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It figures that Alan Bondarenko, with more than three decades in hydro-electric power, would have known a thing or two about dishwashers. Meticulous in his habits — "his checkbook was perfect," his wife, Julie, said — Mr. Bondarenko, 53, could not resist looking over her shoulder as she used the dishwasher in their Flemington, N.J., home. "He would check how I loaded the dishes because he was an engineer," Mrs. Bondarenko said. "He would critique it."
But Mr. Bondarenko was also a thoughtful, witty man who was always available to help with a problem and who took great satisfaction in his work.
In the 1970's, the couple spent more than two years in Pakistan, where Mr. Bondarenko worked on the Tarbella Dam, and later they lived in Argentina. Mr. Bondarenko, said his older son, Joseph, "taught us to be open to and accepting of other cultures."
Working for Washington Group International in the World Trade Center, Mr. Bondarenko itched to be out in the field. Just before he died, the couple considered living abroad again, perhaps in Turkey.
"We talked about how maybe we would go out one more time," his wife said. "We were in the process of discussing that."
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Laura
September 11, 2024
May his memory be a blessing to his loved ones
Sioux Easley
September 16, 2023
I still have the bracelet I wore for many years in honor of Alan. I never knew him but proudly held his name near for all of the years I wore my bracelet with his name on it. I have always wanted to give this bracelet to his family but I have not had a response to send it. If you are ever interested, please reach out to me. Thinking of you on this anniversary of his life.
Kenneth Faught
September 13, 2023
Its been 44 years since the Tarbela days. Machiko and I had our 50th anniversary this month and as we reminisced, we thought of Alan and the fun we had. We will always remember
Lisa Freyer
September 11, 2023
Thinking of you, Julie, and your sons today.
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Kenneth FAUGHT
September 6, 2021
On this 20th anniversary, the memory of that day is still fresh. However, I remember the good times at Tarbela and in Illinois.
Sioux Easley
September 3, 2021
I still have the bracelet I wore in Alan's honor for more than 10 years. I always wanted to donate to his family, but never was able to connect with anyone in the Bondarenko family. I did not know Alan but it was a privledge to wear his name on my wrist day and night for all of those years. Thinking of him on this somber anniversary.
Cindy Roe
September 2, 2021
Remembering Alan on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
ken faught
August 24, 2018
I found an envelope tucked in my old photography albums titled Billy Bondarenko's Birthday. There are about 20 negatives of shots taken at Billy's 1st birthday in Tarbela. If you would like these, I will have prints made and send them to you. My e-mail is [email protected]
Del Newberry
February 2, 2018
Thinking of Alan's many friends and family today. We will never forget. With love from Texas,
Very moved at 9/11 Memorial. God Bless.
Anon Anonymous
November 25, 2017
Ken Faught
September 12, 2017
Alan and I worked together at Tarbela Dam and later in Chicago. I will never forget him.
Jackie Crispino
September 11, 2017
I was a young engineer at TAMS and carpooled with Alan to a site visit around 1999. He told me about when he worked there. There was a lot of traffic and we talked for over an hour about work and our families and I never forgot him. He reminded me of a younger version of my witty grandfather. I think of him every year. Chatting with him made being stuck in traffic such a nice experience.
Yadira Hernandez
September 11, 2016
As a dedication to your life I climbed the Chase Towers in your name. My condolences and prayers to your family and you.
August 2015 at the memorial -- my first time there
Andrew Kapochunas
August 11, 2015
September 19, 2014
God Bless you Alan.
May your memory be eternal
Stephen E Bilenky
September 11, 2013
Although I don't remember Alan from my youth, I remember the Bondarenko's. I believe my father (Stephen Bilenky) and Alan's father were first cousins. I saw Alan's name along with the rest of the names lost in this terrible tragedy as they scrolled across the bottom of the TV screen on this mornings news, 9/11/2013. God bless you Alan and Rest in Peace.
Barbara Boam
June 12, 2013
I walked a mile for you (mile #216) on 4/20/13 as a dedication to your life.
Kenneth Faught
October 11, 2012
We visited the Bones (Mike and Shamin)who were at Tarbela at the same time as Alan and Julie. They were unaware of his passing until now. They asked me to pass along their condolences.
Ken Faught
Allen Moore
September 11, 2012
Mrs. Bondarenko,
I never had the chance to meet Alan, but have worked for Ebasco (and all the later owners of the company) since 1980. I remember that day in stark detail because of all the folks we had in TWC. Accept my sympathy and may God bless you.
KarenoakBarrett Barrett
September 3, 2012
Dear Mrs. Bondarenko,
My name is Karen Barrett. I lost my aunt in the south tower on September 11th. I'll be participating in this year's ceremony and I'm honored to be reading Alan's name. My heart aches Long with yours for our losses. Please know You will forever bein my thoughts and prayers.
Kindly,
Karen
Nancy Sheafer (Valentine)
September 11, 2011
Dear Julie,
You may not remember me, but I remember Alan very well, and have thought about the two of you often. When you left for Pakistan, Alan asked me to care for your cat, Darla. Unfortunately, Darla was stricken with leukemia and I had to put her to sleep. I did not know until this morning during the calling of the names at the 9/11 site that Alan had been lost in that tragedy. I worked in the Water Resources Division at Tippetts Abbett McCarthy Stratton, and in fact was Abe Ephros' secretary from 1974 to 1979, so I was used to Alan bringing me telexes, memos and letters to type. He was always a joy to talk to. I am so sorry to know, so far from the date it happened, of his passing, but am glad you had him for all the time you did, and I'm so glad you had children. May God bless you and yours, and care for you, as He cares for us all.
Jeff Klein
September 11, 2011
Mrs. Bondarenko,
I am deeply saddened by Al's passing which I learned of only this morning as the names of the 911 victims were read on TV.
Al and I attended CCNY together, acceped postitions at Tippetts, Abbott, McCarthy, Stratton together and by some strange quirk took our army physical together. We even played on the same TAMS softball team for two seasons when we were still quite young.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I remember Al as a straight shooter, hard worker posssesing a great sense of humor.
Rebecca Frederick-Lambert
September 10, 2011
We were close to the Bondarenkos in Buenos Aires, Argentina, where my parents were missionaries. God bring you continued peace and grace, Julie.
Martha Georage
September 2, 2011
Dear Julie I am so sorry to know the sad news of Alan's death, on this day i cannot fully express my emotions. I knew how you feel, it's a part of God's plan, he will be at peace now. I still remember the sweet memories of your stay in Tarbela Dam.
Martha Georage, Faisalabad, Pakistan.
Kenneth Faught
May 2, 2011
We knew Alan and Julie when we all worked at Tarbela Dam and later we lived nearby in Illinois. We did not learn of Alan's passing until many years later. We lost touch with many of the people from those days but we visited Romano Cionnini in Pisa last year and he remembered Alan too. On this day, I cannot fully express my eomotions but I hope this message reaches the Bondarenko Family and that you are all well.
Sioux Easley
May 2, 2011
I thought in light of yesterday's historic and heroic event, I would share something with you. In 2001, I purchased a bracelet to help with the 9/11 funds. I have worn that bracelet since. It was engraved with a name of a man lost on 9/11. It was your Alan's name. I would love for your family to have the bracelet. You can contact me @ [email protected]. It was my honor to be wearing the bracelet in his honor all of this time. It should belong to his family.
Sioux Easley
Houston, Texas
George Bishara
September 11, 2010
I just learned about Alan being a victim of the WTC today, 10 years later. I was truly shocked. My name is Geprge Bishara, I worked for Alan in Raytheon in Upstate NY dams. He was a gentleman, great supervisor and I never forgot his kindness and understanding. My deep condolences to the family.
donna nieves
February 21, 2010
Dear Julie: I found out about Alan's site from my mother, your cousin Frances Bottini, when she told me that Dan had passed. I remeber being told that Alan passed after the events of 9/11 and I was never able to reach you to tell you how sorry I was for your loss. As I was reading through the memorials here, I came across the letter from Dan, it was strange that this was the first letter I read and it brings back a lot of emotions and feelings although I hadnt spoken to Dan in quite some time. After his mother passed, that was probably the last time I saw them was at her service. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you and hope that you and your family are well. Donna (Bottini) Nieves
Doug Abraham
April 27, 2008
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Lori White
September 11, 2007
In Rememberance today and always.
God Bless You Julie,Joseph,Bill and Families.
Cousin~
Emily Bilenky Greene
September 11, 2007
My father and Alan's father were first cousins (Tony Bilenky) and I knew Alan, his sister, Marilyn, his mother, Mary and father, dear, dear Abe. I haven't seen Alan since I was a young girl, but always remembered him as warm, charming and just lovely to a younger girl. When we saw Alan's name on the victim's list, it was just devastating. I still think of him almost every day and especially on the anniversary. I heard his name on the car radio as I was driving to work this morning and still felt a profound loss -- not only Alan, but of all the others that left with him that day. God bless you Alan, rest in peace.
paula phillips
September 11, 2007
In remembrance
Dan Piro
December 23, 2006
Julie is my cousin. We played together as children. Some years later, I met Julie and Alan when they were dating. I took an instant liking to Alan. In 1982, it was my good fortune to visit with them when Alan was on assignment in Buenos Aires. It was not a good time to be an American in Argentina, and Alan delighted me with his account of how he kept a low profile when the anger about the Falklands War was at it peak.
I remember the last time we saw him in 1999. Alan delighted my son, Danny, then 5, with the gift of a hard hat. What a thrill for a little boy to get a real hard hat!
During the last year of my mother's life, Julie visited often and was so kind to my parents. When I saw her at my mother's funeral, I was moved. Alan had not returned from the World Trade Center, and was presumed dead. Not only had she suffered a devastating loss, but she did not have the complete certainly that he was gone. Despite the tragedy in her life, she was honoring my mother's memory.
Rest in peace, Alan.
Kristine
October 24, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Fr. Abbot Gregori
September 11, 2006
Dearest Julie;
I don't suppose that you remember me at all, but I am one of your first cousins, I am Sandy's brother. If you should remember me, you would know me as Ronald Raeppel, but I use my monastic name now, (Rev. Fr. Abbot Gregori) as I am an ordained priest with the American Orthodox Catholic Church since 1983.
The last time I saw you, you were about 7 or 8 years old and I wasn't that much older. My mom was your father's sister her name is Cecelia (Cantatore) Raeppel.
I wish to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family every day, especially on this, the fifth anniversary of the 9/11 tragedy. In my heart, I am holding you in my arms in a consoling embrace. I never had the honor of meeting Alan in person, but from all I have heard about him, I feel that I have suffered a loss.
May the Lord keep you and your family always in His loving embrace. God bless you all.
Very Rev. Fr. Abbot Gregori,SSJt.
(Ronald G.Raeppel)
P Tabbernor
August 25, 2006
In memory....
Sandra Mc Gee
August 13, 2005
Julia Bondarenko is my first cousin and though we have not seen each other since we were children, I was saddened to hear of her loss and the loss of all the others. This tragedy made me realize how precious life is and how when we let time fly, we miss out on many things, such as getting to know our family better. I never met Julia's husband, but have heard many wonderful things about him through our family. My heart goes out to you Julia. God Bless You.
Donna Moltisanti
December 17, 2004
I met Alan briefly when he was helping Julie out with her business. I was a repeat customer of Julie's Creative Boutique and was hoping to find out if she would be at any local craft shows. When I did a search on the internet using her name, I was stunned to see the entry about Alan, and very saddened. In the few minutes that I had met Alan at the Monmouth County Craft show, he made such an impression on me as a loving husband, happy to help his wife out. He was so down-to-earth and charming, that it is easy to see why he was loved so much. My thoughts and prayers go out to Julie and her family.
Rebecca Chisum
December 2, 2004
Coming up to this site for the first time, I decided to go through the names. When I came to Alan Bondarenko, I saw that he lived in Flemington, NJ. I was born and lived there until the mid-90's when I moved down here to MD. Though I didn't know Alan, his family, or any of the other 9/11 victims, my heart goes out to them. God bless all of you.....
Rebecca
ray meglio
March 26, 2004
just discovered legacy upon the passing of my wife carol
was especially saddened to find alan on the list of 9 11 casualties, along with 11 of my former co workers
alan and i went back to the days of brooklyn tech h s
he was bright articulate clever and fun to be around
we shared many classes together over the 4 years, but like many other friendships in life, we were never to see each other again after graduation
he was a memorable individual and i have no doubt, that he made his mark as a professional and a family man
my heart goes out to his loving family, relatives and friends
may he rest in peace
and God bless America
ray
Vicky & Bob Turner
August 29, 2003
It is August 28, 2003....I have just discovered this Legacy.com tribute and website and was scrolling down the endless list of names, suddenly, Bondarenko. Memories of a marvellous family that we knew in Buenos Aires, Argentina during the mid-1980's. Many happy times together connected by Lincoln School and the active PTA there. Julie and boys, you have our very belated deepest sympathy...your Canadian friends Bob, Vicky, David and Erica Turner are holding you in our thoughts as the anniversary approaches - you are all in our prayers.
Andrew Kapochunas
September 8, 2002
When I scanned the "List of Victims" published in the NY Times August 20, 2002, I was shocked to see "Alan Bondarenko." Alan was one of my two best friends as we were growing up in Maspeth, Queens, New York. (The other friend, Alan Major, died during the Vietnam War, in an Air Force plane that was lost over the Pacific.) I was a frequent visitor to Alan's home on Hamilton Place, and we spent many hours together -- from playing board games to playing handball and basketball at nearby Maurice Park. He was always quick with a witty remark or a helpful homework answer (a math whiz!), was always a serious competitor in everything he tackled, and always could be counted on to be a loyal friend. We lost touch when he went to Brooklyn Tech high school (I believe) and I went to Stuyvesant. He always knew he wanted to be an engineer. I'm so glad to hear that he had a loving extended family, had seen the world and was still a witty bright guy with a serious bent. I regret not making the effort to find that out until it was too late to renew our friendship. His loss brings home the tragedy of September 11 more closely to me than anything else that happened that day. My warmest regards and regrets to his family.
JAMES DEL VALLE
August 15, 2002
May God give is everlasting peace.
Our hearts still hurt, as we watched that faitful day unravel.
They were fellow employees that we
never met and part of a company that
will never be the same.
May God bless,comfort and hold close
to his heart the people of 9/11.
God be with you all.
James, Theresa & William Del Valle
Juliana Schoen
June 8, 2002
Alan will always be in our hearts. Our love goes out to Julie, Joe and Bill.
Sesi Swamp King
June 6, 2002
Alan was married to my 1st cousin Julie and is sadly missed by all our relatives who were so lucky to have met this wonderful man. Still now when I think of him I have to smile at something he had said or done. In July of 2001, Alan, Julie, Joe,Dorothy, Bill and Michelle attended our annual family gathering. It was such a happy occasion for us all and many good memories were made. Alan will always be in our hearts and loving thoughts to his family always.
Michele Aynesworth
June 2, 2002
The Bondarenkos (Alan, Julie, Joe, and Billy) and the McKays (Ray, Max, and I) came to know one another back in the ’80s via the Lincoln school in Argentina where Ray and I worked and where Joe, Billy, and Max went to school. Our families always enjoyed getting together, and one of the pleasures of these occasions was knowing that Alan would be there, ever ready with a jovial remark to put us in a good mood. Part of his legacy is the great love of life with which he infected everyone who knew him. I cherish these memories and feel fortunate that our paths crossed for awhile.
Michele McKay Aynesworth
Angie Campbell
April 22, 2002
May your rest in peace. God Bless you and the ones that you left behind on 9/11/01.
Jackie Piro
April 11, 2002
Alan was married to my husband's second cousin Julie, and although my husband has known him since they were first dating, I met them both only once, on a trip east in 1999, and we spent half a day together. They have two grown sons. Alan gave my son a hardhat from his truck before we said goodbye. Alan had great personality, very unassuming and with a twinkle in his eye; I liked him and Julie so much and was looking forward to future get-togethers. I still cannot believe he is gone. Despite her grief, Julie attended my mother-in-law's funeral in October 2001, two hours plus drive from her home. She is one of the most generous and kind people I have ever met and I grieve for her loss of her partner in life.
Dawn Stevans Piburn
March 11, 2002
Alan was my cousin. Living in the Midwest, we didn't get to see each other all that often, but what I remember most is his great smile and the twinkle in his eye. Alan was a civil engineer, and lived and worked in such exotic locales as Argentina, Pakistan, Chicago and Pittsburgh. He loved the Mets, NY Giants, and NY Rangers. I think of him everyday, and only wish that our families lived closer together.
Teresa Jahn
January 8, 2002
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
elliott rothstein
December 14, 2001
I knew Alan for just one summer long ago when we were counselors at Camp Sussex, a sleep-away camp for underpriveledged kids from nyc.
He was a great guy who loved those kids with a passion, in an easy, unpretentious way. They recognized it and loved him back.
I knew him for just a single summer more than thirty years ago, but i remembered him, and will continue to remember him, and to miss him.
December 10, 2001
MAY GOD BLESS ALAN BONDARENKO AND
MAY HE REST IN PEACE.GOD BLESS HIS
FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA
AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01
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