Richard M. O'Connor
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Richard M. O'Connor

Middletown - Richard M. O'Connor, 65, of Middletown, NJ, died on March 3, 2018 in Red Bank, NJ. He was born in Queens, NY to the late Richard and Mary O'Connor. Richard worked as a Sales Manager for Proctor & Gamble until his retirement 14 years ago. He was an active member of St. Mary's Parish. For many years, he refereed basketball for both parochial and public schools. Rich enjoyed going to Atlantic City, working outdoors and spending time with his beloved family and friends. However, he will be most remembered as the "go to guy" who everyone could rely on. Rich was a man for others whose love for life was reflected in his kindness and generosity towards all.

Surviving are his wife of 44 years, Kathleen (nee Kennedy); his son and daughter-in-law, Richard and Staci O'Connor III; his daughter and son-in-law, Erin and Justin Krusius; his two granddaughters, Aria and Lucy; and his sister and brother-in-law, Sally and Joseph Paccione; his sister-in-law and brother-in-law, Patricia and Charles Gates, as well as many nieces and nephews.

Visitation will be held Thursday, March 8, 2018 from 5-8 pm at John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, 115 Tindall Road, Middletown. Funeral services are scheduled for Friday, March 9, 2018 at 8 am at the funeral home followed by a 9:15 am Mass at St. Mary's Chapel, 26 Leonardville Rd., Middletown. Burial will follow at Mt. Olivet Cemetery, Middletown. For more information, to send condolences or for directions, please visit

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Published in Asbury Park Press on Mar. 6, 2018.
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March 8, 2018
Tom Dooley
March 8, 2018
I was not only lucky enough to ref with Rich over the years but also had him ref my boys Cedar Drive basketball games which I coach. He was a terrific person both on and off the court! He will be missed by one and all. M y condolences to the O'Connor family...Frank Vento
March 8, 2018
I am very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and Prayers. I know Erin, Justin & Mrs. O'Connor spent a lot of time with him and have many many good memories. Time with Loved ones is always a blessing.
MIchele Facendo
March 7, 2018
Rich was a member of many families with his fellow basketball officials, coaches, players, administrators and fans being a very important one. Rest In Peace Fellow Referee.
Ron DePasquale
March 7, 2018
Our sympathy to Kathy and the O'Connor family. We go
way back with Rich to the Bronx days. He was always so enjoyable to be with. May he rest in peace.
Bart & Sheila
Bart Linehan
March 7, 2018
So sorry to receive this news. We are in Florida . Rich was truly "one of the good guys". I will miss seeing him at the 9am mass each Sunday. Our prayers go out to Kathy and his family. Mary Ann and Bruce Doorly
Bruce Doorly
March 7, 2018
My sincere condolences to the O'Connor Family. I had the privilege to ref many Basketball games with Rich. When I walked in to a gym and saw that Rich was my partner, it always out a smile on my face. We became good friends and I will miss him. John DeMatteo
John DeMatteo
March 6, 2018
My sincerest condolences and I will miss Rich. We reffed many a game together and I always enjoyed his company and friendship! RIP Rich you will be missed.
Bob Haspel
March 6, 2018
My deepest condolences for the O'Connor family. Richie was a fixture at St Clement gym as a referee for our CYO program. Never thought the game was the bigger than him. He just wanted to be a part of it. He will be missed. May he rest in Peace

Mark Lillis
St Clement Athletic Association
March 6, 2018
I am very sorry for the O'Connor Family loss ... May Rich Rest in Peace and May Perpetual Light Shine Upon Him ... I was very fortunate over the years to have Rich as my partner at all levels of basketball games when officiating ... He was a great man and will be missed - on and off the court ... !!!
Bob Woods
March 6, 2018
O'Connor Family my sincerest condolences on your lose. Rich was always so full of life and a smile on his face. What a friend he was to me through the years. He was always fair and balanced on and off the court. Rest in Peace my Friend!
Joe O'Reilly
March 6, 2018
Richard and the O'Connor family will be remembered in our family prayers.
Anthony Hsu
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