Carol Aldenhoven McKay
1940 - 2021
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Carol Aldenhoven McKay
March 3, 1940 - March 25, 2021
Granbury, Texas - Carol Gladys Aldenhoven McKay, age 81, of Granbury, TX, passed on the night of March 25, 2021, in her home surrounded by an incredible family she created including the love of her life, William or "Bill" (as most know him). Carol was born March 3, 1940, the daughter of Carl J. and Norma Aldenhoven. Her sister Ann and parents preceded her in death.
Carol was a dedicated arts and culture enthusiast who held a love for ballet, symphonies, operas, museums, theatre, travel, sailing, boating, food, music, cooking and fun, but in all things, Carol was an artist, first and foremost. She was always intellectually ahead of her time, and a forward thinker.
Attending Flora & Dickson Reeder School as a child, her intellectualism and artistic skills shone early, as a teacher reported to her parents that she was a natural genius after her drawing of a cherry tree at the age of 5 garnered much praise. Carol went on to attend Our Lady of Victory Catholic School, where she grew a lifelong fondness for the nuns who expanded her wealth of knowledge. She eventually graduated from Hockaday, a proud "Hockadaisy", and from where she continued to connect with many lifelong friends. Carol later graduated from Texas Christian University with a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and a minor in Spanish. At the age of 50, Carol returned to TCU to complete a Master of Fine Arts in painting.
The recipient of numerous National Endowment of Arts and National Endowment of Humanities grants, her focus was the relationship of culture and art to social issues. In both the arts and mental health spheres, Carol became a strong influencer locally and throughout the world. Carol devoted much of her thirties to Elmwood Mental Hospital in Tarrant County implementing unique art programs until the eventual heartbreaking closure of the hospital, resulting in a devastating loss of services for those most in need. Psychiatric hospital closures across the US created a frightening rise in violence, birthing Carol's dedication to create a symposium of world-class thinkers regarding violence in America. During this time, Carol was also able to create a pamphlet specifically for families who are victims of violence, which is still utilized to this day.
Two of Carol's most notable and well-known projects in Fort Worth were Painted Spaces, which created wall murals on various abandoned buildings within the Downtown Fort Worth area, and was instrumental in establishing the first art program and displays at Mayfest. In 1982, Carol and Bill commissioned a guitar concerto, Concierto para una Fiesta, composed by Spanish composer Joaquin Rodrigo and first performed by the Fort Worth Symphony under John Giordano, as a dedication to their daughters Alden and Lauri to be performed during their debuts. This concerto, recorded by Pepe Romero and played by St. Martins in the Field, later became one of Phillips Records best-selling albums.
Together, Carol and Bill helped develop programs in West Texas, New Mexico, and later Montana, for at-risk youths through a lens of altruism and based upon a Positive Peer Culture model. Carol worked tirelessly and hands-on to create a nationally recognized art program for resident youths, and spent 7 years creating an extensive Artist-in-Residence program at Rancho Valmora in New Mexico.
For 15 years of her life Carol intensely researched and devoted her time to writing Blood & Silk: The Hidden Love Story of Mary Magdalene and Jesus of Nazareth, an historical-fiction novel. Published in October 2010, her novel would go on to gain international praise and win two awards. Aside from being a novelist, Carol was a painter, sculptor, and digital artist who spent most of her life creating.
Carol believed that compassion without courage is useless and that courage without compassion is dangerous. As longtime friend Bob Ray Sanders memorialized for Carol's passing, "Carol was always that spirit that gave hope and inspiration to others; a person who opened her heart to tired souls needing refuge; a leaning post for those who occasionally needed someone to keep us balanced and steady". Carol reminded all blessed to cross paths with her, that through art and music all things can be renewed.
Carol is survived by William (Bill) whom she began dating at 14 and subsequently married for 61 years. Carol, beloved Gima to those close to her, is also survived by the greatest joys of her life, her children, Alden, Lauri, and John, grandchildren Lucas, Sage, John Patrick, Willamina, Willem, and Mila, and great-granddaughter, Lily.
A memorial service is to be held April 24, 11:00AM, in the Good Shepherd Episcopal Church located at 4530 Acton Hwy, Granbury, Texas
In lieu of flowers, we would suggest donations to:
Texas Committee for the Humanities
Humanities Texas
1410 Rio Grande Street
Austin, TX 78701
Texas Commission on the Arts
Post Office Box 13406
Austin, Texas 78711-3406
Texas Christian University School of Arts
Box 297044, Fort Worth, TX 76129
Or your favorite charity.


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Published in Star-Telegram on Apr. 11, 2021.
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April 24, 2021
Carol's contribution to this world as an artist and a humanitarian is of gigantic proportion. Her uncanny insight and enduring love have enlightened us all. When "Concierto para una fiesta was born", our destinies were forever sealed.
We treasure the journey we have taken in this life. And it will go on for eternity. We join our beloved family, Bill, Alden, Lauri, John and the grandchildren in celebrating the life of one of the most extraordinary women this world has ever known.
Pepe and Carissa Romero
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April 23, 2021
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Carissa Romero
April 17, 2021
Carol was a beloved sister in Christ, and her novel about Jesus and Mary Magdeline is one of the favorite reads of my lifetime. Carol and Bill's lives of service to so many is an inspiration to me in so many ways. They have truly shown the Love of the Christ they follow to the world, touching the lives of so many souls. Carol, you inspired me, encouraged me, and showed me an example of a Faith LIVED not just professed. May you find the life of the world to come a glorious continuation of your journey with our Lord. Love to Bill, Alden, and all who loved and were loved by you!
Melinda Jo Ray
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April 16, 2021
I never found anyone in my life who has been so mesmerizing as our Carol. I had many opportunities to sit and talk with her about her art, her research, and her reasons for not tearing up the ticket on humanity. On what could have been some of my worst days, she had the ability to send me forth with courage, love, acceptance and compassion. It will likely take me a long time before I can allow each drawn breath to come between what it was like being with her, and learning to live without her. God bless her parting. God bless her loving family and friends, as we all grieve. God bless Bill who has lost his great partner in life.
The Rev'd Dr. Suzi Robertson
April 16, 2021
Carol will certainly be missed by those of us still in this life. She is a special lady and she has surely risen in glory to her new life, in which we can be assured, we will see her again. For now she rejoices with the angels, archangels and all the company of Heaven. Our loving thoughts are with Bill and her family.
Susan and Frank Reeves
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April 14, 2021
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So much love, Jo and Andy
April 8, 2021
Carol, I trust your heavenly journey is as majestic as your earthly moment was. Your legacy remains. Your loving manner and inquisitive natur we will miss and aspire to. You’ve set the bar quite high for all of us, but we will work hard to meet your challenge. Sail on sweet friend!
Rick Hernandez
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