Ruth Stone

Ruth Stone

Ruth Stone Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Nov. 24, 2011.
Ruth Stone, an award-winning poet for whom tragedy halted, then inspired a career that started in middle age and thrived late in life as her sharp insights into love, death and nature received ever-growing acclaim, has died in Vermont. She was 96.

Stone, who for decades lived in a farmhouse in Goshen, died Nov. 19 of natural causes at her home in Ripton, her daughter Phoebe Stone said Thursday. She was surrounded by her daughters, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Widowed in her 40s and little known for years after, Ruth Stone became one of the country's most honored poets in her 80s and 90s, winning the National Book Award in 2002 for "In the Next Galaxy" and being named a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize in 2009 for "What Love Comes To." She received numerous other citations, including a National Book Critics Circle award, two Guggenheims and a Whiting Award.

She was born Ruth Perkins in 1915, the daughter of printer and part-time drummer Roger Perkins. A native of Roanoke, Va., who spent much of her childhood in Indianapolis, Ruth was a creative and precocious girl for whom poetry was almost literally mother's milk; her mother would recite Tennyson while nursing her. A beloved aunt, Aunt Harriette, worked with young Ruth on poetry and illustrations and was later immortalized, with awe and affection, in the poem "How to Catch Aunt Harriette."

By age 19, Stone was married and had moved to Urbana, Ill., studying at the University of Illinois. There, she met Walter Stone, a graduate student and poet who became the love of her life, well after his ended. "You, a young poet working/in the steel mills; me, married, to a dull chemical engineer," she wrote of their early, adulterous courtship, in the poem "Coffee and Sweet Rolls."

She divorced her first husband, married Stone and had two daughters (she also had a daughter from her first marriage). By 1959, he was on the faculty at Vassar and both were set to publish books. But on a sabbatical in England, Walter Stone hung himself, at age 42, a suicide his wife never got over or really understood.

In the poem "Turn Your Eyes Away," she remembered seeing his body, "on the door of a rented room/like an overcoat/like a bathrobe/ hung from a hook." He would recur, ghostlike, in poem after poem. "Actually the widow thinks/he may be/in another country in disguise," she writes in "All Time is Past Time." In "The Widow's Song," she wonders "If he saw her now/would he marry her?/The widow pinches her fat/on her abdomen."

Her first collection, "In an Iridescent Time," came out in 1959. But Stone, depressed and raising three children alone, moving around the country to wherever she could find a teaching job, didn't publish her next book, "Topography and Other Poems," until 1971. Another decade-long gap preceded her 1986 release "American Milk."

Her life stabilized in 1990 when she became a professor of English and creative writing at the State University of New York in Binghamton. Most of her published work, including "American Milk," ''The Solution" and "Simplicity," came out after she turned 70.

Her poems were brief, her curiosity boundless, her verse a cataloguing of what she called "that vast/confused library, the female mind." She considered the bottling of milk; her grandmother's hair, "pulled back to a bun"; the random thoughts while hanging laundry (Einstein's mustache, the eyesight of ants).

"I think my work is a natural response to my life," she once said. "What I see and feel changes like a prism, moment to moment; a poem holds and illuminates. It is a small drama. I think, too, my poems are a release, a laughing at the ridiculous and songs of mourning, celebrating marriage and loss, all the sad baggage of our lives. It is so overwhelming, so complex."

Aging and death were steady companions — confronted, lamented and sometimes kidded, like in "Storage," in which her "old" brain reminds her not to weep for what was lost: "Listen — I have it all on video/at half the price," the poet is warned.

Stone was not pious — "I am not one/who God can hope to save by dying twice" — but she worshipped the world and counted its blessings. In "Yes, Think," she imagines a caterpillar pitying its tiny place in the universe and "getting even smaller." Nature herself smiles and responds:

___

"You are a lovely link

in the great chain of being

Think how lucky it is to be born."

___


Copyright © 2011 The Associated Press

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Tony Villecco

May 5, 2017

Was honored to have had her as my professor at Binghamton in the early 90's. She inspired and amazed; as she still does; love and miss you Ms. Stone.

Char Janzen

March 15, 2016

I connect to all free spirit
poets, past or present.

Each of them has opened
a door into the interiors
of my imagination. What
a beautiful gift.

MIKEY KNOX

November 30, 2011

RUTHY
SUCH A WISE AND HONEST SOUL
GOD I HATE TO SEE YOU GO
I LOVE YOU,JUST WANTED TO LET YOU
KNOW

Llyana

November 29, 2011

I was a student of Ruth's at SUNY Binghamton back in the early 90's. As a sour and over-sensitive 22 year old, I was both mystified and awed by how much love for life she seemed to hold. She was very gentle, very supportive, and a complete riot. I never turned out to be much of a poet myself, but I thought I'd share the poem I wrote for her that year. The strength it has comes from her own lovely words. Thank you, Ruth, for all you shared with us.

Unfinished (It's Been a Week Since Her Dog's Eaten)
for Ruth Stone

Ruth sweeps aside
a loop of red hair.
With smooth swollen hands
and fingers, that move together
in curved scoops of air, she says
she can't write anything
these days, but love poems.

Locksley Rushworth

November 28, 2011

Wish I had known you. You would have really touched my life of suffering and help me put it into words.

Rob Burnside

November 28, 2011

I met Ruth almost twenty years ago, when I had just started writing and needed encouragement. This is how she inscribed the book I bought that day: "Darling Rob- What a wonder, your poems! It's the reality--the touch to touch of our lives. Love from Ruth Stone" Well, my poems weren't really all that good, but they became better because I continued writing thanks to Ruth. I know my story isn't unique. She must have helped thousands like me over her long career. We were blessed, indeed. She was a wonderful poet,and perhaps more important, a wonderful human being. Again, I say, we were blessed.

VENA BERRY

November 28, 2011

My condolences to the Stone family. May you find a measure of comfort in that "God is healing the broken-hearted ones; And is binding up their painful spots" (PSALMS 147:3)

R

November 28, 2011

May the God of comfort strengthen you through your grief,my condolences goes out to the Stone family.

November 27, 2011

Heartfelt condolences to family and loved ones. May the God of all comfort be with you.

l p(rev.21:4)

November 27, 2011

Please accept my deepest sympathies.

Neighbor

November 27, 2011

My condolences to the family and friends of Ruth Stone during this time of grief. Death is the last enemy that God says he will free mankind of. May you find solace by drawing close to the God who cares for you.

Victoria Valdez

November 26, 2011

Thank you ~RUTH~
with in Brillance
of many written words'
Poems lovely admired ways n`beauty
sad loss rest n`peace upon the heavens
In rememberance to poem artist RUTH

Quentin Jeffers

November 26, 2011

Sunlight
climbs stone stairs through the trees.
She goes that way.

November 26, 2011

My deepest sympathy to the family and friends of Ruth Stone. May the God of all comfort and tender mercies, strengthen and sustain during this time.
D.Baker

November 25, 2011

Ruth Stone was one of the first poets I discovered by myself--no teacher, no sister, no friend, no mentor suggested I read her. I have followed her for years, love her work and take great inspiration from what she made of her life and the work that she left for us to read. Thank you, Ruth Stone, and blessings and condolences to her family.
Angela Locke
Santa Ynez, CA

Becky Herbig

November 25, 2011

I was very happy to meet Ruth through the VT League of Writers, after not knowing each other through our years in Goshen. I appreciated her inspirational response to my poems. I hope to follow her example!

Joyce Ellen Davis

November 25, 2011

Grateful to have met you, through your books!

Linda Lawrence

November 25, 2011

Farewell to a kindred soul...

ALICE BEBERMAN CHUTE

November 25, 2011

So sad to lose such a wonderful person. I have such fond memories of the times we spent knowing each other.I am grateful that mom got to see Ruth last year on her trip to Vermont. My thoughts are with Marcia, Phoebe and Abigail and their children.
Sending Love from Alice Beberman Chute
Edinburgh Scotland

Jane Dowling

November 25, 2011

God bless you and your loved ones, Mrs. Stone. What a beautiful lady you must have been.

G. A. Ford

November 25, 2011

To the family of Ruth Stone,

In your time of sorrow, may you find comfort in your precious memories. Reading God's word at this time will also ease your pain. As you draw close to God, he will draw close to you. (James 4:8)

Lisa Parson

November 25, 2011

At the end of each life is a legacy of love.. My deepest condolences to the family and friends. As the days and weeks pass and as you return to life routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of God, family and friend James 4:8 Draw close to God and he will draw close to you

November 25, 2011

Ah Yes! A poet and such a mind! God bless your everlasting soul and may ye rest in eternal peace! You were published and I thank you for sharing.

Dennis Alan

November 25, 2011

Dear Ruth, a wayfarer traveling the universe, I did not know you but I know you. Your soulful, illuminating words, born in the fires of your artists' heart, have touched many moments of my own artists' life and transformed me. Rest now dear Ruth, we will meet someday.

Syndi Allgood

November 24, 2011

The last leaf from the maple this morning.

Angela Locke

November 24, 2011

Oh I love Ruth Stone so much. She was one of the first poets I ever read outside of school, discovered on my own. She inspired me, moved me to tears, over and over again; I knew if she lived her life and wrote, then I could live mine and write. I'm nearing 60 now, published only once or twice, Ruth Stone is still, and will remain, inspiration to me. My love and condolences go out to her family.

Ray & Lois Morgan

November 24, 2011

This story Ruth wrote, is very interesting. She was a very great writer & very talented.
Sad time when we lose someone who was a big part in our lives.
Sympathy to her family & many friends,I'm sure she had.
May she rest in peace, she was a brave woman.

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