Steven McDonald

1957 - 2017

Steven McDonald

1957 - 2017

BORN

1957

DIED

2017

Steven McDonald Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jan. 11, 2017.
Steven McDonald, the New York Police Department detective who forgave the teenager who paralyzed him, died Tuesday, Jan. 11, 2017, according to multiple news sources. He was 59.

McDonald was hospitalized after he had a heart attack Friday.

McDonald was shot three times by a 15-year-old boy in Central Park in July 1986. He was paralyzed from the neck down. He remained on the department’s payroll and made many appearances at public events in support of other wounded officers.

In 1987, he wrote a statement about the gunman, read by his wife.

“I’m sometimes angry at the teen-age boy who shot me,” he wrote, “but more often I feel sorry for him. I only hope that he can turn his life into helping and not hurting people. I forgive him and hope that he can find peace and purpose in his life.”

He reached out to the gunman’s family and attended church services with them. He also maintained a correspondence with his attacker, Shavod Jones, after the young man was convicted and sent to prison.

Jones died in a motorcycle accident four days after being paroled in 1995.

McDonald’s story was documented in the book “The Steven McDonald Story” (1989), written by his wife and E.J. Kahn III. He had to breathe with a respirator and used a wheelchair for mobility. He found strength and support in his family and Roman Catholic religion.

He was born in Queens Village, March 1, 1957, and grew up on Long Island. He was one of eight children and was the third generation to become a police officer.

Beyond his own case, McDonald was also active as an advocate for reconciliation between Catholics and Protestants in Northern Ireland. He was also recognized nationally as a spokesman for people with disabilities and spoke at the Republican National Convention in 1996 in support of U.S. Sen. Bob Dole, who had been severely wounded in World War II.

A hockey fan, McDonald awarded his eponymous honor – the Steven McDonald Extra Effort Award – each year to a New York Rangers player who goes above and beyond the call of duty.

Despite the hardships he endured, McDonald remained optimistic and hopeful about humanity and New York City in particular.

“There is more love in this city than there are street corners,” he said.

“Steven was an exceptional human being who should not be defined by the shooting that paralyzed him, but by what he accomplished in life after it happened,” Michael Palladino, president of the NYPD detective’s union, told the New York Post.

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Paolo

October 15, 2023

Rest in peace our officer

October 14, 2023

Rest in peace our officer

October 14, 2023

Margaret Steinhauser

October 13, 2023

May you continue to Rest in Peace Steven McDonald.
You were one of the good guys who will never be forgotten.
We will always remember when you came to Saint Joseph's Roman Catholic Church in Jersey City, NJ to speak.
Dolores and Margaret Steinhauser

Ame

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Ame

October 11, 2023

Friend from the Bronx

March 10, 2023

You were so brave just like Frank Serpico. Whenever we heard a 10-13 we knew that one of our own was hurt.
Now you're with Jesus and Victor.

Victor Mercado family

March 10, 2023

Thanks for your service!

Family of Victor Mercado
Bronx NY

Officer Coley McDonough

March 10, 2023

Love & rosaries & prayers

Family of Coley McDonough
North Braddock PA

McDonough family North Braddock

March 10, 2023

Love & prayers

Family of Coley McDonough

North Braddock PA

Ramon Morban

November 16, 2019

My sincere condolences to the whole Family,RIP

MA

April 1, 2017

Steven's kind thoughts and deeds may be forgotten over time. However, God will never forget him or his acts of kindness.

Jan Christian

January 22, 2017

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Dennis W

January 21, 2017

I knew Steven back in the 70's. We were roommates for a short while in the Navy. He was a good man, full of energy and life.
My condolences to his family.

Mark Landi

January 19, 2017

Steven McDonald did so much good in his life and helped so many people. He could not have served God better than he did. His wife Patty could not serve God better than she does. His son Conor could not serve God better than he does. Steven, Patty and Conor are role models and people I strive to be. To raise a son like Steven McDonald would be the greatest gift you could ever receive. To raise a daughter like Patty would be the greatest gift you could ever receive. To raise a son like Conor would be the greatest gift you could ever receive.

Mark Landi
72 Pell Terrace
Garden City, NY

Katherine M

January 17, 2017

Dear Patti and Conor,
Your story touches our hearts and we mourn for the loss of a true Hero. Steven embodied true grace and as a family you demonstrated amazing strength and God's love. We honor Steven's memory and offer our deepest condolences.

"Those we lose will always live on within our hearts".

May God Bless you and Conor.

Doreen Belloni

January 17, 2017

I remember when this officer was shot.
He is such a remarkable human being.
He was following in the footsteps of
our Lord Jesus Christ.
Det McDonald is a modern day saint sent
from heaven.
My deepest sympathy to wife Patty and son
Connor.
Steven will be in the arms of Jesus and be
able to walk again.
He is an example that the whole world should
follow.
Forgiveness isn't easy in a case like this, but Steven accomplished this act
of courage.
A true man of God and heaven awaits Steven.
God bless and protect his family.

Rick Palma

January 17, 2017

I did not hear of mr. Mcdolds tragic events till today,from reading a bit about him iknow he truly was God sent ,with an enormous heart,may God keep you by his side and REST IN PEACE officer Mcdonald,,,,,

January 16, 2017

My condolences to Steven McDonald's family. He was an inspiration to so many people.

January 16, 2017

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

Godspeed Officer McDonald.

Jennifer

January 14, 2017

May he rest easy in God's Hands and condolences to his family.

Lisa Weiner

January 14, 2017

To Office Steven McDonald,
You were an excellent police officer for New York. You will always a true hero . Lisa Weiner

AW

January 14, 2017

"A good name is better than fine oil." Steven definitely gained a good name, and now he rests in God's memory. My sincere condolences are with the family, close friends, and NYPD.

Carolyn Lawrence

January 14, 2017

My deepest condolences to the family. May the GOD of ALL COMFORT give you the strength to endure during difficult moments. (2Cor 1:2-4)

January 14, 2017

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

Jim Cuffe

January 13, 2017

The truest definition of a hero. The way he lived his life should be an example for all of us. We need more people like him. RIP Detective McDonald, prayers to the family.

Cambria Family

January 13, 2017

Patti & Conor- Steven was an inspiration and example to so many. Patti your strength over the years is amazing and Conor thank you for your service in the NYPD and for serving as your tribute to your dad. Of course we never personally had the privelage to have met your family, but your story will always remain in our hearts. May Gods peace be with you and know that many are praying for your family and love and support you all. God Bless Det. Steven McDonald

ds

January 13, 2017

My sincere sympathies to the McDonald Family. Please take comfort in knowing that God is our refuge and strength, A help that is readily found in times of distress.

Kori Zwick

January 13, 2017

A TRUE hero and inspiration to all. Rest in peace.

God bless Steven McDonald, beloved husband, father, brother, son, partner, Blueshirt faithful, man and human being....may he rest in peace

Marc Weissman

January 13, 2017

Steven McDonald personified courage, dedication, loyalty, excellence, heroism and passion: attributes that truly define each and every legendary NY Ranger whose number already hangs from the rafters of Madison Square Garden. Thus, it would be more than appropriate and duly fitting to retire Detective McDonald's Badge #104 to the iconic Garden ceiling for all eternity. God bless him, his family and may he forever rest in peace....

Celestine and PO Arthur Herbert

January 13, 2017

To The Family of Steven, From The Family Of PO William L. Chisolm, know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Your loved one has only slipped into another room. He is the gentle breeze upon your face.Remember his smile and laughter and the special moments you shared. We know that your heart holds deep sadness at his passing but the life you shared with this remarkable person will always be apart of you. I met him in D.C. and his words of encouragement help me grieve over my son's passing. I carried his message over the years in my heart. I will never forget "My Brother in Christ."

Vasilios Emmanuel Glimidakis

January 13, 2017

Dear McDonald and other families,
I am sorry for your loss. May his memory be eternal! Rest easy, dear soul. God bless him and his family.

Michael Whatmore

January 13, 2017

God Speed Detective! True hero!

M KSierra

January 13, 2017

What a legacy! As Franciscan Father Greg Plat stated at the funeral for the Sister volunteers, who were murdered in their home, last year: "Forgiveness isn't something we do on our own. It is something we choose to do with God's grace.". Rest in peace, dear Steven. - MKSierra

Kenneth Muray

January 13, 2017

I am a Milwaukee police officer and I remember hearing about Steven being shot when I lived in Rome, NY while I was in the Air Force. I also read his book which I found to be a remarkable story of compassion and humanity. God bless Steven for his service to the NYPD and for all that he did for others. May he rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with his family during this difficult time.

Robert Tenpenny

January 13, 2017

Rest easy brother, after you see Saint Peter.
I bet Father Judge will show you around
In heaven you guys sure deserve it.
You spoke at one of my departments
Academy graduations and I read your book.
Your a better man than I am Gunga Din
Rudyard Kipling

January 13, 2017

My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

J

January 13, 2017

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Cheryl Lynn

January 13, 2017

I am sorry for your loss of such a brave man.Draw close to the God of all comfort during this difficult time and he will draw close to you-James 4:8.

RoseMarie Mirra

January 13, 2017

My deepest sympathy goes out to Patty and Connor on the loss of New York's most love and devoted Policeman. He will always be remembered for him being a loving husband, father and a devoted man who was wounded in the line of duty for his country - RIP - RoseMarie Mirra - NewRochelle

Don

January 13, 2017

My condolences to your family. May Jehovah give you the strength to go on.You are in our thoughts and prayers.

January 13, 2017

My sincere condolences to the family. May you find comfort in knowing that soon here on this earth we can look forward to an abundance of peace. Ps. 37:9-11. R. Torres, Mich.

Matthew Buttaro

January 13, 2017

Prayers to Det. McDonald and his Family. RIP.

January 13, 2017

Please except my condolences may the God of all peace be with you and family at this time of sorry hosea 13, 14,

Bob Wulterkens

January 13, 2017

I served with Steve as a Hospital Corpsman at Parris Island in the late 70's and am proud to have called him my friend. Always quick with a smile. He was a hell of an athlete and I played hoops, softball and a little football with him. Hoisted a few brews as well. So sad to see another good one go. Cheers Steve.

Jo Lavin

January 12, 2017

What a beautiful example of God's forgiveness for all of us. You are made perfect in His promise to us, as you are also at perfect peace & joy, forever.
My prayers & condolences to Steven's loving family & friends, who will surely miss him. Find comfort in knowing he is 'home', in Jesus loving arms.

Artis Ac Hudson Sr.

January 12, 2017

My condolences to his family,love ones,friends and associate. This gentleman were a man of God, may God welcome him unto the kingdom.

Harry Simpson

January 12, 2017

Godspeed....

Christian

January 12, 2017

Our Heavenly Father who created us, has the ability and desire to undo the effects of death. At Hosea 13:14 he promises to empty out the graves of our loved ones. Our tears of pain will be replace with tears of joy. May God strengthen you and give you a measure of comfort and peace until his promise is realized.

Heidi Littman

January 12, 2017

What a tear jerking story. I offer my condolences to the McDonald family.

Barbara Breslin Kalenderian

January 12, 2017

May God rest your soul and keep you safe in his arms Steven Mcdonald and watch over and comfort your family through this most difficult time...GOD BLESS YOU STEVEN IN HEAVEN <3

Eileen Mosca

January 12, 2017

To the McDonald Family,

Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen,unheard,but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
I had the privilege of meeting Officer McDonald in Transit District 34 He came and spoke to us at roll call in 1990. My Whole career I always remembered that day and how he inspired us to love all .
May he rest in peace
Eileen Mosca NYPD

Janelle Meehan

January 12, 2017

All my deepest sympathy to the family and friends of Steven McDonald. I always have been inspired by this beautiful man who lived his faith and modeled forgiveness for all of us.

J W

January 12, 2017

May the Lord bless Steven McDonald for his life of love and forgiveness despite his circumstances.I know there is a special place for him in God's perfect world!

María Gómez

January 12, 2017

Patricia McDonald, We say goodbye to your husband and it seems that all the bells of the world resonate of pain, because leaves an extraordinary man, beloved as well as beloved father who leaves a great legacy.

Although the pain fills us, with special amazement we see that what fills us, fills and surpasses is not the suffering, but the admiration for the life of a magnificent man, for having had the honor to know it.

Your husband was undoubtedly a presence always loved and respected in every circle to which he belonged, and it is in these where we are going to miss him, where we will want him for ever, even though he has gone ahead.

My most grieved, sincere and regretted condolences in this dark hour of the death of your husband.
Sorry

January 12, 2017

God bless you (( ))

Joseph Lanzilotti

January 12, 2017

Thank you for allowing God to let his glory shine through you, Steven. I learned more about you last year through watching the documentary Face of Mercy in which you were interviewed. You truly trusted in the words of Sacred Scripture that for those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose, all things work together for good (cf. Romans 8:28). You continue to touch lives. I feel your presence with us in the communion of saints. Pray for us as we pray for you. United in prayer through the Eucharist. A devoted friend in Our Lord Jesus Christ, Joseph

ROXANNE SICLARI

January 12, 2017

I PRAY CONOR AND HIS MOM ARE AT PEACE NO MORE SUFFERING DAD IS WITH THE ANGELS WALKING IN HEAVENS DOOR THE GATES OPENED UP FOR HIM NOW REST IN PEACE

J Holley

January 12, 2017

May his wife and family be surrounded with the love and caring he gave out , I have followed his accomplishments through the years and in spite of what I'm sure was very difficult at times he possessed a gift of love he gave back to the world may he forever be remembered as the Officer that cared about humanity and may his soul rest in the peace of Almighty God! God bless his family through a difficult time. A most Caring Officer J .Holley

Anita O'Connor-Morgan

January 12, 2017

What an amazing man; thank God he was also blessed with an amazing wife! Please take solace in the fact that he is now unfettered by a vent or wheelchair, and is moving freely in Heaven!

January 12, 2017

Steve fought a fine fight and now rests in the memory of family, friends and God Almighty.

Barry Lewis

January 12, 2017

All men should live by this Heroes example. Love to the family

S Daniels

January 12, 2017

The saints walk among us. Rest in Peace good man.

Bro. John Fava, S.J.

January 12, 2017

I am sorry to hear about Steve's death. Please accept my sympathy. Please be assured of my prayers for Steve and the McDonald family.

January 12, 2017

A life well lived leaves behind a trail of beautiful memories. Cherish these for they live on.

Adrian Barnette

January 12, 2017

We'll miss you !

Marie Cochran

January 12, 2017

My sincere condolences to Steve's family, may Our Loving Creator give you the strength to endure until His promises are fulfilled. Isaiah 35:5 "At that time the eyes of the blind will be opened, And the ears of the deaf will be unstopped."

January 12, 2017

To the McDonald Family,

RIP Steven, what a human being. I read the book so many times the resilence of this man and his family are truly inspiration for all.

RMK

LindaAnn LICARI

January 12, 2017

My thoughts & prayers for the McDonald Family& Friends and brother's & sister's in Blue Rest in Peace. Thank you for your service Sincerely Linda-Ann Licari,Norwalk,CT

Becky Larson

January 12, 2017

May God bless and comfort you during this time of sadness.

L. Hoski

January 12, 2017

My Heartfelt Thoughts And Prayers To The Family On The Passing Of Steven.
May God Give Him Everlasting Peace In Heaven. A True Hero. God Bless.....

January 12, 2017

God rest your soul, Steven. What a really great example you were of Reconciliation and our Catholic faith.
Anne Marie De Stefano

Katie

January 12, 2017

May God bless you and your family.

Kathleen Choo

January 12, 2017

What a heart, and an amazing life of service. His family should be forever proud! Steven resides in Heaven now.

Pam Sheppard

January 12, 2017

Steven is a better person than I am. I'd like to think I could forgive in that situation but I'm not sure I could. He is an example we should all try to live up to. I know I'm going to. For Stevens family, may all your memories help you thru this difficult time. RIP Steven, you are a hero.

Laurie Kruse

January 12, 2017

To his family and close friends I am deeply sorry for your loss I had forgotten that he was shot and forgave the kid who did it. Thank you for your service and being a great human being. RIP.

January 12, 2017

I am sorry to hear of the passing of Mr. Steven McDonald. He will be missed by all who knew and loved him. May the God of all comfort be with your family at this time. May the memories and love have for him sustain you at this sadden time.

January 12, 2017

My sincerest condolence to Steven wife and family.What a kind and loving person he was.He set the bar for us all to follow the path of kindness and humility and looking out for others. May your family have peace and strength and may your heart be comforted and sustained by the God of all comfort during this sad time.

January 12, 2017

Please accept my sympathies. Know that the Father of tender mercies feel your pain and sorrow. Isaiah 61:1,2 says: "He sent me (Jesus Christ) to bind up the brokenhearted, . . . and to comfort all who mourn, . . . "

January 12, 2017

So very sorry for your loss. We need more people like him today, loving & forgiving. May the God of tender mercies be there to comfort you whenever you need him. 1 Cor. 1:3,4

Jerry Wheeler

January 12, 2017

Thank you to the family for this mans amazing story. God truly was using him throughout his life.I never met you Steven but your story is inspiring and gives hope to others not only for the disabled but for humanity. Thank God for people like you.

January 12, 2017

In Gods eyes you are a wonderful person and I know He which there were more like you so many condolences goes out to the family and friends. Eph. 4:31,32

January 12, 2017

It can be so hard to face the first year without your loved one, but the love of family and friends can carry you through.

Kathleen Sullivan

January 12, 2017

May God hold Steven and his family in the palms of His hands now and forever.

Phillips

January 12, 2017

What a wonderful example of forgiveness and love
The kind of example our loving father looks for in us
The kind of example we all can benefit from
My heart goes out to the family and friends of Steven McDonald
He was surrounded with love
My prayers are with you
May the hearer of our prayers give us the peace and comfort needed during this time

Thomas Guariano

January 12, 2017

While I never knew Steven my heart is heavy with sorrow for his Wife and children and I am sure his soul will rise into heaven on the wings of angels. RIP Steven and thank you for your service T Guariano

Sheila

January 12, 2017

A wonderful role model. Rest in Peace with God Mr. McDonald.

Patricia Schwecke

January 11, 2017

Steven,
You have been my hero for 30 years...I am so blessed that I got to meet and speak with you....As I looked at you , I saw the face of God...You have inspired so many people with your faith and courage...May you Rest In Peace in God's loving care....May God comfort Patty Ann, Conor, your family and friends always...I love you, Steven...I am a better person because of your inspiration...Give Fr. Mychal a big Irish hug from me...Til we meet again...Godspeed ✝

Julie Ann Wallach Tartaglione

January 12, 2017

Dear Patti Ann and Conor, I'm so very sorry for your tremendous loss... Thank you for sharing him with all of us. What a hero and blessing he was... Such faith and strength. Steven's message of peace and all his his good work will live on. Sending you my love and sympathy.

January 11, 2017

Condolences to the family. Steven will be missed greatly. May they rely on God's word for comfort in their time of need.
Ypsilanti, Michigan

Jane Dunn

January 11, 2017

Rest in Eternal Peace in the arms of our loving Father✝

Judi Skowronski

January 11, 2017

I am so sorry for this family's tremendous loss! However, I was so blessed and impressed by the gracious forgiveness he offered to the teen who so radically altered his sojourn on this earth!! What an example he set for his family and all the wonderful men and women who serve and protect us, often to their own peril!!

January 11, 2017

Dear Patty and Family, So sorry for your loss. Steven suffered so much. I will remember him in my prayers. Dorothy Moody

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