Bellanger said.

McFarlane's uncle said the funeral will be in Cass Lake, but arrangements were still pending Monday. The soldier's body was expected to arrive at a military facility in Maryland today.

McFarlane was assigned to the 2nd Battalion, 15th Field Artillery Regiment, 10th Mountain Division (Light Infantry), in Fort Drum, N.Y.
Published by Pioneer Press on Jan. 10, 2005.

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Charlie Gili

July 18, 2024

Hello,

We wanted to let you and your family and friends know that we have made a small donation to the St. Baldrick“s Foundation in the name of Dwayne J. McFarlane Jr. US Army Specialist.

We recognize that this is a humble tribute, but we wanted you to know that it is heartfelt and made possible by thousands of like-minded individuals across the American youth hockey community and beyond. We will not forget. May God Bless you and keep you safe and strong.

Sincerely,
Charlie Gili & Family
On Behalf of our US Hockey Players Support Our Troops Campaign

Alan Boswell II

March 16, 2023

I miss you my friend. I always make sure you are hanging properly and straight at the High School. You picture hangs in the entrance to the gym, which is only fitting, as this is where we shared some good laughs.

Colin Brown

May 31, 2021

I think of my brother Dwayne every day. We went through basic and AIT together. We rode the bus from Syracuse to Ft. Drum and shared a room at reception and the same halls at our unit. You were my friend
..I miss you

Andy FrazerAndyF

May 28, 2012

RIP bro. Still think about you everyday. Miss you.

jerrica morris

April 30, 2010

rip bro

January 20, 2009

to dw.. i grew up with dwayne, we shared lots of memories. my name is travis a good friend of dwayne's. dwayne is a soldier and will always be.

March 12, 2008

To the McFarlane Family,

Please accept my deepest condolences on the lost of your dear loved one.

May you find peace and comfort in the Bible and all that it promises.

Shantil Delarosa

January 13, 2008

Thank You for what you have done not only for me but our county, You are a brave person and you are in my prayers.

Kim Weldon

September 14, 2007

My prayers are with your family may you find comfort in knowing he will be remembered. Those who choose to be in the service and put their life on the line for others are truly special people

Melissa McFarlane

January 21, 2007

Dwayne,
When I love you, do you feel it?
When I miss you, do you know?
When I feel lost inside, can you tell? When I cry, do you feel sad too? How could you ever know?

I did not comprehend the depth of my sorrow your death could bring me!

I wish I could hold you like your a baby again. I wish I could turn back time. Even just to say I love you, I adore you and your great baby brother.

Little brother do you know what I would pay to know everything about you?

What sadness your death brought me. Torment, Anger, Denial and the grief of the end of your wonderful life.

Baby brother your worth it! What a gentleman you were. How great could a person be? You proved I was Wrong about everything. People are wonderful and amazing in every way.

Every feeling, every thought of joining you, every tear, every drink I took and every doubt I had, I had in my own vanity.

Baby brother please know I love you. Life or death. Together or separated. All the happiness and grief I feel about you. I love you for eternity. I will wait patiently to be with you.

Sincerly, Melissa McFarlane

melissa mcfarlane

October 2, 2006

I want to thank everyone for their sympathy. My little brothers death is truly the most devestating experience my family has endured. Dwayne JR was the brightest in the family. He remains the most loved and greatly missed.

Amber Lynn

February 22, 2006

Its been a year since Dwayne has passed and no matter what i cant get him out of my heart or my head. It's nice to look back and think about the good times and how he made me smile and all the stories we used to talk about. I miss alot of those things. The good thing is that i have something to remember. I got to meet this amazing guy that i now get to look up to. He taught me so much about life, even when we were just having fun, there was always so much more to learn. I only knew Dwayne for a year, but that year was the best one of my life. Ive never had such a good friend. He really cared about the friends he had and no matter what he was always smiling, even when things were really bad. I miss him sooo much and its hard to see the things people write about him bc its the way he was affected so many more people than me and it sucks that hes gone now. I just want to hang out w/ him again. Even when we werent really doing anything we had fun. I love u Dwayne!!

Alexandra Darch Stolarski

February 27, 2005

I was deeply saddened to hear of Dwayne's death and would very much like to extend my condolences to his family and friends. Dwayne and I met during the blackout of 2003 when we were both stuck for the better part of a day in the Chicago train station, unable to continue on to New York. We talked for hours and hours. Dwayne really struck me as being a good person, dedicated to his culture, family, and creating a bright future for himself. He was quite a gentleman, too, concerned about my safety traveling alone, and careful to give me privacy on the overnight ride. In the morning he found me and took me to breakfast in the dining car. Dwayne and I had exchanged emails and letters from time to time since then. I was worried for him and impressed with his good attitude about things like having to go back to Iraq and stay longer. I am very happy to have had a chance know Dwayne. He was a sweet & interesting person, unlike anyone else I ever met. I will miss him very much.

Rachel and Erin

January 23, 2005

We thought of you with love today but that is nothing new

We thought about you yesterday and days before that too

We think of you in silence and we often speak your name

Now all we have are memories and your picture in a frame

Your memory is our keepsake with which we'll never part

God has you in his keeping but we have you in our hearts

-author unknown



We will always miss you and remember the times we had together. May God watch over your family during their hard times. We'll never forget you.

Serina Gehrke

January 23, 2005

Being a fellow classmate and friend in high school. I am expressing my warmest condolences to the family of Dwayne. This has been an unfortunate event. As also being in the military this hit me. But I send my prayers out to the family and all that still remain over in the middle East, hoping their safe return back to the states. Once again I am really sorry to hear of your loss.

Keep your spirits high,and Dwayne in your heart.

~Serina Gehrke, United States Navy

Eugene Chavez

January 21, 2005

I want to tell you that I am truly sorry for the loss of Spc. Dwayne McFarlane. I am the Company Fire Support NCO, and Dwayne was my soldier. He was a great soldier and a great person, who was liked by all who he came across. The loss hit myself and the rest of his good friends hard. Not a day goes by that we don't think of him. Once again I am so sorry for your loss, and if there is anything I can do for you, or any questions I can answer, don't hesitate to email me.

SSG Chavez, Eugene

Brandon Masten

January 19, 2005

To Don and Alvera

Dwayne was a good friend of mine. We played basketball together, Hung out, and shared laughs.He was a very good person. I look up to Dwayne. The things he has accomplished are far more greater than what I have done so far. When I heard what had happend my heart sunk. We lost a special friend,but I know someday we will see each other again. He will be missed dearly.

ashley cooper

January 19, 2005

Im very sorry, for your lost. I remember Dwayne from a long time ago on tract 34.......Don Im very sorry, it must be hard for you

Gary & Helen Snider

January 17, 2005

To the family and close friends of Spc. Dwayne McFarlane Jr., We are sorry to hear of your loss and although we did not know Dwayne personaly, it breaks our heart every time we hear of another hero lost.



We know that freedom does not come without a price. If one must lose one's life, I can't think of any more worth while thing to lose it for than one of God greatest gifts to us other than "FREEDOM".



Our heart goes out to all of you, may God be with you at this time and confort you in this time of great sorrow. May God bless each and every one of you.



Gary & Helen Snider

Tulsa, OK and Duluth, MN

tom allen

January 17, 2005

I will never be able to thank you Dwayne for the ultimate sacrifice you have made. God bless your family and friends in this time of mourning. From a fellow American you never met...you and your family are what this country is about. With all due respect. Tom

Adam C.

January 17, 2005

Dear McFarlane family, I am sorry to hear of your loss and although I did not know Dwayne personaly i have heard from people that did, what a great friend he was and how he would help them and made them happy in the worst of times and for this I am sure he was indeed a great person and will be missed by many. my deepest of condolances and prairs for the sacrifice this man made to keep his friends and family safe.

Frances Corona

January 16, 2005

Just this week I attended the funeral of PFC Oscar Sanchez from Modesto, CA who died in December in the war. He was 19 years old. My heart breaks everytime I hear of another hero lost. How much we owe to these brave Americans will never be known or could we in anyway pay them in full. I am truly sorry for your loss. I know no words can ever ease the pain of losing a loved one. Thank you to Mr. McFarlane for the sacrifice you have given and thank you to his family for the bravery you have had in knowing that a loved one is so far away and fighting in a war. I hope many blessings come your way and that you find comfort in knowing so many Americans are greatful for the sacrifices all of our Beautiful, Wonderful American military men and women have given.

Amber Nickel

January 16, 2005

Dwayne was one of my good friends, in the short time i knew him, he had made a great impact in my life. He was there for me through the rough times and just kept my head up. He made sure i was always smiling. To his family, my condolences, He will always be remembered in our hearts.

Patricia Canfield

January 16, 2005

Thank you, Dwayne and family, for giving of yourselves. Lest We Forget.

Pat Canfield & family

flora todd

January 14, 2005

MY HEART GOES OUT TO ALL OF YOU,MAY GOD BE WITH YOU AT THIS TIME,I KNOW THAT YOU ARE VERY PROUD OF DWAYNE, I HAVE TWO GRANDSON OVER THERE ,I PRAY GODS HANDS ON THEM WHAT EVER THEY DO WHAT MORE CAN WE ASK.

Jacquelyn Holmes

January 14, 2005

My condolences to the family of Spc. Dwayne McFarland, Jr. I have a nephew by the name of Dwayne who served in the U.S. Navy now retired. Dwayne made the ultimate unselfish sacrifice for his country and our freedom. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Farlane for raising such a dedicated young man. Thank you Dwayne for your ultimate sacrifice. God loves you, America loves you and praise you. Family, I pray that God will comfort you in this time of great sorrow. You'll see him again one day.

Deana Leonard

January 14, 2005

May God Bless the family of a Louisiana HERO!! What a brave man who fought for us. May he rest in peace.

tasha bernier

January 14, 2005

dear dwayne you do not know me but you fought and died for me and my familyand all of the u.s. so we could keep our freedom you are a very brave man to do so i will pray for you and your family i just wanted to say thank you and god bless

LEON .J BUCZYNSKI JR.

January 14, 2005

MAY GOD BLESS THIS BRAVE SOLDIER AND HIS FAMILY IN THIS TIME OF NEED, SGT. LEON J. BUCZYNSKI JR. US AIR FORCE RETIRED.

Beth Ostlund

January 13, 2005

My deepest sympathy to Dwaynes family. Dwayne was a good friend of mine. Dwayne was a good friend to many people. He was always like an older brother to me, giving me some of the best advice I ever had. He shared a special closeness to his friends that is hard to describe. I would get so excited when he would tell me he was coming home on a break, it was all I would look forward to, and it made everyone come together. All of my memories with him are fun and filled with laughter. He just brought that presence with him where ever he went. I'll never forget his smile and laugh. He was one of the best people I know. A true friend. I really miss you Dwayne.

Scout Adler

January 13, 2005

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

He was a very brave man.

May he patrol the streets of Heaven now in the company of all those other heros who have preceeded him.

Mark Ostlund

January 13, 2005

I would like to send my sympathy to Dwayne's family.

Dwanye was a close friend of mine and a personal role model. Things will ever be the same with him gone now but i am proud him. Dwayne was like glue, when he was around it seems like everybody was closer together. It was like that before and after he joined the army. After he left for the army it was like everybody wasnt so concearned with staying a tight knit group,and drifted more distant even if they didnt go anywhere. When Dwayne would be back for a visit he was just magnetic and his presence brang us all back together again. It just always seemed that way, dwayne could bring people together even if they had differences between them. He just had a way of making problems and things like that seem not important and showing what was and that is being close with your friends and family. I will always remember Auto mech with dwayne, when we would just slack off working on johns old suburban. Dwayne always had something to say to make me or the whole class laugh. I never remember Dwayne having a conflict with any of his friends, it seems that every other of my friends had gotten me angry over the years multiple times but dwayne was the type of person that was like everyones best friend, it was just his personality. He was the definition of a true friend. The Town of Cass lake has lost a hero and i know many people have lost a very close friend. I just wanted to say that im gonna really miss you dwayne

Leo Wadle

January 12, 2005

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know you dont know me but I was a drill sergeant in your sons Basic Training unit. Please trust in the fact that your son has made the ultimate sacrifice for his country. He was apart of something much larger than himself. In my eyes and many other Americans you son is a hero and that will never change.

God Bless your family at his time of great sufering.



SFC Leo Wadle

Louis Lindstrom

January 11, 2005

To the family of SPC Dwayne McFarlane Jr.

I would like to send my deepest condolences and prayers to you. This loss has touched many people and I know it has hurt you more than any. I am in the Company that Dwayne was attached to, but my knowing of Dwayne goes all the way back to the day he joined the Army. I remember this young man when he first stepped foot on the drill pad of A 1-22FA for Basic Training. I have always looked up to this man, serving in Iraq for the 2nd time, 1 year in Kosivo, I ended looking up to him for his sacrifice when he deployed so much. Now I look up to him even more, SPC McFarlane will always be remembered in my life as a hero and a man who gave the ultimate sacrifice for freedom.

You are in my thoughts and prayers and if there is anything I mean anything I can do please email me.

Godspeed

SSG Louis A. Lindstrom

Nathaniel Tibbetts

January 11, 2005

Dear friends and family,

I send my deepest regards to all of you. Dwayne was a good friend of mine when I lived in Cass Lake. Knowing that I can't make it to the funeral do to my deployment to Iraq, Dwayne will always be remembered in my heart.

Terri Bestul

January 11, 2005

May God be with your family during this most difficult time. May He comfort you & wrap you in the calm of His grace. Please know that your young warrior will be in my prayers. God Bless you all.

nick kolivas

January 11, 2005

I was a good friend and worked closely with Dwayne. I would like to send my deepest prayers to his family.

Linda McDonough

January 11, 2005

To the family of Spc. Dwayne McFarlane, Jr.



I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Although we did not know Dwayne, our son is also part of the 10th Mountain Div. 2/15 FAR and is currently in Baghdad. Our thoughts are with you during the difficult days ahead. I know you must be very proud of him and all the good he and the troops have done over there. May it help you to know that his life made a difference to so many people.

The McDonough family

Jill Morse

January 11, 2005

I just want to send my sympathy to the family of specialist McFarlane. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My husband is in Baghdad and will be home in April if it is the Lords Will. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

The Williams Family

January 11, 2005

Our heartfelt condolences go out to the family of Spc. McFarlane and our Eternal gratitude to brave warrior, Spc. McFarlane.

Art McDonald

January 11, 2005

To Dwayne's family and buddies:

I'm sorry that I did not know Dwayne personally. I'm certain that he was a fine young American and this is the only way that I can thank him for the contribution of his life for our country. I am an old Vietnam Vet and am aware of the guts it takes to do what Dwayne died doing.

Thank You Dwayne.

Art

Roger Klein

January 11, 2005

To the family of Specialist McFarlane,



I am a former Wisconsite who now lives in Virginia. I grew up in western Wisconsin and still read newspapers from there and the Twin Cities in order to keep up with events back in the upper Midwest.



I read about Specialist McFarlane's death today and I want to extend my condolences and sympathy to you. Thank you for his courage and service to our nation during this very trying and troubling time in our nation's history. I trust that time and the fond memories that you have will help to ease your loss.



Sincerely, Roger Klein

YN1(SW), USN(Ret)

Tracey Cassidy

January 11, 2005

To all of you,

Brian and I send our heartfelt regards to you all. Brian is serving in Iraq a second year and knew Dwayne. His crossing over is a great loss to them all & our boys still there miss him greatly. Though I did not have the great luck to have met him, I would like to also send my regards to your family. God Bless. Stay strong. xo Tracey.

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